colic support..i'm going crazy!

[Mrs.Chappy]

help..ds is 5 wks. from about 10 days on its been a nightmare. i feel like i'm being punished b/c ds1 was an angel and ever cried. This guy doesn't cry all hours of the day..he does sleep if his mouth is on my boob in my bed! he will conk in the swing too.b he is gassy..i've eliminateddairy from my diet..i'm bf-ing. the absolute worst is in the car when we can't hold him. Today i had him screaming as i dropped ds1 at school..the drive was 5 min..he was fine in the bjorn at the grocery store and managed to conk out.then transferred tot he carseat and screamed the ride home. he workshimself up to be inconsolable.

the ped is like 'wait until 3-4 months' i cant i'm seriously going crazy and crying to dh isnt helping our relationship. i've read happiest baby,...block, use the mircale blanket..i just need help

[loving624]

Have you tried gripe water? I will admit that my DS was not colicky, but he was a premmie and has always had some tummy issues, and this stuff really worked well for us....

[cr8zyforaf]

I am so sorry...my DD was colicy and gassy for months. It was truly horrible and mostly for those months, I hated being a mom. She screamed constantly unless someone (preferably me) was holding her, she was so gassy it was horrible, she would only sleep 30 minutes at a time..it was awful. I used gripe water which helped a bit but mostly she just had to outgrow it. Unfortunately, she is just a high needs child - she didn't STTN until she was 2....I am not saying this to upset you but some babies are just harder than others...

Basically, you have to do whatever it takes to get you through the day - if you have to hold the baby and nap, then do that. Also, get help - there were times that I thought I would throw her out the window and that is when I had to call someone in to help out. Is there someone that can come and take over for a bit just so you can have some quiet time?

It will get better but your doctor is mostly right - only time will fix this issue. Is he passing the gas, is he having regular bowel movements?

[Taurus]

So sorry you are going through this. Eliminate all the non-essential things from your life right now. Use paper plates (the environment will forgive you). Accept all offers for help. Let your bathrooms get dirty. Practice the art of deep breathing in the car. Let go of everything you thought this time period would be like. Know that you *will* let it all out on DH, and he won't know what to make of it, and he's having a hard time, too. Know that you're not alone. Ride it out. It's gonna take time.

ETA: I have been there, and it is tough when #1 was a different experience. The feelings I had were at times worse than the baby's crying.

[RobynScott]

Mrs. Chappy - (((hugs))) I'm sure many of us have BTDT. Seth didn't cry in the car (unless he was hungry) - but he did want to eat and be held all of the time (or so it felt). I often reminded myself of things I had read on here and other places - DS has spent 9 months being held and fed all of the time - so this is a pretty big change for him.

In your shoes, here's what I would do - (and probably did for weeks on end ;)):

1) Wear him - wear him as much as you can. If he'll sleep in bed with you, chances are he will sleep on you - you may not be able to do as much as you like, but it will keep him calm (and you calmer ;))

2) BF him - he's probably headed (or into) the 6 week growth spurt and he will want to eat all.of.the.time - it will get better eventually! (8 weeks was a real turning point for us, even better after 12 weeks)

3) You say you've cut out dairy. Have you cut out all dairy - or just the obvious stuff - some babies are more sensitive than others and you've got to cut out the hidden dairy as well (and there's a lot of it - I was lucky and only had to cut out the obvious stuff)

4) Consider cutting out soy. A lot of babies that have trouble with dairy also have problems with soy. I know there are some mamas here with way more knowledge on this than me that could help you out.

And (((HUGS))). Cliched as it is - this too shall pass. I can barely remember that time of my son's life now - and I remember being on here posting about how stressed I was all of the time - Good luck!

ETA - cr8zy and Taurus gave some great advice too - listen to them. Taurus is especially right about letting stuff go for now - it will still be there for you when you get back to it!
ETA2 - I bumped the "high-needs" thread for you in case you want to check it out. Not saying your DS is HN, but bumped it in case you can find anything helpful. I totally posted in that thread that I thought DS was HN, and I can tell you, at 10.5 months he is not a HN baby at all!

