Thanks yby. It is good to hear of kids who cleared up without the surgery. Whenever she talks it makes me cringe because she sounds so nasally and stuffed up, but she is handling the nose spray well so fingers crossed that it works and she starts to clear up.
We might be headed this route next month. DD (3.5) has been sick nonstop since Nov. It started off with a respiratory virus that had her in the hospital for 4 days and since then it has been various sore throats and illnesses. The past 6 weeks or so she has sounded super congested and has terrible sleep apnea, but no actual illness. We have done 4 rounds of antibiotics and her tonsils are still touching each other. It has affected her speech pretty badly too.
So today we started a rx nose spray. She has 4 weeks to clear up or her ent will do the surgery. He doesn't like to do it on kids under 4, and she is small (26lbs) so that worries him too.
I want to tell myself it won't be a big deal but I am dreading this. I would do anything to avoid the surgery. Her previous hospital stay was a total nightmare for both of us and it took her almost 2 months to get back to herself. But the apnea is super scary and I don't want to deal with that anymore either.
So I guess now we just wait and see if the spray works.
I hope the spray works for your daughter! But if it doesn't, just wanted to let you know that my son was 2.5 years old when he had his tonsils and adenoids out and his recovery was much easier than my daughter's who was 8 at the time of her surgery. For my daughter, the surgery cured her sleep apnea. For my son, the surgery helped his speech a lot and also helped him with some feeding issues he was having. Both my kids who had the surgery still get congested quite a lot but I think is more due to allergies. Good luck!
DD's surgery is in 5 days. Any tips on preparing her? Our cat was spayed a few months ago and to be sure the kids were gentle with her we kinda made a big deal out of the fact that she had surgery and it gave her a really bad boo-boo. I am regretting that now. DS (5.5 yo) connected the two right away and now he is really scared for DD. DD is still scared of hospitals and doctors from last time so I don't even know how to begin preparing her for this. Some have told me to just be honest and tell her everything that will happen, but I know her and I don't feel like that is a good idea. Her disposition is very sweet and quiet and she scares easily, but when she is scared she hides. If we tell her everything she will spend the next 5 days hiding in her room and she will be scared to talk to us. I just don't know how to prepare her.
Check with the Dr & OR procedures. Will they let you go in with your DD while they put her under? I think that I would keep it a bit minimal and tell her that she will have an operation that will help to keep her from getting sick so frequently. Let her know that you will be going to the hospital and they will make her sleepy so that she is sleeping and having good dreams while she has her operation. Then she may have a bit of a sore throat, but it will get better and then she won't get sick so often when it's over.
If she's worried about the cat's big boo-boo, maybe you could just explain that DD's boo-boo will NOT be as big as the cats.
Yes, one of us is allowed to go back with her while they put her under. That will be me - and I am hoping I can keep myself composed for her.
I was thinking of telling her what you are saying -that she will go to sleep and wake up with a sore throat - but people keep telling me that I need to be 100% honest with her about what will happen. I can't imagine that giving her all the details will make it any easier for her. Maybe if she were older, but I think she is just too young to make sense of it.
I am buying her a ton of fun stuff for when she gets home - stickers, a new DVD, some new puzzles. I have no shame in getting her through that day by telling her she will have presents waiting for her at home.
I think that just giving all the details is not necessary with a 3.5 yo and will just scare her. I'd leave it simple, but that's just what I would do with my child.
My DS2 had a hernia repair earlier this year -he was only 2.5 and DS1 was 4. I just told them that DS2 had a boo-boo inside that the Dr's needed to fix and that he'd have a boo-boo for a while, but it would get better. I did not make a big deal out of it.
I think that the goodies for when she gets home is a good idea -do you have a big prize for when she's in the hospital? After she's woken up and is aware? I'd do a big one right off the bat! Good luck-let us know how it goes!
ETA: I think it's good that you get to go back with her. I wasn't given the option with DS2's last surgery and it was awful-he was screaming bloody murder when they took him from me.
I also don't think you need to go into great detail with a 3.5 year old. I would assume the people who are saying you need to be 100% honest feel that if you aren't then she will lose trust in you. I agree that it is important to be honest but not that you have to give every scary little detail. I know my son would be worried about getting shots or IVs and I would be honest with him if he asked but then I would reassure him that the shot would make him go to sleep and that he wouldn't wake up until the boo boo was fixed. He would also worry about it hurting and I would tell him that he wouldn't feel the surgery but that his throat would probably be sore after. So I think it is more about answering her questions honestly in regards to what she will be experiencing but not about volunteering tons of details that will only upset her.