Insight into bipolar disorder? (long)

[petdoc08]

Is there anyone there to support her DH? There was no one around for my FIL which lead him to seek support from inappropriate places and that is how he ended up having an affair. That does not excuse his indiscretions but certainly makes them understandable. You are so right. It is exhausting and I am fairly removed from the relationship.

Our solution was to distance ourselves. We do not initiate contact (by 'we' I mean DH because I maintain no voluntary contact with her). If she reaches out to him, he will engage her. If she starts to unleash her vitriol, he ends the interaction. He now understands that it is not something he does to deserve her lashes, it is her illness. Knowing that makes it easier to disengage but it is still painful. We cannot help her, she has to be willing to help herself and so far she is not.

[scout]

Is there anyone there to support her DH?

His family is a couple hours away, and I had recommended the book and website that was recommended on here to him a couple of years ago. She's been better for awhile, so I think he thought it "went away". He's kind of been in denial about things and seems to let things go until it gets bad.

[Pine Tree]

Not much to add other than to say that you're a good friend Scout. Big hugs to you.