Sigma Chi Gamma members

[TriSigmaNC]

Founders:
President: TriSigmaNC
Social Chair: Princesse
Recruitment Chair: sakraus
Education Chair: MESinChicago
ADSigMel
Rippy1010
mkredhead
K-L-U
Savannahgrl
jesvet
Trestlegirl
Attygrl74
akaCharlotte
Candy


Our membership is unique, we are a united front, we have goals and aspirations that are similar.
Just think of something like Order of Omega for CCers. (Yes, we have a few honorary members in here too). Welcome to those who are interested in learning about sorority life, members, non members, supporters :) Come on in and learn. (Catchy title to get you interested, huh?)

Colors: Leopard Print
Flower: Birds of Paradise
Motto: Be kind...everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

I LOVE SCG!

[MES in Chicago]

SCG today and forever!!!

[southerner]

I thought you were a TriSig? There's no such sorority :confused:

[TriSigmaNC]

I thought you were a TriSig? There's no such sorority :confused:
It's a different group for those in a sorority, you have to be involved to know about that. It's private to some of us.

;) Love my girls out there.

[southerner]

It's so private that you felt it necessary to start a group for it on a public message board? If it's some inside joke that people who aren't "your girls" aren't privvy to, then maybe you should consider starting an LJ community for it.

[TriSigmaNC]

Hey ladies, what do you all think about colors and mascot.

I'm sure princesse has some suggestions. She did think about a Cheetah I think, so maybe Gold and Black?

[villanelle75]

It's a different group for those in a sorority, you have to be involved to know about that. It's private to some of us.

;) Love my girls out there.

Huh :confused: ? I don't understand your first sentence at all. Do you mean this is only for people who already knew about it anyway, or is it something that anyone can join, or something that any sorority lady only can join?

[TriSigmaNC]

Sure Sorority women can! Just a fun place for us to chitty chat :)

[jesvet]

Is it for sorority alumnae? I was a Kappa Delta. :D

[TriSigmaNC]

YAY jesvet! I love KD's a ton. I have a ton of friends who are KD's.

Think of this kind of like Order of Omega for CCers.
I also started another thread, not sure if you saw it about Sorority Women, I think there are some KD's on it.

[jesvet]

Ah, I was order of Omega as well. :D

Were there other KDs there? I may have to go check that out!

[TriSigmaNC]

I'm pretty sure there were quite a few!

[MES in Chicago]

Black and Gold are good for me...they are Purdue colors after all ;) GO BOILERS!

[savannahgrl]

I'm a Phi Mu alum. Can I join? I was not sure if this was a joke or not, but if it's for real sign me up.

I was in Order of Omega too.

[TriSigmaNC]

HA! That's funny.....ok, why not.

[TriSigmaNC]

savannahgrl
That is SO great! Welcome to our FUN group. Not a joke.

[ADSigMel]

Yay, new sisters! How exciting! I'm already looking forward to spring formal! :D

Are there any flower suggestions? I recommend birds of paradise!

http://www.onlinewholesaleflowers.com/Bird%20of%20Paradise.jpg

[TriSigmaNC]

Ahhhhhhhhh..birds of paradise, how pretty.
My favorite is the tulip, but I wasn't daring enough to do birds at my wedding. Fun!

[TriSigmaNC]

Updated to Here

[MLA]

Weird. I never responded to this thread or PM'd anyone asking to join. I was never in a sorority and have no desire to be in anything like one. You can remove me from the list. Thanks!

[TriSigmaNC]

Weird. I never responded to this thread or PM'd anyone asking to join. I was never in a sorority and have no desire to be in anything like one. You can remove me from the list. Thanks!

Updated to here.
Mistake, was NOT meant for you, thanks for noticing :)

[MLA]

Updated to here.
Mistake, was NOT meant for you, thanks for noticing :)

Huh? The mistake was "meant"? What does that mean? And if it wasn't "meant" for me, who was it "meant" for? My name doesn't remotely resemble any of the others on your list . . . ?

Nevermind. You ladies can just go about your sorority business. I was just genuinely confused as to what had happened. Just seemed strange.

