Late Term Loss, Stillbirth, Infant Loss and Toddler Loss Support Group
This thread is for those moms who have lost a child - through late term loss, stillbirth or infant loss. We have members who have had their rainbow babies, pregnant members, members ttc and those that are not ttc. Each of us bring a unique perspective on loss and all are welcome. If you have lost a baby, please feel free to jump in and introduce yourself. Our group has become a bit like a family, we laugh with each other and we cry with each other - and although we hate that it happens to anyone else, we welcome you with open arms.
Our Members:
ali_ohli
Me: Ali, 30
DH: Chris, 33
Angel daughter lost at 22 weeks to incompetent cervix in Dec. '06
Rainbow son Henry born Sept. '07
amygrrl
me: 36
DH: 34
Married: 2/15/03
TTC: 02/05/03
Angel Baby: Avery born still on 6/3/05 at 28 wks
Rainbow Baby: Malin our little miracle born on 4/3/06
Cause of loss: unknown. hospital misplaced the autopsy paperwork so no investigation into the cause of death was ever done.
Other issues: PCOS, IVF alumni, 3 embries on ice
Me: Amy 29
DH: Josh 32
Married: 6/15/03
TTC: 8/2003
Angel: Twin boy, Caleb Reed 6/13/08 at 19 weeks, 1 day
Cause of loss: PPROM, genetic results pending
Other children:Twin girl, still fighting strong, due 11/07/2008
Astro
Me: 39
DH: 37
Married: 9/03
Children: Alex and Ryan 9/05/05 stillborn at 16 weeks 1 day
Cause of loss: One of the placenta's separated from the uterine lining. Probably related to hematoma and bleeding in the first trimester.
Miscarriage: 5/06
clzj
Me: Lynn 32
DH: Charles 32
Married: 6/8/02
DS: Isaiah 4/24/03
Angel baby: 10/26/05
Cause: pinched cord
Rainbow CC on 5/8/07
Ericka_Jarett
Ericka, 33
DH: Jarett, 30
Married: December 14, 2001
Angel: Rebekah Joy, born April 18, 2005 at 24 weeks, with us 71 mins.
Cause of Loss: chorioamnionitis (placenta infection), possible cervical incompetence as well
Pregnant Again: January 30, 2006
Rainbow Baby: Easton Robert born 9/5/06
Twin Girls: Julianna Grace and Katelyn Elizabeth born 10/23/07
goldengbridge
Jen, 25
DH:Miguel, 28
Married 9/6/03
TTC: 8/03
Children: Andrew, 22 months and the light of my life!
Angel Jacob, born sleeping on 4/3/06, (18w 4 d) Cause of death was unknown but his cord was wrapped around his body tightly 3 times. We know for sure he was healthy because I was high risk with Jacob's pg because of Andrew's heart defect. I had just had an u/s 2 weeks before Jacob passed away which showed he was healthy.
It's a Girl! EDD 3/12/07
GlamaGal
me: 31
DH: 43
Married: 10/11/03
TTC: June '07
Children: Alexa 11/27/05 (thank you, God!)
Angel Baby: Girl 19w
m/c: 6/4/07 at 5 or 6 wk.
Cause of loss: baby has complete anencephaly. Not compatible with life.
Other issues: took us 11 mos. to conceive DD. Took us 8 mos. to conceive m/c child. I believe I ovulate sporadically.
Jeggink
me: 33
DH: 33
Married: 9.28.02
DS: 9.23.04
Angel Baby: Kayla Anne born on 11/27/06 at 19w3d.
Cause of loss: Unbalanced Translocation of Chromosomes, genetic, but not from us, just a fluke.
Other issues: 2 m/c in Jan 06 and April 06, unknown reasons
jennylou
Me: 27
DH: 36
Married: 9/20/03
Angel: Andrew Wyatt 5/20/05-5/22/05
Cause of loss: SIDS
Other children: Our vbac and Rainbow baby, Nora 8/10/06
jessie
Me: 26
DH: 31
Married: 5/13/02
Children: Bailey- 11/22/99, Rainbow Baby Chelsea - 05/05/05
Angel: Joshua - Born still at 38w on 3/28/04
Cause of loss: Massive fetal/maternal hemorrhage
Kimmiebride
me: 41
DH: 41
Married: 07/01
TTC: 08/02
Angel: Robert stillborn at 18w5d
Cause of loss: membranes not fused on right side that caused complications from amnio, and premature rupture of membranes
Other issues: Factor V Leiden and MTHFR clotting disorders discovered after the birth, which lead to 2 pulmonary embollisms
Rainbow Baby Josh 3/3/07 4lbs, 12oz born at 36 weeks after a month on hospital bedrest for pre-eclampsia - Thank you God!
