This thread has been set up for ladies who have experienced a miscarried. It's a place to discuss our emotions, struggles, and successes. If you have experienced, or are currently experiencing a miscarriage, we hope you will join us. This is a place to talk openly while also offering comfort and encouragement.
Your threadmistress: Alliannie
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Last edited by Tiniest Angels; 03-24-2006 at 06:57 PM.
alliannie
Name:Annie,22
DH:Adam,23
Married: August 15, 2004
M/C (D&C) @ 10 weeks, June 2005
TTC: January 2006
amygrrl
me: amy (35)
dh: dan (33)
TTC since: March 2003
Treatments: 6 failed rounds of Clomid. 1 successful IVF producing Avery Elizabeth born still on June 3, 2005 at 27 weeks from possible cord accident (we love you, baby girl!) along with 3 frozen blasts.
brenda
Name: Brenda, 22
DH: Sweetie, 36
Married: September, 2005
M/C naturally at 8 weeks (11/10/05)
TTC: February? (will depend)
bumble
name: rebecca
dh: a boy
married: august 31, 2003
m/s at 8 weeks, june 2005
ttc: now
bunnybeth
Name: Bethany, 27DH: Elon, 28
Married: June 23, 2002
M/C naturally at 12w1d (12/7/05)
TTC: January 2006 *UPDATE*
BFP 2/14/06
EDD: 10/25/06
Calla Lilly
Name:Erin, 31
DH: Gary 36
Married: August 2006
M/C medicated 9w3d on 11/16/05
TTC: January 2006?
Chagtown
Me: Alissa
DH: Brian
Married: 07/05/03
M/C: 07/29/05: 6w,4d
M/C: 09/14/05: 6w, 6d
TTC: Now
dlj78
Me: Dana, 27
DH: Nick, 31
Married: 9-18-04
Miscarred: Still waiting
TTC: whenever we get the ok from the doc
dpangel33
Me: Danea (22)
FH: Patrick (24)
Wedding: 10-16-05
M/C: at 7 wks
Ericka&Jarett
Me: Ericka, 31
DH: Jarett, 27
Married: 12/14/01
Infant Loss : Rebekah Joy - 4/18/05 @ 24 weeks, lived 1 hour and 11 mins.
TTC: June 2005 *UPDATE*
BFP: January 30, 2006
EDD: October 9, 2006
excitedbride
Name:Christina 24
DH:27
Married: 03/02/03
M/C (natural @ 10 1/2wks
TTC: Waiting for this one to end and waiting the next. *update*
BFP: 10/05/05
EDD: 06/18/06
foofie357
Name: Steff, 26
DH: Brian, 26
Married: November 24, 2001
M/C: 9 weeks. D&E Feb 23. I am considering this her date, but she had died about a week before that.
TTC: April 06
DS: Christopher 8-12-04
Happy27
Name:happy 27
DH: 29
Married: April 27, 2002
M/C in process - the baby measured 6 weeks but should be about 9 weeks we are waiting for the baby to pass and contemplating a D&C
TTC: As soon as possible
DS: Benjamin 8-14-04
jay&erinn
Name:Erinn, 30
DH: Jay, 30
Married: December 29, 2001
DD: 9/22/03
M/C: 11/10/04: 6w, 6d
M/C: 7/20/05: 11w, 6d
TTC: ASAP once cleared from OB *UPDATE*
EDD: 6/21/06
JennH
Name:Jenn, 30
DH:Rob, 30
Married: September 20, 2002
M/C at 9 weeks, the surgery date is what sticks in my head at 6/13/05
TTC: September 2005, once we are in our house
Jennylou
Me: Jenny
DH: Sean
Married: 9/20/03
Forever in our hearts: Andrew Wyatt, 5/20-5/22/05
TTC: Later this year *UPDATE*
BFP: 11/26/05
EDD: 8/6/06
Jenzen01
Me: Jen, 28
DH: Al, 37
DS: Gabe, born 12.21.04
Married: 10.4.03
Miscarred: 8 weeks, naturally, Oct. 2005
TTC: probably end of the 2005 *UPDATE*
BFP: 2/2/06
EDD: 10/18/06
jjsanner
Name:Jen, 31
DH: Eric, 33
Married: April 26, 2003
DS: Elijah 02-06-04
M/C: 02-10-06 at approx. 5 weeks
Karlatta
Name: Karla, 25
DH: Scott, 26
Married: 06/08/02
M/C at 8 weeks, D&C 1/29/05
TTC: Now
katmg
Name: Kat, 26
DH: 31
Married: November 08, 2003
M/C: 2/04/06 @ 6 1/2 weeks
TTC: Dr. wants us to wait 2 cycles
kdotp
Me: Kari - 26
DH: Nate - 29
Married: 9-6-03
m/c #1 12-24 @ 6w2d
m/c #2 4-22 @ 8w
TTC: January 2006 *Update*
BFP: July 11, 2005
EDD: March 14, 2006
Lilla
Name: Kim, 30
DH: Tony, 33
Married: 10/12/02
M/C: naturally @ 10 weeks, 11/26/05
TTC: January 2006
lissy
Name: Lissette, 32
DH: Benny, 30
Married: 05/04/03
M/C at 11 weeks, D&C 8/2/05
TTC: later this year
LDS Angel 19
Me: Michelle, 22
DH: Aaron, 23
Married: September 4th, 2004
Our angel Allison Grace June 17th 2005 @ 22 wks, With us on earth 40 mins
TTC: August 2005
Lil_Mrs_0702
Name:April,21
DH: Shannon,25
Married: July 02, 2005
M/C partial molar at 11 weeks had D&C *Update*
I think I'm pregnant!! 5 1/2 weeks!!!!
