Losing touch We've had this problem too, especially with 2 of our closest friends because they are still single and their schedules are now really different from ours. One thing I've done with some other friends that has helped is to try and schedule a regular time to talk or get together. A bunch of my college friends live nearby and we now have a monthly brunch scheduled. Not everyone can make it each time, but at least it helps to get everyone together. I've done the same with my sister--we get together every Friday (we both have that day off). Otherwise, I find it's so easy for the time to slip away! But I'm even worse than I was before at talking on the phone with friends who now live out of town. Luckily they're very close friends and we pick right up where we left off, but it sucks.
DD is 10 months old and I WOH 3 days/week. We have a nanny on those days and are pretty strict about DD's naps. DH and I have been having trouble getting DD to nap twice a day recently and separately we have some issues with our nanny getting her to nap. This week, they are renovating the apartment immediately below DD's, which has been loud and making it hard for her to sleep during the day.
I just found out that DD did not sleep ALL day today and I am really mad. My mom happened to be in town and said it was not our nanny's fault (she loves our nanny--probably more than we do), but I can't help but think there must have been something our nanny could have done. Is this unfair? Should I let it go?
L and L- I personally would not be mad, and I was/am pretty anal about napping. Sometimes, especially during transitions (3 naps to 2, 2 to 1, etc), there is just nothing you can do. If I were in your shoes and it started happening more frequently, I'd tell the nanny what plan I wanted implemented when there was napping trouble (CIO, rock to sleep, check and console, etc).
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Losing touch - My friendships have definitely changed over the past 4 years. Some have grown and some have dwindled. My schedule can be nuts and it's so hard to fit them in, but I've found that whatever I lack in availability, I try to make up in other ways. I also think I would go insane without them. Two of my close friends don't have kids and are completely awesome about finding ways to spend time together. We currently have a standing "date" every Saturday morning -- we go to the gym together and then get coffee/shop at Target. My kids are with me b/c DH works. Thankfully, they consider themselves aunties and tolerate the bad along with the good! We also try to do a "TV" night -- I cook (yes, I bribe them) and they come over and hang out. My friendships with them have actually grown because of this. I'm lucky because I also work with some of my best friends so while we don't always see each other on weekends we are able to catch up during the week. On the flip side, I'm really disappointed in some of the friendships that I have lost. It's truly surprised me which friends have now become acquaintances. Totally sucks!
L and L- I wouldn't be mad, either. My DD wasn't the best napper as a baby, and there were days at daycare where she didn't nap at all, and she's had days like that at home, too. I mean, you can't MAKE a kid nap, you know? I'm sure the pounding from below didn't help at all.
Thanks for the replies! It helped calm me down a lot yesterday and I was very nice to her this morning. Since we're still somewhat new to having a nanny, I'm still struggling with figuring out what is micromanaging and what is not and what reasonable expectations are. Hopefully the sleeping today will be better!
losing touch Absolutely! Ugh! I'm in a very different place than most of my friends now -I have little ones and theirs are older. I do have a few friends at the other end of the spectrum, single w/no kids. We all work full time and I also live about 30 minutes away from everyone. I have no social life at all it seems. I am actually going to have an Arbonne Party at my house next month and hope that some of my friends will come! I really have no idea what to do about it, other than hang in there. Eventually my kids will become a bit more independant and DH will feel more comfortable being left with all 3 so maybe I can get some friendship time in. Oh- we do have a party to go to coming up, which I am totally looking forward to!
L&L I would be a bit upset, but like everyone else said-you can't exactly make the kid sleep. I'm sure she tried to get her to nap! If it were a continuing trend, then maybe I'd suggest to see if she can nap in a different room in a pack n play or something so she's in a quiter environment.
L&L- How often my DS naps (and doesn't nap!) ia my #1 complaint about our daycare. A lot of days he'll nap for only 30 minutes total, and sometimes not at all, and he's only 7 months. I try not to get mad, but it's so hard. At home he naps like clockwork every 2-3 hours. I know everything is different when he's there, but I still find it hard to believe he won't nap. The teachers follow a loose schedule for feeding and changing, every 2 hours, but don't do the same with naps. I think he gets so overtired by late morning that there's no way he'll go down for the rest of the day. If they tried before he was crying and rubbing his eyes off it might be easier... Sorry to ramble, but I hear your frustration!!
Losing Touch - I have literally been trying to get together with one of my GFs for 6 weeks. We ran into each other on Bart the other day and got to talk the whole way into the City. It was great, but how lame is that? Another GF that I used to see daily on maternity leave....haven't even spoken to her in almost a month. Gah. Let's not even talk about my long distance friends. I just don't have the time anymore and it kills me.
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Losing touch--totally. All of my local friends, except 1, are SAHM's who get together during the week, so I feel totally out of touch. The WOHM is the one I see the most--somehow we figure it out, but it isn't on a regular basis.
