I need help!!
DS is 4 months old. Right now he is sleeping in the cosleeper (sides up) in my master bedroom closet (because I don't want to be up and down the stairs all night and I don't want him to wake DD, whose room is adjacent to his). He is swaddled in the miracle blanket in a sleep positioner. He is usually asleep around 6:30 at night. However, he wakes, in general, 4 times a night!! This is his normal schedule (well, normal in that it's been going on for about 2 weeks...):
6:30 asleep (nurse to sleep or almost asleep). If he isn't fully asleep or is overtired then he might cry for 5-15 minutes on and off before falling asleep.
9-10 p.m. wakes up somewhere around this time. Usually I'll nurse and he'll go back to sleep.
12 a.m. wakes up (nurse and back to sleep)
2:30 am wakes up (nurse and back to sleep)
4 am wakes up-it doesn't seem to matter what time he previously woke to nurse, even if he was up from 3-3:15 nursing he will still be up at 4 am. The past few nights I've tried letting him cry to see if he will settle back down but he's gone on for as long as 30-45 minutes and so I've gone and gotten him, nursed him again and he is generally back in the cosleeper around 5-5:15 am where he will sleep for another 1-2 hours.
As you can see I am getting not a lot of sleep!!! Please help me come up with a game plan. I ST'd DD but she was not quite as stubborn as he seems to be and had different issues, plus as an only at the time it wasn't so hard to get rest during the day as it is with a toddler as well. I am okay with CIO but I need a plan. How long is it okay to let him cry for? And how do I determine which wakings I should feed him at and which ones I should not go to him? I know he still needs to eat at least 2 times during the night but I'm not sure when I should feed him. And I feel like if I go to him for some wakings and let him cry for others, isn't that kind of inconsistent in terms of ST'ing? Please help me, I'm about to go insane here.