Nigellas
Me: Kerry, 28
DH: Chris, 30
Married: August 7th, 2001
MCs: at 11wks, 19 wks, 6 wks and 12 wks
Currently TTC with help of an RE, Femara and Prometrium *UPDATE*
BFP: 2/11/06
EDD: 10/24/06
purplesunshine7
married 4/5/03
me:28
dh:28
m/c june 2,2005
ttc: july 2005 *UPDATE*
EDD 12/5/06
rene'
Name: Rene', 35
DH: Todd, 36
Married: December 23, 1990
2 DD's: 12/18/94, 03/30/98
M/C: 9/02: 6w
M/C: 12/02: 5w
M/C: 11/7/05: 10w (naturally, no d&c)
TTC: not sure
Sabriel
Name: C, 24
DH: J, 23
Married: May 22, 2005
M/C: @ 6 weeks 4 days, October 15, 2005
TTC: Not sure yet *update*
BFP: 12/11/05
EDD: 8/22/06
shouldaeloped
me: Heather (32)
DH: Neal (34)
TTC: September 2004
first m/c: january 2005, 12w2d, natural
second m/c: may 2005, 9w2d, d&c
ttc: now *update*
BFP: October 12, 2005
EDD: June 21, 2006
Sully130
Me: 29
DH: 31
Married: June 2002
M/C at ~6 weeks, 7/1/04
Our angel, Hannah Jane, born still on 4/22/05 at 23 weeks (1 lb, 2 oz, 10 1/8" long).
TTC again: August or September 2005? *UPDATE*
BFP: 8/16/05
EDD: 4/29/06
Taraw
Name: Tara
DH: Scott
Married: July 20, 2002
DD: Adelina - Aug. 2003
M/C: 8 weeks (Natural, no D&C) - April 2005
TTC: right away
Last edited by Tiniest Angels; 03-24-2006 at 07:23 PM.
Miscarriage or spontaneous abortion is the natural or accidental termination of a pregnancy at a stage where the embryo or the fetus is incapable of surviving, generally defined at a gestation of prior to 20 weeks. Miscarriages are the most common complication of pregnancy. The term "abortion" refers to any terminated pregnancy, deliberately induced or spontaneous, although in common parlance it refers specifically to active termination of pregnancy.
Types of Miscarriages
A threatened abortion is the development of symptoms (bleeding with or without cramps or low back pain) that often suggest impending miscarriage. With such a presentation of bleeding, 50% proceed to miscarriage of the pregnancy.
Inevitable abortion
The miscarriage of a pregnancy is inevitable when any of the following symptoms are present:
There is an obvious rupture of membranes
An open cervix
There is tissue in the cervix
There is an absence of fetal heart at a βHCG level consistent with fetal heart activity
When any of these symptoms are detected, management involves conservative observation, monitoring for heavy bleeding and sepsis, and a dilatation and curettage (D&C).
Incomplete abortion
An incomplete abortion is the miscarriage of a fetus in a pregnancy when tissue has been passed, but some remains in utero. It can result in severe bleeding, infection or intrauterine scarring. Management consists of a dilatation and curettage (D&C).
Septic abortion
The infection of the womb carries risk of spreading infection (septicaemia) and is a grave risk to the life of the woman. It may follow an incomplete miscarriage and previously was a problem for pregnancies that occurred if a Dalkon Shield IUD had failed in its contraception. This has been particularly associated with abortions performed in non-sterile circumstances, common where abortions are carried out illegally and/or by poorly skilled and equipped operators.[
A missed abortion is the miscarriage of a fetus in a pregnancy when the fetus has died, but remains in the uterus. Many cases of missed abortion will lead to a spontaneous abortion within days. Occasionally, a dilatation and currettage is necessary to remove the pregnancy tissue. That's because there is a risk of maternal coagulation abnormality if the tissue remains in the uterus for several weeks.
