Horrible SILs

[wonderousglance]

I am having some issues my husband's sisters & I am not sure what to do. As hard as we try they have zero to do with me, my husband or our daughter. His oldest sister lives blocks from us, but never comes over to see our daughter or her brother. His youngest sister lives about 25 miles away, but comes into our city all the time, but never makes any effort to see us. I feel horrible for my husband and daughter. My DH makes so many attempts to have a relationship with them and he never gets anywhere. I also feel sad that my daughter doesn't & will not know her aunts. They even missed her 1st birthday, missed her 1st Christmas (didn't even send a card).

A couple years ago my DH went through severe illness & spent alot of time in the hospital. They didn't even make any attempts to help out when he was sick & barely came to see him.

My MIL passed away & DH doesn't know his father (both sisters have different dads) & they are literally his only family. I know thats why he tries so hard to maintain a relationship with them.

My DH doesn't get mad about it, he just says they'll come around some day, but I am so done with them. I don't want to speak with them ever again. I don't want them to hurt our daughter like they've hurt my husband. I haven't said anything to them about how much I can't stand them because it will only hurt my husband but I can't stomach to be around such inconsiderate, mean people.

How should I handle this & keep peace with my DH?

[ejs]

You let him handle it and you stay out of it. You can't force a relationship on people, even if they are family.

For some reason, they don't want a relationship with their brother. So you have to let it go.

[jenahdawn]

I agree with ejs. She is very wise.

(I thought this thread was going to be about heinous b!tches of SILs like some of us have....your's are just selfish!)

[TenOClockBird]

They're right, you have to just let it go. Meanwhile, you can still be sad for what they're missing. That sucks.

[imagirliegirl]

You let him handle it and you stay out of it. You can't force a relationship on people, even if they are family.

For some reason, they don't want a relationship with their brother. So you have to let it go.

She's right.

[jennylou]

Yep, I'd just let it go.

Originally Posted by jenahdawn
(I thought this thread was going to be about heinous b!tches of SILs like some of us have....your's are just selfish!)

LOL, me too!

[taffers]

(I thought this thread was going to be about heinous b!tches of SILs like some of us have....your's are just selfish!)

I think a lot of us could contribute to that thread, unfortunately

LOL, me too!

Maybe we should start a support group?!

I agree with everyone that you just stay out of it, and let your DH handle it. It's never a good idea to get involved in IL family dynamics.

[mrschica]

The more you push, the further they'll get. So yeah, let it go, they're not worth it. You can't force people to love you.

I'm sorry for your family though, it must feel crappy.

[jenahdawn]

Maybe we should start a support group?!

Nah, I don't want support. I want a place I can drag the bag's name through the mud...then stomp on it...then have you spit on it with me!

[jennylou]

Nah, I don't want support. I want a place I can drag the bag's name through the mud...then stomp on it...then have you spit on it with me!

LOL, me too.

And if anyone wanted to say, egg her house afterwards, that would be a-okay too....okay, maybe not, I wouldn't want the karma train coming to me!