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adamseve
06-29-2005, 11:55 PM
Bride Calls Off Wedding, Throws Party For Homeless

POSTED: 8:46 am PDT June 29, 2005
UPDATED: 8:54 am PDT June 29, 2005

EVERETT, Wash. -- A young woman decided to call off her wedding 12 days before the event and her parents knew they'd be stuck with the bill, so they decided to have a party anyway and invited the homeless.

Residents of the Interfaith Family Shelter, housed in a former convent across from Our Lady of Perpetual Help Catholic Church where the wedding had been scheduled, attended the bash thrown by Katie Hosking, 22, a medical assistant at the Everett Clinic, and her parents, Bill and Susan Hosking of Lake Stevens.

"They had a DJ and really good music. It was a warm, friendly atmosphere. The food was delicious. It was a nice break with people not worrying about anything for one night," shelter manager Carol Oliva said. "Toward the end of the evening, they packed up all the leftover food and we got to bring it back to the shelter."

One homeless woman got her son out of a wheelchair, "took that child out on the dance floor and picked him up and danced with him. It was a beautiful sight. Our kids realized that even when something bad happens, somebody else has something worse," Susan Hosking said. "It was an eye-opener."

The almost-bride would not say what led to the breakup, only that it happened June 6, 12 days before the scheduled date of her wedding.

Planning a reception for 150 guests at the Echo Falls golf and country club, her parents had made a $2,500 down payment and written another check for the $6,200 balance. Club policy requires full payment for any event that is canceled less than 60 days before the scheduled date.

"Personally, it's a really hard time for a family," said Jessica Gamble, the club's catering sales manager. "It's a really awesome thing that they did. They made the best of it."

Susan Hosking said that once she and her husband "got past the panic," they took a suggestion from her brother-in -law in New York and decided to invite the staff and residents of the shelter operated by the Interfaith Association of Snohomish County to share in the evening.

More than 50 family members and close friends were joined by about 40 homeless people, shelter workers and volunteers. The shelter staff arranged rides to the club.

Instead of a wedding cake, chef Michael Greb produced strawberry shortcake to top off a menu that included baron of beef, salmon, shrimp cocktail, fettuccine and fruit.

"Oh my gosh, we had so much fun," Katie Hosking said.

Shelter residents, she said, "came up and thanked us several times - thank you, thank you, thank you. We all danced. I still got to dance with my dad."

Her mother said she was happy to demonstrate an alternative to the case of Jennifer Wilbanks, 32, who got cold feet and vanished shortly before a 600-guest wedding in Georgia. Wilbanks pleaded no contest this month to telling police a phony abduction story and was sentenced to probation and community service.

"That food would help feed people at the shelter for another three or four days," she said. "With the notoriety of the runaway bride, I would like people to know that these things do happen, and there is another outlet. The money is spent."

http://www.nbcsandiego.com/family/4665534/detail.html

lawyerlee
06-30-2005, 12:15 AM
That's so wonderful! I love that she made the right decision for herself and instead of letting it be a solemn time, used it as an opportunity to bring joy into the lives of others. Great idea! :)

EmilyBronte
06-30-2005, 12:31 AM
That's awesome! I wish more people were so generous.

PrincessTommi
06-30-2005, 07:38 AM
That is so great! What a heartwarming story!

Witty Username
06-30-2005, 07:50 AM
Wow, that is great!

It makes me a little sad though, because I can't help but think of what a great party the homeless could have had if the selfish "runaway bride" did something similar.


~Marti

jennylou
06-30-2005, 09:34 AM
What a great thing her and her family did. :)

camberne
06-30-2005, 09:37 AM
GOOD FOR THEM!! That was an awesome thing to do.

eli1126
06-30-2005, 09:58 AM
What a way to call off a wedding with class and dignity.

Beth

IrishMeg
06-30-2005, 10:13 AM
I think that is awesome! Good for her!

Belm
06-30-2005, 10:32 AM
What an awesome thing to read about!

~ Brenna

taraw
06-30-2005, 10:33 AM
That is a great story, thanks for posting it!

maplekitty
06-30-2005, 11:31 AM
It's good to hear that she turned around what could have been something very sad and depressing. However, do you think perhaps the runaway bride scandal prompted them to do this?

jeeplover
06-30-2005, 11:38 AM
Wow that is such a wonderful thing for her and her family to do! At least her parents don't feel like they wasted the money, it definitely went to a good cause!

Tempest_too
06-30-2005, 12:06 PM
I wonder if they can write it off on their taxes as a charitable contribution towards the shelter?

flygirl
06-30-2005, 12:10 PM
That's a beautiful story! I can see how this would help with the healing, but it still must have been a hard day for the bride. I admire her.

Tempest, they probably can write it off, which helps. But seriously, if you've paid for the entire thing & you won't get your money back, and you don't want to have a "regular" party because that would hurt too much, why not help the poor?

Fluffy Bunny
06-30-2005, 12:10 PM
Tempest - I was wondering the same thing. I think I might be a bit too cynical.

flygirl
06-30-2005, 12:11 PM
It's good to hear that she turned around what could have been something very sad and depressing. However, do you think perhaps the runaway bride scandal prompted them to do this?
No. I'm sure they weren't thinking about national news when they did this.

lml41981
06-30-2005, 12:54 PM
Tempest, I had the same thought...

Regardless, it is nice that they did that. I don't really care what motivates people to do nice things. :)

Sophia
06-30-2005, 01:08 PM
How cool!

Heidi9771
06-30-2005, 05:17 PM
Ok, get ready for the cynical part of Heidi...could it be possible that they were advised to do this so the expense could be writen off as a charitable donation?

edited to add..sorry Tempest, didn't see your earier post. Yes, I think that was the main motivation.

Either way, it doesn't matter, I am glad it ended up shedding some much needed light for the shelter residents.

gayle
07-02-2005, 08:19 AM
What a truly wonderful thing for her and her family to do. Noble decision actually.

nylons73
07-03-2005, 05:50 PM
Wow! Those are some wonderful people. I was thinking when I read this that many people tend to be 'scared' of the homeless, and reluctant to interact with them. I have seen this through my own volunteer experiences. Good for this family that even in what is surely a difficult time for them, they took the 'lemons' and made 'lemonade.' :)

TX Sweetheart
07-03-2005, 08:22 PM
I think this is totally awesome...

maplekitty
07-03-2005, 11:01 PM
Originally Posted by maplekitty
It's good to hear that she turned around what could have been something very sad and depressing. However, do you think perhaps the runaway bride scandal prompted them to do this?

No. I'm sure they weren't thinking about national news when they did this.

No no, I didn't mean like that. I meant, the run-away bride got all that bad press for what she did. Do you think perhaps this family was afraid the same thing would happen to them if *anyone* in the media got wind of them. I know it's not half as bad as what the run-away bride did, but the media could easily draw un-wanted attention to a family that didn't want it. So, to take away negative remarks...they turned it around and made something good of it so there would be *no* bad press whate-so-ever.

scorpioanne
07-04-2005, 10:20 AM
It was a wonderful thing to do...restores my faith in humanity!

domesticdreamer
07-04-2005, 11:10 AM
Thanks for posting/sharing such a heartwarming story. It takes a lot of class and resolve to put aside such a devastating blow (breaking up/calling off a wedding), and lifting somebody else's spirit. Many gals would be wallowing in the "why me" self pity and locking themselves away somewhere (myself included probably!)- good for her to go out and cut a rug with her dad!!!

Natasha
07-06-2005, 12:12 AM
So cool, what an awesome idea......