Habitual abortion (recurrent pregnancy loss or recurrent miscarriage) is the occurrence of 3 consecutive miscarriages. The majority (85%) of women who have had two miscarriages will conceive and carry normally afterwards, so statistically the occurrence of three abortions at 0.34%[3]) is regarded as "habitual".
There are various medical conditions associated with this problem, some of which may be corrected with medication.
A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss -- Guidance and Support for You and Your Family
by Perry-Lynn Moffitt, Isabelle A. Wilkins, Ingrid Kohn
Support for this often unrecognized loss. Includes information on how men and women grieve differently, stress management in subsequent pregnancies, etc.
A Woman Doctor's Guide to Miscarriage: Essential Facts and Up-To-The
Minute Information on Coping With Pregnancy Loss and Trying Again
by Irene Daria, Laurie Abkemeier (Editor), Lynn Friedman
Coping With Miscarriage: A Simple, Reassuring Guide to Emotional and Physical Healing
by Mimi Luebbermann
Pregnancy councelor writes about emotional and physical stages of miscarriage.
Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Loss
by Sherokee Ilse
Support.
Empty Arms: Emotional Support for Those Who Have Suffered Miscarriage or Stillbirth
by Pam W. Vredevelt
Christian-based emotional support.
How to Prevent Miscarriage and Other Crisis of Pregnancy
by Carol Colman, Stefan Semchyshyn
Information of preventing future losses.
Never Held You: an ebook about miscarriage
by Ellen M. DuBois
Who are we? We are professionals in the workforce or professional mothers. We are painters and singers. We are caretakers and we are movie stars. Some of us may have children; while some of us don't. The one thing that connects us all is that we are women who experienced a miscarriage that seemed, in many cases, to go unacknowledged by many. We have all felt the dismissal of our very real grief and we have all felt alone and isolated because of it. We cry our tears together. You are not alone in your struggle to get through this . . . http://dlsijpress.com/dubois/index.shtml
Miscarriage: A Shattered Dream
by Sherokee Ilse & Linda Hammer Burns
This is what I would consider a short form book of information and support. It's a fast read, but some people will want more depth.
Miscarriage: The Facts
(Oxford Medical Publications) 2nd Edition
by Gillian C. L. Lachelin
Miscarriage: What Every Woman Needs to Know
by Professor Lesley Regan
Information on causes, process, treatment, chances of successful pregnancy,
miscarriage and infertility.
Miscarriage: Women Sharing from the Heart
by Marie Allen, Ph.D. & Shell Marks, M.S.
Stories of support from many women. A very emotional read, but worth it.
Motherhood after Miscarriage
by Dr. Kathleen Diamond (Ph.D. biochemistry)
Medical info and support.
Stories of Miscarriage - Healing with Words
edited by Rachel Faldet and Karen Fitton
Moving writings from both mothers and fathers.
Preventing Miscarriage: The Good News
by Jonathan Scher, M.D.
A good look into the medical causes of loss and information on testing and prevention.
Surviving Pregnancy Loss: A Complete Sourcebook for Women and Their Families
(revised & updated)
by Rochelle Friedman, MD & Bonnie Gradstein, MPH
An in-depth look at the physical and emotional, with a section on husbands & other family. Some stories, a good resource list, and great bibliography.
A Time To Decide, A Time To Heal
Molly Minnock, MSW, Kathleen Delp, ACSW and Mary Ciotti, MD
This is a book for parents who are making difficult decisions about babies they love. It's written by mothers & fathers who have faced the news of a fetal anomaly with grief & courage. Topics include: Making decisions (continuing & interrupting the pregnancy), taking control, medical procedures, couples healing, selective fetal reduction and subsequent pregnancies.
Unspeakable Losses: Understanding the Experience of Pregnancy Loss, Miscarriage, and Abortion
Kim Kluger-Bell
A therapist's look at the loss of a baby -- includes a number of personal stories. Looks at subjects including knowing of an in-utero death before the physical loss takes place, selective reduction, abortion for genetic reasons, loss after infertility, etc.
Moving on
If and when you are ready to move on to a thread for TTC there are these threads available:
TTC after a Loss
TTC w/ Charting
Plus Size and TTC
Seeing What Happens
Still At It
TTC at 35+
Or if you have decided to wait these threads are available:
Ladies in Waiting
Charting to Aviod
Last edited by Tiniest Angels; 03-24-2006 at 09:17 PM.
Well, I suppose this is as good a time as any. I definitely need someone to talk to.