Have fun, girlies.

[TriSigmaNC]

KLU and MLA were mixed up. Fixed now, on with our business!

[TriSigmaNC]

My sorority women here are in the middle of informal recruitment (a few are under total since they just raised it), and here are their events, Social Chair Princesse, wouldn't these things be a ton of fun?

Meet N' Greet with Refreshments
Jewelry Party
Bowling Night
Beauty Night and Gray's Anatomy
Death By Chocolate (dessert party)

fun!

[looch]

ooooh, a secret honor society for exceptionally academic and socially outstanding undergraduates! Will you be providing scholarships?

[TriSigmaNC]

Wouldn't that be GREAT looch! I wish hon.
But the great thing is I IRL am the President of our Alumnae Panhellenic (not sure if you're Greek and have heard of that), but we have a meeting tomorrow and are handing out our scholarship applications for local women in chapters.

GREAT idea for anyone Greek, search for your local Alumnae Panhellenic. They're only for NPC though. NPHC groups have grad chapters and some local groups have alumnae chapters around.

[princesse]

The funny thing is for as ditzy and fun as everyone is playing, there are probably more degrees among the silly girls than we can count....aren't most of us considering doctorates?

[TriSigmaNC]

So very true.
OH, let's start that one soon too, your turn.
But, Hi I'm ready to pursue my PhD in Higher Education Administration :)
And I'm a current Greek Advisor.

[princesse]

......pausing to consider whether it is more fun to go to the dark side and just chew people up for sport.........NAHHHHH, it always pays to be nice.

[TriSigmaNC]

LOL,
One of our tenets is respect, no? ;)

[laura]

It's so private that you felt it necessary to start a group for it on a public message board? If it's some inside joke that people who aren't "your girls" aren't privvy to, then maybe you should consider starting an LJ community for it.

That is puzzling. I thought that's what journals were for.

[looch]

......pausing to consider whether it is more fun to go to the dark side and just chew people up for sport.........NAHHHHH, it always pays to be nice.

nah, it's more fun to inject interesting barbs of snark, don't you think?

[TriSigmaNC]

Gotta love Princesse.

Any non-Greeks that are here have questions for your Resident Greek Advisors myself and SKraus?

[princesse]

nah, it's more fun to inject interesting barbs of snark, don't you think?

No. I don't. I do not think it is fun to chew people up for sport and would not participate in it. I would have fun in a silly way, but would not be nasty. I think anyone would be hard pressed to come up with a time where I ever have been nasty to anyone at any time.

[looch]

No. I don't. I do not think it is fun to chew people up for sport and would not participate in it. I would have fun in a silly way, but would not be nasty. I think anyone would be hard pressed to come up with a time where I ever have been nasty to anyone at any time.

Hey, you quoted yourself! Those were your words. If you don't do that, why do you feel like you have to defend yourself?

Anywho, exclusion is nasty. I am puzzled as to why this thread was started in the first place...was it intended to make certain people feel more important by being part of an in crowd and others feel left out? I thought I was done with that kind of behavior in middle school.

[TriSigmaNC]

Nope! It's a GREAT place for sorority women and sorority supporters to come and learn from each other, share experiences and chat for fun!

[looch]

There is already a thread for that...maybe a mod should merge these threads?

Let me bump it up for you!

[princesse]

I think that's a great idea, there are a lot of great things still going on in greek life, a lot of great memories that people have...mine were in a professional sorority, and a lot of laughs that we are being had. Keep up the fun!

[TriSigmaNC]

Thanks for the idea, but they are two different threads. This one is for sorority women and supporters or those who are interested or curious to come into, learn from and join in on the fun.

The other is for ACTUAL sorority women to introduce themselves and make connections with sisters and other Panhellenic, NPHC or local women.

[looch]

I get it, this here is a fake sorority. I don't see why this needed a group thread. Journals, people, journals. It comes across as being exclusionary, which probably wasn't your intention.

[MES in Chicago]

Tracie- I love the activities you have planned. Totally remind me of my days in the house!

