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imagirliegirl

06-30-2005, 12:38 AM

:mad:

Oh my gawd. I'm so phucking mad right now I could burst.

When I found out I was pregnant I told one of my "good friends" and he freaked out on me. He started being so nasty to me so I just stopped talking to him. He's continued to text me and say mean things and I've been ignoring it the best I can until tonight. I told him if he was just going to be mean to please leave me alone because I have enough going on right now. To which I got this reponse: "I hope your baby dies, how's that for mean".

Um...

I want to kill him. Really, I do. I'm afraid of what I might do to him if I see him. I'm afraid of what will happen if the baby's dad hears about this.

I can't believe someone who was a close friend would turn on me like that. And say something like that about an innocent child. I'm so upset and so mad right now. I guess I just need to vent. :(

Cohl

06-30-2005, 01:12 AM

Geez, why would a friend of yours say something like that? Why does he care that your pregnant anyway? I don't really have any advice, I'd want to kill him too. No one should say something like that about an innocent baby.

Lisa777

06-30-2005, 05:34 AM

I don't understand why your "friend" would turn on you like this and say those cruel things to you. It seems like theres more behind this then maybe you know. I would just ignore this person the best you can and if they still persist then I would tell him you will go to the police and file charges.

solongtogo

06-30-2005, 06:57 AM

What happened that made him turn on you? People don't just get angry over someone getting pregnant, so I'm thinking that something happened before your announcement?

With friends like those, who needs enemies? Cut him off...don't talk to him, don't see him, etc. You don't need such a horrible person in your life, and neither does your baby.

tara621

06-30-2005, 07:01 AM

Yea it sounds like he's got some major issues...at first I thought well maybe he's jealous about something, but geez he took it to the extreme. I'd stay far away from that one.

camberne

06-30-2005, 07:02 AM

That has to be one of the most irrational responses I've heard about a friend's reaction to a friend's pregnancy. Did you guys ever have a relationship? Does he maybe wish you had a relationship? Could he possibly think that the baby might be his? Other than that, I can't imagine any reason why a friend would speak so horribly to another friend... and even in those instances, if he cared for YOU he wouldn't say those things about your baby.

nicole

06-30-2005, 08:08 AM

The best reason I can think of not to do it- you don't want your baby to be born in jail, so don't kill him! (Although he might kinda deserve it.)

He really doesn't sound like a friend at all. He's definitely not someone you want around after your baby is born. Who needs that kind of negativity?

Maybe he's mad about how much time you'll be spending with your new baby and therefore how much less time you'll have with him?

nic

06-30-2005, 09:05 AM

wow, what a strange response to a friend's pregnancy. There's either something else going on or he's completely mentally unstable.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this right now, I'd stay as far away from him as possible.

Nigellas

06-30-2005, 10:14 AM

WTF? What a jackass... :mad:

Zelda Von Yitz

06-30-2005, 10:16 AM

Steer clear of him.

And use kid gloves.

ktsb

06-30-2005, 10:54 AM

Wow that's JUST what you want to hear when you're pregnant as if you don't have enough worries. I'm sorry you had to go through this.

First don't let this turkey get you down.

Second, I have to agree with the other posters there's definitely an underlying reason for this. I'm not sure however if at this point it's even worth it to find out.

Ditto Zelda, too creepy, stay away.

imagirliegirl

06-30-2005, 11:52 PM

Thanks girls.

What happened that made him turn on you? People don't just get angry over someone getting pregnant, so I'm thinking that something happened before your announcement?

I have no idea why he's being such an asshole about all of this. We've been friends for like 3 years and have never been in a relationship or even talked about it. So if he wanted to be with me I never knew. He just went off the freaking deep end when I told him the news. He's never been mean to me like this. I'm so confused. My mom thinks he's jealous which is just a crazy concept to me. But maybe it's true. I don't care to speak to him to find out though. All my other friends have been really good about it.

I don't understand how people can be so mean. :(

imagirliegirl

06-30-2005, 11:54 PM

Oh...

Could he possibly think that the baby might be his?

Hehe...I don't mean to laugh but...ew no way. :p

IrisHope

07-01-2005, 10:24 AM

What exactly did he say to you when you told him you wre pregnant? Are you married? If not was he mad at you for that? I'm trying to get an idea here what his issue is/was.

lawyerlee

07-01-2005, 11:18 AM

My mom thinks he's jealous which is just a crazy concept to me. But maybe it's true. I don't care to speak to him to find out though. All my other friends have been really good about it.

