Lorbo ~ Sorry to hear things are rough right now, hang in there, hope things get better soon!
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We're doing good here, I've taken on a new job in December and a 2nd in January that I recently left due to complications within the organization. But I am still with my one part-time job that I took in December. Though we're drowing with regards to our finances and I have been pushing my boss for more hours and he's rising to the occasion. He's got a partner in our Greensboro office that's got some work for me and I'll be picking that up in May for cash under the table. My boss is also paying for me to get my life insurance license...working my way through that.
Ashley's a little diva and doing good...talking more and more everyday and is my little princess.
Austin's doing good as well he's blossoming in his pre-k program and has been catching onto math, writing, and reading very quickly.
Here are some pics of my babies, though Ashley now has a boy style cut because Austin cut her hair one day and gave her a horrible mullet, LOL!!!
PICTURES!! Finally!!!
Miss Ashley, Feb 08
My little Diva's Christmas Present from her Aunt Sonya - purchase in New York City!
Ashley's Kitchen - Wal Mart Special!! Her Birthday present from her Grandma Jenny
Austin enjoying the park
Enjoy!
Wife to Jimm, 2001*~*Mom to Austin, 2003 & Ashley 2004 It's Official...I can add MBA to my title!!! OH YEAH!!! I'm DONE!!!
Welcome heather! Lori I'm sorry things are not going well with the job front. Lara Sounds like things aren't going well job-wise for you, either.
Hopefully that gets squared away quickly for you both!! Seems to be going around, though - Will just got switched from nights to days, which we were super excited about. But they sent him home all 3 days this week. We really need the money, so am not sure he'll be able to stay there without hours.
I'll try to get in more with updates a bit later, but I have to get everyone up and out the door. Good to see some activity in here!
Sonya ~ Things are going ok, I left the teaching position because the school worked against its adjunct faculty and didn't make any improvements during my 12 week tenure. Things w/my other job are going great! Been a tad slow lately but otherwise been going good!
Wife to Jimm, 2001*~*Mom to Austin, 2003 & Ashley 2004 It's Official...I can add MBA to my title!!! OH YEAH!!! I'm DONE!!!
hey there...i've been meaning to write...but life gets in the way. i'm glad summer is here finally...we really didn't have a spring in the midatlantic area...we went from 50 degree weather to 90 degrees. Brooke finished her preschool...lots of pics later, as i was editing them, it hit me she's going to kindergarten in the fall! then i started crying. James is still working on pting...he regressed a bit for overnight pting...but i'm happy he's working pretty hard on staying dry during the day...he no longer poops in his pants...and i'm joyful about that! me and the h...nothing nice to say, he still makes his jerk comments to me, trying to get his digs in to me. we're best at this point just communicating thru email because the animosity is just too much. he knows everything and if i try to tell him something he gets huffy and he already knows. still looking for a full time job. i just had my 5 year review at my present job and it was pretty good...they know i'm stressed out and i made it crystal clear that i don't know how long i'll stay with them or in the veterinary field period. i was told i was an asset to them and bringing me on fulltime would be soooo beneficial to them...though i really don't want to do that...we'll see. so my h's comments that i have no work ethic seem to go against what my superiors say...jackass! we spent a few days in myrtle beach last week attending a family member's graduation...yep Sonya...she's graduated-how old do i feel???? we had a few hours at the beach on thursday and friday James got sick with a fever and the vomiting started that night on the ride to the graduation. he vomited and had diarrhea the whole weekend in 95+ weather. H picked the kids up sunday and failed to pick up my calls asking how James was until i asked my mom to call. he finally called me at work, telling me James vomited 2x and he had peed at 6pm...previously he had peed at 8:30am. i called the doc who wanted him in the er. H said i was overreacting that he had been vomiting for 3 days and nothing had changed. that he peed a lot at 6pm and he didn't understand where the money was coming from with not working...i said did you really just say that to me? and then i hung up on him. at triage, he tried to say what he meant was he was capable of taking his kid to the er...though he hadn't really been with him thru most of the illness. James got a liter of fluids and was thisclose to being admitted...only because he kept oral fluids down did he go home. he had one episode of vomiting that night and he peed his bed. the er nurse/doctor and my ped all assured me that i had done the right thing by bringing him to the er...that he was getting dehydrated and we stopped it before it got really bad. James has been acting out...probably because of the food restrictions this week...but both kids are with their father...down the shore and i'm recovering from sinus surgery on thursday-i'm praying i never have to have it again! i'll post pics later...my head is starting to hurt and i need to wrap some things and trek to my parents.
