I started a job last October, so I havn't even been there for a year yet. Curt and I will be married this August and I know we both want to start a family sooner rather than later. I'd like to say we'll be starting to TTC in winter of 2006, if everything works out. The thing is I plan on quitting my job and being a SAHM, but I almost feel guilty leaving my job after only having been there for such a short time. This is my first real job since being out of University, and I've never held a job for longer than a year because they've always been part-time things when I was in school or summer type jobs. A part of me feels like I want to have a job for a while, and still travel and do some things, but tehn I'm torn because I also want to start my family soon and I *cannot wait* to be a mother! One of the ladies at work even asked me if we'd be trying to have afmaily soon after the wedding, and I lied saying "not for a while" because I don't want that to reflect how being treat me at work. This is mostly a vent, but I'd love to hear if others have had the same problems.
got married: 08/27/05
had a girl: 10/05/06 - then a boy: 12/18/08
and now another boy: 09/21/10
I have the same problem...sort of. I start my job in September, also my first "real" job after graduating from college. I already have an 11 month old daughter but I can't wait to have another baby!! Of course, I have to wait until I have been at my job for a little while. I don't want to work for a month and then tell them I have to go on maternity leave. So, I feel your pain. Not sure how I am going to time it out. Guess I'll have to fend the "baby bug" off for awhile longer.
I started my new job last August and since I really like this job, I am not ready to put it on hold to have a baby. DH and I are thinking of TTCing mid-late 2006. The other issue is that since I haven't been here that long, when the time does come, I'm not sure if I will get as much flexibility (ie part time options) as others who have been with the company 5+ years. I feel guilty too, taking maternity leave too soon.
I wouldn't let it stop you. I waited to TTC so that I would be at my new job 1 year when I go out on leave - and probably I will SAH. That was just so that I could get FMLA benefits.
As I'm learning, TTC can take longer than expected so I wouldn't put it off for a job...just my two cents.
Kat has a good point. You want to make sure that you are eligible for FMLA and maternity leave before getting pg. That way, you can use your maternity time and still get paid, then quit afterwards. That would be the best thing for you to do for yourself. And as the others have mentioned, TTC can take some time, so don't expect it to happen right away! Plan for it to take a few months, at least.
Just a word about FMLA...as I understand it, it only applies to organizations with 50+ employees. I was planning to TTA for a few months after I start my new job, but once I determined that the place I'll be working only employees 28 people, I decided there was no reason to halt the TTC - no FMLA benefits for me, sadly. Definitely make certain that FMLA (and/or other related state laws) apply before halting TTC...as katmg said, TTC can take longer than you imagined.
tunibell - As I understand it from the brochures my office gave me when I started that you would still be eligible for the paid FMLA and SDI but not the FMLA law that requires that they keep your job for you. So basically you can get all the paid benefits, but not necessary the job safety benefits. You can get the full scoop from the CA EDD web page.
TTC and a new job
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