[cr8zyforaf]

Oh, and don't beat yourself up - you don't suck as a mom (which is what I thought constantly)....like I said, some kids just are more difficult than others.

Accept all offers for help

Yes, make a list - when someone asks you what they can do, show them the list...I hated doing this at first but after awhile, when I was really in survival mode, I allowed my mom to scrub my tubs.

[jimmysgirl424]

Just wanted to send lots of ((HUGS)) your way. You've gotten great advice here already so I don't want to re-hash any of that. I would only suggest that you try different brands of gas drops if you haven't already. Mylicon never worked worth a crap for DD, but Little Remedies Little Tummys gas drops were a lifesaver. Not sure why that is, but there you go.

Hang in there...I promise you that it WILL get better!

[Taurus]

If you want to give it a try, I took DS to a well known homeopathic doc, and she prescribed homeopathic Chamomilla. I'm not sure if it helped us or not, but it was the only "medicine" I was willing to give when he was little. There are different types of homeopathic things you can do for colic-type symptoms. You can buy the pellets (Boiron brand) at Whole Foods or last night I saw them at a local drug store. Here is a link:
http://drfeder.com/children/homeopathy-colic.htm

[Mrs.Chappy]

thanx...i'm a terrible mom to ds1..he covers his ears when i just scream b.c i cant get a grip.

i'll try the diffrerent gas drops and gripe water. he poops oftn and passes the gas when he d oes. his belly gets hard when he screams...i hate this and i thought my maternity leave would go differently!

[ShannonGH]

DS was super gassy too. In addition to dairy, I'd also eliminate gassy foods like onions, peppers, cole slaw (sent DS into hysterics for days :( ), eggs, broccoli, beans, etc. I noticed an improvement when I did this, although DS was 4 mos old at the time. I do think a lot of it will improve with time though. Hang in there sweetie.

[Mrs.Chappy]

thx..i do'nt eat any of those things (it totally limits yoru diet!!) infact ive lost 4 lbs since last week b/c of it.

[jennylou]

DD never took naps by herself until she was way older. Things I did to keep my sanity - use the swing. She liked it and it worked some. Try the bouncy chair. I could put her in it when she fell asleep on the boob and continue to lightly bounce it - as long as I lightly bounced, she slept. Of course, this isn't going to get you a long nap - your legs will get quite a workout, but it's good for quiet and sitting down to do something at the computer (pay bills, post, etc). Also, the MT worked wonders. I used to go to the mall and wear her all over. I took the stroller too - it held packages, diaper bag, purse, drink etc all very nicely. :p

I cut all things dairy out of my life for a while, but it didn't have an effect so after a few weeks, I added them back.

DD screamed all the time in the car seat. Seriously, other people would bring their kids in with the infant seat - never worked for DD. She hated it. I moved her just after six months to the Marathon. OMG, she loved it. She started falling asleep in the car - it was suddenly pleasant to take car trips.

And yeah, she was a total boobaholic, which helped her not scream - at least while she was on.

[sophonisba9]

My first had reflux which resulted in him screaming from 3-6 months. He screamed unless my boob was in his mouth. I can't imagine trying to take care of a toddler at the same time. DS1 will forgive you. It'll be ok. Just do the best you can.

[Mrs.Chappy]

my mom justc alled me..i broke down crying..she told me to call the pediatrician and insist they try something..maybe its reflux and meds will at least help. i know in many cases they kids just have to outgrow it...but isn't it worth a try for my pediatirican to at least help me?? she mentioned trying prevacid or some reflux meds..

[Loud_curly]

Mrs.C - I think you should call the ped., and try to tape your DS crying so he/she can see/hear him. It might be easier to diagnose a problem if they see what the issue is.

That said (((HUGS))). The first 3 months of my DS's life were no fun for me either. I was not upset when my maternity leave was up and I could get a break from him. Of course, now he's a blast to be with, and such a different baby.

