Do/Did you have a gender preference?

[southerner]

If so, what did you prefer and why?

It goes without saying that we all want healthy babies. I'm talking about beyond that, were you hoping for either a boy or girl? Or did it really not matter to you?

[twainny]

Gosh that is a hard question to answer!!! For my first I wanted a boy (DH wasnted a girl) when they said it is a boy, I was a little said it wasn't a girl. now I am PG again and I really want another boy. I told people at work I have no need for dolls and pink stuff! And it is another boy!

Would I have been happy having two girls, OF COURSE! But I am not a girlie girl, and I love being outside and sports and all, so I feel I will be a better mommy for little boys. (totally NOT into shopping and make-up, etc.)

[BethIrish]

I didn't for #1, but for (the eventual) #2, I'd like a girl :)

[Chelsea524]

With each of my last two I have wanted a girl, both have been boys, we are trying one more time for a girl but if its a boy then I'll still be as happy as ever.

[Katie&Micah]

Dh and I are really hoping for a girl. We'll find out friday!

[elladee]

I didn't really for the first one. But I knew it was going to be a girl almost from the start. Now, if/when we have another kid, I'd like another girl. I never had a sister, and it always seemed like it'd be great. Logically, of course I know not all sisters get along well, but still, I want another girl.

[LeslieR]

Oh yeah. I've always wanted only boys. Thought I was having a girl to the point that I actually ended up wanting a girl. Found it was a boy. Very shocked at first, but eventually became relieved that it was not a girl. Not pregnant now, but I am hoping our next child is another boy.

[cari2]

I have two girls. If we don't have any more kids, I wouldn't be sad that I never had a boy. If I had two boys instead, I would be disappointed that I never had a girl and might even go for another shot at a girl...I also consider myself a girlie-girl and love dressing up, singing, dolls, etc. It is funny because my sister is the exact opposite. She is expecting her third son and is not at all disappointed over never having a girl as she is sooo not into girlie things. She's a boy mom all the way...

[Jaycee]

I didn't have a preference but I thought for sure I was having a boy and was really anticipating that. Then when we found out we were having a girl I was just as thrilled. Now that we have a girl, if we have another child, I would love to have another girl. I can't even imagine having a boy now, but I'm sure if it happens I'll be just as happy.

[Ericka_Jarett]

I wanted to have one of each (I did actually) but after losing Rebekah, I wanted a girl because I had so many cute girl things that I wanted to use. We were blessed with a boy and I couldn't be happier, he is such a sweetie and I couldn't imagine life without him.

[karlatta]

I don't know that I so much wanted a girl, as I was sure that she was a girl, and I just wanted to be right about that. Lucky me, I was right, and we're expecting a little girl in August.

[lml41981]

I had this ideal situation that I had dreamed of since I was a kid. I wanted a little boy first and then a little girl. When we were pregnant with DD, I knew from the minute the BFP showed up that it was a girl. Obviously, I was right.

With this one, I would really like a boy. And my gut feeling since the time the BFP showed up a week ago is boy. We'll see...

I feel bad saying that, though. I hate to think that my kids could feel like they weren't good enough because they weren't the right gender. That's probably just me being too sensitive, though. :o

[Lisa]

with my first I wanted a boy, got him with my second wanted another boy got my girl, with my third I wanted another girl, got a boy. Maybe the next I'll get my girl again!

[daphne]

With my 1st, I was hoping for a girl, and was a little disappointed when I found out I was having a boy. I fell head over heels with my little guy when he was born, though, and really wanted to have another little boy. This time, I'm a little disappointed, again, because I'm having a girl! I'm thinking I'll fall in love w/her, too, though, as soon as I meet her.

[Natasha]

I thought for sure my son would be a daughter, until the ultrasound. When I got pregnant again, I knew it would be a girl, but was hoping for a boy. It was a girl. If we try for a third, I really don't care which it is. But, we may just stick with the two.

[PinkMartini]

Well now that I'm pregnant with #2 (so soon after #1) we do have a preference, again. With DS we wanted a boy, I've always wanted to have a boy first - sort of the older brother thing. I'm the oldest and have 2 younger brothers but always wanted an older one... I knew early on I was having a boy and I was right.

