We had two full boxes of frozen yogurt tubes - so maybe 20 or so tubes. DH bought them Friday. In under 24 hours, MIL gave four girls under 6 all but 2 of them. OMFG. She plies nieces with food at all times and this ticks me off.
A) They are yogurt, not your crap sugar water icees. they have nutritional value and shouldn't be given out that freely B) they are like $5 a box!!!!! C) Our girls get maybe one a day - if that. And YDD doesn't even eat the whole thing. I can't imagine our youngest niece (2) could eat a whole one. Which means of the 18 tubes, maybe 5 actually got fully eaten.
The neighbor next door who screams, extremely loudly, at his little girls for every little thing, letting the F bomb fly for every second word. I really try to not judge parenting practices, but this is ridiculous, and he better not ever do it within earshot when my little niece is visiting. Nice male role model Daddy.
Fenway, are you due before her? I would say go for it anyway, but she clearly doesn't care about being labeled a copycat if she only began talking about using the name after she heard it from you.
How do you feel about Oscar? Obviously it's a well known name because of Sesame Street, but if that doesn't bother you, I think it's unique and sounds similar to Oliver.
Fenway- Name your baby what you want. It's highly likely that one of you may move at some point. And if not, who cares? I went to school with 4 Jennifer, 5 Amys, and 4 Roberts in my class from grades 1-12 at a very small school in a very small town. Yes, they were common names at the time (unlike Oliver), but still, I'm always an advocate of parents naming their child whatever they choose regardless of who 'claims' a name...except maybe in the case of a sibling. Everything else is fair game.
ETA- My next door neighbor has a boy just 2 months older than my DS2 and they both have names that are VERY similar and any nicknames - which my son goes by- would be the same). They will likely be in the same class their whole lives, but I didn't give it a second thought when naming him.
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I have never in my life met a person named Oliver. It's my #1 choice for DS. All of a sudden my friend who lives down the street is pregnant and has been talking nonstop about using the name Oliver. Seriously? I mean I know I don't own the name, but come on. That's total theft. Our babies will be 3 months apart and likely go to school together for their entire childhood assuming neither of us move off island. I haven't gone public with the name because DH isn't 100% there yet, but my friends know. Ugh.
I am still irritated a year and a half later that my neighbor, who was due just a few days after me, stole my girl baby name. Yes, she stole it. We had a very meaningful, #300+ baby girl name that I stupidly shared with my neighbor before we knew what we were having because she seemed set on her (very ugly, IMO) baby girl name. DS came early and three weeks later, guess whose name she used? I'm so bitter about it that there's no way I could use it with a future daughter, even though we've both since moved from the neighborhood (we're military). We have mutual friends and the thought that somebody would think that I stole the name from her makes me steam, especially since it was a family name and had additional significance.
Sorry. Rant. Point is, if it's going to bother you or you think you'll think about it often and associate those bad feelings with your son's name, I wouldn't use it. Otherwise, go for it, and hopefully she won't want to use the same name as you.
"For this child I prayed; and the LORD hath given me my petition which I asked of him" 1 Samuel 1:27
Our answered prayer-12*24*2010
fenway: Next time she brings up using the name I'd be honest and call her out on it. "You know that the name Oliver is top of my list for boys. Just so you know, that's the name I'll be using whether you use it or not."
I am still irritated a year and a half later that my neighbor, who was due just a few days after me, stole my girl baby name. Yes, she stole it. We had a very meaningful, #300+ baby girl name that I stupidly shared with my neighbor before we knew what we were having because she seemed set on her (very ugly, IMO) baby girl name. DS came early and three weeks later, guess whose name she used? I'm so bitter about it that there's no way I could use it with a future daughter, even though we've both since moved from the neighborhood (we're military). We have mutual friends and the thought that somebody would think that I stole the name from her makes me steam, especially since it was a family name and had additional significance.
Sorry. Rant. Point is, if it's going to bother you or you think you'll think about it often and associate those bad feelings with your son's name, I wouldn't use it. Otherwise, go for it, and hopefully she won't want to use the same name as you.
So you had a boy, not a girl, and she used the name that you wanted for a girl? Did you know you were having a boy?
So you had a boy, not a girl, and she used the name that you wanted for a girl? Did you know you were having a boy?
I would have been upset, too. Unless I wasn't planning to have anymore kids. I've had the name Grace picked out since high school and when DH and I started dating and getting serious we talked about names and he loved it, too. We were always pretty vocal about our future daughters name. I ended up having 2 boys then a girl but if someone I knew "stole" my name when they clearly knew it was "my" girls name I would have been very upset. Because, like I said, I was very vocal about it. But had DD been another boy then I wouldn't have been upset if someone used it bc we were only having 3 kids.
Originally Posted by Fenway