[jennylou]

Some peds seem very reluctant to diagnose reflux, I know ours was. If the baby didn't spit up a ton and was growing (um, yeah, they are attached to the boob, lol) mine wouldn't do anything for us. So, your ped might not be willing to do much. Ours wasn't, but when I started with the MT, things got much better.

[TracyDP]

Hugs and sympathy from me :) I was only able to BF for the first few weeks so my DD was formula fed. She had some similar issues early on, but a change in formula did the trick so I don't have much more advice on how to help w/ BF baby. It does get better, but the early months are a real trial! My Mom kept telling me it got easier/better when the baby started interacting with us more and I didn't believe it, but it is totally true. Once we started getting those smiles it did get a little more rewarding. At this age you give, give, give and don't get much back. It's nice when they get old enough to smile and flap their arms and let you know they think you're the bees knees! :)

[Mrs.Chappy]

i called the ped..first she suggested Alimentum formula and that i pump my milk..i didn't want to..she called in Prilosec..i'll try that.

[Lizard]

I know it isn't much consolation, but I've definitely been there and done that. :( DD was colicky from 6 weeks to about 4 months. I eliminated all dairy, we tried Zantac for reflux (which she hated, I can't believe strong peppermint can be soothing for burning), gas drops... I even did some formula out of desperation, but nothing really helped much. On top of all that, she refused to be worn and only wanted to be held facing out. I distinctly remember sitting in a restaurant crying my eyes out... it was our anniversary and DH wanted to do SOMETHING, so we went to a family restaurant in town. DD had been crying for hours prior and cried through the whole meal. It was so hard, and we live 4 hours away from the nearest family so there wasn't support there either.

Right around 4 months, she started napping better, started sleeping through the night, and we realized that things were getting soo much better. She ended up being a really happy baby and is now a happy toddler.

I can say that of all the things that we tried, the swing was the most useful. We could get small amounts of peace that way... not much, but when you're so frazzled even 10 minutes can seem like a week long vacation. She also enjoyed sleeping on me, on her belly... I know that most people don't put babies on their bellies early, but I only did it when she was on me and I knew I wasn't going to sleep. I think the pressure on her belly helped the gas and whatever else caused her pain.

[ellidew]

You might want to check out the reflux (http://www.constantchatter.com/forum/showthread.php?t=9179) and allergy (http://www.constantchatter.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39343&page=7) threads.

My ds started screaming (not crying - SCREAMING!) at 3 days old and we (and he!) didn't get a second of relief until about 12 weeks when we changed pediatricians and she prescribed Zantac. He ultimately ended up on Prevacid until he was about 15 months old. He was also put on Nutramigen a few weeks after the reflux meds and was on that until recently when we switched to soy milk. It was night and day after going on the relux meds and he only screamed about half as much as before and night and day again after going on Nutramigen. He was happy as can be from then on out!

Don't feel ashamed or like a failure if you have to put your dc on meds or formula. Your ds is screaming for a reason! Fwiw, my ped says that a lot of doctors now think that most colic is just undiagnosed reflux. They just never tested or treated it until recently.

Good luck!

[makena32204]

ETA: I have been there, and it is tough when #1 was a different experience. The feelings I had were at times worse than the baby's crying.

I totally agree with this! I felt the same way. I swore I'd never have another kid, but here I am with a 22 month old and a 4 week old.

Anyway, as for the car seat, like a pp said, we took DD out of the infant car seat and used the Marathon. It may have something to do with the angle.

You can laugh at me, but we actually took a 30 second video of DD on my camera and took it to her pedi b/c it was so bad. DD would SCREAM for hours on end and was a very demanding child. My DH and I would walk her at night in the jogging stroller in order to get her to go to bed. It was the only thing that worked (she still loves being outside).

I can remember crying in bed and telling my DH that I was a horrible mother. It took my Mom telling me one night when she was helping us that "she didnt know what to do either" to make me feel the tiniest bit better. It was awful, so my heart really goes out to you, especially since you have a toddler too.

