View Full Version : How you knew he was it!!
09-02-2005, 03:17 PM
Did you guys have a moment that you realized that you were the love of your life? Or was it a progressing thing? Was it love at first site?
I love sharing stories of how you fell in love with your best friend. It reminds us all of how lucky we are.
I met my husband when we were working at Starbucks. We were both dating other people and had no romantic interest in each other... In fact, I thought he was a total jerk, and he didn't think too kindly of me either.
As we worked together more and more we started realizing that we are more like eachother than we thought. We are both jerks!! :D We started just ranking on eachother for fun and picking on others together. We became "a team" and refused to make fun of eachother anymore and use our powers combined to cause trouble at work. (All in good fun) I started having those fuzzy feelings for him although I denied the heck out of it if anyone asked.
One night, it was my turn to host girls night. I invited all the girls there and we invited him (only because he has a girls name). He got completely lost and by the time he got there everyone else was gone. We ended up staying up until 6 am talking and drinking and as ashamed as I am... I had what I thought was going to be my first one-night-stand.
He started calling and we became friends w/ benefits I guess. We would always end up talking until 3-4 am and just loved hanging out. One night after my car was broken in to he was so suppose to pick me up from work at 10 pm. He fell asleep b/c he worked at 4 am earlier that day. I started walking to his house, and I would call him from every couple of blocks in case I got kidnapped, I wanted him to know exactly when and where i was abducted.
Later that month we stayed at his moms while she was going through a kidney replacement. We were laying in bed and he started telling me about how that was the moment he realized I was the one. It all of a sudden came to me "Holy sh!t... I am in love!!" I was so happy and I kept making him say it as though I didn't hear what he said.
A couple of weeks later was New Years. I wrote him a letter while he was at work about how I realized he was the one for me as well. As I was writing the letter it really sunk in. I had this overwhelming calmness after that... Like one life long task had just been checked off the list. I will never have to worry about being lonely, I don't have to worry about all those damn dating games. I am with my solemate!! :eek: :D
The more we talk the more and more I realize that I am with the male version of me!! My perfect match! I guess I am just in lovey-dovey mood! Afterall today is our 2 month wedding anniversary! (I am such a dork!) :p
09-02-2005, 03:32 PM
Soon after we met, we took things rather quickly. One morning in bed, he asked me pass him a kleenex. I rolled over to grab one so he could blow his nose and aid his allergies. He was really allergic to my cat and yet, still kept coming around. When I rolled back over to face him, he started kissing my hands, my arms, my feet telling me that he loved each part of my body. And you know when it sunk in? When he kissed my tubby belly. I knew then that he was the love of my life. He loved me, he loved my stomach, and he loved my cat, regardless of how it made him feel.
09-02-2005, 04:23 PM
Rob and I started dating very young...we've been dating for almost 6 years now.
When I was in high school my mom decided to move from NC (where we had lived our whole lives) to FL. I was completly distraught and did not want to leave. I really didn't like my dad's wife but I decided to move in with them anyway to avoid having to leave my hometown. After about a month things really weren't working out until his wife and I had a *huge* fight and I left. My mom moved back long enough for me to finish out the semester and stay through part of the summer.
Rob and I hadn't been dating that long but for a high school romance we were pretty serious and I knew that he was a great guy. I ended up moving with my mom to FL the next semester and hated it every second that I was there. I really wanted to move back to NC but I had too much pride and I was too embarrased by the way I acted and the things I said to call my dad and his wife to ask if I could come back.
While I was in FL Rob flew down on a couple of different occasions to visit me. One day I got a call from Rob telling me to call my dad and apologize and it would all be okay...that I would be able to move back in with them.
Rob had gone to see my dad at work one day. He sat down and talked to my dad for over three hours. They talked about me and our relationship and how much I hated FL and how much I meant to him. I couldn't believe that he went to see my dad.
