No way.....

[PinkMartini]

OMG ladies I'm pregnant again :eek: Just got a BFP this morning. My DH had been after me to take one since I've been feeling nauseated all week (thought it was lingering effects from the flu) and what do ya know... I feel like Britney Spears :o

Got a few ?'s for ya...

How 'bad' is this for my body? I mean, I just gave birth 4 months ago. Are there any negative health issues with getting pregnant again so fast? (Other than the fact that I'm sure not getting rid of this pooch any time soon)

For those of you with children super close like this, how in the world do you survive? If any of you have read any of my previous posts, my DS has been a SUPER cranky baby. Still is. He's just not happy with anything... I can't imagine dealing with the horrible M/S I had last time, while trying to take care of him all day :(

Any words of advice? We didn't plan this. This is the 3rd time I've gotten pregnant on birth control :eek: (After this one it's abstinence all the way for me I guess) I'm not really upset about it, because we definitely wanted more children, just not this close together... My DH is estatic :rolleyes:

I have no idea how far along I am, I've had 1 period since having my DS and I can't for the life of me remember when it was. I don't even know if it was in Jan or Feb :( Sooo hopefully my OBGYN will be able to get me in for an U/S to see...

[isign]

Congrats ;) I'm glad your DH is happy and supportive.

My BFF has 3, with #4 on the way, due in Aug, and the oldest 2 (twins) will be 3 about 3 weeks before #4 is set to arrive. She loves it. She love that her children are so close together and not spread out, and that they will really grow up together. She loves that they will not be dragging on dealing with diapers or potty training for years. She's 8 years older than her youngest sibling, and she feels like she doesn't know them all.

I wish you a happy m/s free 9 months.

[ShannonGH]

No words of wisdom since I just have the one but I wanted to say Congrats! FWIW, I really don't think it's that hard on your body having them so close. It's after you've had *quite* a few that it starts taking a toll, I believe.
(and 3rd time getting pg on bc...yikes!)

[ambula704]

Wow, congrats to you and your family! Mind if I ask what form of BC it was?? Just curious!!

[pride&prejudice]

First off congrats. It really shouldn't be that bad for you. My BFF just had her 6th child in November, and with that one she was pg 3 months after giving birth. On the middle 2 kids, there was about a 4 month break. So she's been through it twice and is doing great. Hardest part for her mentally was the weight. She was down for a little bit becuse she hadn't had a chance to loose the baby weight. She got over it, and is happy now becuase she hasn't had problems loosing it.

[PinkMartini]

Thanks for the congratulations ladies... It still doesn't feel real to me yet...

Good to hear that it shouldn't negatively affect my body. I'm 6lbs less than I was before getting preg with my DS (could've been 5-10lbs lighter pre-DS) so thankfully I'm still not carrying any of the preg weight from before. I do have a skin pooch though that I've been trying hard to get rid of.

[PinkMartini]

Wow, congrats to you and your family! Mind if I ask what form of BC it was?? Just curious!!

Orthro-Tri-Cyclen the first 2 times and Yasmin this time

[nic]

Wow, congratulations!

I've actually heard people say it's easier to have kids close together because you're still accustomed to the "newborn" routine of things.

[LexyLou]

Orthro-Tri-Cyclen

Darn it. That's what I was on too. But, I will admit I wasn't 100% perfect about taking the pill. I missed a day or two here and there. Were you religious about taking it?

[December27JJB]

Congratulations! :D

[PinkMartini]

Were you religious about taking it?

The first time, no, when I got pregnant I think I missed 2 days... I ended up miscarrying (at 12 weeks) because I didn't know I was pregnant, kept taking the pill and it screwed the baby up...

These other 2 times, yes. Since I got pregnant on BC before I was absolutely religious about taking them on time. We weren't TTC when I got pregnant with my DS and we sure weren't TTC now...

[Toonces]

:eek: Wow... that's awesome news!! Congratulations!! :D :)

[Tonysweetie]

Wow! Congratulations!!!! Things will work out. :)

[mlfallis]

Congrats!!! Maybe you will be an October Mommy again.

[kmmommy]

Wow! Congratulations!

[Linz]

Orthro-Tri-Cyclen the first 2 times and Yasmin this time

:eek: I am on Yasmin. lol. Did your mom get pregnant easily?

