In home Child care option/opportunity

[Wrighty26]

I kinda did something similar when my DS was small. My friend had a baby about 5 months before me and our husbands had opposite schedules so we had "daddy daycare" for about a year (we started it when DS was about 6 months old). It worked out really well in the beginning, but then it became extremely difficult as they got older. Not only were the kids more active, but schedules kept getting disrupted, I felt the other dad was resorting to TV a little too much (as I'm sure my DH was too!), and there wasn't a solid routine. Around 18 months, we put DS in a center and haven't looked back. It has been AWESOME.

I think we did have a pretty good setup and it was nice when they were little - but I don't think we would do it again. We are still really good friends with the parents we swapped with (and the kids are great friends too), but it was definitely hitting that point where something needed to change. We did save a lot of money - but about 9 at about months in it was really stressing me out.

This time we are looking at an in-home daycare with someone who is licensed and registered with the state.

MrsSpencer - I don't even know what to say to your response. I find what you admit you do highly offensive and honestly straight out neglect, which is worthy of reporting to child and family services.

[Traciann]

I am more comfortable with a center as I think there are too many "what-ifs" with in home child care.

[BethIrish]

MrsSpencer - I'm speechless.

I don't care if this makes me come off as a bitchy "mean girl", but get off the damn computer and take care of those babies. I know I'm not in your shoes, but the way you come off in your posts about that little boy - its truly sounds cold.

[hub1176]

I have a problem with unlicensed care. These are "babysitters" and that's probably the service you will get. Some people are okay with that. I wouldn't be. If you do chose to go this route, at the very least she should have training in infant&child first aid&cpr.

[MrsBeckyLP]

And I hate to say it, MrsSpencer, but I've thought it for a long time. Maybe things would go a bit better if you didn't spend the entire day -- every day -- on CC, and instead paid attention to those babies. For a woman who is caring for two children, your daily post count is pretty outrageous.

eta: cross-posted with BethIrish.

[MrsSpencer]

However, one con might be that she would favor her own child over yours (like it seems MrsSpencer does), and that could be bothersome.

I do NOT favor my child, my child actually does cry on occasion because I'm having to deal with the other child so much. I don't know why he laughs..he's six months old they laugh at random things. His mother asks me everyday if I want to keep doing it, SHE KNOWS he's difficult. When doctor after doctor says he's fine than he's fine he just doesn't like not having attention on him 24/7. I'm not defending myself, but if I get jumped on for going on parent's orders I will. She considered not going back to work because of how he was for the first 5 months, she said she wouldn't feel comfortable having someone watch her child while he acted this way. I sit them both on the couch with their bottles beside me so they can cuddle or whatever strikes them at the time. I play with them both in the floor equally, hold them unequally (have to do more calming and holding of Eli (the other baby) than my son). I don't just let him sit there and cry without ever doing anything while I play with my son! I'm not some heartless person, I care about this child, if I didn't I would've told his mother to take him somewhere else, but someone else as she's said may not be able to handle it. Yes it bothers me to let him cry, but there's nothing else to do as I can't hold him all day long.

[RobynScott]

I don't agree with CIO but unless you hold him all day long that's what he'll do.

Guess what? When my son was an infant, that's what I had to do. Maybe that's why he doesn't need that anymore.

And maybe that's why his mom chose an in-home daycare where he would be 1 of 2 - so he could be held all day if that's what was necessary to get him the attention he needs - since he's clearly also not getting it at home with the older brothers.

Whatever - ditto wrighty - and I have to say thank goodness my DS was not being treated the way you describe. B/c honestly, I would want to physically harm someone that let my child cry all day - and I don't say that lightly.

ETA: I agree with the other posters that I cross-posted with as well. I was still reeling from the previous posts.

I also wouldn't want my DS spending all day in an exersaucer - whether he liked it or not- but that's a separate discussion. Thankfully, with our daycare, that was not an issue.

[Lucy Van Pelt]

MrsSpencer - I'm speechless.

I don't care if this makes me come off as a bitchy "mean girl", but get off the damn computer and take care of those babies. I know I'm not in your shoes, but the way you come off in your posts about that little boy - its truly sounds cold.

Agreed. I would be horrified if I left my child in your care and found out this is the way you "care" for him. You should not be watching this child. Since you can't handle it, let the parents find someone who will give the child the attention he needs.

[MrsSpencer]

Thank you but he's asleep right now, and my son is also. they both take long morning naps and both take an afternoon nap. Eli goes down at 8:30 and so does my son. They sleep till lunch then eat get a bath (cause they like it), and we play in the floor for a while then at 2 Eli and Nicholas go down for a short afternoon nap, and his mom is usually here by 3:30-4 which is spent playing with them or doing laundry. I'll just stop here as it seems like I'm not wanted here (at CC anywhere lately). I'm done, I'm so sick of being judged because I have to do what works for me. I'm not on here all day..I keep it open all day (where it may seem I'm on here) but I'm not physically on the computer itself all day. If you don't like me than do what you've been doing and ignore me, don't attack me by what you THINK I'm doing. They are both loved and cared for all day..so leave me alone.

Good greif he's not in a exersaucer all day....if I have to go to the bathroom, or change the other ones diaper yes he goes in there..as does my son. I'm not holding him all day, I have another child and my dog to tend to also. I'm also not going to ignore my son either by giving all my attention to another child..I may as well put him in daycare!

[BethIrish]

Furthermore, MrsSpencer, I find it reprehensible that both you and the mother of this child seem to think its okay to just let the kid scream all day. If you can't be the care provider he needs, step down.