Dear classmate,
You upstaged me and you don't even deserve all the nice things you have in life. Who are you to graduate Wash U this year and immediately find a good job in Chicago? Then you have your mom pay for your vacation abroad as a graduation gift. I hate you and all my friends hate you. I never got to finish college. In fact, I never got past my freshman year. I now work part time making $10 an hour and struggling to pay the freakin bills each month. Why do you deserve the good life while the rest of us barely get by?
Your high school classmate
It's only because I love your parents so much and don't want make things harder for them with all they have been through and are going through that I'm keeping my anger and hurt toward you in check. I have never been anything but kind and generous with you. But still, you came into my home and stole my jewelry. And then looked me in the eye and lied to me. I was with your dad when he found some of it in your bag. You were caught red-handed and still denied you took
anything.
I know you took even more than we initially realized. Things that can't be replaced. I hope it was worth it. You have lost my trust and will never be allowed to stay alone in my home again. You often talk about feeling isolated and wonder why people aren't as close to you as your sisters. This is why. You steal from those who open their homes to you.
Dear Mom,
I am so very, very tired of the emotional blackmail and how in your mind I somehow get linked to every bad thing has happened to you in the last 20 years. You don't take responsibility for your own actions (or lack thereof) that lead to futher consequence. Instead it's well when you were this age I did this for you....yet the things you're referencing happened a long time ago. You and only you are responsible for the state that your credit is in. You and only you are responsible for the fact that you have crappy credit and now can't get approved for a car loan. YOU not me. You need to stop placing blame and take responsibility. I also don't appreciate the emotional blackmail of being told that if I don't co-sign a loan you might as well end it. That's not fair. I don't deserve that I am the only person in your life who has stood by you. I am the only family member that you have any type of relationship with and yet you continue to try and make me feel like sh--. I hate being made to feel that if I don't do this I'll be responsible for bad things happening to you. But, I don't want to risk my good credit, something I worked hard for BTW, by co-signing this loan....it's not fair. I don't deserve the emotional blackmail.
k
I opened your card today thinking that it was a thank you note for sending you money. Imagine how I felt when I realized that it was not a thank you note at all, but you asking to sell my jewelry to pay your rent. I'm so very tired of all of your BS. I resent being put in this situation. I don't know what I'm going to do, all I know is that I'm at the end of my tolerance for you.
K
Dear Friend,
If you know we don't get home from school until 3:30 and you're hosting a dinner party tonight, please do not move the time UP to 4:30 with only a couple hours advance notice! I can't possibly get the kids home, dress all of us in costumes, and cook my potluck dish in time. Yes it would be fun to let the kids play before dinner but I can't make food cook any faster, especially when you assigned a main course to me.
Why is it that SM and SS only join you/us for celebrations when they deem it acceptable. For Christmas last year, they were ALL (SM, her mom, dad and sister, SS, her husband and new daughter) invited to join us for Christmas Eve brunch. But they decided it wasn't convenient. Then DS1's birthday party comes along and I give an invite to you and SM. I specifically mention how many kids will be here and how busy it will be.... yet you still show up with SM, SS, and SS's DD. Really? Then SM and SS proceed to take up the entire (and only) couch in the basement, going so far as to kick off a child who was invited, try to turn the attention to themselves, make snarky comments about my Cars 2 version of Farmer in the Dell, and insist on you going over to look at something on a phone while you were in the middle of helping serve cake. Guess what: there's a reason SS never gets invited. She's crap guest. No one likes to be around her; she oozes selfishness. I can handle SM as long as I don't get stuck in a long conversation with her, that's about it. And you're not innocent either. Forcing DS1 to sit for a picture with you and all the grandkids when he doesn't doesn't want to is bad enough. Doing it while he's trying to play with all the kids in his class isn't nice at all. I feel like I let him down by not standing up for him and telling you to wait until, say, Christmas this year for the pictures. I'm dreading DS2's first birthday party now, and it's largely because of this. I'm also not very excited about the Christmas brunch my sister has organised before her trip. I'll be annoyed by SM and SS, not to mention SBIL. Laziness bugs me, and I hate that I'll have to buy and wrap gifts for them. SS and her family always "forget" their gifts for us and promise to bring them by another time. B.S. But I'm sure I'll still cave and wrap up a $10 bath basket and a $10 toy to keep everyone happy-ish. Of course, any $10 toy I find, they'll assume I found it on clearance for $3 because that's the only thing ever gifted to my kids. So in addition to everything else, I'll end up bringing home trash for my sons to add to the good gifts.
Your dad is still in the hospital. When your mom suggests you drop your kids off by her after noon, so she can go shopping with my DH for my kids, you explode at her and insist your day for your DH's birthday has been set for six weeks. I'm sure it's a trip to the casino. I don't see why you have to get there so early, but okay - whatever. Your plans are your plans.
Why not instead, lay a massive guilt trip on your mom for wanting to do something with her other children and for her other grandchildren and insist that it's such a huge inconvenience to push dropping your kids off by 5 hours or so but you'll do it. Trust me, you'd score brownie points for at least being flexible - although I think you're still highly nutty.
Oh, and somewhere in there your dad has to get back home from the hospital. While he may have driven himself, I highly doubt the hospital would like him driving home. And your mom doesn't drive with the kids. So, either my DH or your sister/her husband will have to change their plans to pick up your dad... because you couldn't be inconvenienced to change your plans slightly.
Ugh. I get it - you make plans and you want to stick with them. But, as your mother pointed out - six weeks ago your dad wasn't in the hospital. I really don't think there is much of anything that you CAN'T change in terms of plans.
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