Hey all...everybody's been a stranger...and that includes me! so, Brooke starts kindergarten tomorrow! She's very anxious and doesn't want to do homework. She's got her Hannah Montana bag and I hope she'll sleep tonight. I'll post pics in the next couple of days. James will be starting preschool next week...where'd my babies go?
My goodness I go away for a bit and SOO much happens, I have been busily hanging around Cafe Mom these days and not getting over here as often as I'd like...
Work is going good, I absolutely ADORE my job and my boss is more than AWESOME!!! So that makes my days that much easier...
The kids are doing good, Austin's in kindergarten and doing well. He knows his A-B-C's cold and we're working on reinforcing numbers here at home. They seem to be focusing more on reading/writing at school and less on mathematics. We had our first parent-teacher conference today and his teacher said while he's doing good, he's having trouble changing gears easily and he gets distracted easily, not surprising though...
Ashley is good, she's doing great in her preschool! Learning more everyday and getting ready for Pre-K next fall! She too knows her alphabet and I am trying to teach her letter identification now and sound identification so she's that much more ahead next year...
James is an entirely different story for another day, I have posted a journal entry on my cafemom page, here's my page: http://www.cafemom.com/home/AusAshMommy - I don't want to re-post the drama here...
Wife to Jimm, 2001*~*Mom to Austin, 2003 & Ashley 2004 It's Official...I can add MBA to my title!!! OH YEAH!!! I'm DONE!!!
Thought I'd give a big shout out to all of you still reading along...well, at times.
Lara, I'm sorry about what's going on, I feel quite deceived by my husband as well...things that should've been said when we were first dating and things that should've come out before we got married...still gnaw at me-though I'm totally at fault He's a stranger to me now. Even after all that we've gone thru, he still falling back in to his habits-though I don't have to deal with it, but I hear about it from Brooke. My father started cracking up when I discussed our latest altercation...me putting a frame over an air intake vent-the frame didn't cover the whole vent and it had been there for weeks. he calls out that it's going to burn out the motor in the heater...i sigh and decide to get him with "everything's going to burn the motor out apparently" because a few weeks ago, he changed the filter and it was "filled" with cat hair. then he flipped out on me. he also felt it necessary to tell me to buy draino at the dollar store because my bathroom sink wasn't emptying. i bought it and all, but wanted to clean out the stopper...instead of telling me to do that, i had a friend tell me how to get the stopper out and i cleaned off the four inch wad of hair and assorted other stuff(i need my vomiting smilie). and i returned the draino for 6 bucks.
the kids are getting big. James still isn't completely pt'd at night, he sleeps so soundly, that if he drank a lot before bed(which i try not to let him do), or if he doesn't pee before bed, he'll be soaked when he wakes up...something so totally different from Brooke-who must have been really in tune with her bladder! he can now pee standing up at the potty-i don't even know when that happened! he knows his colors-he astounded me with telling me that a stop sign was an octogen(yeah, i know it's a pentagon...but come on!), he's working on his letters on his little laptop...and he's always the terror.
Brooke has lost her first tooth and we're not too patiently waiting on the next tooth to fall out...because the permanent replacements have been up for a few months now...i told her to tell daddy to start saving his money for braces for her! she's so not a little girl anymore...well, at least when she's not whining. she's so in to me...and at times i can't take having her so attached to me...i swear she's sew herself to me if she could! we had her report card conference this past week and she's an excellent student, her last reading test was 100%, so she'll be moving to a different reading group. she's advanced in her geometric part of the mathmatics...though we've had arguments about her math homework...in part because i don't have the patience...this is why i didn't become a teacher!
money is so tight right now. at the end of the month, i'll be in court for court-order child support...because the wonderful H, continues to give me a small amount of money...taking all of a home equity loan out of the support without regards to the fact that the money is for the care of the kids...that i'm so in debt, because i have to buy them food-Brooke has to have juice and snacks for school too, clothing, shoes, etc. he's minimally involved in their care, aside from the days he has them while i work and every other saturday. he gave my mom a poor me story, asking her to watch the kids his last saturday, because of his high school reunion, he told her he doesn't get out much...um, i have the kids the majority of the time...he doesn't have time to get out???? i'm still working at the same place...hating it. somebody just complained about me, saying i was ignorant and cold...though it wasn't a discharge thru my job(we have other specialties in the building and we do them a favor by discharging their patients when they can't.) apparently, because her cat was diagnosed with cancer...and i didn't stroke her ego enough, i'm the bad guy...and i went ballistic...oh, the note i wrote to the management on that one. one of my assistant manager nurses told me it was handled wrong...and that i was a damn good nurse...so i need to move on from that...i do need to look for a new job though. i have to work christmas thankfully, not until 4pm though. i should be taking a shower and cleaning the house, as i'm kidless for another hour and a half!