I am pretty sure that I am miscarrying. I started spotting red blood and cramping on Wednesday evening. I called my MW the next morning. She sent me to have my hcg and progesterone levels checked. Long story short, they never called with the results and I couldn't get ahold of them. The lab also sent the results to by GP, so I called them. The doctor said that my hcg level showed that I was only 3-4 weeks pregnant and my progesterone was on the low side. She didn't give me the numbers. Well, at the time I was actually 6 weeks 2 days by my O date. This is not a good sign, right?
All day Thursday and Friday I was bleeding red a little lighter that AF. I was having cramps, but the weird thing is that I think they were actually contractions. I could time them usually 3 minutes apart, sometimes as much as 10 minutes apart for 2 days straight. Each time the pain gradually increased, peaked and then decreased to almost nothing until the next one came. I could sleep through them, but if I was awake I had to stop and breathe until it passed.
Yesterday, I was just cramping in the morning. I passed 2 clots/tissue each about the size of a grape in the early afternoon. A few hours later the bleeding slowed way down and then it stopped for about 12 hours. This morning the bleeding started again with AF cramps. I am feeling now like AF is here. My body feels totally different now. I don't feel pregnant anymore. Does that make sense?
I am going to call the MW first thing tomorrow morning. I think that I am supposed to have my hcg checked again. I also need to find out about the other bloodwork that they ran last Monday. I think I need to find out my blood type to see if I need an injection, right? If I do need the injection, when do I need to get it? I am worried that I won't get tomorrows results until Tuesday. Will that be too late? Since the MW never called me back, I am really scared that they are going to overlook something. I am really upset with them. I do not believe that they have dealt with this very well at all. This has been going on for 5 days now. Shouldn't someone have told me by now if I am for sure miscarrying or not? I really think I am, but since no one in the medical field has actually told me, part of me is still unsure. I don't think DH believes it yet, but maybe he is just in denial. Then I feel sad that I actually want someone to tell me that I am having a miscarriage. But then maybe we can start grieving and moving on.
Thanks so much for reading if you made it through.
for any ladies currently approching O i wish you all the best. it would be great to have more good news this month. you know i really belive that my chant is helping bring on the BFP so i will repeat let's go sperm! get ready eggs! happy, healthy conception and lots of baby dust.
jaylin good luck this cycle.. i hope this is *it* for you.
sabriel i'm so sorry you are having these difficulties with your pregnancy and MW. it does sound like you are m/c. i hope you get to speak with your MW soon and that you get the answers you need and deserve.
i had a natural m/c at 8 weeks. ultrasounds showed the baby being about 6 weeks. most of my pregnancy symptoms were gone around week 7. during the m/c i had a lot of cramping that came in waves.. like contractions i assume though i have never experienced delivery (this was my first pregnancy). when i finally passed the baby my clear symptoms (other then passing clots) where extream fatigue and lower back pain.
for me i remember a deep desire for the whole process to be over. i just wanted to move on. seeing the bleeding was just too much. i felt like the pregnancy had ended and i just wanted the "stuff" to be over with so i could move on to TTC. i was extreamly upset over the m/c and the only hope i had at that time was knowing i could try again. i think it's natural to just want to know if it's a m/c and get past the process. we all go through it so please don't beat yourself up over this.
as for the shot, i did not need one so i can't say a lot about that. maybe one of the other girls has an answer. please keep us updated.
[COLOR="Red"]purplesunshine7
married 4/5/03
me:28
dh:28
m/c june 2,2005
ttc: july 2005
I hope this thread suites everyones need. I know it will be just find for me. I am trying again but every now and then I still get depressed and just need advice or just to vent.I am sorry that any of us have to be here at all. Lots of baby dust to all that want it.
I lurked a lot in the last thread and it helped me tremendously. I was feeling guilty because I didn't feel like I deserved to grieve since it was a chemical pregnancy. I truly appreciate everyone being so open about their feelings because it helped me so much to know that I was valid in the emotions I was feeling.
Sabriel-I have been worrying about you all weekend. I saw your post in the pregnancy thread. I am SO sorry about your loss. They may have taken your blood type when they did your initial bloodwork. That is what they did with me.. .so hopefully you will get that tomorrow. If you are RH- (the + or - in your bloodtype indicates this) then you will need a shot of RhIg--or RhoGham. If you have a negative blood type, you'll want to get this very soon. I would be insistent with your midwife tomorrow that you need to know your blood type ASAP. If you don't have a negative bloodtype, then you don't have to worry about it.
You will also want to have your HcG levels checked again. You ultimately want the levels to go back down below 5. They need to keep checking until that happens so you can be sure you don't need further medical care.
Please don't be mad at yourself. Not knowing for sure what is happening must be very scary. And feeling like your MW isn't being very helpful must be frustrating.
Support For Ladies Who Have Miscarried