[Mrs.Chappy]

thanks...why did she suggest i pump and give alimentum formula??

another thing..he sleeps w/ me and is great at night once he falls asleep. he can go 3-4 hr stretches and doesnt scream

[Taurus]

Despite what I wrote before about not wanting to give meds, I forgot we did try Zantac briefly. I kinda pushed the ped into it. It made no difference, and I don't believe DS2 ever had reflux. Now that I look back on it, it was really only bad because my expectations (from DS1) were so off and bc I had two kids. You have no idea how many times I called my mom crying. I recommend the Sears Fussy Baby Book for the part called "how you are probably feeling" -- it really validates the emotions. I think what I really needed were sanity savers for myself, not baby-care tips, KWIM? Take care of yourself.

ETA: my guess is she wants to see how he does without a hypoallergenic formula but wants you to pump so you don't lose your milk. i personally wouldn't do this. i also tried eliminating foods. i wish i had not gone down all those paths looking for answers, but your situation is your own, so follow your instincts.

[ellidew]

I agree with Taurus about her probably wanting you to pump so you don't lose your milk. We did it and it made a world of difference. I read about doing it in What to Expect (i think, it's been a while). 16 hours a day of screaming had me in a deep depression and I couldn't take it anymore. It might be nothing but fussiness it could be reflux or an allergy/intolerance or both as was our case or something entirely different. For us Zantac only worked for a few days and then it stopped working which is very common. He was on Prevacid from about 5-15 months. Taurus is right about following your instincts because every situation IS different.

[Taurus]

I think for me the thing that would have put me over the edge would have been having to pump!!! I freakin' hate it! Different moms, different experiences. I hope you can get some relief soon and that the meds help.

[MrsSpencer]

I'm in the same boat..I try to bf but he just isn't happy, or refuses all together. I switched hi formula, thought it helped some since he actually ate it. He went on a hunger strike for five or so hours today wouldn't eat anything. I spoke too soon on him switching his formula, granted he's only had three bottles he's thrown up I don't know how many times and is having hard stools again gave him another suppository. I'm so wore out and tired since he's been screaming since Saturday, I love him so much but just wish he'd calm down. Between him, and the dog, and my mom I want to shut myself in the bathroom and cry...

[anemone]

You've had some great advice on longer term solutions (relating to allergies etc), but some short term things you could try:

- get some flat old-fashioned cloth diapers, put them in the tumble drier until they are nicely warm (not too hot) and wrap them firmly around baby's tummy. This sometimes works to give some relief.

- does your DC like a bath? If he has got himself worked up into a state, you could break the crying cycle by giving him a bath. Doesn't matter if it's 1 in the morning, or midday, I found if DS was fussing and upset he'd calm down in the bath, and I'd be able to break any crying routine.

- get some help. Have your mom, or your DH look after your DS for an hour or so during the day/ on a weekend so you can either get out or have some sleep. Better still, get them to take your DC out of the house for an hour - a screaming baby in the park is not going to bother too many people, and you could at least have a break.

Hang in there. I really hope you find some solutions.

[cr8zyforaf]

Also, with switching formulas (and I know about this because we went through quite a few)..it could take up to a week for the old stuff to get out of his system and the new stuff to start working....so switching formulas every few days could be doing more harm than good.

Call the doctor - with the throwing up (I was unaware he was throwing up) it sounds like there might be a touch of reflux....DD was on zantac (I think that it what it was) for awhile...

[Mrs.Chappy]

WSe did prilosec this morning..gave him the dose and he fell asleep so i haven't fed him yet..its been an hour..is that bad? I'm hoping for a better day!

[MrsSpencer]

They won't test him yet, she had me add cereal to his bottle, which helped him from throwing up, but I stopped Sunday cause he was horribly constipated.

[ellidew]

Mrs.Chappy- I wouldn't wake or worry about a sleeping baby! Enjoy the peace and quiet! Also, the Prilosec could take 3-4 days before you see any lasting results. I hope that it helps you and your little one!

MrsSpencer - My ds was never tested for reflux but it was obvious that's what it was when he was put on the medicine. Our original ped refused to do anything because i was a first time mom and overreacting. How 16 hours of screaming was overreacting i have no idea! With the 2nd ped i said, this is our problem, fix it. ;) She said reflux right away.