With this one I also want another boy. Since we're having them SO CLOSE together, I think it'd be nice for 2 boys so they can grow up as best friends... If I hadn't gotten pregnant so quickly I probably would've wanted a girl with DC2. But either way I'll be happy :)

[Toonces]

For my first I was hoping for a boy b/c I thought I'd be a good "boy mom", but not a good "girl mom". I'm not a very girly-girl person, or so I thought. My first was a girl and I'm having a blast with her. Then for my 2nd I was hoping for another girl b/c they'd be born at the same time of year and I'd get more use out of DD's cute Gymboree outfits (yeah, sounds shallow doesn't it?). My 2nd turned out to be a boy and I wondered how on earth I'd relate to a boy, but I am so head over heels in love with him I can't even explain it. He is definitely a mama's boy and I wouldn't have it any other way, in either case.

[Bibay626]

I admit, I wanted a girl! I wanted to dress her up like a little doll (just as I always dreamed of as a kid.) Luckily, this baby is a girl =) I know when I get pregant again, I'll probably wish for a boy for the "momma's boy."

[lauren f s]

With my first I desperately wanted a girl. I think I'm more of a "girl mom". I wanted a daughter to put in pretty dresses, to fix her hair, bake, and do other girly things with. I wouldn't know what to do with a boy! Also, for as long as I can remember I wanted to have a daughter to name after my grandmother, who died when I was a baby. I always felt that if I named my daughter after her, I'd have a special part of her that nobody else in my family had. My entire pregnancy I didn't even consider that I might be having a boy, but when we had that first big u/s, I was terrified that it would be a boy and thrilled when we learned it was a girl.

With this pregnancy, I could have cared less, though I know DH really wanted a boy. I had a feeling all throughout my early pregnancy that it was a boy, and sure enough, it is. (I still don't know what I'm going to do with a boy, though!)

[Tonysweetie]

Yes, we both wanted a boy. I think DH wanted a boy more than me though. His reason was to beable to relate better. Me, I grew up with a big brother and I wanted that for my kids assuming I have a girl second. If we had found out it was a girl I wouldn't have been disappointed at all though.

[kdotp]

With DS we would have been happy either way, but I'm secretly a little glad we had a boy first (I had a feeling he was a boy even though we didn't find out beforehand and I like the idea of a big brother). I really want to have a girl someday, but I won't be unhappy if we end up with all boys.

[MidwesternGal]

I knew from the minute I was pregnant that DS was a boy. (Everyone guessed that, too--like, 99% of our friends/family.)

However, I desperately, desperately wanted a girl. But for kind of weird reasons--my ILs are very "macho-istic" type people. The "MEN" run the family, the boys get lots of attention, while girls are "always in trouble" even if the boys do 2x as bad things, etc. I was terrified how they'd treat "their" boy (GFIL is 1st born son, FIL is first born son, DH is 1st born son) if DC was a boy--like some head of state mentality that I don't agree with, just because of his gender and birth order. :(

I'm very, VERY ashamed to admit that I was extremely upset after the u/s confirmed the gender. To the point of not even talking about it for several days.

Well--DC is a boy and I couldn't be happier!! :p I absolutely adore him and coudn't even imagine having a girl. I didn't really think I'd adjust well, but I am truly in love with my son. We are talking about considering a 2nd, and I am hoping for a boy again!! I just don't think I'm cut out to be a momma to a girl. (oh, and ILs haven't been too bad--YET! LOL)

[maplekitty]

I would like to have atleast one boy, because Curt is the last male with the family name. I feel like it's my responsibility to cary on the family name, and if I don't have a boy then the family name dies! Oh god, what pressure!!! :eek:

[Kanga]

With #1 I really wanted a girl and dh wanted a boy. It was a girl. For #2 I wanted a boy and dh wanted girl. Assuming the u/s is right, we're having another girl. I was a little dissapointed, but I don't think as much if I had found out #1 was a boy.

I have no brothers or male cousins close in age so I wouldn't know what to expect with a boy. I think that's why I wanted a girl the first time. Plus I'm a hairstylist, and there's so much more you can do with girls hair than boys:o

[stevesbabygirl]

For our first, I really wanted to have a boy, and from the minute I found out I was pregnant, I knew it was a boy. That was confirmed for us a month ago at our big ultrasound, and I was so happy to be right! I would've been happy with a girl, and if he had been a girl, I think I would've been more disappointed with my intuition than I would've been of actually having a girl.

