Secret_Squirrel
03-07-2007, 01:18 PM
Ok, "Overachiever" is in quotes because it's a bit strong, maybe.
But my 9 year old puts a lot of pressure on himself to win and succeed in school. I spent over half an hour at bed time trying to calm him down last night because he flunked his spelling test. He was crying and hiding under the blankets saying "I could have done better",and "[kid in class] did better than me."
He doesn't get that pressure from us. DS has always done fantastic in school.
I told him that he is a great student and one test doesn't define who he is. We all make mistakes, that is how we learn. The important thing is to pick yourself up and keep going.
And in his basketball team, he made a comment that his team "always wins the games I'm not at" - he only missed one game and they happened to win that. They won another game too, and he scored 3 baskets and had 4 assists. But he focuses on the negative.
Any pointers on how I can help him be more emotionally resiliant? He tends to be moody and a bit of a "drama queen" in general. He is my youngest, so perhaps I coddle him too much? Some of it could also be attention-getting behavior on his part. His older brother has ADD and so he gets a lot of our attention to stay on top of his school work.
Any feedback?
But my 9 year old puts a lot of pressure on himself to win and succeed in school. I spent over half an hour at bed time trying to calm him down last night because he flunked his spelling test. He was crying and hiding under the blankets saying "I could have done better",and "[kid in class] did better than me."
He doesn't get that pressure from us. DS has always done fantastic in school.
I told him that he is a great student and one test doesn't define who he is. We all make mistakes, that is how we learn. The important thing is to pick yourself up and keep going.
And in his basketball team, he made a comment that his team "always wins the games I'm not at" - he only missed one game and they happened to win that. They won another game too, and he scored 3 baskets and had 4 assists. But he focuses on the negative.
Any pointers on how I can help him be more emotionally resiliant? He tends to be moody and a bit of a "drama queen" in general. He is my youngest, so perhaps I coddle him too much? Some of it could also be attention-getting behavior on his part. His older brother has ADD and so he gets a lot of our attention to stay on top of his school work.
Any feedback?