[erin16nj]

Mrs Chappy - My first was very colicky and i remember how hard it was...
I know you read THBOTB but have you tried the white noise. We would turn on the vacuum cleaner when things got really bad and it would calm him almost instantly. We actually bought a vacuum CD for the car because car rides were torture. It has to be really loud but it helps. He napped with a vacuum CD on a loop completely swaddled in a bouncy seat in a dark room for the first four months.

[cr8zyforaf]

OK - here are some of my tips - my DD was the worst...

I would put her in the Bjorn and vacuum..the noise and the rocking motion would put her to sleep...then I would leave the vacuum on, and I would slowly either sit on the edge of the couch or an exercise ball so I could contine the rocking motion and at least sit down.

I would swaddle her really tight and rock her to sleep (usually involved feeding) then I would slowly put her in the bouncy seat (which was already set up in the bathroom with the bathroom fan running and the blow dryer running), strap her in (I would only swaddle her arms) and I would have to bounce the chair up and down and slowly taper off the bouncing until it was just the vibrating.

She also slept in her car seat for almost 4 months - DH and I would swaddle her and then use the handle to rock it back and forth - she usually fell asleep after 30-40 minutes of us taking turns rocking her.....

It was a nightmare...I am sorry....

[curlywig]

Not that you have the time to read right now, but I just finished reading a book called "Colic Solved" that I checked out from a local birthing center. The whole theory is that colic is actually GI distress from reflux or dairy protein sensitivity. It goes through the various meds, how they work and symptoms to look for. I HIGHLY recommend it. It took me maybe 1-1.5 hours to read cover to cover (you can skip the sections that don't apply).

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Knowing it will end someday isn't helpful when you're in the moment. Hang in there.

[jbemommy]

I just want to offer you hugs from someone who has been there! DS had such horrible colic I was glad when maternity leave was over and I could get back to my PT job so I got a break from the crying! It *will* get better with time, I promise. He's now a happy, wonderful little toddler (with a temper, so he still does a lot of screaming :p).

Here's what worked for us:

--Alimentum. I tried cutting out dairy and it wasn't enough. Tried a week of Alimentum while pumping, things were better, went back to BF'ing, worse than ever. So I gave up BF'ing and did Alimentum. Made a huge difference.

--White noise. We started with the radio on a staticky station turned up really loud (you can back down once the crying stops), then switched to a white noise CD.

Again, I just want to let you know others have been there! It's awful and miserable, but it will get better.

[Mrs.Chappy]

after spending 48 hrs w/ him and having soemone take care of my 3 yr o i realize that its when he's tired he jsut gets wsorked up and up and up!!! then he has explosive poops..that's when he cries all the time..when he is tired and cant settle!

[Lizard]

after spending 48 hrs w/ him and having soemone take care of my 3 yr o i realize that its when he's tired he jsut gets wsorked up and up and up!!! then he has explosive poops..that's when he cries all the time..when he is tired and cant settle!

I personally think this is a HUGE part of colic too... baby is upset by something ongoing (stomach issues, reflux, constipation, etc), gets worked up, can't sleep, then gets overtired and won't go to sleep. That turns into a vicious circle. The days that DD was able to get more sleep were always the best days... but then again, she was probably sleeping better because her tummy felt better, she was comfy, etc. It's such a juggling act.

You are doing great mama! Get some breaks when you can and keep chugging along, things will get better I promise!!

[Bloomwood]

after spending 48 hrs w/ him and having soemone take care of my 3 yr o i realize that its when he's tired he jsut gets wsorked up and up and up!!! then he has explosive poops..that's when he cries all the time..when he is tired and cant settle!