For our second, I hope we do have a girl. I guess I have that fantasy of having one of each. If we had another boy with our next one, I'd probably want to try again for a girl.

[whitlockan]

Yes.....boy and I knew it was a boy (other than the day of the big U/S I was convicing myself girl for fear of disappointment) but confirmed boy!! At 34 weeks our last peri, it was still a boy :D

[Asha]

i don't have any preference for my baby's sex. it has taken us so long to get pregnant that i am just happy to have a baby, boy or girl, to hold in my arms and love. though, i have this gut feeling that it is a boy, and we will find that out in the next week.

[Jaycee]

With this one, I would really like a boy. And my gut feeling since the time the BFP showed up a week ago is boy. We'll see...


Congratulations LML!!

[Jaycee]

With this one, I would really like a boy. And my gut feeling since the time the BFP showed up a week ago is boy. We'll see...


Congratulations LML!!

[mel7dog]

I wanted a girl a little more than a boy because DH's family is all boys. Figures both SIL and Me had boys :p

[lml41981]

Congratulations LML!!

Thank you. :)

[MichelleRenee]

I kind of wanted a girl. Our family has so many boys. My sis and I are the two girls out of 16 cousins. And she had 2 boys. But I was thrilled when I found out he was a boy.

For #2 i would love to have a girl. I really want a daughter. But another boy would be awesome as well!

[emschwar]

I want a girl. I'd almost go as far as to say I need a girl, I just can't really explain why. #1 was a boy, and it was a little upsetting, but not much, because I knew we'd have more. If this one turns out to be a boy (we even tried for a girl), I'm going to have a much harder time dealing with it. I'll get over it, sure, but there's going to be a lot of disappointment first.

[Wrighty26]

I really wanted a girl when I was pregnant. DH did too and everyone we know with babies/kids has girls (and everyone AFTER I had my son has had girls!). I just KNEW I was having a boy though -- and sure enough! I was mildly disappointed at first, but by the time he was born there was just no comprehending having a girl.

I love having a boy SO much that now I'm really hoping that when have #2 I have another boy!

[dionysia]

I was hoping for a girl and was disappointed for all of 10 minutes after the u/s revealed Fasolaki was a boy.

Of course, I'd be obsessed with having a girl as #2 if we decide to have another kid. :cool:

Di

[1_mommy]

When I was pg with my dd, i really wanted a girl, dh wanted a boy.

With my ds, we both really wanted a boy since we already had a girl. you should of heard my dh scream at the ultrasound when they said it was a boy

when we have a third, i would like another little girl, dh wants another boy

[KeliAnn]

DH and I both really wanted a boy first, but we found out that we're having a girl. It took us a day or two to get used to the idea, but we couldn't be happier now.

[Cali_Katy]

When I was pregnant for the first time, my husband and I were both hoping for a girl. Like dionysia, we were disappointed for all of about 10 minutes when we found out it was a boy.

Strangely enough, with this pregnancy, my husband and I were both half-hoping for another boy. I think it's because now that my son is here, we can so easily imagine being the parent of another boy. Ultrasounds showed that baby #2 is indeed a boy, but it would have been wonderful to have a girl, too, and have one of each.

I think we're done after this, and neither of us feels much inclination to try for #3 simply to try for a girl. I never in a million years saw myself as a mom of two boys, but now it feels right. There are brief moments when I feel a bit sad that I won't have the mother/daughter relationship, but anytime I'm feeling like doing something girly, I can go visit my sister -- who has three daughters!

[daisysue62]

With out first Dh was kind of rooting for a boy and I was kind of rooting for a girl, though neither of us were really set in having one gender over the other. When I found out we were having a girl I was pretty thrilled though! Mostly because I have a fantastic relationship with my Mom and wanted to experience the same with my daughter.

This time around I thought I would want a boy because I've always wanted one of each. But actually I find that I don't really care either way. Kind of a surprise since I thought I would want a boy this time! Dh is definitely hoping for a boy! If this baby is a girl we'll both be thrilled though, DD is so much fun!

