I did a search and could not find a thread like this. If there is one and this should be merged with it, please go ahead.
I wanted a thread where we can make a deep, simple, major, minor, meaningfull or meaningless or silly...basically any...confession. No judgements, no flames, if you can't say something supportive then don't. I don't want this to degenerate. I'm moved to do this by my confession today (but I put it here and not the kids forum because this particular confession involves my DD but others will not).
My 20m DD has been having trouble with hitting my face and I've been trying very hard to use positive discipline but tonight I'd had a bad day, she's been sick, and I was just at my very last nerve. She slapped my face twice while I was putting her down for bed and instead of being patient and just putting her in her crib like usual I told her "NO!" and slapped her hand hard enough it hurt/scared her, made her cry and look at me with that look of complete and utter disbelief and hurt that makes you want to just disappear. I feel like hammered dog poo and can't get it out of my head.
Good judgement comes from experience, and most of that comes from bad judgement. -From a bumper sticker I saw once
Well I"m gonna get flamed for this, but Tracy, maybe thats what your daughter needed to stop the hitting. I don't think slapping her hand and yelling no at her has done anymore than maybe shocked her into realizing that you mean it when you tell her that hitting people shouldn't be done. If you've tried other things and they aren't working, and a 20 month old should no to NOT do that by now, then maybe its what she needed, just this once, even if it's something that happened just because you were at the end of your rope. You are NOT a bad mother, so don't beat yourself up too badly!
Let's see, do I have any confessions?
I haven't been a very good daughter the past year and a half since my mom died. I don't call my dad very often, mostly because of my procrastination. I want to call, I think about it, I think about sending cards for things, and then I don't. I have started calling more often now, but I still feel horrible for not keeping in touch with him. I have tons of excuses, he's deaf, hates to talk on the phone, doesn't do email, etc, but they are just that, excuses and I just need to get off my butt and make sure he gets cards and phone calls from me more often.
Tracy--I agree with kristyk's remark re: smacking your DC's hand.
A confession:
I haven't dusted the furniture in my house since January. I think that's really lame, but, it never makes it to the top of my priority list.
Amanda--My LJ Avery Beatrice, 8/15/2002 Jaden James Alexander, 1/14/2007
Confession - I am so afraid of flying that we only take road trips. I read all about your vacations to Europe and other spots and I'm green with envy. We could afford to do these things, but won't, because I would probably have a panic attack before boarding.
I think this could be a fun thread! Now I need to think, because I'm a pretty sneaky person and fool my husband a lot -- things like MichelleRenee did.
Tracy, I agree with the others, what you did was not wrong. It may have been a nice wake up call for your DD. I had to do the same with DS, and he hasn't hit me since. Yes, it hurts to see them upset, but they need to learn when you mean it.
Confession: I used to take and pick up DS from daycare, since it was near my office. Since he changed schools, DH takes him in the morning. And I now *LOVE* my commute in the morning, whereas I used to dread it most days. I cranked up Pearl Jam and sang along the whole time to "Ten".
I know this will probably come back to bite me in the ass - but right now, I think staying at home with my new baby is SO much easier than my job. It's not even close.
Do you have a confession to make?
I feel like hammered dog poo and can't get it out of my head.
