Do you ever wish the wedding would just go by fast?

[Lisa777]

Maybe its because my FH & I have been engaged for 2 years now but we both admitted to each other last night that we can't wait for this wedding to be over with. It sounds sad but I think we never thought of all the stress and emotions that go along with it and I know I for one never thought it would be the most emotional time in my life. I mean dont get me wrong I can't wait to wear my dress and walk down the aisle and see my FH but theres also a part of me that can't wait to get it over with. I think at this point we are both looking forward to the honeymoon more than anything. Theres just been so much stress between planning this, buying a condo, parents and what they want. It just drains me now. I don't think I ever cried this much in my life before plus my FH & I aren't living in our condo yet so thats gonna be a big adjustment for us since we've both never been away from home. Do I sound awful for saying these things or does anyone else feel this way?

[eli1126]

I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal. My DH had an 18 month engagement, and it seemed like the closer we got to the wedding, the more stressed I felt, between doing what needed to be done and trying to make everyone happy, and trying to accommodate the parents. I can't even begin to tell you how many fights DH and I had, or how many times I cried. It's normal. Orginally Posted by: Bellefior

I wanted to totally back this up! DH and I had an 18 month egagement as well and I was also trying to go to school full time, work part time, plan a wedding, and try to please everyone and guess what? That Never happens! I finally realized that what was important was DH and I and everyone else could deal with it!! I am glad we did the wedding thing, but I am also glad it's over. As hard as it seems right now, try to relax, let people's "constructive" comments roll off your back, and keep first and foremost what is important for you and FH. Good Luck!

Beth

[ktsb]

Hand HIGH up in the air!

Yes yes yes

And I only planned for 8 months. It does get harder and it seemed to me like the emotional stuff caught me totally off guard. I mean isn't this supposed to be a HAPPY time. I also built and moved into a new house at the same time.

I found myself wishing for it to be over and then cursing myself for wishing for it to be over.

You'll make it through this and I concur with eli1126 to keep the focus on the purpose of the wedding, you and your FI. Say it over and over in your head. Sounds like your FI is in the same place as you are so continue to get support from each other. It helps put a damper on some of the junk you get from people around you.

Hang in there and it will be magical I promise.

[maplekitty]

Everytime I think about how stressed out I am and how "nothing" seems to be going my way, I refer back to this amazing essay written by a former bride. It puts everything into perspective and somehow I always come out feeling so much more relaxed and calm about everything.

If you've read it before, read it again, because it's gets better each time. If you havn't read it yet...read it, let it sink in, print it out and refer back to it when needed :)

Read Me! (http://jennifermendelsohn.com/sullatips.htm)

[Katyanne]

Great essay!
ITA with what the above ladies have said. My husband and I were also engaged for 18 months and definately by the end we were really wishing we'd eloped or gotten married sooner. We were both so stressed about the planning and other family issues that we were only really excited about the honeymoon until just a few days before the wedding.

There's going to be issues and there's going to be questions but it is just a great big party, celebrating your commitment and love for each other. The small stuff will take care of themselves.

[berry]

We were engaged for 11 months and there were many times in the last 2-4 months of the engagement that we both wanted to elope!

As others have said, make personal what you can, don't let your family get to you and enjoy the time you have together. I had the best time on my wedding day because all the little stuff didn't really matter anymore.

Also, I found it helped if you spend some time with your fiance and commit to not talking about the wedding at all. Just a little bit of time-off from the main topic of your daily life can be refreshing!

[miel]

I don't want this to sound dismissive but...the wedding doesn't matter--that marriage does! The wedding is cool as a first experience in a marriage. And a celebration of the amazing thing that marriage can be.

So, I think you are right to look forward to the honeymoon!!! That's the good part! Really, weddings are--to a large part--for other people. The marriage is the best part.

[PookiePrincess]

I completely feel your pain, but for me it's not so much getting the wedding over with, but it just getting here. There's been so much planning, that I just want to enjoy what we've been working on and be married.


Just enjoy your time as much as you can, and try not to stress!!!