Would you put it off?

[ShelbyMay]

DH and I have been TTC for about 6 months. Assuming that this cycle doesn't work out (I'm so optimistic :rolleyes: ), our next likely opportunity to conceive would be in late August (I "O" late). That would put our due date in late May 2006.

The thing is, we have a really important event to attend on June 17, 2006. I'll have to be on my feet a lot and outdoors in the southern heat, as well. Having never gone through a pregnancy or childbirth before, I have no idea how I'll be feeling about 4 weeks after my due date. Missing this event is not an option. However, I really really really don't want to put TTC on hold for the next 2 cycles when we've already been waiting a while.

I know I am probably just being silly about this and should put the brakes on TTC so that I can be sure not to miss this event we've already committed to. I guess I just want to know what other people would do in the same situation.

[Camdynlyn]

I am in the same situation. We are going to TTC in December/January which would put me due in Octoberish. We have a wedding for my good friend ellemarie in early October. Should I wait a month so that I can go (it would require about a 5-7 hour car ride) and risk being BIG and preggy or hope I get preggy in December and have the baby in Sept?

It is really crazy we think that way. I can't miss her wedding day but I really want a baby. What to do, what to do. I would also like to see what other mom's say. How are you feeling around that time?? I could take someone with me that could take care of baby if I have had him/her by this time.

[Twylla]

Personally, I wouldn't wait.

Next cycle may not be right for you either. Maybe it is. Maybe you'll go into labour early. Maybe you'll deliver late. Maybe you'll catch the eggie this month. Maybe, maybe, maybe. I know you hav an important occasion coming up, but I'm sure that you'll adapt to whatever the situation may be.

But I hope this month is yours and you have no worries at all. Good luck!!!!

[BTB]

4 weeks pp, IMPO, is way better than 4 weeks before your edd. I missed two weddings while pregnant - my SIL's (I was 7 weeks) and my ex-MOH and best friend's (while 10 weeks pregnant). I was supposed to be her MOH too, and instead I cried all day long while DH tried to cheer me up. I wanted so badly to go, I would've been one of those who says "missing the wedding's just not an option." But there I was on bedrest, with my baby's life at stake, so of course there was never really a decision to be made. Of course I stayed home.

Once the baby's out life is actually more predictable in that regard - YOU are way more portable and reliable. You will no longer be the main concern in whether you can attend a wedding - your adorable new boss will be. :) Honestly, I just don't see any comparison between after delivery (so much easier!) than before - and I'm exlusively BFing.

[ShelbyMay]

Thanks for the advice. The occassion next summer is actually business-related, and if I commit to it then I have to be there as a vendor. If I don't show, I'd be risking a lawsuit and ruining someone else's big day.

I guess we will keep trying next cycle, since I would still (in all likelihood) deliver a few weeks before the event. The event will be local and I'm sure I can find someone to watch our baby for the day -- I just wanted to be sure I'd be physically able to keep up my end of the contract.

As for the cycle after that, well, I guess I'll have to wait and see.

[LRL]

I agree with the other posters- don't put it off. There will always be "maybes" and "if's", like what if this was your lucky cycle, and you missed out? You will definitely adapt- and be so thrilled that there is a child on the way! Things have a way of working themselves out usually, right? ;)

[Lolavix]

4 weeks pp, IMPO, is way better than 4 weeks before your edd

I agree wholeheartedly with this, although I think most women who have never had a baby would tend to focus more on post than pre-baby. Do not underestimate how poorly you might be feeling right before your EDD.

I would have definitely been able to do something like you are describing 4 weeks pp, and that is even with having post pregnancy high BP and having to recover from that. Four weeks before my EDD I was actually having my baby. If I look back 4 weeks prior to that, I could barely stand for any period of time because I had extreme swelling in my legs and feet. (I never needed to go on bedrest, because I didn't have high BP until after I delivered or protein in my urine or anything like that, but the swelling made the last month or so of my pregnancy hell.)

Anyway, to answer your initial question, I wouldn't wait. There are just too many variables that you don't know the answers to.

Good luck.

[mimieliza]

Is there any way you can look for a backup person, just in case? I mean, life is unpredictable. What if you got hit by a car or something? I'm sure if you had a newborn, you could do it, but what if you were still pg and put on bedrest? I wouldn't put off TTC. I think if something happens, and it will obviously interfere with you being able to provide the service you committed to, you should find someone who can perform the service and leave it at that. Sure, I would have been disappointed if my DJ or caterer or photographer had been unable to do the wedding and had sent someone else instead. But if it was because they were in the hospital or something, what are you going to do? Life happens, and it doesn't go on hold just because someone's getting married. :)

[usafwife]

If it were me, I wouldn't put it off. You may not get pregnant next month either. You just never know quite when it will happen. Four weeks prior to my due date I was miserable. And that lasted until I delivered my DD. I had terrible swelling in my legs, ankles, and feet and couldn't really stand or walk for very long. I was never actually put on bedrest but I was told to stay off my feet, lay on my left side, and rest as much as possible.

If I were you I'd look for someone who could fill in for you if need be. Life can be very unpredictable when you are pregnant. You could deliver early, on your due date or late. I would like to hope that being in the hospital giving birth (or recovering) or just having given birth a few days or weeks prior, that they would understand. Life doesn't stop because of a wedding, graduation, or job related happenings.

[sunshineab622]

I would not put it off ... IMO cause I have been trying for almost 15 months -
I agree with the other girls ... you never know when it will happen. Life doesn't stop because of a wedding, graduation, or job related happenings.

Good Luck to you