[TriSigmaNC]

EXACTLY!
It's so fun watching these young ladies plan amazing activties to recruit non-members. They do those normal 'girly' things like watching Gray's Anatomy, movie-night, etc.

I have one group that even does Paint Your Own Pottery! I currently only have 5 of my 8 groups that have a few spots. They have a big open house for the entire campus next Friday night and we're all so excited.

[ADSigMel]

OMG, I miss undergrad soooo much! I went down for Formal Recruitment last semester and had such an awesome time. If classes aren't looking too crazy next month, I might go down for informal recruitment, too. Fun!

[Rippy1010]

I DEFINITELY can't wait for bowling night ... did you know I used to be in a league before I went back to school for my Masters?! You'll all definitely want me on your team!!! :D

I also can't wait for Grey's Anatomy GTGs. :D


Thanks for making me an honorary member. I have NOOOOO greek experience, and actually avoided greek life to the fullest. So, I will have fun hearing about your experiences!!!

Oh ... so what's the lingo for a sorority sister? Do I get to call you girls my "sorors" now? LOL!! :p ;)

[AttyGrl74]

Trestlegirl and I were the founding members of I Tappa Keg at our small, elite, private college (which was anti-greek). Can we join?!

[MES in Chicago]

Sure AttyGrl74! The more the merrier.

[TriSigmaNC]

That's Hilarous Attygirl normally the Greek Advisor in me would be shocked, offended and irritated, but HA! I love it...reminds me of the 90210 days.

[TriSigmaNC]

Ally
Educational moment: You can call us sorors, but that is typically reserved for historically black sororities. Most local or Panhellenic chapters just call each other sister. So, that would be up to you, but as a Greek Advisor I have been very sensitive not to copy any NPHC (Historically Black Greeks) traditions.

[Rippy1010]

Ally
So, that would be up to you, but as a Greek Advisor I have been very sensitive not to copy any NPHC traditions.

Well, I certainly don't want to ruffle any feathers ;) ;) . So, I guess you'll just be my sister. LOL!!! But, I do have to mention that "soror" sounds much cooler. :D

These little factoids crack me up!

[TriSigmaNC]

Soror is a very cool word, I'll have to look in my Divine Nine (The NPHC history book), and find out the derivation of the word....I guess I could google, but I trust my book more.
So glad I can teach! :)

And just for you and the other Greek supporters, Order of Omega is a national Honor Society for Greeks that have a 3.0, are of Junior or Senior Status and have great leadership skills. It is only for the top 3% of Greeks. However they do have honorary initiates, and my group is about to do their Initiation on Monday.

[mkredhead]

Howdy doo, ladies.

MES issued me a bid, and I wanted to come in and say hello. :)

I loved my time in the house and now serve as president of my local alum association. We also just handed out scholarship apps on Monday. What a great service!

Can we decorate mugs and have t-shirts?

[TriSigmaNC]

Hey mkredhead! Welcome!
That is so great! I'm the President of our Alumnae Panhellenic. We're actually meeting tonight to finalize our scholarship process too :) See the great things we do IRL for college women?

Oh and just a note, for anyone not Greek that is interested, many IRL sororities actually do alumnae initiation. My mom was initiated that way.

Welcome to AKACharlotte!

[savannahgrl]

I wish that I was more involved in our Alumnae association. About 2 years ago, I went and helped with RUSH and that was fun. Do they still call it RUSH these days? I remember they had just started calling it Recruitment Week or something along those lines.

[TriSigmaNC]

GREAT question savannahgrl.
The word Rush was phased out and voted upon by NPC to change in 1992. Yep, I said 1992. It has taken many of our chapters years to convert. But yet, they are now required to call it Recruitment.

You'll still hear the word Rush, but not very common now.

[kdotp]

Oh and just a note, for anyone not Greek that is interested, many IRL sororities actually do alumnae initiation. My mom was initiated that way.

