Were you actively "looking" for your DH/DP/SO/BF when you met?

**junkinmytrunk** · 08-14-2007, 04:56 PM

I'm not going to make this a poll as I'd prefer more anecdotal replies. The title says it all -- were you actively seeking a long term partner when you found the one?

My STBxH and I met via a mutual friend. I think I was always actively looking for someone but probably not so overtly. At the time I was definitely not on a husband hunt; rather, just looking for a cute fella to date. So if that means I was looking, I was. For sure does not qualify for the "once you stop looking you'll find Mr. Right" scenario that people always talk about. Then again, he's soon to be an ex, so clearly, he was not "the one".

Let's hear it girls, I need some positive stories!!

**ysolde** · 08-14-2007, 05:01 PM

I was NOT looking when I met STBxH. I was just sorta dating. A lot. Fell for him, in spite of my desire not to get serious with anyone.

Not sure if that helps.

**PinkMartini** · 08-14-2007, 05:03 PM

Nope.

Met DH in a chatroom online and it started out as friends. We soon found out we worked for the same co. and met up at a mall after talking for a few weeks online/on the phone. I had just broken up with a long term boyfriend so I definitely wasn't 'actively seeking' someone.

**mpc863** · 08-14-2007, 05:04 PM

I was not looking. We met when I was a senior in college. I had just turned 21 (he was 27 and in grad school). Neither of us were looking for anything serious. Maybe that is why we dated for close to 2 years before we were remotely serious.

**salysaturn** · 08-14-2007, 05:06 PM

Nope. He just sat in front of me in Chemistry class, both sophomores in college

**amew** · 08-14-2007, 05:08 PM

I wasn't looking for a long-term relationship at all. I was actually looking for a drunken hook-up, as was he. Which is what we got initially, but then we just kind of got attached. We hooked up/dated casually for about a year, then dated more seriously for the five years after that. Got married six years after meeting.

**Sha259** · 08-14-2007, 05:09 PM

Na, I wasn't looking for anything at all when I met DH. We just so happen to meet the day I started a new summer job after my Freshman year of college. We were fast friends, and then more, after that.

**jeepgirl** · 08-14-2007, 05:12 PM

I was lookikng for someone to be my date for a proposed double date one of my friends made. My friend signed me up with a dating service. We exchanged emails, and then went out on our double date.

I had to date him for a while to be sure he was "marriage material" (based on past experience). I didn't set out to marry him, but, at 29 years old, I was starting to feel emotionally ready to settle down. As our friendship/dating continued I learned to appreciate who he is and it went from there!