Sare79
07-22-2005, 04:26 PM
I know the title may spark some contraversey, but I have a serious question. My FH has a big family that is *extremely* close. His aunts, uncles, cousins convene for dinner about once a month. I love these people a lot and want to include them in my shower guestlist. There are 16 of them.
When I made up my original shower guestlist- it came to 40 excluding out of towners. My MOH offered to have the shower at her apartment buildings ammenity room. But she has not heard anything back from the strata guy and she is just moving in there next month so the two messages she has left is starting to border on crazylady. My mom has a common room too, but it is small and not the best place to house 40 women unless we sit classroom style, which I am so not into.
My MOH told me at lunch today that the option she has come up with is to do an "around the clock" shower and literallybring people in shifts to her apartment. While I think it is amazingly generous of her to offer that, it means for hours her FH will be kicked out of the apartment, for hours she will have to be refreshing the food ( because the late shift people are not going to want food sitting out all day), and put tremendous amounts of pressure on herself, the other bridesmaids and me.
So, my foremost thought is to have another shower for Joel's side of the family. No one has offered, but everyone has asked when my shower will be. How do I ask/hint that it would be better to have a separate shower? Or a family one and a friend one?
I know that a shower is a privelege, and I do not mean to be selfish. I would really like to invite all of these people so I can see them before the wedding, not because I want presents from them.
When I made up my original shower guestlist- it came to 40 excluding out of towners. My MOH offered to have the shower at her apartment buildings ammenity room. But she has not heard anything back from the strata guy and she is just moving in there next month so the two messages she has left is starting to border on crazylady. My mom has a common room too, but it is small and not the best place to house 40 women unless we sit classroom style, which I am so not into.
My MOH told me at lunch today that the option she has come up with is to do an "around the clock" shower and literallybring people in shifts to her apartment. While I think it is amazingly generous of her to offer that, it means for hours her FH will be kicked out of the apartment, for hours she will have to be refreshing the food ( because the late shift people are not going to want food sitting out all day), and put tremendous amounts of pressure on herself, the other bridesmaids and me.
So, my foremost thought is to have another shower for Joel's side of the family. No one has offered, but everyone has asked when my shower will be. How do I ask/hint that it would be better to have a separate shower? Or a family one and a friend one?
I know that a shower is a privelege, and I do not mean to be selfish. I would really like to invite all of these people so I can see them before the wedding, not because I want presents from them.