My Dog is getting put to sleep tomorrow :(

[Tonysweetie]

My dog who I've had since I was 5 years old is being put to sleep tomorrow morning at 9:30. My Mom decided that it's his time. He's old, can't control when uses the bathroom, has pain in his legs and hips, he is deaf and mainly blind. He doesn't even know who my Mom is or who I am anymore. My Mom called just a few minutes ago crying to tell me that she is having him put down tomorrow morning. The vet told her it was best for him b/c he is suffering. I'm having a very hard time dealing with this, this is the puppy I've had since I was a little girl. I can't stop crying and just feel all around awful about this. I love this dog so much, he's apart of my family and just the thought of knowing when I go to Mom's house and him no being there anymore just breaks my heart! I've cried so much the past 20 minutes that I feel like I'm going to throw up. I know this is best for him but how am I suspose to deal with this? This is like losing apart of my family. I remember when we got him from the shelter he was so tiny, walked on his ears b/c they were so long and has been the best most loving dog. Right now I just feel terriable and so sad, hurt, mad, everything and DH doesn't get home for another hour. I feel so helpless. I keep thinking about how Scooter (that's his name) must feel rigth now, he has no idea this is about to happen to him tomorrow. My Dad is taking him in the morning and I know I'll lose it at 9:30 am while I'm at work tomorrow. How am I suspose to deal with this? I'm sorry this is so long I'm just so hurt and sad and can't imagine life w/o Scooter anymore. I look at my kitty and just could imagine doing this to him ever. I hope I never have too b/c this is one of the most diffiuclt things. Thanks for anyone who listened to me I really appriciate it :) God Bless please think of my puppy tomorrow as he passes :( :( :( :(

[LauraPerg]

I am so so sorry! I remember when we had to have our family cat put down and I was soooo sad. I know there's not much I can say to be of any comfort, but I will be thinking of you and Scooter tomorrow at 9:30.

[KarenS]

Aw. I'm so sorry.

My best advice to you is that you shouldn't feel bad for grieving. Don't feel that it's "just a dog" or let anyone make you feel silly. I felt just as bad when my cat died as I did when my mom died. Really. The pain was just as bad, I cried just as much .. it was awful. Go ahead and grieve for him!

And remember that if his quality of life is that bad then letting him go with dignity and no pain is the right thing to do.

karen

[Tonysweetie]

Thank you for your kind words. I'm so torn I can't stop crying, I want DH to come home so I have someone to cry with. I might have to call into work tomorrwo b/c I'm such a mess over this. I miss him already. :(

[fuzzy]

My best advice to you is that you shouldn't feel bad for grieving. Don't feel that it's "just a dog" or let anyone make you feel silly. I felt just as bad when my cat died as I did when my mom died. Really. The pain was just as bad, I cried just as much .. it was awful. Go ahead and grieve for him!

Ditto that 100%. Grief from the death of a pet is very, very real.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[wendalah]

I was just thinking of my little dog who died today. I'm sorry you are going through this! It sounds like Scooter had a good, long, happy life with your family. Just think how lucky he is to be able to pass with your dad there to hold him. What kind of dog is he?

[Sazoo]

I'm so sorry, Tonysweetie! :( I agree 100% with what the others have said - it's absolutely okay to feel sadness & grief over the loss of a pet. They are truly part of our families & the loss is very real! It must be especially hard to lose a pet who has been a part of your family for most of your life. If Scooter is in a lot of pain & his quality of life isn't very good anymore then it probably is the best thing to do, but I totally agree with you that it's impossible to imagine having to make that decision about your pet. My older cat is 9 years old, & I don't even want to think about the day I might have to let her go. She's my baby! My mom put 2 of our cats to sleep when I was in high school/college, & it was so awful.

I hope your DH gets home soon so you can get a good hug & a shoulder to cry on. I'm really very sorry.

[Sazoo]

I was just thinking of my little dog who died today. I'm sorry you are going through this! It sounds like Scooter had a good, long, happy life with your family. Just think how lucky he is to be able to pass with your dad there to hold him. What kind of dog is he?
Wendalah makes a very good point - maybe it will help give you some comfort to focus on the great life you & your family gave Scooter - all the love, games, fun times, etc.

[Tonysweetie]

Thank you ladies, thank you so much. It's nice to know that people do understand how this feels and understand that it is like losing an actual person. It's awful. Scooter was a mixed puppy. He was part Doxie, and part beagle. I wish I had a picture of him to post but I don't on this computer. He's only about 1.5 feet tall and has long floppy ears and is all black with a tan and white nose. Ad he weighs about 20 lbs. He's a real cutie! He was the cutest puppy. He was so little, walked on his ears and would fall over them, he the sadest little puppy eyes too. Awh I miss him.