ETA: and CONGRATS!! :D

[TaterBaby]

Wow! Congrats!!!

[ceaserbride]

WOW! Congratulations!! How Exciting:)

[jimmysgirl424]

Wow! You sure are a fertile myrtle! :D Good for you and congratulations!! I still remember your avatar when you were pg with your DS, in the yellow outfit...may you have a very happy and healthy pregnancy, free of m/s!

[Michelle]

Congratulations!!!! :)

[Jenzen01]

Wow. Congrats from another October mommy!

My cousin is preggers with No.2. Her first was born in June 2006, and her second is due in June 2007. So, I think she was about 4 months PP when she got preggers again. She's hanging in there, but I have a feeling that when the baby comes, it might be hard for a while.

You'll do it somehow. It all works out.

Jen

[bunny nose]

Congratulations!

[Orion]

Just wanted to pop in to say congrats and that I know exactly how you feel. My DD is 14 months old and I am 38 weeks and 3 days pregnant! It was a bit of a shock to find out that I was already 11 weeks pregnant with #2 when #1 was only about 7 months (DD would have been about five months old when I got pregnant but since we weren't really trying for #2 yet, I had no idea that I was pregnant). Although I can't offer advice on how to handle two kids so close in age yet, I can offer you some tips on how I handled being pregnant and still having a baby.

First off, I also was concerned about what problems I would encounter with having to pregnancies so close together and the best advice that my doctor gave me is that my body would not allow me to become pregnant again and carry the baby if it was not able to do so. I'm not sure if you are BF or not but I was and was able to continue until DD was about 8 1/2 months old. At that point (just a bit into my second trimester) my milk supply vanished. I was told it was probably because the new baby needed the nutrients more than my daughter did. Luckily we had no problem giving DD a bottle of formula until she went on to whole milk at twelve months.

I didn't experience intense m/s with this pregnancy, as I did with my first so that was a blessing. To be honest, I think that I was so busy caring for DD that I didn't have time to think about m/s and that is how it has been for most of this pregnancy. I just haven't had the time to think about being pregnant because I've been so busy with DD.

My DH helped out a lot which yours will have to do as well. There were nights that I was just so exhausted that I couldn't move so he was in charge of getting DD to bed and making supper and taking care of chores.

My saving grace was the PNP we have. There were days I was just so exhausted that I would put DD in the PNP with some toys and nap on the couch. It wasn't the greatest sleep but it gave me enough to get through the day.

That is all that I can think about right now that might help you but if you have any questions or if you need someone to talk to because I know that things can be overwhelming right now, please feel free to PM me anytime.

[HeatherFL]

My sister's first two kids are 361 days apart. She got pregnant soon after having her first one. She did have some medical complications and had to be hospitalized, but I am unsure of whether this has to do with having kids so close together. Just make sure to be really thorough with your doctor.

As for how she gets through it-A LOT of help from her former MIL and my mom!

~H.

[PinkMartini]

Thanks for the well wishes ladies... I appreciate the support a lot :)

Congrats!!! Maybe you will be an October Mommy again.

I just might be. I'm anxious to find out how far along I am. I really wish I would've remember to write down my cycle...

Did your mom get pregnant easily?

After having me, she did. My mom & dad tried for 3 years to get pregnant with me, but then my 2 younger brothers came a lot easier. We're 16 months apart and 18 months...

First off, I also was concerned about what problems I would encounter with having to pregnancies so close together and the best advice that my doctor gave me is that my body would not allow me to become pregnant again and carry the baby if it was not able to do so.

Good to hear. Good tip about the naps too. My DS is such a crappy sleeper I'm worried about that. I remember how extremely tired I was (especially 1st/3rd trimesters) last time and I didn't have a little one to take care of.

[maplekitty]

HOLY DOODLE P.M.!!! :eek: congrats!! :D

[MichelleRenee]

:eek: :eek: :eek:

Congrats! I know this must be a shock, but I am sure you will do great. FWIW my brother and I are 360 days apart and my mom said she was glad she did it that way. (although it wasn't intentional at the time)

I can't wait to hear when you are due. How crazy would it be if you had the same due date.....:p

[Neen]

CONGRATS!!!

My sons are 12 months 3 weeks apart (actual due dates were 1 year 1 day apart, but DS1 had other ideas to be born 4 weeks early).