[IrishEyes]

I wanted a girl, because as an only child, in some ways I felt I could only relate to a girl. We found out at our 19 wk u/s that we were expecting a boy, and I was disappointed for 10 minutes, and then that feeling was gone. I still don't know if DH had a preference--if he did, he hid it well. My father was especially excited about our son, I think just to experience watching a boy grow up. He always wanted to have another child while my mother did not (and obviously won that battle).

DS has been a joy, and if we have another, I'd prefer another boy. But I know if we decided to find out ahead of time and it's a girl, I'd be disappointed for 10 minutes max, then get excited about a little girl.

[LexyLou]

I had no preference at all with #1. Both sides of the family were dying for a girl though since my family is so small and I'm the last girl on my side and DH's side is filled with boys. All his cousins are almost all boys. I think the youngest girl is 20.

I really thought DD was a boy though and was shocked (pleasantly) when she turned out to be a girl. It was kind of a relief to have a girl first because now I feel like the pressure is off of us with this baby to just be allowed to have a baby. I mean we got comments when pregnant with DD like, "We'll still love it if it's a boy." Gee, thanks.:rolleyes:

I have no preference at all with #2. Both DH and I think it's another girl which would be awesome. I would love to have two little girls but I'd also love to have one of each so it's a win/win for us.

Honestly though, if #1 had been a boy, I think I would have wanted a girl for #2.

[EJH]

We really wanted a girl. As a two-mom family we thought it would be a bit easier to have a girl. Plus, we just love to shop for her, LOL.

She's going to be an only, so this was our shot ;) .

Erin

[bellabonga]

I have always wanted at least one girl, preferably two. So in pregnancy #1 it was very important to me and I had luck. In pregnancy #2 I hoped for another girl but it wasn´t as important to me as in pregnancy #1. Unfortunately I m/c but it was another girl. So in pregnancy #3 it became more important to me again to have another girl because of the one we had lost. It would have been strange to know that we would have had two girls if #2 had not had Down Syndrome and then to have a boy instead. But if the doctor is right, we´ll have another girl in May. :)

[twinnyme]

I really wanted a girl. I'm not sure why because I'm not a real girly-girl and wasn't looking forward necessarily to all the traditional girl things but it turns out that (so far) I've got a real girly-girl who loves shoes, purses, and dolls! :)

Partly why I wanted a girl was because I thought I'd relate better to her. Partly it was because we had 4 nephews at the time (6 now) and I know everyone on both sides of our family really wanted a little girl. Since I wasn't the first to have a child in the two families, I thought it would be fun to be the first to have a girl. And it certainly has been! We didn't know until 38 weeks that we were having a girl (when we had to have an u/s to check her position) because she was modest at the 20-week u/s.

I'd really like a boy with the eventual #2 because we plan to stop at two. But if we have another girl, that will be wonderful, too!

[AlisonCO]

#1 - We had no preference, I had no strong feelings about what it was and both of us were very happy when we found out it was a boy

#2 - I wanted another boy, DH really wanted a girl and I had a feeling that it was a girl - I was slightly dissapointed initially when we found out it was a girl but I was so happy for DH.

[E&O]

My husband and I both wanted a boy and had ourselves pretty convinced it was going to be a boy. But when Kate popped out and they told us it was a girl, there was no regret.

For #2 we are going to find out the sex early, b/c if we have another girl I think there wil be some disappointment and I want us to get over it before the birth!

[jbemommy]

I wanted at least one girl. So I was thrilled when our first was a girl. For the second one, I really didn't care which one, but I knew DH wanted a boy. I was quite happy when we had a boy.

[petdoc08]

I have always wanted a little girl. I didn't know how I would react if I had a little boy. I am such a girly girl. Then I got pregnant. I was sooo convinced that my baby was a little boy that when I got the ultrasound results I was actually a bit disappointed that she wasn't a boy (just for a nanosecond!!).

With the next one I could go either way. I would love a little boy but if I have another girl, I think it would be easier to convience DH to go for a third. ;)

[ajb524]

I wanted a little girl, but got a boy. When I first found out I was a little let down because I had never imagined myself with a son. I now think of it as having him as something I never knew I wanted :).