It took me a couple of days to get the courage to call my dad and his wife and apologize. I flew home at the end of the semseter to NC for good. My favorite aunt (she has been like by best friend forever) picked me up at the airport. We got to her house and there was Rob...sitting in her living room waiting for me. We ran to me and put his arms around me and gave me a huge hug.
We've been together ever since..almost 6 years and we live together. We aren't engaged/married yet but I know it's coming soon.
09-02-2005, 04:46 PM
For us, love at first sight. We met online a few days before (well, I say that, but he emailed me straight from my AOL profile - not a dating site- I emailed him back two days later, we chatted on IM for five minutes on a Sunday night and made a lunch date for the next day) and then over lunch I fell HARD. He was amazing, and I knew I was lost. Five years later, I'm still lost. :D
09-02-2005, 06:10 PM
I'm not sure that I believe in "love at first sight" but I fell HARD when I met my hubby. I even told my mom I was going to marry him after all of a 5 minute conversation with him! :D
When I met my DH, he was actually engaged to someone he wasn't in love with. :confused: We would just hang out at work on our breaks or sneak off somewhere to chat. I swear I had no alterior motives! *lol* I really liked him but I knew he was hands-off and he never tried anything. But of course love is a fickle thing! After awhile it was obvious we were very attracted to eachother and he ended his engagement. We started "officially" dating shortly thereafter and the rest was, as they say, history.
I would say I knew right away that he was the one for me. I always "felt" it if that makes any sense. We knew we were in love long before we started dating. I was only 17 though and he was 22 so of course everyone thought we were crazy and chalked it up to puppy love. But we got married a year and half later and we'll celebrating 4 years of marriage in just a few weeks! :)
I feel like I should add a disclaimer! His engagement was really not meant to be.. I'm not a homewrecker! *lol* His ex is now married and although I don't know her she looks a heck of a lot happier now and of course DH is happier now too. So me coming along was really a blessing in disguise for both of them!
09-02-2005, 06:44 PM
B and I were casual friends & co-workers for 5 years, until started walking together for exercise. That's what did it -- the walking. Cause all you do when you walk with someone is that you talk. And we talked about everything. And it was just amazing. We liked all of the same things, had all of the same philosophies, came frm the same-ish family backgrounds, we had all of the same life goals --- I just knew; he was my soulmate.
At first, we'd walk for an hour 2x/week, then later it became 1.5 or 2 hours, three times/week. First it was one day on the weekend, then both days on the weekend. I always thought, "Well, if he invites his sister Mary to come walking with us, then I'll know he just thinks it's two friends out getting some exericse." But he never invited his sister.
Finally one night, we had walked from Belltown up Queen Anne Hill, and back down through the Seattle Center, and he said to me: "Sometimes I wonder if you think of me as 'Just Friends B.'" And I thought, "Yeeeeah... sometimes I wonder that, too."
... And that was one year ago today (http://stfunfw.blogspot.com/2004/09/elephant.html).
We'll be married in 3 weeks. I can't wait to be MrsHill! :D
09-02-2005, 08:32 PM
in a nutshell we courted for 5yrs and 4mths, were engaged for 7 1/2 mths and married one mth shy of our 6yr anniversary.
we were really great friends (met in college) and from there it developed into a relationship. the moment i realized that i loved him and could actually spend the rest of my life with him was on day he skipped class to stay with me cos i was so sick. he sat with me on the bathroom floor holding my hair back as i kept throwing up til i could do so no more. only love could make u want to sit through something as nasty as that. i knew then that he was a keeper! and he most certainly is.
09-02-2005, 08:39 PM
We met through friends. My roommate from undergrad went on to do her Master's at University of South Carolina, and shared an office with my FH, who was also working on his Master's. FH became friends with my roommate's boyfriend, and the three of them became close. I had a crap job at the time, and had a crap engagement, and could neither afford to go visit my friends, nor would I have been "allowed" to regardless, so two years passed without me seeing them. The good news was that roommates BF is a webdesigner, and created his own forums site for our group of friends to keep in touch through. FH and I communicated casually for quite some time. Actually, I thought he was kind of a jerk - we'd had sort of a disagreement on the forums, and I figured he hated me.
