<sigh> breaking up is hard to do...

[HeatherFL]

You know that song, Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough? Well it applies. Todd and I decided to stop seeing each other. It sucks. I already miss him, but it's for the best right now. I just feel really sad and down, but at the same time I know deep down there were certain things I couldn't handle. I don't know if I was on the rebound from the divorce or if it was too soon or maybe I am just not cut out to handle a relationship right now, but it became overwhelming. I brought my things to the table, I am sure. Did I mention this just sucks?

Anyway, I am sitting here debating whether or not to go out with some girls from the office tonight. I am just so not feeling up for it.

This just bites. :(

H.

[mrsdrummer]

Go out and drink it up girl. Your right it does suck. Sending crappy hugs your way.

[Secret_Squirrel]

Oh, I'm so sorry. I don't know you, but I replied in your thread about your ex. I'm sorry it didn't work out, and hope it is for the best.

Take care of yourself. As for going out with friends tonight, do you think staying home by yourself would feel worse?

[lawyerlee]

I'm so sorry. Break ups are never easy.

It might be nice not to be alone tonight, when you're feeling so down.

[KrissyCat7]

Oh Im so sorry. Breaking up sucks. You know what you should do, take some time for yourself, have some fun, cry a little, and do something special just for you.

[IrishMeg]

I'm so sorry, Heather. I am in your area and have read a lot of your posts. I'm going through something similar right now. Go out with the girls. It is way better than being at home on a Friday night.

[flygirl]

I'm sorry Heather. I agree, go out with the girls. You may not feel like going right now, but you'll be missing them if you sit at home.

[Rose]

I am sorry Heather. Go out with the girls and have fun. Once you get there, you'll probably be glad you did.

[Candy]

Come down this way & we'll have some drinks! ;) I'm not preggo anymore. lol

So sorry things with Todd didn't work out.

[jesvet]

I'm sorry Heather, that really stinks.

[kmmommy]

Sorry Heather. Breaking up does suck. Go out and have a good time.

[allison]

Heather!!! I'm so sorry! It's been awhile since I visited your journal, but I agree with everyone else, go out and have a good time! You deserve it! :)

[HeatherFL]

Thanks, everyone. I stayed out until almost 3:30am. I actually had a lot of fun. I ALMOST didn't go, but I remembered all your posts and went. Thanks for being so awesome. :)

H.

[gayle]

Oh Heather, I am so sorry.

[lml41981]

Sorry things didn't work with Todd. :(

[KristyK]

Sorry to hear it Heather. My best wishes are sent to you. It's never easy to do! I'll be thinking of you. Take care!

Kristy

[PrincessTommi]

Sorry to hear that, Heather. :(

I'm glad you had a lot of fun last night though!

[HeatherFL]

Thanks again, everyone.

You know what, I forced myself to go watch a friend play at a place out on the beach. I actually had a really great time and it was nice to see him. Plus the waiter was fun to talk to. I spent a couple of hours out there.

Okay, now how old am I? Talk about drama:

I went to check the time on my cell phone and saw Todd called. I called back, no answer (thinking he was going to ask me to take him to the dentist-he'll be sedated-on Monday after all because I can't think of who else would take him.) He called back and I asked to call him back later. Called back later, got voicemail. He called me back (tag) and said he was sorry. The conversation was pretty pointless, it was just a rehash of what we had already talked about. My battery ended up dying so I stopped by the office on the way home to try to talk to him and let him know I didn't hang up on him, but got his voicemail. Left a message, he called me back and left a long message about this and that and how it wasn't necessary to call him back. So there you have it.

Truth is, I was really sad this morning/afternoon when I woke up, but I am okay. It sucks and I know we care about each other, but there are just so many factors against us (namely my not wanting to completely let go and chickening out because my feelings are getting too serious.) I know that's lame, but I just can't be with someone if I can't give it my all. It just isn't fair. And he brings his things to the table too. I don't know, we'll see what the future brings.

Thank you all again for your support. I do NOT know what I would do without you all!

H.

[GeekGirl]

I'm going to go against the grain here, and say I'm not sorry for you. In fact, I'm excited for you!! This breakup is hard on you, I have no doubt - I've been there, who hasn't? - but look at the bright side! Now that you know that Todd is not the person for you (right now, even - who knows what the future will bring?), it means that you are free to find the person who is your match in every way! Cherish the memories that are worth cherishing with Todd, learn the lessons that are worth learning, be grateful for the experience it gave you - but remember that the right person is still out there, and when he finds you, he'll be tickled to no end that you are now single, so he has a shot to sweep you off your feet. And in the meantime, have fun!! Congratulations!!

[Wrighty26]

Hi Heather!

I'm sorry that things ended with Todd... I am happy however to see you over here!

Just because it's over now, doesn't mean something great hasn't or won't come out of your relationship with Todd! His support got you through a really rough time-- but maybe he served his purpose? That sounds harass but I'm not saying you were using him or that your feelings weren't real or anything! There's no way to know that this may all work out at some point!

I wish you the best!

[ktsb]

We're all with you 100% Heather.

Keep your head up and this too shall pass.

[HeatherFL]

Thanks, everyone. I have kept very busy. Spoke with Todd a few times and it's been hard each time. I miss him. <sigh> But you all are right. We shall see what the future brings.

Hope everyone had a great weekend! :)

H.

[Oakley]

Heather, I'm so sorry. :(

We're here for you! I'm glad you went out the other night and had a good time. Now go do something really nice for yourself! I'm thinking chick flick, pedicure, manicure, shopping- you name it!

[Zelda Von Yitz]

Sorry it didn't work out.

I've found that often as not when you break up with someone, a clean break is the best way to go.

Hope you're feeling better today.

[skyblu]

Hey, Heather. I'm here too and adding my support. I know this sucks, but I also know you have survived much more difficult things, and you're okay. The guy for you is out there somewhere, and now you're free to find him!

Love,
~A.