? about complimenting a mom re:bf'ing

**JRose** · 07-06-2005, 12:09 PM

I was recently out to dinner with DH and noticed a woman bf'ing. She was incredibly discreet and the only reason I noticed was because I had done it myself many times before

I wanted to go up and tell her that it was great to see a woman comfortable with bf'ing in public. I know I spent many early months huddled in bathrooms because I wasn't comfortable in public and I would love to be able to give positive feedback to other moms.

I didn't say anything because I didn't want to sound crazy or like I had been watching her.

What can I say in the future??

ETA: I'm not looking to start a debate. I just want to know some positive things to say to women that are bf'ing in public. I know that all too often they only get glares and rude comments.

**NicoleWisconsin** · 07-06-2005, 12:17 PM

I also saw a woman bf'ing on a bench in the mall and I wanted to go up to her and say, "Yeah! Way to go!" but I didn't want make her uncomfortable...

**Sal03** · 07-06-2005, 12:19 PM

I know I personally am always so happy to talk to someone about BFing so I would have been flattered if it had been me you had come up to.

**Marisa** · 07-06-2005, 12:44 PM

You might say, "Beautiful baby, he/she seems so content!" Indirectly acknowledging the BFing, but not coming right out and saying "Way to Breastfeed!!!"

ETA - I always tell my husband, I wish there was some kind of secret sign or wave you could do, the way he does when he's out on his motorcycle and sees another rider.

**AttyGrl74** · 07-06-2005, 12:50 PM

When Baby Nora was teeny tiny and before I had attempted to NIP, I saw a woman in the foodcourt at Sam's Club nursing with a blanket.

I get *very* emotional when talking about BFing and tend to cry - so I just offered her the biggest smile ever and I know that *she knew* what I meant by it.

Now when I'm NIPing and someone actually makes eye contact and smiles - I know what they're thinking and I appreciate the indirect support.

Marisa - you're right - a nice signal would be perfect!

**phart** · 07-06-2005, 01:12 PM

I think I've heard of *business* cards that have a saying about thanking the mom for breastfeeding in public, etc but I have no idea where I heard about them

I'm a help, huh?

**Marisa** · 07-06-2005, 01:26 PM

Good call, Shannon.

Nursing Notes

**phart** · 07-06-2005, 02:42 PM

Good. I ain't crazy.

**sparkle&shine** · 07-06-2005, 03:30 PM

I normally just smile! One time the person looked mad that I was looking which I find weird but usually they smile right back. I have never actually said anything though. I don't want to interrupt in case their baby is easily distracted.

One time though we were in San Diego at the Sea Port village or something like that and they had a nice area with a bunch of trees and benches. There were a whole bunch of people sitting on the benches and I sat down to feed DS and you should have seen how fast that area cleared out.