Lorbo ~ Ugh sounds like we'll be riding the same boat for a bit at least...I recently posted this on CafeMom:
Good Afternoon CafeMoms ~ Some of you may or may not have seen my recent 'status' change on Facebook and here from 'Married' to 'Single'...it appears subconsciously I have made a firm decision about what to do with regards to James and our situation...nothing has changed in the last two months since his arrest. I still can't trust him, I still don't look at him in the way a wife should look at her husband. While we are in counseling, I do not forsee a future as Mr. and Mrs. for us...
The feelings I once had for James as a husband are no longer there - I do not wish him harm, nor wish for anything to happen to him, but I cannot see myself with him as anything more than a partner in parenting. We co-exist on a daily basis, we talk about the kids, the kids' school situations, have reigned in some nasty habits from the kids, we discuss discipline (the one area we always disagreed on, we now agree on, go figure), we discuss the house, and work. But I want nothing romantic from him. I shy away from all things romance from him - love letters (yeah I burn them without reading them), gestures (I turn away from, I won't let him touch me), gifts (I thank him and then put them away never to be seen again). The very idea of being romantically involved with him makes ne nauseated...I can't do it any longer...the stress mounting in my household is felt with all of us...the kids especially...
I don't know what steps are next for me, I've been looking at apartments online, and am trying to figure out what all I can afford on my small salary with Eric (my boss who is about as wonderful as any boss can be)...its going to be a LOOONG road...
Things have changed with regards to me in the last 2 months - I have met someone who has brought me back to reality, someone who has allowed me to express myself and know that the world isn't full of those who wish to do harm and/or deceive me. He's been nothing but honest with me from the offset and his honesty has allowed us to grow as friends, partners in the study of Wicca, and companions so to speak...we rely on each other daily to help us through the hardships of our days...I know the drill, this isn't something I should be thinking on right now because I am confused about what's going on in my marriage, but I know this is something solid - we connect on a level neither of us has ever, we can connect via our meditations, we can connect via our thoughts during the day, and we just know one another inside and out, it was almost instant!...BUT we're both married, so we're trying to stay away from things in that regard, but its become near impossible. Please don't think the less of me for this...I didn't ask for it...
**though now this 'friend' has decided that he cannot handle our relationship - has let his wife decide he's not allowed to be my friend any longer, so we've been incommunicado for the last 2 days or so - God F*ng forbid I call his house to check on him after a FULL DAYS visit to the Drs for his diabetes - what a horrible person I am?!?!?!? She swears there's an affair going on - which is NOT the case, we just got really close, really fast - so now he's not talking to me...which I can't say is entirely his fault - when I found this out I chewed him a new arsehole...LOL!!! So now its just me relying on myself...
That's enough for now...
Me
Wife to Jimm, 2001*~*Mom to Austin, 2003 & Ashley 2004 It's Official...I can add MBA to my title!!! OH YEAH!!! I'm DONE!!!
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He's a stranger to me now. Even after all that we've gone thru, he still falling back in to his habits-though I don't have to deal with it, but I hear about it from Brooke. My father started cracking up when I discussed our latest altercation...me putting a frame over an air intake vent-the frame didn't cover the whole vent and it had been there for weeks. he calls out that it's going to burn out the motor in the heater...i sigh and decide to get him with "everything's going to burn the motor out apparently" because a few weeks ago, he changed the filter and it was "filled" with cat hair. then he flipped out on me. he also felt it necessary to tell me to buy draino at the dollar store because my bathroom sink wasn't emptying. i bought it and all, but wanted to clean out the stopper...instead of telling me to do that, i had a friend tell me how to get the stopper out and i cleaned off the four inch wad of hair and assorted other stuff(i need my vomiting smilie). and i returned the draino for 6 bucks. 
thankfully, not until 4pm though. i should be taking a shower and cleaning the house, as i'm kidless for another hour and a half!