Totally agree. That was definitely one of the issues with my DD. We would do all this stuff to try and calm her - bouncing, the 5 Ss, etc. etc. - all it did was stimulate her more when what we really needed to do was help her find a way to sleep. The climax of the whole ordeal was when I left her alone with the DH and a couple of bottles of BM, she wouldn't sleep for him, ended up way way over tired and we ultimately had to call our ped before we both completely lost it. he told us to try and calm her down through a warm bath, swaddle and nursing and then put her in the crib and walk away. She cried for a while (I've blocked out how long, but it was way less than I expected) and then slept her longest stretch to that point. This was at 10 weeks. We pretty much taught her to put herself to sleep starting then and it was a lifesaver. We were able to introduce a "schedule" of sorts (more like a day-to-day routine) and it slowly started to get better. I think my case was compounded by the denial that I didn't have a good enough supply, so when we introduced formula she turned another huge corner.

She continues to be the envy of all my mom friends b/c of how well she sleeps and she is the happiest, snuggliest little toddler I know. I'd say easy going, but what 2 yo is easy going?? So it will get better and how your little man is now is no indication of who he'll be a few weeks or months from now.

[Mrs.Chappy]

thanks everyone

bloomwood..i often think maybe he needs more than my breastmilk...like he's not getting enough..but i know he is getting fat and i think he's just never satisified...i don't know..i'm going to a bf support group on monday.

[Bloomwood]

We hired a pp doula to help me out for a few weeks. I told her that I'd given DD a formula bottle and she passed out cold, sleeping peacefully. The doula gave me grief along the lines that filling her belly and putting her in a food coma was not a good idea. It just confused me even more. In retrospect, I'm sure if I'd told her it was 6 oz of BM she would have told me I should do that all the time. Anyway, I'm sure the BFing support group will have great advice.

[Marisa]

Not that you have the time to read right now, but I just finished reading a book called "Colic Solved" that I checked out from a local birthing center. The whole theory is that colic is actually GI distress from reflux or dairy protein sensitivity. It goes through the various meds, how they work and symptoms to look for. I HIGHLY recommend it. It took me maybe 1-1.5 hours to read cover to cover (you can skip the sections that don't apply).


This is a GREAT book. I second the recommendation. What this dr. says makes a ton of sense.

http://www.amazon.com/Colic-Solved-Essential-Infant-Difficult/dp/0345490681/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1212626457&sr=8-1


i often think maybe he needs more than my breastmilk...like he's not getting enough..but i know he is getting fat and i think he's just never satisified...i don't know..i'm going to a bf support group on monday.


I hope you get some good support on Monday. It's so easy to second-guess yourself when things aren't going the way they're "supposed" to. Believe me, I've been doing this myself for the last two days as DS is going through some kind of difficult 'growth spurt' behavior. And I'm supposed to be some kind of BFing guru, LOL!
I know you were trying to eliminate the dairy in your diet, right? Hang in there with that -- if the colic is from GI trouble (as it says in "Colic Solved") then breastmilk will really wind up being best for him in the long run, he'll have a better chance at outgrowing his food sensitivities (making the colic a short-term symptom rather than a life-long aggravation).

[Mrs.Chappy]

he took a bottle of bm...4oz and dozed for a few min,,,i came home to a crying baby..i;m lying nursing..hoping he sleeps

[Mrs.Chappy]

thx marissa

i got so fed up i had baked ziti for dinner,,its the first dairy i had..today was our worst day...6 wk growth spurt beginning????

oh, he will not sleep...closes the eyes and they pop open!!

i''m getting that book

[Marisa]

I ran out to the supermarket by myself just now and came home to the same situation... DH was just giving the bottle of EBM but it looks like I'll be settling in for some marathon nursing with a video and some Lucky Charms right out of the box.... hope your evening is better!

[Mrs.Chappy]

Oh, Lucky Charms..i should treat myself..i'm only 8 lbs from my pp weight from all this nursing. the evening was great..he finally passed out at 10 and woke at 1:30 and then 5:30. i feel renewed..the crying began at my OB appt and has not stopped..its 1:30 in the afternoon. I did, howeever manage to nurse him in between my OB appt and then 30 min later at my sons last day of school picnic where he fell asleep and i was able to schmooze for 20 min..then we put him back in teh car seat..hysterics..then i fed him when i got home..he seemed to be asleep but transferred the swing and hysterics ever since..my babysitter is tr ying to calm him..its totally getting worse..i hope we are peaking here.. DH is so annoyed, it seems w/; me and our marriage..i asked him 'do you think i WANT to live my last and next 6 weeks like this??" come one, who is he kidding.i'd much rather hop a train to new york city and spend hours at my office!! (really, i wouldn't but i'd kill for 2 hrs of free time! and quiet).