Fast forward about six months. I had broken off the crappy engagement, gotten a great job, and moved back home to be near my family. My roommate, her BF, and FH had all just moved to Boston, and since I finally had the time and money, I decided to go out for a weekend. FH made a joke on the forums about the two of us hitting it off since we were going to get the chance to meet (*winkwink, nudgenudge*), and since I had nothing better to do, I played along. Throughout the course of these communications, FH and I realized that we really did have alot of things in common, and we began talking on the phone daily. Like, for hours.
It was incredible how easy conversation was with him. Hours would fly by like nothing. We both fell in love with the person on the other end of the phone line...in fact, we shared that revelation about two weeks before actually meeting face to face. We realized it even sooner than that, but in the beginning we had reservations about starting a relationship. Namely because of the 700 miles between Boston and Detroit.
We agreed that we would see what happened when I came to visit. And boy, did it happen. If there was ever love at first sight, this was it. I remember I was so nervous to finally meet him! I was staying at my roommate's apartment, and FH was supposed to come over when he was done with work. I pumped my roommate for information all day, and I was scared that I would be a disappointment in person! I must admit I was so scared, I bolstered my confidence with a little bit of liquid courage before he arrived. ;)
When he walked in the door and I laid eyes on him for the first time, it was like the whole world dropped away. I was struck dumb, there was nothing but him and me. I walked over to him and put my arms around him. I didn't know what to say. "Hello" seemed so inadequate! I think I finally mumbled something intelligent and witty, like, "Hi, I'm Rebecca."
And then he kissed me, and I felt whole for the first time in my life. And I knew right then that I'd met my soulmate.
We dated long distance for as long as we could stand it, and then finally he moved here to Michigan to be with me. And we couldn't be happier. :D
09-03-2005, 08:27 AM
What beautiful stories ladies!! :)
FH and I met at a gas station. I know- it sounds strange. We both went to college in this VERY small town. Everyone leaves on the weekends since nothing ever happens. I was headed home with heaps of laundry, and I must say I was looking pretty icky. My hair was in a ponytail cuz I didn't wanna deal with it, I had an old sweatshirt on, old jeans, and my trusty sneakers that look like I've run about 1,856 marathons in them. I was pumping my gas, when I noticed this really attractive guy in the car behind me. He was finished pumping his gas and was literally just staring at me. I figured that becuase I was looking so wonderful, he was prolly just asking himself why I was out in daylight. I had to admit though- he was REALLY attractive. I finished pumping my gas, figured I'd never see him again, and went on my way- with him still sitting in his car staring. (FH later told me that he was completly taken back becuase he said he took one look at me and said "Now that is a girl I could spend the rest of my life with".)
That night my friends called me back to the college and told me about a party. I was never much of a partyer, and didn't wanna go at all. I was talked into it though- and went with my friends. We walked into the house and I felt immediatly out of place. I knew no one here besides my friends and wanted to turn around and leave. Just as I was doing that- I hear this voice saying "Hey- do you drive a silver neon?". I turned around and it was him!! He was even hotter than I thought!!
It became the start of an awesome friendship. We knew we both liked each other so much- but we dated other people. When the relationships ended, we were there for one another. One night- after our respective relationships had ended, we decided to give it a shot. I knew I could spend the rest of my life withn this guy- and I would never forgive myself if I didn't try.