Anyway, at first it was pretty rough, but we soon got into a routine and all was dandy. They are now 8 & 9 and play really well together. It's nice that they have some one to play with all the time because we don't have alot of kids in our neighborhood.

[hmbay]

Congrats.

FWIW I found a study online that some women ovulate more than once in a month. I would guess if that would happen BCP would most likely fail--especially something like low-dose yasmin or triphasic like OTC but I'm just guessing here. I have no real proof of that.

http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn3927

[Roxygirl]

Oh wow congrats Pink Martini.

I know we talked a few days ago about living close by. I guess you've been pretty busy since then. I can't imagine being pregnant again right now, but hey I'm sure it's a blessing and you will find your own way to deal and enjoy every moment of it.

[tray622]

Congrats :) It will work out. Just remember the baby you see now will be a walking, pre-toddler when the baby arrives. It is a whole new ball game at that time. My DD's are 16 months apart, so not as close, but I love it now. My second was very colicky/refluxy and cranky too and I have felt a lot of sympathy in being able to relate to your posts.

[blondegirl]

Congrats!!

My DD and DS are 11 months apart. My final pregnancy was just as easy and uncomplicated as the first 2. Now that DS and DD are 1 and 2, they are great buddies! (My oldest is 7) This last year wasn't nearly as rough as I thought it would be. I found the best way to keep my sanity was to try and get out every day, even if just for a walk around the mall or something. We didn't plan to have them so close together, but I wouldn't change a thing.

[Txfish]

First of all, find the 2 under 2 thread and join up. THe ladies there ave some great ideas on how to cope.

Second, I'm with you on this crazy trip -- 3 months to go, baby girl is not quite 11 months old. I also got pg around 4 mo pp, and didn't find out until around 7 weeks (to add insult to injury, the first month I missed my period, the test was a false negative. Seriously??!!) Anyway, I had to get it dated by u/s at 9 wks. I also was on bc for babies 1 & 3. Was in serious denial about this new one for a good 3 months at the beginning, but it gets easier to deal with the idea.

So congrats, glad your dh is happy (because the alternative is worse), and if you ever need to vent or whine or complain you can count on me to listen because some days it's just too damn hard to put on a happy face. Apparently I'm having one of those LOL

[Mrs-Mac]

Congrats. Stay positive and keep telling yourself that every pregnancy and baby are different. My two nephews are such totally different babies. The older one was a very difficult baby, the younger one is so laid back. Maybe you'll get a very easy baby this time!!

[MidwesternGal]

CONGRATS (from a fellow Oct Mommy!) and HOLY MOLEY Pink!!!

I wouldn't worry about the 1st pregnant weight if I were you, because you'll be chasing a walking baby around with this pregnancy. I have a friend who has a child turning 2, 1, and being born all within three months!!! Yikes!! While her hips stayed a bit wide, she has barely gained any weight with her 3rd, due to chasing around the first two!!

We are actually considering spacing ours fairly close together (only want 2) to get it over with --posibbly trying again after DS turns 1 or early 2008.

Lots of women do it--and with the trouble you've had with your DS, you'll be able to handle anything DC#2 throws at you!!!

CONGRATS again!!!

[PinkMartini]

Thanks for the support ladies :)

Well so far so good. No M/S. Unlike last time, I had M/S for 2 weeks before even finding out I was pregnant. Started at 4 weeks. I feel nauseated for like 10 min's when I get up with Jacob at 5am but that's it. *Knock on wood* Hopefully it doesn't get too much worse.

I called my OBGYN's office and made an appt for March 7th. I told the receptionist that I couldn't for the life of me, remember when my last AF was and she said the dr. could do an U/S to see how far along I am. She told me the first few months after giving birth, you are EXTREMELY fertile, and she can't believe how many people get pregnant right after giving birth :eek: So I'm glad I'm not alone...

It still hasn't really sunk in yet. DH called his parents and told them, they're happy for us. I told my mom and she's happy as well. I'm going to wait to tell anyone else until at least after my appt. I'm SO anxious to find out when I'm due!

[ShannonGH]

With so many of us knowing down the milisecond when we got pg, it's so fun to share the excitement with you of not knowing when you're due!! Definitely keep us posted!

[Marisa]

She told me the first few months after giving birth, you are EXTREMELY fertile, and she can't believe how many people get pregnant right after giving birth

Could that really be medically true, or is that something she came up with? That sounds like a wives' tale to me.