I know you're just trying to be helpful and spread the Greek love, but this statement is just not true. Alumnae Initiation (AI) into a sorority is usually a difficult, long process. I know my sorority does not do alumnae initiation except in the case of absorbed locals. Quite a few other NPC organizations are the same, or only do AIs in very rare cases. And many other NPC organizations have completely changed their policies on AI. I would say there are really only 5 or so NPC organizations who are truly active in Alumnae Association, and each of those organizations has their own policies about how they AI. I know you don't put a lot of faith in www.greekchat.com, but this topic has been discussed to death there, and many members (even ones who were AIs) would say the same thing.

I think it's wonderful if a woman already has a connection to a particular org and wants to pursue AI (as I'm assuming was the case with your mom) or can prove to the organization she would be a participating alumna as an AI, but to lead women to believe many NPC organizations participate in AI is a fallacy.

[TriSigmaNC]

I know you're just trying to be helpful and spread the Greek love, but this statement is just not true. Alumnae Initiation (AI) into a sorority is usually a difficult, long process. I know my sorority does not do alumnae initiation except in the case of absorbed locals. Quite a few other NPC organizations are the same,
I think it's wonderful if a woman already has a connection to a particular org and wants to pursue AI (as I'm assuming was the case with your mom) or can prove to the organization she would be a participating alumna as an AI, but to lead women to believe many NPC organizations participate in AI is a fallacy.

kdopt
Actually you and I are correct and incorrect at the same time. I am correct that many do this and I would be very happy to list each NPC chapter for you that does this (from NPC directly). They are not all very long and arduous, some are simple, some are complex. You are correct that there are some organization that do not do this.
I would be happy to talk about those organization that do this for any women interested, but thanks for being educational in here :)
And as a member of the Association of Fraternity Advisors, GreekChat is not a viable source of education for fraternities and sororities, yet a fun place (sometimes) for Greeks to connect.

[savannahgrl]

GREAT question savannahgrl.
The word Rush was phased out and voted upon by NPC to change in 1992. Yep, I said 1992. It has taken many of our chapters years to convert. But yet, they are now required to call it Recruitment.

You'll still hear the word Rush, but not very common now.

I'm curious, what was there reason behind changing it? I think I like the term RUSH better. :)

[TriSigmaNC]

I am not 100% sure, but talk around that time was that it was a word that brought about many negative connotations and actually inferred women 'rushing' to make decisions. Sounds a little silly IMO, but it was phased out and rarely used in NPC groups. Now in local and IFC groups that's a different story.

[kdotp]

kdopt
Actually you and I are correct and incorrect at the same time. I am correct that many do this and I would be very happy to list each NPC chapter for you that does this (from NPC directly). They are not all very long and arduous, some are simple, some are complex. You are correct that there are some organization that do not do this.
I would be happy to talk about those organization that do this for any women interested, but thanks for being educational in here :)
And as a member of the Association of Fraternity Advisors, GreekChat is not a viable source of education for fraternities and sororities, yet a fun place (sometimes) for Greeks to connect.
I know quite well which NPC organizations do and do not participate in AI. The NPC may state an organization does AI when in reality, it is extremely rare within that organization. With the assistance of an active alumna who know the right channels, yes, the AI process can be expidited. But generally (and I know many, many AIs who would agree with this) it is a long and difficult process. And, as AI is really a part of membership selection, neither you nor I know exactly how each individual NPC organization goes about it.

I realize, as a message board, GC is not an official voice for Greek organizations, but it *is* an informational resource for many -- active members, alumni, PNMs and non-Greeks. Instead of ignoring or discrediting it, the Association of Fraternity Advisors should be working to improve it. It could be a very valuable tool.

[wendalah]

I was in a sorority, but it was really for the boys and parties. What I mostly remember about my greek days is wanting to be the skinniest girl on earth and living off frozen yogurt and vodka.

[greenbunny]

I'm a member of Phi Beta Kappa, Lambda of Pennsylvania, does that count? It is somewhat of a grandparent to the current Greek system, after all.

[TriSigmaNC]

Sure does greenbunny!

kdotp
Thanks for your information, it is noted. Do you work in my profession?

[TriSigmaNC]

This thread is specifically for the positives, not negatives related to sorority life.
Thanks!