The next day he took me to hang out in his hometown with his family. His mom has a cottage on the lake, and his mom, sister, and her 1 1/2 year old were going to be hanging out there that day. I went- worrying that I wasn't going to be liked. We pulled up and headed out to the lake where they were. I see the most adorable little girl run up screaming "UNKEY CHAD!!". He scooped her up--and I swear to you, it was like seeing our future. My heart was most definatly his. His family was amazing, and I just kept looking at this amazing guy with his adorable niece and knew that he was the perfect husband and father. I guess it was kind of like love at first sight- but the sight of those two together is what REALLY did me in :)
09-03-2005, 09:50 AM
I've already replied for myself, but I'm inclined to reply about how I knew my best friend's husband was a keeper!
I was a single mother, and my son was 9 months old when I went to visit Marianna at college. She and Andy had started living together a short while before I went to visit. They had an apartment on campus. There were two specific incidents that clinched him for me... when we got there, Geoffrey walked right over to Andy (he had just started walking a couple weeks earlier), climbed up onto his lap and sat there for a half hour!! He had never seen him before!! Andy just held him and played with him. The second one was the next morning. Mar & I had been up for a while, Andy was still sleeping and Geoffrey apparently had a digestive issue that morning. He had a horrible "blow-out" and there was crap (literally) all over the carpet, his clothes and him. It was nasty. Mar & I were both nearly getting sick trying to clean my son up when Andy, without saying a word, came out of the bedroom, rolled up the carpet, took it outside and started cleaning it. By the time he came back inside, Geoffrey was cleaned up and we had the dirty clothes rinsed out and bagged to go home.
Andy came inside, washed his hands and went to take a shower. When he left the room, I told Marianna that he was the one, and she'd better hang on to him!! They were married five years later, have been married for 8 years, have one son and another on the way!! They're still two of our closest friends.
09-03-2005, 03:39 PM
I knew he was the one because he told me so ;)
Seriously though the night I met him I did not like him. It's not like I hated him I just wasn't impressed really. At some point in the night I made some smart ass comment to/about him and he told me to shut up. So I did :p 3 hours later when I still hadn't spoken he ended up getting down on his knees and begged me to talk. I ended up driving him to his aunt and uncles (who had been friends of my family for 20+ years) We sat out in my car and talked and for about 2 hours. The next day I told his aunt I didn't really like him but I was going to marry him :rolleyes: I guess the fact that he was the first guy who I could argue/disagree with and I wasn't worried that OMG if I dont agree with him he won't like me
16 months (and a 11 month breakup) later we got married after not seeing each other for a year. (we dated long distance for 2 1/2 months, broke up for 11 months, I moved away, got back together and engaged over the phone, he flew in the night before we got married) It all sounds crazy I know but we have been married for 15 1/2 years so I guess you could say it worked :D
09-06-2005, 07:10 AM
I met FH back in high school. It was one of my closest friend's birthday, and a bunch of us were just hanging out at her house, including a friend of his, but not FH. His friend went to go get more party stuff, and when he came back, I was upstairs and just casually looked out the window to see what the guy had come back with. Out of the passenger door steps this guy, and my heart literally skipped a beat, (felt like it stopped, but I'm just it was just a skip.) I gasped a little too and took a step back from the window, my heart was pounding by this time and I had just caught a glimpse from way up above! By the time he got in the house and our eyes met, we just gravitated towards each other and have been together ever since. :D
09-06-2005, 08:06 AM
In the middle of a packed club, in the middle of his set, he leaned down right in front of me, looked me directly in the eye, and blew me a kiss. I knew in my heart, right at that moment, that great things were going to happen between us. DH told me that when he saw me in the crowd, everything went quiet and slow for a few seconds as he looked at me, even though he was in the middle of singing a really loud, heavy rock song. So, he knew too!
09-06-2005, 08:26 AM
I've been thinking about this thread all weekend. Trying to remember if there was a specific moment in which I just knew that FH was "the one". I'm sure there has to be, but I don't remember it. I feel like he shows me he's the one every day. Cheesey, but true.