For one thing, breastfeeding moms who nurse on demand often see their fertility delayed for six months or more. I think it's more that you're sleepy/distracted in the early months PP, and your routine is out of whack, so if you do remember to use birth control there's more chance for user error than during other points in your life. And that's my non-medical theory. ;)

[blondegirl]

Could that really be medically true, or is that something she came up with? That sounds like a wives' tale to me.

Don't know how medically true it is, but my doctor told me the same thing. I got pregnant again with Ds when DD wasn't even 2 months yet. I was breastfeeding, my period hadn't returned. We most certainly weren't trying to get pg again!

[PinkMartini]

Could that really be medically true, or is that something she came up with? That sounds like a wives' tale to me.

Not sure - it definitely could be an old wive's tale, I certainly haven't done any research on it...

And I agree with your theory as well, I'm sure that's the case for a lot of people. I only breastfed for 7 weeks PP but I did take my BC on time - religiously because I knew I'd gotten pregnant twice before on it...

[Heidi9771]

Congrats! Any chance you could send some of your baby dust my way??? :) :) :)

[PinkMartini]

Definitely Heidi! You can have it all :)

[Pink_Converse]

No advice but CONGRATULATIONS!

[bluebunny]

Congrats! A friend of mine is in the same boat. Her DS turns one next week and her DD is due in six weeks, so they'll be about 13 months apart. She is scared to death but I think she'll manage just fine. The first year or so might be difficult but I imagine that the two will be great playmates after that. :) GL!

[Kanga]

Mine will be 16 months apart. It isn't what we planned, but hey, sometimes that's just how things happen. My body has held up great and this pregnancy has been about hte same as hte last, but I'm a lot more tired which is probably due to having a toddler to take care of. The thing that's helped me get through the best is learning to take naps. Before dd I was the worst napper and had a terrible time falling asleep if it was even a little bit light out. I started laying down everytime she took a nap if I was tired whether I thought I could fall asleep or night. For the longest time I just layed there, but eventually I learned to fall asleep and now it maybe takes me 5-10 minutes to fall asleep.

I don't know how I'll get along after #2 comes, but I just tell myself I'm not even close to the first person who's been through this so it IS doable.

[tlew12778]

My sister has a boy and a girl that are 14 months apart. A lot of ppl think they are twins. They are absolute best friends and share all their friends and have all their birthday parties together. They weren't planned, but I know that my sister wanted a last girl. Her first was a girl, then she has 3 boys, then the last is a girl (plus 2 step-daughters that live with them on the weekends). Actually, if you look at the age ranges of all her kids (all 7 I mean) they are all about 1.5 apart. Her house was an absolute zoo when they were young but now it's sort of fun since there are always people around.

[kk junebug]

while i have no PERSONAL advice to offer, i can relay some from a good friend of mine who has FIVE UNDER 5!
TWO sets of twins (completely coincidently)
and one 2 yr old...if she can do it, ANYONE can!

it was dicey in the beginning, developing routines, etc. but now she LOVES the fact that all her kids are so close in age. now that they are older, they are great pals and they all watch out for eachother, etc. looking back she wouldnt have it any other way. plus, buy the time she's in her 40's, she will be almost kid-free...and can enjoy that time in their lives.

CONGRATS and good luck! you'll get into a routine and look back and wonder "what was i so concerned about!"

[eli1126]

My sister (hub1176) got pg 5 months after giving birth to her first DD and while it was tough in the beginning, she seems to be enjoying it now. Congratulations!

[jimmysgirl424]

PinkMartini Make sure you come back and post in this thread so we all know what your DD is!! :)

[amygrrl]

first.. CONGRATS!

with regards to any issues related to having your kids close together, well recent studies have indicated that it does increase the likelihood of preterm labor. i'm trying to find the studies i've read about it right now, but this is something my perinatologist (the head of mother fetal medicine at stanford) and i discussed at length after i went into preterm labor at roughly 31 wks with my second DD. my first DD was stillborn for unrelated causes and i conceived DD2 7 weeks after delivering DD1.

so be very vigilent about any signs of preterm labor! i'm sure everything will be fine. even with the preterm labor with dd2, i was able to hold off delivering her until 37 wks and that was being dialated to 5!

[PinkMartini]

Got another ? for you ladies..