[wendalah]

Boys, vodka, and parties are negatives?!

[lml41981]

This thread is specifically for the positives, not negatives related to sorority life.
Thanks!
How can you educate people on Greek life if you don't address the positives and negatives? Besides, who determines what is positive or negative? Address the dark side...I dare you.

[princesse]

Boys, vodka, and parties are negatives?!

LOL!

[wendalah]

I did get a little too thin during my sorority days. But, on the plus side, I managed to score the cover of our Greek magazine's annual bikini issue, which raised my self-esteem.

[Rippy1010]

Welcome to AKACharlotte!

HI STACEY!! :D

[dionysia]

Soror is Latin for sister.

Di

[AttyGrl74]

*waving birds of paradise in Greenbunny's general direction*

[TriSigmaNC]

Soror is Latin for sister.

Di

Yes you are correct on that derivation. Thanks for posting :)
However in the GREEK world of fraternities and sororities, it is typically only used in NPHC (Historically Black and Latino organizations).

[TriSigmaNC]

I would be HAPPY! To address the negatives in an educational thread about them if you'd like or you can PM. I did my masters thesis on hazing and effects of alcohol on organizations and the individual development of those students.

I could also point you to a book called "Courtney's Legacy" for you to read :)

[Rippy1010]

I would be HAPPY! To address the negatives in an educational thread about them if you'd like or you can PM. I did my masters thesis on hazing and effects of alcohol on organizations and the individual development of those students.

I could also point you to a book called "Courtney's Legacy" for you to read :)

Oooh, oooh ... can I blow your horn for you, Trace? :D If you don't mind, I mean. :o :p You were on an AM newstalk show, too ... but I had to miss it, because I was at work and couldn't set my darn DVR to record it. I'm still mad about that ... all these years later!

:D :D

LOL! I'm so proud of our sorority's president!

[wendalah]

Oooh, we got hazed. Nothing really bad. I also got yelled at for making out with an ATO in public while I was a pledge.

(Musing) Hmm...don't know how they are nationally but the ATOs at 'SC in the early '90s were really hot. The surfer-boy types. Ah, memories.

[dionysia]

Yes you are correct on that derivation. Thanks for posting :)
However in the GREEK world of fraternities and sororities, it is typically only used in NPHC (Historically Black and Latino organizations).

Fair enough, I was just answering your question about the word origin.

Though if we were being strict about a Greek org using a Greek word, it would be adelphi. It's harder to determine gender based on the word adelphi, since it can also apply to brother (see Philadelphia), whereas in Latin you have separate words for brother & sister (frater & soror).

I am always frustrated when web searching for Greek gifts, I end up with results for sorority t-shirts instead of worry beads.

Di

[Rippy1010]

Oooh, we got hazed. Nothing really bad. I also got yelled at for making out with an ATO in public while I was a pledge.

(Musing) Hmm...don't know how they are nationally but the ATOs at 'SC in the early '90s were really hot. The surfer-boy types. Ah, memories.

What's an ATO and why were you yelled at?

[Rippy1010]

Though if we were being strict about a Greek org using a Greek word, it would be adelphi. It's harder to determine gender based on the word adelphi, since it can also apply to brother (see Philadelphia), whereas in Latin you have separate words for brother & sister (frater & soror).


I like that thought process on Adelphi. I would like to use that word. ;) Plus, since I'm from a suburb of Philadelphia it fits well for me. LOL!

[dionysia]

ATO = Alpha Tau Omega
Says the woman with pretty much no knowledge of the Greek system. ;)

My first boyfriend was in KDR.

Of course, I went to what could be described as one big sorority, an all-women's college. :D

Di

[TriSigmaNC]

I am always frustrated when web searching for Greek gifts, I end up with results for sorority t-shirts instead of worry beads.

Di

Great thoughts. That is honestly one major reason our field has asked schools to switch from saying Greek to Fraternity and Sorority. I am always so respectful to students who honestly think I am here to organize things for their Heritage. Sorry kids....would be nice, but no. Most offices around the country have made this change, but many are slow to change (like my office and I've made this request at least 3 times).

[TriSigmaNC]

Oh....and speaking of adelphi, if anyone is an ADPi come on in and feel free to educate us on that word :) They are the oldest social sorority, and their magazine is even called Adelphi. Their symbol a lion.

[dionysia]

I like that thought process on Adelphi. I would like to use that word. ;) Plus, since I'm from a suburb of Philadelphia it fits well for me. LOL!

Philadelphia does literally mean "City of Brotherly Love."

I've always liked the fact that Greek has 3 words for love: philia, agape, and eros. Each word describes a different kind of love. Philia is affection for, agape is romantic love, and eros is sexual love.

Di

[dionysia]

Great thoughts. That is honestly one major reason our field has asked schools to switch from saying Greek to Fraternity and Sorority. I am always so respectful to students who honestly think I am here to organize things for their Heritage. Sorry kids....would be nice, but no. Most offices around the country have made this change, but many are slow to change (like my office and I've made this request at least 3 times).

It's even more confusing when the college org called 'Panhellenic' has nothing to do with Hellas. ;)

Di

[dionysia]

All this talk of Greek makes me hungry.

Maybe I should start a poll:
Gyro vs Souvlaki?

Di

[TriSigmaNC]

YOu should you should! ok...totally off topic, sorry.

My favorite Greek Restaurant ever is the Mad Greek in Lawrence, KS....their hot feta dip is to die for. No good Greek food in NC, that's for sure.

[dionysia]

Hot feta dip? Weird, I would think the feta would get all gloppy.

I like saganaki (flaming cheese).

Flaming cheese. Hee hee.

Oh, back on topic. Amherst had secret fraternities while I was in college. Not exactly like Yale's Skull & Bones, but unofficial chapters of national groups afaik. I forget when Amherst banned fraternities.

I know that Alfred (Dionysios' alma mater) banned fraternities and sororities about 4 or 5 years ago after an alcohol-related death. The college renovated the old houses.

Di

[lawyerlee]

So, wait. What is this for? :confused:

It's a made up sorority? Umkay. I thought there was already a whole thread for that stuff.

[kam]

Oh, back on topic. Amherst had secret fraternities while I was in college. Not exactly like Yale's Skull & Bones, but unofficial chapters of national groups afaik. I forget when Amherst banned fraternities.

It was in the mid-80s ('86?). A lot of fraternities on campus blamed the fact that Amherst "regretably" let women in so interest waned.

[TriSigmaNC]

Exactly kam. That school is used as many a case study.

lawyerlee
This one is similar but different.

[dionysia]

lawyerlee
This one is similar but different.

Huh? :confused:

So SBG isn't a real sorority?

What does it stand for then? Silly Bints Gabbing? Shoe Buying Galore?

Oh, I could have fun with acronyms.

Di
(is it Friday yet?)

[savannahgrl]

Di- I think it is cool that you went to an all-women's college. I had a scholarship to one and ended up not attending. I've always wondered what it would had been like.

[princesse]

SG, probably a lot like CC!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[dionysia]

Di- I think it is cool that you went to an all-women's college. I had a scholarship to one and ended up not attending. I've always wondered what it would had been like.

I loved it. So much that I spent 5 years getting my degree. Ok, that's not really why I was there for 5 years (leave of absence due to illness pushed out my graduation year).

Di

[dionysia]

SG, probably a lot like CC!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey, that even rhymes!

Di

[Sophia]

Huh? :confused:

So SBG isn't a real sorority?

What does it stand for then? Silly Bints Gabbing? Shoe Buying Galore?

Oh, I could have fun with acronyms.

Di
(is it Friday yet?)

Actually, it's SCG and I've heard it stands for Snarky CC Girls/Girlies.

[lawyerlee]

Actually, it's SCG and I've heard it stands for Snarky CC Girls/Girlies.
Ah, so it all comes together. Interesting.

[TriSigmaNC]

Ok MEMBERS!
What's the question/topic of the night?
Any suggestions?