[AlisonCO]

I am so sorry! HUGS!!! DH and I put our lab down in March 04 and it is still the hardest thing that we have ever done. We had him cremated and in Sept on what would have been his 12th b-day, we took his ashes and put them in a river as swimming was his favorite activity. That gave us a ton of closure and was very helpful in completing the circle (so to speak.) I still cry occasionally even now but it does get better. Cry as much as you need to and do not feel bad. Again I am so sorry that you have to go thru this - the fact that you all are so sad only means that he was very loved and will know that as he passes on. I will send a thought to my lab Cisco to keep an eye out for Scooter tomorrow and welcome him with open arms - Cisco loved little dogs:)

[Tonysweetie]

He was very loved, I keep thinking of the happy things w/him like when we had to house braek him how funny and difficult that was. How he used to play with tree limbs, used to swim in the pool with us. Bath time was always my favorite thing to do with him b/c he loved it. The walks in the evening etc. I just never really thought about this part of his life. I need to chalk it up b/c I have to go to a fancy resuturant w/DH and his family for his MOm's b-day ina couple hours but my eyes are are red and swollen I Just might have to cancel b/c I can't stop crying over this. Maybe when DH gets home he will help make me feel better. Anyways thank you sooo much ladies it means so much to me that there are people who care and know how this feels and understand.

[Rose]

I am so sorry. I will be thinking of your family and your precious dog.

[roberta]

I am so sorry! Go ahead and cry. Do not feel bad for grieving over the lossof a family member. I'm sure that Scooter would say thank you if he could for a lifetime of love, treats, games and kisses in a family who loved him so much. He 'd also say thanks for taking away the pain and letting him pass with dignity. I had to put both of my childhood dogs (Honey and Snowball- they were sisters from the same litter) to sleep, one while I was in HS and one while was in college. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I'll be thinking of you and Scooter tomoorrow. Like Allison did, I'll send a thought to Honey and Snowball to welcome Scooter and show him where the best spots are to find treats and take a nap.

[Tonysweetie]

I am so sorry! Go ahead and cry. Do not feel bad for grieving over the lossof a family member. I'm sure that Scooter would say thank you if he could for a lifetime of love, treats, games and kisses in a family who loved him so much. He 'd also say thanks for taking away the pain and letting him pass with dignity. I had to put both of my childhood dogs (Honey and Snowball- they were sisters from the same litter) to sleep, one while I was in HS and one while was in college. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I'll be thinking of you and Scooter tomoorrow. Like Allison did, I'll send a thought to Honey and Snowball to welcome Scooter and show him where the best spots are to find treats and take a nap.

Thank you! I hope Scooter makes good friends in Doggy Heaven with Honey and Snowball, hehe. He's such a nice dog I'm sure he won't have any problems. Maybe he'll even find himself a girlfriend b/c he never had that oppurtunity, :D I'm feeling better now finally stopped crying...well for about 5 minutes that is I'm sure soon as I see DH walk through the door that'll be a whole different story. Thanks for your kind words God Bless!!!

[mrsk]

I am so sorry. I've been where you are and it really is like losing a family member. Eventually it will get easier, and you'll always remember the good times.

You're definately in my thoughts and prayers!

[nolagirl]

Putting a pet down is absolutely losing a family member - usually one of the most loving and loyal family members we have! I am so sorry you are going through this - my thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Belm]

I am so sorry!

It is very hard to go through something like this. I still get upset thinking of Rascal, who passed away a few years ago.

I'll be thinking of you and your family.

[mel7dog]

Oh I am so sorry! I have tears in my eyes after reading your story. I'm glad you have some peace remembering all the great times ouy've had with Scooter, keep feeling better :) I will be thinking of your family and little scooter tomorrow.

[gayle]

I am so sorry you are going through this. Having been there several times in my life I have to say it is one of THE most painful things I will ever deal with.

Know in your heart that you are making the right choice for Scooter. A dog who is in the level of distress your dog is, deserves the kindness of an easy and painless end. You are providing an act of deep love for a deeply loved dog.

And as Karen, and others have said, don't feel bad for grieving. Grief is real, and normal, as well as necessary.

If you need to not be at work tommorrow, don't be. This is a painful thing and you need some time to be able to feel exactly what you feel and go through the grieving process.

[SwaneeK]

Hi-

I am just thinking of you and your dog. It's a lot harder when the pets can't tell you that they are in pain (even if they are). It's hard because you can't let them know it's for their own good. I'm sure that your dog knows that, though. Treasure all the happy times. Now your dog will be chasing around cats with short legs in Doggy Heaven.

