Traumatic trip to Babies R Us

[jbenny75]

Today I had to go buy a baby shower gift for a friend who was registered at Babies R Us. Let me tell you, I highly recommend that anyone who is having trouble TTC AVOID BABIES R US AT ALL COSTS!!! It was like everything that hurts you to see when you're TTC all in one convenient place. If the cute, twentysomething pregnant women in their too cute maternity clothes don't get you, then the adorable pregnant couples picking out furniture and registering will. Then there's also the people that were blessed with precious children either ignoring them so they can be kidnapped, smacking them around or being really nasty to them. I actually cried a little bit when I got to my car and wanted to have a good stiff drink when I got home. Ugh....it sucked so bad. :(

[jennylou]

Yeah, it sucks doesn't it? Avoid the Target baby section too.

[julietchicago]

I try not to let it get to me, but it's hard. I have noticed recently I have become jealous of other pregnant woman...even family members. It's tough.

[jbenny75]

I try so hard not to be jealous, but it's really hard. My DH's family multiplies like freakin' rabbits, it's really a bummer.

[karlatta]

I find I can only handle it when I'm really excited about the baby I'm shopping for. A good friend of mine recently had a baby, and if I'm having a particularly good day, I can stop in and look for a cute onesie or something. I try to take advantage of those days as often as possible, because I love to show babies how much I love 'em!

[ShelbyMay]

I know the feeling. AF showed up yesterday and DH and I had planned to go over to BIL & SIL's house to hang out last night. I ended up staying home b/c I just couldn't deal with the jealousy I feel when I see their 3-year-old and 4-month old little girls. I feel bad because it's not like they did anything TO me, and there's no reason why they should feel bad about being so happy. I'm just painfully jealous sometimes.

[lowcountrywed]

I went to a party yesterday with 7 pregnant women and 6 or 7 little kids. It stinks to feel so jealous. I just tell myself you have no idea how long it took them, what struggles they went through, etc. However, when one couple is delivering 3 weeks before their 1st anniversary...that theory doesn't really fly.

[Nigellas]

Oh I so hear you on this! I'm a wreck for days after a trip to BRU. It sucks.

[LDS Angel 19]

Haven't even attempted to set foot in BRU yet. Target is tough enough.

[sunshineab622]

I know exactly how you feel - my best friend, her 4 month old & I went to BRU when I went to visit her in NC. It was hard seeing all the pg women but I did have a good time looking at the bedding & beds.

Hopefully the next time I go back into BRU - I will be the preg one!

I have only been trying going on 15 months now. :(

[shushyk]

I had 4 losses, I know how you are feeling. I would call BRU and tell them what I want and then have it waiting for me. Then have DH pick it up. I couldn't step foot in there for a LONG time.

[conneals]

As someone who struggled for 3 years to get pregnant, I completely understand where you ladies are coming from. I remember the agony of going to a function with tons of kids or pg women. The talk of nothing but poopy diapers or what new trick Johnny came up with. A wonderful friend recommended a book to me...Conquering Infertility by Alice Domar.

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0142002011.01._AA240_SCLZZZZZZZ_.jpg

Seriously, it helped me realize that it was okay to avoid those situations and to let someone close to you know what is going on so that you can share the pain and they can cover for you if need be.

I also found that ordering online and having things delivered was perfectly okay too!

[Scooter]

Seriously, it helped me realize that it was okay to avoid those situations and to let someone close to you know what is going on so that you can share the pain and they can cover for you if need be.
You've described exactly the attitude I have about these situations--avoid them! I feel much better and stronger emotionally if I'm not walking into constant landmines. Of course, after trying for 28 months pretty much everyone knows. Family, friends, coworkers--I don't tell details, but they know we're dealing with this.

Makes it SO much easier, because they don't want to hurt me and if they KNOW, they try to be really sensitive. So the baby/pregnancy talk around me is limited, and when people invite me to a party they tell me in advance whether babies/preggos will be there so I can change my mind at the last minute if I'm not up to it that day.

[smiles33]

I'm so sorry. FWIW, I always buy baby shower gifts on-line, so I don't have to venture into the stores.

[Applebee]

UGH! I've had to go to BRU several times in the past year that we've been TTC. It totally sucks. I seem to get all excited while in the store and picking out things I'd love to be getting, but once I hit the car, I lose it. Even shopping online gets to me.

I also see more PG women now more than ever. Not to mention the co-workers (or their wives) that are coming up PG. Very frustrating!

[dionysia]

BRU is totally overwhelming.

I've only been there twice to buy shower gifts for friends, but that was enough.

DH went with me the 2nd time and I think he was scared. ;)

Di

[hub1176]

I'm so sorry - I remember when we were over a year into ttc being at parties with all our pregnant friends and being asked when we were going to have kids... :( I avoided baby showers like the plague and sent a gift certificate.

[ds2003]

I can relate to Applebee. I am fine while I'm in BRU and at baby showers; however, when I get home, I fall apart