My OBGYN appt isn't until Wed, but I will be sure to ask my dr, but in the mean time, I wanted to know if Aleve Cold/Flu or Sudafed Cold/Flu is detrimental to this early in pregnancy?

I had the flu 3 weeks ago and took both for about a week and a half. Obviously I didn't know I was pregnant at that point (and although I don't know how far along I am - I'm pretty sure I was pregnant at that point) so I'm wondering if taking that could've harmed the baby :confused:

Thanks for the info on the preterm labor risks amygrrl. My mother has a friend who had her 2nd child VERY early, he was born at 2lbs something but survived. She got pregnant with him right away after having her first, so I think there is some truth to the pre labor risks...

[MizLarner]

No suggestions, but congrats! Your 06 baby has the same birthday as my 05 :) He's also super-fussy.

[Suzlywoozly]

Do not take anything that has aleve in it. I think your best bet is to take tylenol flu since tylenol is really the only safe OTC pain reliever to take during pregnancy.

[PinkMartini]

Thanks Suzlywoozly, yea I know Tylenol is the only safe OTC medicine while pregnant - problem is when I took the Aleve & Sudafed I didn't know I was pregnant... :confused:

Thankfully I'm over the flu now so no more meds are needed, I'm just wondering if me taking it could've harmed the baby...

[Suzlywoozly]

Oops, sorry I wasn't paying attention when you wrote you took it three weeks ago. I am sure that at that early there probably wasn't any harm to the baby.;)

[AmyE]

PinkMartini - First CONGRATS!, Second, if it makes you feel better, I went to Mexico, drank beer and margaritas and went scuba diving for 5 days while 4 weeks pregnant with the twins (about 2 weeks after conception - AF was supposed to arrive that week....and didn't). :eek: We had JUST come off BCP, and I had no clue I was pregnant. Didn't expect a BFP for a couple of months, at least, based on our experience TTC DS1. The babies are 3 months old and huge and healthy.

Not really how I would recommend starting a pregnancy, but there you have it.

[daisysue62]

I'm pretty sure Sudafed is ok during pregnancy. When I have a cold that's the only thing my midwives say I can have. Of course while I take the stupid Sudafed I'm longing for my Nyquil!

[PinkMartini]

Thanks for all the replies ladies...

Well I had an U/S and the baby was still too small to measure, there was definitely a sac in there though. She thinks I was 3/4 weeks along at my appt last week. I have an appt for a repeat U/S next Wed, 21st where she should be able to accurately determine age... Sooo as it stands right now, my children will probably be 12-13 months apart :eek:

[bunny]

Congratulations!

Just came by to give you some support. I'm going to be having another baby close in age to my first child. Don't worry about the Aleve and Sudafed. I'm sure that things will be fine. The stress is probably worse than the medicine. :)

[Sarah]

The first time, no, when I got pregnant I think I missed 2 days... I ended up miscarrying (at 12 weeks) because I didn't know I was pregnant, kept taking the pill and it screwed the baby up...
FWIW, two doctors and a midwife have all told me that continuing to take the pill after you are pg will not effect the fetus/embryo. I took mine for a while after getting pg with my DD1 (I got pg on OTC, too, with perfect use) and she was/is fine. It was likely not related.

Congratulations!

[MrsBeckyLP]

No personal experience, but I'm less than a year younger than my brother. I was, of course, an oops. My mom said it was a pain at times, but it was also nice because she was still in "baby-mode." And from my viewpoint, I love having a brother so close in age. We have always been pretty close; we shared a lot of the same friends growing up, and I even followed him to college. I'd love to have children close in age too (but I'm thinking more along the lines of 18 months apart!).

[Soulmate]

The first time, no, when I got pregnant I think I missed 2 days... I ended up miscarrying (at 12 weeks) because I didn't know I was pregnant, kept taking the pill and it screwed the baby up...I agree with Sarah. My mom took BCPs for the first trimester with me because she didn't know she was pregnant and I am ok and obviously here.

[PinkMartini]

FWIW, two doctors and a midwife have all told me that continuing to take the pill after you are pg will not effect the fetus/embryo. I took mine for a while after getting pg with my DD1 (I got pg on OTC, too, with perfect use) and she was/is fine. It was likely not related.

Thanks for the info... That's what the E.R. dr said when I had my M/C and I've never researched it, so I just believed what he said to be true.