I don't understand how people can be so mean. :(
Well, if he is and that is his way of handling it, he's certainly not someone you need in your life. :(

I'm glad to hear that everyone else has been supportive of you. You don't need someone like him around, especially when you've got so many caring people to focus your attention on. :)

eponymous

07-01-2005, 02:42 PM

WHAT? That's so weird.

lml41981

07-04-2005, 08:08 PM

My opinion? Call the phone company and get call block added to your phone and block any incoming calls from him. Find out if that covers texts, too. If not, change your number. Nobody needs to deal with someone like that...

miel

07-06-2005, 11:10 PM

He's insane. I think you have to just let it go and think 'he's insane.'

Maybe he had some crazy hidden thing for you, maybe not. But what he said is EVIL. My stomach lurched when I read it. Get away from him and stay away. Now you know what he is made of. He is a bitter and cruel person. I would avoid him like the plague.

And when you feel angry that he isn't paying a price remember--he has to be HIM. A resentful piece of s***.

That said--CONGRATULATIONS! That's wonderful. I hope everything is going well for you.

imagirliegirl

07-07-2005, 05:09 PM

Applebee

07-07-2005, 06:28 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. That's a very tough thing to go through. You certainly don't need that jackass saying things to you making you feel any worse then you do.

I agree that you should change your usernames/IM names. Hopefully that would work. If it doesn't, however, sick DH on his ass!

TX Sweetheart

07-07-2005, 06:40 PM

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage...

Just a suggestion, but if you don't want to have to change all of your IM names, just block him, or set it so that only people already on your contact list can IM you.

mrs_pell

07-07-2005, 06:44 PM

omg...I am SOOO sorry to hear about your miscarriage!

I can't believe that someone who was a "friend" could turn so psycho so fast! I can't believe he's doing this to you! I would seriously want to cause massive physical harm to him. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this on top of everything else. :(

filmgirl7

07-08-2005, 10:55 AM

I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through....

Maybe you should get a restraining order against the guy. I've never heard of a friend being so cruel and abusive. :(

shopaholic

07-08-2005, 12:46 PM

Ugh. Well as some of you may know from LJ I had a miscarriage this weekend. Somehow through the grapevine the freak found out and he's been relentlessly cruel. I've been getting messages on the internet that say "why did you kill your baby" and "you should get a better job to support your baby, oh wait it's dead". I don't know what the hell is up with this psycho. I told him to just leave me alone. Fine, you got to me, you win. Now just PLEASE leave me alone. I'm dealing with enough right now physically and emotionally and I don't need this BS. I guess I'm just going to have to change all of my user names on IM and email. Then I'll have to block any websites I know he posts on so I don't have to see the nasty things he's saying.

All I can say is I believe in karma. And I hope he f*cking suffers. :mad:

Sorry to hear about your loss :(

BTW....what age is this "kid"? He sounds like a H.S. tool.

JamBray

07-09-2005, 06:52 PM

Ugh. Well as some of you may know from LJ I had a miscarriage this weekend. Somehow through the grapevine the freak found out and he's been relentlessly cruel. I've been getting messages on the internet that say "why did you kill your baby" and "you should get a better job to support your baby, oh wait it's dead". I don't know what the hell is up with this psycho. I told him to just leave me alone. Fine, you got to me, you win. Now just PLEASE leave me alone. I'm dealing with enough right now physically and emotionally and I don't need this BS. I guess I'm just going to have to change all of my user names on IM and email. Then I'll have to block any websites I know he posts on so I don't have to see the nasty things he's saying.
I'm so sorry to hear this, and know how hard it can be. As for your "friend", I just can't believe all the stuff that he's spewing out at you. I would definitely block his e-mail and IM so that he can't contact you that way, and obviously avoid picking up the phone if his number comes up on caller id, or hanging up immediately before he can say any more cruel things to you.

Are you friends with others who know him? If so, what do they have to say about his evil behavior?

oceaneast

07-10-2005, 10:32 PM

imagirliegirl

07-11-2005, 01:14 PM

I've set up my IM to be totally private except for people I have specified to contact me. I changed my email address to prevent him from making more new names to contact me. Oh, and I blocked his childish little website so I can't see it, even if I am tempted. And I had someone else make up the password so it can't get the best of me.

And now I'm done with it. He can kiss my ass. Hmph. :cool: