Have you ever been stalked?

[AttyGrl74]

Just curious how, why and what kind of resolution you got.

[lightview]

About 20 years ago an ex-boyfriend start stalking me. He lived in Staten Island and I lived near Princeton (almost an hour away) and he used to sit in my parking lot and watch my apartment. Once he followed me to work and another time came into a restaurant I was in and walked by so I could see him. I planned to go to court to get a restraining order but he finally stopped following me (after about two months).

Strangely enough about ten years ago, he called me out of the blue. At the time I was single and living alone and lied and said I was married. I never heard from him again.

Hopefully you are not being stalked. It is a scary situation.

[ManteoChik]

My aunt told me about how she was stalked as a young 20 something.....MANY years ago..lol.

She has been a nurse for over 30 years and when she was first nursing she was stalked for over a year. It back before they ever really did anything about it. She said that she very quickly became a nursing administrator and she kept getting calls at home from the stalker talking sexual and telling her things that he would only know if he had been watching her.

They redid the whole office of the hospital she worked in and had a new phone system that worked off of a switchboard. She had a new extension (or however it worked) and no one knew what it was expect the operators. She had started to suspect it was someone she worked with, but couldn't prove it. Then, one afternoon shortly after the change she got a call from her stalker while in her office.

They kept calling her at home and finally one night after a call (where the stalker kept talking about coming over) she finally said, "FINE, come over if you think you can". She then proceeded to call the cops, told them the story and that he was coming over, and told them NOT to come in uniforms or in patrol cars. Well of course they show up decked out and the guy never showed. As soon as the cops left her phone rang and it was him. He said, "How come you called the cops Betty? I thought you wanted me."

Finally she started screaming at him and called him out using the name of the person she was almost positive it was. She told him that if he ever so much as called her again or came over she would shoot him until he couldn't move again. He never called again.

[camberne]

I've been stalked IRL and I've been stalked on the internet/long-distance.

My father stalked my mother and our family when I was young. Our family history was the original basis of the anti-stalking laws currently on the books in our area. It was originally dismissed as a "domestic situation" by the police until one of the magistrates took an interest in our situation... well, that and the fact that our house was burned down ultimately and he said that we should never have been put in that situation. We had bricks flying through our windows, threatening assaults, incessant phone calls, etc. We had a restraining order against him, and our neighbor was a police officer at the time, but if my father wasn't present when the police showed up, they stated that there was nothing they could do. Like I said, that was 33 years ago, and the stalking laws have been changed drastically since then.

I was cyber-stalked by a person I worked with. He lived in MD, and I was in VA - about 3-1/2 hours away. We developed an off-work relationship of sorts, and had planned on him coming down for a weekend. He pretended to be other people to strike up conversations with me online. I blocked every address once I found out what he was doing, and changed my email. He ended up telling me that he had saved all of our online conversations and that he was going to send them to my boss!! I ended up having to tell my boss exactly what was going on (to my humiliation) and he made a phone call to the guy's boss - and he ended up getting fired over it!! He made some threatening phone calls and popped up when I was online and said "I'm a mile from your house right now"... to which I called a friend of mine and went with my son to stay with her and called another cop friend of mine. After that, the situation fizzled and I didn't hear from him again.

[heather 8^)]

I was stalked a couple of times. In college, I had a very good friend of mine decide to break up with his fiancee of 6 years because he thought he was in love with me. I felt terribly hurt and betrayed and met with him and his fiancee to explain that I was not interested AT ALL and that I didn't want to continue the friendship. That wasn't good enough: he ended up knocking on my door for hours, leaving me notes all over campus, asking my friends about me, calling my phone all.the.time, regularly brought a step stool to my dorm so that he could peer in my window, even asked other people to knock on my door and call me. Eventually my friends convinced me to get a police escort to the station where I filed a report. Because I lived on campus and he was a student, I couldn't get a real restraining order but I did get some order of protection that stated he had to stay 50 feet away from me and stop calling. I also had to quit a team sport we were both on, but he got the message and I only heard from him a couple of times after that.

Then in grad school I was very briefly stalked by a man in my apartment complex. We were both doing laundry (at the apt. complex laundry building) and he apparently grabbed my phone number from my text book and then went looking for me. He found my car parked in the complex and then he called my phone and walked up and down the building until he heard the ringing and found my apt. I never answered (and always had the curtains drawn), so I hoped he thought I wasn't there. Well, he kept coming back, calling me from his cell while banging on my windows and door. When he started shouting obscene things and banging on my windows with something else (not his fist), I freaked and called 911. They sent a cop immediately to take a statement (but the guy left as she drove up), and she came back and patrolled the neighborhood for the next week. The next day I mentioned it to the apt. manager and he knew exactly who the guy was. I don't know if he talked to the guy or gave the cops his name, and I did my laundry elsewhere until I moved out 2 months later, but I never saw him again.

[tandt]

My mom was stalked while I was in high school. The guy would call at all hours of the night (even at dinner) and say wierd thing. Every single time he said something about what she was wearing-- sometimes right and other times wrong. Strange. My parents didn't talk too much about it, so I'm not sure if they ever figured out who he was and something happened or if the guy just quit.

In college, a guy who I had never met started sending flowers to me, leaving notes at my apartment, etc. He finally approached me and followed me around for months-- while at football games with dates, regular dates out, frat parties, etc.

He attacked one of my dates and the cops were called. He stopped following me and I would see him all the time on campus. He's a nice guy and all, but it was really strange.

After college, my roommate and I had a peeping tom that the cops could never catch.

There are some strange folks out there!

[jesvet]

I was stalked in high school by a total stranger who had a criminal record for rape and other violent crimes. I never saw his face, he called me at home while I was home alone after school. The police refused to take any reports (it's a prank call, change your number, they said) even after he told me I was the "chosen one" and that I was going to be abducted, raped and killed. Obviously, fortunately, it was resolved.

[tlew12778]

Yeah crazy ex-HS-BF stalked me. I hope it's over by now... It seriously helps that I live like 4000 miles away and in another country. Otherwise I am sure we'd have been to the police by now. I think he had some sort of system for figuring out when I was visiting my parents. He never failed to call the day I landed in NY. Then he'd call like 3-4 times a day to see if I could "get together" or he'd drop by my parents house to "hang out". He'd get all disappointed if I refused to spend time with him then he'd proceed to try to spend time with anyone related to me. He'd even drop by my parents house for dinner! Uninvited!

He'd make really weird comments like "you know... we could be married by now..." when I was engaged. He'd talk about kids and whatnot. I never even had sex with him. We went out when were like 14! Anyway it got to the point where I would never answer the phone and where my ENTIRE family knew to tell him that I wasn't around if he ever called. Right before my wedding he started calling my parents again (I was in Italy though... so not his normal behavior) and my dad finally told him to leave me alone.

Then he joined the marines. I have no idea where he is now.

[BeachBum]

My sister had a ex-boyfriend stalk her when she was in high school. He was 20 I think...
He would call our house hundreds of times a day, egg her car every morning before school, call repeatedly when she was at friends homes, follow her to work (she had to stop working), threaten her. He even would call my dad at work on occasion and tell him sexual stuff (true or imagined I'm not sure).
For a year or two afterward, he would go back to stalking my sister every time he broke up with a girlfriend.

[salysaturn]

At my first job, there was this guy that would always come in. He would always come through my line and then just kinda hang around my register. He would then leave and hang out outside. He did come to the store when I wasn't working, but he mostly came when I was there. The moment I knew it was serious was when one night, I was the lone cashier after 11:00 (aside from night crew who was stocking shelves). He came in and just HUNG around. DH would come to makesure I got home safe, but he never left til I did. I called the store and told them I didn't want that shift anymore, they asked why and I told them. They said the kid is harmless, and comes in during the day, and I said, he may be harmless during the day, but at 1 am? He often walked home, and apparently he lived miles away.

He did come back during the daytime when I began working days. He was found hanging around my car, and I was often escorted to my car. I remember one Christmas Eve where he came by about 15 min before we closed, came in, then left but sat at the entrance. A male co-worker went out and told him he had to leave(this was well after we closed).