-Take care

[kcjules]

Now you have me crying thinking of my cat, Molly, when my parents put her to sleep 5 years ago (she had cancer). She was only 5 years old :(

Cry as much as you need to. No one thinks you are silly because pets are part of the family, no matter what anyone might tell you. I can't imagine going through that pain again because that was the hardest decision my parents have ever made.

Okay I need to stop writing because now I am thinking about Molly.

Just think of all the good times you had with him, and how he will no longer be in pain.

[kate]

Thinking of you :(

[Esq.]

I am thinking of you and your scooter dog. It is terribly difficult to put a loved family member to sleep. Grieving is normal, and you should allow yourself to go through it.

I had to put my Lua Pie to sleep a couple of years ago. She was a quirky little beagle mix. It was terrible to let her go. We took her home with us so that we could bury her, and I held her until I had to let her go.

I got my Naya Pie bc she reminded me of Lua...and she has lived up to her big sister's legacy. In fact, I think that Lua has come back to me in Naya form! :) Maybe one day you will run across Scooter in a new form! If you do, you will recognize him, and I bet he will recognize you.

[Mandos*Bella]

I worked in a vet hospital, and couldn't bear to see the animals that were coming in to be put down-but what made me more comfortable with the situation was knowing that many of these animals are in pain/suffering, and cannot enjoy themselves anymore. Not that this makes anything better....but you know. :(

I feel like there isn't anything I can say-I am truly sorry for what you and your family are going through. Scooter will be in a better place, with his friends.

:(

PM me if you need anything, sweetie.

[Tonysweetie]

Thank you all for your wonderful sweet words. I'm feeling better now but I'm sure that'll bea whole different story in the morning when I know it happened. Ya know? Ij us spent the evening with Tony's family and they helped me cheer up but now that Im' back home I'm sad again and just realizing that he isn't going to be there when I go ack to Mom's this weekend. This is so difficult and hard to realize that it's really happening. I knew this was coming a few months back but just thought maybe he would pass on his own. Thank again for being so nice and supportive and to all of you who have been through this I'm sorry for your losses too!!! God Bless!!! I will update tomorrow :(

[honeygirl]

I am sorry for your loss. :(

-Anne

[Tonysweetie]

thank you honeygirl :)

[Vegastrtle]

You'll be in my thoughts tomorrow. I'm sorry for your pain.

[Tonysweetie]

thank you Vegas!! God Bless you

[maxandmolly]

I am so sorry! My Maggie is a Beagle mutt (but much bigger than your Scooter), and they really have such a different quality to them than other dogs, it sounds like your Scooter has it, too.
I was so grateful last year, when our Bear (Rott/Chow mix, huge, almost 14 years old) went outside, sniffed the cool air with his nose up (one of his favorite activities), then went inside, walked to his favorite snoozing spot, and let go so peacefully, so that we did not have to make that so difficult choice that your family has had to make.
One of my co-workers has a Beagle pregnant by a Daushaund....and everytime I see those puppies, I'm sure I'll be reminded of your Scooter.
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

[Tonysweetie]

I am so sorry! My Maggie is a Beagle mutt (but much bigger than your Scooter), and they really have such a different quality to them than other dogs, it sounds like your Scooter has it, too.
I was so grateful last year, when our Bear (Rott/Chow mix, huge, almost 14 years old) went outside, sniffed the cool air with his nose up (one of his favorite activities), then went inside, walked to his favorite snoozing spot, and let go so peacefully, so that we did not have to make that so difficult choice that your family has had to make.
One of my co-workers has a Beagle pregnant by a Daushaund....and everytime I see those puppies, I'm sure I'll be reminded of your Scooter.
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

what a beautiful story. I wish that was the case with Scooter but unfortuanetly it isn't. I feel so awful for my Dad b/c he's the one that has to do this tomorrow. I have decided to go into work to help keep my mind off it but I know that will not be the case. Thank your kind words and I wanna see one of them puppies, hehe.

[Zelda Von Yitz]

Hugs from me and my doggie to you and Scooter.

Your dog had a long and happy life. He was well loved.

[Tonysweetie]

Hugs from me and my doggie to you and Scooter.

Your dog had a long and happy life. He was well loved.

awh thanks :) Give your puppy a kiss for me :p

[maxandmolly]

Thank your kind words and I wanna see one of them puppies, hehe.
Well, you aren't that far from me! Maybe an hour or so. The last litter they had (same mix) all went to people at work pretty much, and she brought them in when they were tiny tony so everyone could pick the one they wanted. I just held them and snuggled and wished I could bring one home- they were simply too cute for words.