With that said I would really like to have a girl the next time around. I know what it's like to have a son and would really like to experience having a daughter and sharing that special bond. Plus, we could really use some pink in our house ;).

[cr8zyforaf]

Yes, I wanted a boy so bad...and I got a girl. I love her more than anything and I couldn't be happier but I was very disappointed at first.

My younger sister beat me to the punch in giving my parents a grandchild (a girl) so I wanted a boy partly because I wanted to name him after my father. As soon as I had DD, my sister got pregnant again and you guessed it, had a boy (and stole my name).

My second pregnancy is very important to me..I really really really want a little boy.

[RubberSoul]

Before I got pregnant I wanted a boy. I have always been concerned about the mother/daughter conflict since my mom and I were always butting heads. However, after I got pregnant I was convinced we were having a girl and I got excited about the prospect of having a close mother/daughter relationship. The u/s revealed a boy and I was a little disappointed at first, but mostly becuase my intuition was wrong.

Now I can't imagine having a girl. If we have another I will probably hope for another boy.

[bluebunny]

I wanted a boy first but prepared myself for a girl, just in case, so I wouldn't be disappointed. We had a boy. (We didn't find out the gender ahead of time).

I actually wanted another boy so that my son would have a brother (same-sex sibling). I felt that we were having a girl, though, and it was confirmed by ultrasound. I was a little disappointed, not that we weren't having a boy but that my son was not going to have a brother. Selfishly, I love having a girl and can't wait to have a close mother-daughter bond with her.

[KRL626]

I wanted a girl with with DS. My DH REALLY wanted a girl. He was very disapointed when he found out it was a boy. I was sad for a second and then excited. I absolutely love being the mom to a boy. So much so that I wouldn't mind all boys. My DH would kill me for saying that. Suffice to say that next time I'd be happy either way, prefer a boy for me, but a girl to make DH happy so it doesn't really matter.

[Lucy Van Pelt]

I admit that I had a very strong preference for a girl, but I know that had DD been a boy, I would have been very happy as well. It just may have taken me a little while to get used to it...LOL Before I had the amnio results, I had dreams that I was having a boy and that I started crying when they told me the news.

We aren't sure if we will have another baby or not, but if we do, I guess I would want a little boy to balance things out! I know DH wants a little hockey player! ;)

[tgr68]

I really, really wanted a boy. I think that because my relationships with the women in my family were so poor, and I feared passing that on to a little girl. The other part was that I had more experience taking care of infant boys.

DH really wanted a girl because he's always wanted a "Daddy's Little Girl". I think part of him wanting a girl was because we lost his sister a few months before we married.

We got a girl, and (please don't flame me) I was very upset initially. I hated to cry over it because DH was sooooooo happy! Now that he's got his little girl, he says that next one will be a boy! ;) :p

[usafwife]

I didn't really have a preference the first time. I just wanted a healthy baby. DH wanted a girl first followed by a boy so he was certain that it was a girl. I didn't find out at the u/s but DH did. I thought I'd be able to tell by his face/reaction but I couldn't (the tech wrote it on a paper and gave it to him when I was out of the room) when I came back into the room to finish the u/s.

I didn't really have a preference with baby #2 either. I thought another little girl would be fun but I also wanted to have a mommy's little boy. I had some early complications during the first trimester and then was in for other complications around 15/16 wks so a healthy little baby was all that mattered to me (and DH) at that point. When the tech told us it was a boy DH was overjoyed. I wanted to share the news with my mom but she was sedated at that point and too ill to know too much at that point and I was too worried about her health (we were in a day-to-day situation with her at that point. It was a very stressful time.)


We got a girl, and (please don't flame me) I was very upset initially. I hated to cry over it because DH was sooooooo happy! Now that he's got his little girl, he says that next one will be a boy! ;) :p
N ~ I remember that day. I hope next time you get your little boy! It happened with us so baby you'll get lucky as well.

[tray622]

DH wanted girls but there was a brief moment of disappointment when we found out #2 was a girl. I secretly see little boys and want one but honestly think I would prefer another girl if we had a third.

[emmjay]

We wanted a boy for #1 and got a boy!

For this one, I can't decide if I want a boy or a girl because I think it would be great either way. I think DH wants another boy (he has 2 brothers) but he just says he wants it to be healthy.