Invitations to BP?

[PG-rated]

DH is a GM in a wedding in late September, and I just realized a couple of days ago that we never got an invitation! We've known about the date for months, obviously, but didn't know anything about the location or time until I went looking for their info and found their Knot website. Is it just me or is this a little weird? I've heard of people not sending invitations to the BP before, but I assumed that they communicated all of the necessary info way in advance. We sent invitations to our BP because I thought it would be a nice thing for them to have.

This whole wedding is annoying me for many reasons, so maybe I'm overreacting. Do most people send invitations to the BP?

[Happy1]

I don't know if most people do but I know that I have always gotten an invite when I was in the BP (4 weddings) and DH did for the 2 weddings he was in.

It is of course possible that in the midst of the planning the bride and groom-to-be forgot about it. I know we almost forgot to include ourselves and our families in the head count to give to the caterer. Must have been too obvious for us.:p Thank goodness mom reminded me.

Even though you found their info on line, maybe just give them a call. It's always possible the invite got lost in the mail (it happened to us with ones I clearly remember putting in the mailbox) and I'm sure if that's not the case you guys aren't the only ones wondering what's going on.

Good luck!

Nikki :D

[pride&prejudice]

I did, just because I was selfish and wanted the response cards back. ;) Plus they were all glad that we sent one.

The BM at our wedding, when he got married his wife didn't send any to the bridal party, and DH was upset. She shot back that it wasn't worth the money to send it out to them. :rolleyes: Handing to us would have even been nice......

[Atlanta_eBride]

Since it's still a month away could it possibly be in the mail now? I'd give it through the weekend to see if you get one. I would think that you would get one too regardless if your DH is in the wedding more importantly because then you would need to be invited at the very least.

[Sabrina]

We sent invites to our BP. We needed to know if they were bringing dates, and what their meal selections were. Seems strange not to send them invites to me.

[MandyMaloo]

We'll be sending invites to our BP (even if it means HANDING them one...). I dont know-- I just figured it was proper to send them to EVERYONE that's invited to your wedding...maybe I was wrong! :confused:

Either way- I would call and just double check that the information on the website is correct, and they might bring up the fact that the invite is in the mail.

[GeekGirl]

*hijacks thread*

Just had to say, MandyMaloo - I love your avatar! Tres sexy!

*reluctantly hands thread back*

[PG-rated]

OK, so I'm not crazy in thinking this is a little weird. I doubt it's in the mail, since I would assume that the RSVPs are due 3-4 weeks before the wedding, at a minimum. I will have DH mention it, since someone brought up the very good point that they probably want to know our meal selection (I'm 95% sure it's a seated dinner). Better to contact them now instead of making them think we're deadbeats when they don't get a card from us.

[MandyMaloo]

That's exactly what I would do PG-rated, I'd maybe ask someone else in the BP if they recieved an invitation--just to see if maybe yours really did get lost in the mail or something.

GeekGirl- thank you! I love fairies :) I found it and just said--that's perfect!!!

[Larissa]

I'm sending out invites to my wedding party (even the one I share a house with!). I think calling them would be a good idea.

[kalogrias]

We sent invites to our BP. We needed to know if they were bringing dates. Granted, though, one of my BM didn't get hers until about 2 weeks before the wedding because of some mail mix-up -- and then she never RSVP-ed formally. She just called up and said, Hey, I finally got the invite. You know I'm coming, here's who I'm bringing. But she also knew that we'd sent out our invites because she got an email about a month before the wedding asking about her RSVP. So...moral of the story -- you're not overreacting. Give another BP member a call, though, just to check -- maybe yours did get lost in the mail or something...