How long should I wait after M/C?

[Lanapoo]

I had a miscarriage a couple of weeks ago, it happened naturally at around 12 weeks and the embryo had stopped growing at around 6-7 weeks.

My doctor recommended waiting out this cycle and then we can start TTC the next cycle. I'm not sure if this is for dating purposes if I get pg again right away or if there is an actual medical reason why I should not get pg again right away.

I've been ignoring some fertile EWCM the last couple of days and DH and I have been abstaining. But today I've been noticing that I've got the most fertile CM that I've ever seen! I've been TTC for awhile and even though it wouldn't break my heart to not get pg again soon, it's really hard for my TTC brain to pass this up.

Should I just go for it and jump DH tonight? Would I be putting a new pregnancy at risk by trying to conceive the first cycle after having a miscarriage?

[mrselle]

I don't think you would be putting a new pregnancy at risk if you got pregnant again right away. I had a miscarriage 2.5 years ago and my doctor suggested I wait two cycles to TTC again. I think they tell their patients to wait a cycle or two so they have to heal emotionally and for dating purposes.

[jen]

Lanapoo.... I just wanted to comment on the EWCM --- I too, had a m/c a few weeks ago (at only 5.5 weeks)...... the amount of fertile EWCM I had last week was like nothing I had ever seen before! I'm hoping maybe this whole short pregnancy really jump-started my body..... My MD told me we could start trying again next cycle.... we plan to wait a few months just for timing reasons, and I need to be more mentally prepared.

I think you might want to wait at least one cycle to give your body a break. I don't think waiting one month will hurt your chances.... but believe me I know how it feels!

good luck!

[petdoc08]

I had two MC b4 concieving DD. One was at the 7 week mark and the second MC was ~9 wks. We waited a cycle after the 1st MC but after the second one we decided not to wait. That was the month we conceived DD. Our doc told us waiting was more for emotional reasons than medical reasons. A 'bonus' for not waiting was that our insurance covered an U/S at 8 weeks for dating purposes. Normally, our insurance would have not covered any U/S. *big hugs*

[Lanapoo]

Thanks for chiming in! Right now I'm leaning towards DTD if we feel like it tonight but if we don't then I'm not going to push it.

Mrselle - Emotionally I'm doing great. The m/c process was such a long one for me that by the time it was finally over I had already been dealing with the loss for nearly 4 weeks.

Jen - It's crazy how much EWCM I've got right now. I've always had to go 'looking' for it...ahem

Petdoc - That's the best possible story I could hear right now. Thank you.

[alootikki]

Hi Lana - I had a missed m/c and a D&C at 9 weeks, and my dr. told us to wait one cycle. I also had EWCM about 16 days post-procedure, but thought it was a good idea (for me) to wait since it wasn't a natural m/c and the procedure may have caused the lining to be thinner than usual. Also, TMI alert! the EWCM was streaked with blood at times - which has never happened before, and made me think that my uterine lining was still a little 'raw'.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do - I completely relate to wanting to try again ASAP!

[lorbo]

i had a blighted ovum between DD and DS. i ended up with a D&E, three weeks after the procedure...i got pregnant with DS. we had a bleed at around 6 weeks along, that was the only "should we have" moment.

i should say the ob/gyn wasn't happy when i did finally call them...i was rushed in to an u/s to determine if i had an ectopic pregnancy, which i didn't...i don't know if that was because of the procedure though.

[Lanapoo]

Thanks Alootikki and Lorbo for sharing your experiences.

I think if I had had a D&C then I would definitely wait a month or two but since I was able to miscarry naturally (after 4 weeks of waiting )I'm more inclined to just let nature take it's course and if we happen to get pg then hopefully everything would turn out okay.

[Medako]

I had a natural miscarriage at 6-7 weeks (March 27) and on April 23rd I got a BFP. We obviously didn't wait for a normal cycle and my doctor had no problem with it. In fact, she said that if we were emotionally ready to try again then we should because women are often more fertile after a MC (I don't remember the reasoning though).

Insurance also paid for a viability u/s at about 8 weeks to determine conception/due date.

[Lila55]

First, I am so sorry for everyone's loss. I had a miscarraige in November.
I heard that the doctors recommend waiting 2-3 cycles for emotional reasons. Physically you should be o.k. The only other logical reason I have heard for waiting until the second cycle is that you will not know the date of your LMP. When you go in for your first US and the baby is measuring smaller than you think, you will worry even though likely the baby is ok. However, after going through the emotional pain of a miscarriage, I think you need to do whatever it takes to make yourself feel better again. Good Luck!