Condescending or sweet?

[Myra]

My friend and her boyfriend of her 4 years broke up last month. She is taking it hard, and the time of year isn't helping. If it were you, would you appreciate a small gift on Valentine's day from a friend, or would it feel more like "hey, I got you something because no one else will"?

[maplekitty]

maybe get her something light-hearted, like a book of quotes by female comedians. You know, something that's funny and silly and girly, not something that will remind her of not having a bf on Valentine's.

[tenofcups]

My sister sent flowers to my office one VD when I was single and particularly low. I appreciated it and it did make me feel better about things. And I don't think you could ever go wrong with chocolates! They don't have to be heart-shaped and in-your-face Valentine's candy; just any good chocolate is always a pick-me-up in my book. In the past, I've also sometimes gone out with one or more girlfriends for a VD dinner, but I don't know if you can do that with her or if you have your own plans.

[mgmhmj]

A couple of years ago when my best friend and I were both single, we got each other V-Day gifts instead (actually, now that I think about it I've done that on quite a few V-Days...I'm perpetually single!). One time we sent each other flowers - not roses or anything, just small, cheerful bouquets. Another year she gave me pj's (which I love and still wear!), and I can't seem to remember what she got me. We've also done "Anti-valentine's Day" girls nights where we all got dressed up and went out to dinner or a movie or whatever...I definitely always appreciated it and enjoyed it. In fact, given the way the last 2 Valentine's Days have gone, I think those might have been some of the best V-Day's I've ever had!

[Asha]

i think its sweet. there were a some valentines days that i felt so alone when my friends all had partners. it would have helped if one of my friends had thought of me. valentines day is not just about romantic love, imo.

[HeatherFL]

Sweet, but I would just say not to send anything that would indicate it could be from her ex. Don't send flowers for her to think he's had a change of heart and then her heart sinks because they're from you-unless you deliver them in person! I like the idea of something funny and light-hearted. Maybe you could do a movie basket or send some of her favorite food? You're a good friend. :)

~H.

[KrissyCat7]

I think its a great idea. I really like maplekitty's suggestion.:)

[Sare79]

Close to maplekitty's suggestion, a girlfriend once got me this (http://www.amazon.com/Quickie-Stickies-Pick-Me-Ups-Feeling-Unglued/dp/0761128956) and it cheered me up and made me laugh. It's inexpensive and fun.