Early on in our relationship, I knew that he was special because he brought out the very worst and the very best in me. And he still loved me. He told me he loved me after 3 weeks of dating and waited patiently for me to fall in love with him almost a month later. I had issues, lol. I'm sure I was in love with him before that but wouldn't let myself just "fall" for him. The fact that he knew that we were meant to be before I did (he knew by our third date). How I saw myself changing, for the better. How even when we argued, I couldn't wait to make up because I knew we eventually would and it would be sweet. From the moment I met him, I just knew that I couldn't see myself living without him in my life. From the first time I spoke to him, I secretly wished I could be his gf because I knew I'd make him happier than his current gf did. And I'm not the bf stealing type at all [I didn't steal him, but a month after they broke up (they broke up a week after FH and I met), he magically reappeared into my life]. I think another thing that sealed the deal for me was seeing him interact with my family. It just showed me what kind of man he was/is. He's so respectful and honest and loyal and true and freakin' hilarious. No other man has ever made me laugh so much in my life. Even when I'm in the middle of having a tantrum, he can make me laugh. We have so much fun together, he's my best friend. So he's it, he's the one :)
09-06-2005, 08:48 AM
I knew he was the one when we were walking down the OCNJ boardwalk in July 1999. He said "you're worth waiting for." Over 6 1/2 years later, we are now man and wife. :)
09-06-2005, 09:18 AM
I am loving reading everyone's sweet stories. :)
I was in-lust-at-first-sight with FH. He was the handsome stranger across the room. Eventually (like, four months later... I took my time working up the courage) I stole him from another girl at a party - I took him back to my house and we had had one coversation and not even kissed up to that point. But I didn't know that The Was It until a few weeks later, when he told me he'd won a scholarship to go to England. In my heart, I knew I would go to England, too. Like a little voice said, "Yes, England, of course." I had no reason to think that he'd want me to come, but at that moment I just knew we had to be together.
09-06-2005, 10:28 AM
It is so funny... I could see myself saying half of these things about my husband as well. I fall in love with him everyday!! I can remember the first time I saw him with his nieces and how picky he was about buying them all of their presents (We spent over $200 on those little girls!!)
I remember my friends thinking I was crazy for wanting to get married so quickly until they met him. All of the conversations afterwards..."Does he have a brother... I think I fell in love with him..... You are so lucky. You get to be the best friend and trophy at the same time."
I think of that time after I threw him a suprise party and bought him socks for his brithday and he just called me out like a fool that night... "You ARE in love with me!!! It's okay, I love you too."
And the first time I told him I love him.... My goodness... I am getting all tearied eyed thinking about it all!!
09-06-2005, 12:46 PM
There are a lot of little moments that lead to me knowing he was the one. A lot of them I keep private. I don't know why but somehow it feels like if I share it, I'll spoil it or something. I'm so weird, I know.
Anyways, one of the moments that I'll share was when I was very ill one night. I have IBS-D and this man got out of bed in the middle of the night and went to the Drugstore to pick me up medicine. I never asked him to do it, he just did it. He's got a weak stomach and for him to go on his own and ask the pharmacist what I needed (and explain it to the pharmacist), was a big deal!
Hehe.. weird moment.
09-06-2005, 07:36 PM
Whew - we had a crazy mixed-up relationship. I can't pinpoint one incident where I knew that he was the one - it was a conglomeration of our timeline. We went on our first date in March 2003. After a few tumultuous months, we broke up - but ended up staying friends. After over a year of friendship, we gave it another go in July 2004 and are now best friends and getting married in April 2006. Neither of us were in the right place for a relationship when we first started out, but after staying friends for that long even after a break-up, I knew that he was worth it.
09-08-2005, 01:34 PM
There is one moment that really sticks out in my mind, and its so trivial. The first time that my fiance spent then night, we woke up and I was taking a shower to go to work.....when I returned to my bedroom he had made my bed. I had never dated a man that would even think to make the bed, and to me this was so considerate.
I knew that day that something was different with him......funny though how I make the bed now that we live together. :p
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