[IrishMeg]

Tonysweetie, I read this whole thread last night and cried uncontrollably. I just can't imagine the pain you are going through right now. I just wanted you to know I'll be thinking of your little dog at 9:30 this morning. I'll be praying for an easy and peaceful passing for him. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

[kiddo]

Tonysweetie I am sooo sorry to hear about your loss. :( I am sitting here in tears right now. When I was in high school we had to put our beagle/collie mix to sleep. I still miss him to this day and keep a picture of him in a frame. Let yourself cry as much as you need.

I want to run home now and give our lab puppy a big hug.

[Tonysweetie]

awh I don't mean to make anyone cry but thank you it means a lot to me that all of you care so much. Well it's 10:00 am and I haven't heard from my parents but I'm assuming that he has passed on and I'm handling it ok... :( I went to work this morning at 7:30 and I just came home for a 45 minute break and going back in at 10:45ish. I told my boss about it and she told me to go home if I needed too so I came home for a short break so I don't break down at work. I cried on my way home listening to christian music thinking of Scooter in heaven already. I know he's up there happy with all the friends he could ever have and someday I'll see him again. He's up there with my grand parents, my aunt, my great grandmother, and my ferrett, my 2 hamsters, and my kitty all happy and playing together. :p He's in a better place adn I have accepted that I have to let him go but he will remain in my heart for a lifetime. Right now Max is cuddling with me being so sweet and trying to cheer me up I'm so glad he's still young *sigh* My Mom said that maybe someday she'll get another puppy but I don't think she needs to push it on herself for a bit considering we had Scooter since I was 5/6. Well anyways thank you so much ladies I can always count on you for love and support. God Bless!!!

RIP Scooter 10/19/05 :( :)

[IrisHope]

My mom put my dog to sleep when I was in college for the exact same reason. It's really hard. But, like anything else, time heals. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[greenbunny]

So sorry for your loss. It really is a blessing that we can end our pets' suffering. It does not make it easier for us, but it is wonderful to be able to give them peace.

[chefker]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. :(

It's something we all know is inevitable in the life of a dog, but it never makes it easy at all. Thinking of you and your beloved dog today.

[JillyBean]

I'm so sorry for your loss :(

My "childhood" dog was put to sleep earlier this year, and I had a really tough time with it. It's incredibly hard. I'll be thinking of you.

[steviem]

I am so sorry for your loss.

Thinking of you,
steviem

[Tonysweetie]

Thank you all. I finally talked to my Mom and she is doing quite well. She said she is at peacea bout it and I somehow am too. Of course I'm sad and keep crying but I'm at peace that he no longer has to suffer anymore. THank you all again!!! :D God Bless!!!

[kmmommy]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Pets are most definitely a very important part of the family. Thinking of you.

[Golightly]

I'm very sorry about your loss dearie...

I think it was right to let him move on when he couldn't do it himself. I don't think that dogs really understand getting old, just that bodies don't work anymore and that must be distressing.

It sounds like he had a wonderful, long life with you and your family. That is absolutely the best gift you ever could have given him... You did everything right...

I know that it's still really hard to say goodbye though.

I am going to go hug Chewy right now...

[Tonysweetie]

I'm very sorry about your loss dearie...

I think it was right to let him move on when he couldn't do it himself. I don't think that dogs really understand getting old, just that bodies don't work anymore and that must be distressing.

It sounds like he had a wonderful, long life with you and your family. That is absolutely the best gift you ever could have given him... You did everything right...

I know that it's still really hard to say goodbye though.

I am going to go hug Chewy right now...

Awh, give Chewy a hug for me too...ps love that name!

[ysolde]

What a wonderful life and family he had, filled with love, comfort, and warmth. I told my "special favorite" dog who has gone before me (they are all my favorites, but Spunky was my special favorite) to greet your Scooter, to play with him and show him around, when I visited him in my dreams.

And I have been giving my cats extra hugs and kisses in Scooter's honor.

Much love.

[Tonysweetie]

What a wonderful life and family he had, filled with love, comfort, and warmth. I told my "special favorite" dog who has gone before me (they are all my favorites, but Spunky was my special favorite) to greet your Scooter, to play with him and show him around, when I visited him in my dreams.

And I have been giving my cats extra hugs and kisses in Scooter's honor.

Much love.


awwwwh thank you!!!! :) I give Scooter kisses and tell him I love him in my prayers every night since he passed. I'm sure he's hearing me and receving them. He knows how muchI love him and he will be my one and only dog for the rest of my life. Yea sure I'll probably get another puppy someday but my Scooter is still my number one :)