LDS Angel 19
Me: Michelle, 24
DH: Aaron: 25
Married: September 4th, 2004
Angel: Allison Grace, June 17th, 2005 22wks, 6dys.
Cause of Loss: PTL/IC
TTC: September 2005
Miscarriage June 06
Rainbow babies Megan and Natalie, 6/18/07, born at 34 weeks after a cerclage and 8 weeks hospital bedrest.
Lisa
Me: 26
DH: 25
Married:6.28.02
Angel: Lauryn Grace 2.28.05-7.2.06
Cause of loss: RSV-but she has an underlining Possible genetic disorder/birth trama
Other children: DS:light of my life- Ethan 6.17.03 and how knows God willing another one soon!
Pregnant! Baby July 12 2007
Myangelsvw
Me: 34
DH: 34
Married: 9/1/02
Angels: Vincent and William, b/d 2/6/06
Cause of loss: Prematurity (preterm labor caused by infection)
Pocahontas
ME: 37
DH: 34
TTC: 2/06
BFP: 6/14/07
DS: Born and died 11/7/07 at 24w 4d after living 27 minutes.
Cause of Loss: premature rupture of amniotic sac
sophiapb
Me: Sophia, 39
DH: John, 32
Married: 5/18/02
Children: Alexa 5/26/05
Rainbow Babies Elizabeth "Elise" Zoe....12/4/06 5 lbs, 15ozs and measuring 18 1/2 inches, born @ 10:49 am
AND Corinne Victoria...12/4/06 6 lbs, 6ozs and measuring 19 inches, born @ 10:51 am
Angel: Alexander 5/26/05-stillborn at 36 weeks 6 days
Cause of loss-Stated as unknown although Alexander had an umbilical artery close around 27 weeks resulting in slowed down growth
Sully130
me: 32
DH: 34
Married: 06/02
TTC: 07/04
Angel Baby: DD, Hannah, born still on 4.22.05 at 23 weeks
Cause of loss: fatal condition caused by spontaneous genetic mutation
Rainbow baby/babies: My miracle son, born 4.20.06 after 20 weeks of bedrest following my water breaking (PPROM, which was spontaneous) at 16 weeks; also had an early m/c in 7/04; pregnant again and due in May '08
Since the new thread is closed still, I'll update here. I made it through the D&E fine. I'll have to post that experience later. Right now I want to take advantage of the drugs still in my system so I can sleep. Thanks to all of you who thought and prayed for me. It meant a lot. I'm facing just the loss now, and it's hitting me hard. Especially when I saw her little footprints that they made for us. Heartbreaking. I realized DH is really upset as well. He couldn't hardly bear to see them. I think maybe the difference between us is I had her inside me so she was more "real". But he also has the very same emotions I do. I can't forget that. I'll be back to heal on that later. My BFF is spending the entire day with me tomorrow and I need that.
Glamagal - I've thought of you so many times today. I'm glad it's over so you can move on, but I know how hard it must have been. I do hope you can sleep well tonight thanks to the drugs.
The footprints do make it all so real. Sometimes I feel like everything with my daughter was a horrible nightmare, then I see those footprints and I remember how very real she was. My husband was the same way. It didn't hit him until she was born and in our case, he saw her. I've never seen him cry before then (he said he hadn't cried since he was a child).
I pray that you will find peace and whatever understanding helps you get through the days. Take care.
DH had a bad night last night. He mostly slept on the sofa in our sitting room. He kept waking with anxiety. I'm not sure how to help him. I have cried in front of him but I hold back a lot of it so he's not so stressed out. How did you guys handle all of this? He says it's the stress and anxiety of the past 2 weeks (FIL was really sick and isn't totally out of the woods yet but is home).
Last night I realized I feel like a mouse in a maze, searching for the prize that will release me, but there's no prize. There's nothing to make me feel better. I'm ticked, but there's no one to be ticked at.
Today my glands are still swollen (I'm sure aggravated by the gen. anesthesia tubing) and my neck is so stiff. I'm wearing a tight bra so hopefully my milk doesn't come in (something I'm strongly emotional about & had really looked forward to). I can't stop thinking about how we can't TTC until March-ish. And how even if I was pg I'd be so early, and everyone around me who is pg now will be huge and almost ready to have a baby. Mostly I think "how will I possibly get through all of this time, until it's our turn again?".
Late Term Loss, Stillbirth, Infant Loss and Toddler Loss Support Group
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