[Bloomwood]

I hear ya. I used to tell DH how some people fantasize about sex escapades and all I fantasized about during that time was checking into a hotel by myself and sleeping for 8 hours straight. Actually, I still fantasize about that...

Hang in there.

(and if you're going to treat yourself, aim higher than Lucky Charms! You certainly deserve it right now!)

[Taurus]

Hang in there with that -- if the colic is from GI trouble (as it says in "Colic Solved") then breastmilk will really wind up being best for him in the long run, he'll have a better chance at outgrowing his food sensitivities (making the colic a short-term symptom rather than a life-long aggravation).

This rings so true for me. I really had to ride it out with DS2, went through the phase where I thought it was reflux or milk sensitivity. The dairy elimination drove me batty and it didn't seem severe enough to be that...he was just...unsettled. I described him as "hot and bothered" for weeks. Well, months. I just kept truckin' with the nursing, tried to ignore any family members' suggestions of hunger, and today he has no GI problems whatsoever.

It is really, really hard on a couple when a baby is colicky. There is no doubt about it. It just sucks.

[RobynScott]

DH is so annoyed, it seems w/; me and our marriage..i asked him 'do you think i WANT to live my last and next 6 weeks like this??" come one, who is he kidding.i'd much rather hop a train to new york city and spend hours at my office!! (really, i wouldn't but i'd kill for 2 hrs of free time! and quiet).

(((HUGS))) I used to tell DH I just wanted to run away! Not that I really did - but I just needed a break! DS would never sleep (except for on me) and I never got any break. It does get better, I swear - I can't even remember those days now!

[jimmysgirl424]

((HUGS)) to you. I remember DH and I constantly at each other's throats when we were going through the first 8 weeks or so. I really thought he hated me a time or two during that period. :( A baby is such a strain on a relationship, more so if they have any issues like colic, reflux, etc. DD had both and I spent the first month or so of her life in a miserable haze of screaming from her and neverending tears by me. It sucks, I know. Hang in there...like everyone else is saying, it does get better. (I know, you must be sooo sick of hearing that by now)

[Mrs.Chappy]

thx...the support is wonderful. dh thought i w ould ask my OB for antidepressants. umm i';m not depressed...just overworked here!

[Mrs.Chappy]

folr tholse who had carseat issues?? when did they stop screaming in it..i cant leave the house!

[cynder]

We haven't had too many car seat issues but sometimes timing can help. It's a little challenging when you have 2 kids to juggle but I try and time it so that she's in the car seat right after a feed when she's satisfied and during her "play time". If it happens to be during her nap or sleep time, all bets are off and I just power through the crying esp at stop signs. The girl has lungs that's for sure.

[jennylou]

folr tholse who had carseat issues?? when did they stop screaming in it..i cant leave the house!

When I moved her to the convertible car seat. I think the recline on the infant seat was just too much for her.

[Mrs.Chappy]

thx...
i wnt to a bf-ing support group..on the way there he did great..no crying., was awake (i had just fed him)..on the way home..holy nightmare..i'm exhausted..got home and cried.

anyway, the LC said that he def. seemed 'stiff' and its prob bc he is sooo uncomforable.. they suggested i use a basinet in my room during hte day and try and have him 'nap' in there so he cna get used to it (and maybe that will be relief for me)..meanwhile, i'm exhausted..i wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy. we are just at the 6 week mark so am i half way to sanity??

[kphillips4]

Hey there! I am so sorry to hear that you are dealing with such a fussy baby. Ella HATED...I mean DESPISED her infant carrier carseat. One of my friends on LJ suggested switching to a reclining carseat and it has made all the difference in the world. I think she was lying too far back and not comfortable in the carrier. Good luck, I REALLY hope it gets better for you soon!! {{{HUGS{}}}}