I know this may not help much...but here goes
both my mom and I have used BM paint in our house and we love it! My SIL just used BP paint as well. I can't remember the name off the top of my head, but I can tell you that the little sample looked very goldy/mustardy to me (which I didn't like). However, when she finished the whole room somehow it did not look as mustardy/gold.
So...maybe if you have the paint, paint a pretty big area on the wall and see if the gold tones down.
I have to say though I think I know where your DH is coming from. Any hint of gold/yellow/mustard I tend to stray from.