[Sophia]

Correction: it's Snarky Chatter Girls

[Rippy1010]

Ok MEMBERS!
What's the question/topic of the night?
Any suggestions?

Was there a final decision on colors yet? :p

[Aimee]

Actually, it's SCG and I've heard it stands for Snarky CC Girls/Girlies.

But that doesn't make any sense. Isn't snark the exact opposite of positive sisterhood feelgood fuzzies and greek education?

[TriSigmaNC]

Ally
I think Leopard print and gold and black pretty much.

Oh and just for you hon....I was published (book) this year too!

[Rippy1010]

Actually, I have four REAL sisters (not of the sorority variety, but actually blood) ... and I've found that sisterhood always has a little snark in it.

But, that's just my family. :D

[princesse]

Not when it was done all in fun....

[lawyerlee]

Not when it was done all in fun....
Yeah, cause inside jokes are fun for everyone!

[TriSigmaNC]

Ok....moving on! :)
Leopard print letter shirts? I Like that idea....could be really cute.
I have never sported animal prints, but would be willing to go for it.

[Rippy1010]

Can we have animal print bags, too? Like someone was mentioning somewhere else. You know ... the b-word bags with the letters on them.

[dionysia]

But that doesn't make any sense. Isn't snark the exact opposite of positive sisterhood feelgood fuzzies and greek education?

I don't know, I feel pretty good when I snark.

But then again, I might not have the highest self-esteem in the world.

Di

[wendalah]

But then again, I might not have the highest self-esteem in the world.

I do. I pledged a really good house.

[TriSigmaNC]

I LOVE those bags, I have one at home. It's so freaking cute.
We have so many little couture fun shops here that could make things like that. All of my girls have them and matching headbands, but they are great southern sorority women :)

[Rippy1010]

I LOVE those bags, I have one at home. It's so freaking cute.
We have so many little coture fun shops here that could make things like that. All of my girls have them and matching headbands, but they are great southern sorority women :)

Well, if I'm allowed to vote, then I vote on bags DEFINITELY! :D

[lawyerlee]

I do. I pledged a really good house.
I've never felt the sense of longing because I didn't as strongly as I do today. :( I guess I'll have to hitch myself to your wagon. If you'll have me, of course.

[thedoorchick]

I LOVE those bags, I have one at home. It's so freaking cute.
We have so many little coture fun shops here that could make things like that. All of my girls have them and matching headbands, but they are great southern sorority women :)

I believe the word you're looking for is couture.

[greenbunny]

In all seriousness, what's up with trashing the rooms of pledges? I'm not keen on snuggling up to people who wreck my shit. I remember friends who rushed getting everything in their rooms covered in glitter--all their clothes, in their shampoo, in their books, in their beds. It got tracked all over the dorm and in our belongings, too. You'd think if we didn't want to rush, we shouldn't have to clean up after it.

[lawyerlee]

You'd think if we didn't want to rush, we shouldn't have to clean up after it.
Wait: there are people who don't want to rush? I thought the only two groups were girls who get a bid and girls who want one but get rejected. Interesting!

[TriSigmaNC]

lawyerlee
You're too funny girl. How's your weather by the way? And speaking of houses, still contemplating things here.
Knowing you though, you'd want a monogrammed brief case, not a bag :)

[TriSigmaNC]

I believe the word you're looking for is couture.

OH! Thanks :) :) :) :)

[PG-rated]

Oh, back on topic. Amherst had secret fraternities while I was in college. Not exactly like Yale's Skull & Bones, but unofficial chapters of national groups afaik. I forget when Amherst banned fraternities.
I've heard through the grapevine that they still have the secret chapters. My frat had a co-ed chapter there that has re-emerged as an underground all-male chapter. Which is too bad, because they were a great co-ed chapter, or so I hear.

When Bowdoin banned its Greeks, we lost our chapter there, and we thought about trying to continue initiating members through other chapters, but the administration's ban threatened any student who initiated a secret society of any kind with expulsion, even if the organization didn't actually exist on campus, so it was too risky.

[TriSigmaNC]

PG-rated
That is truly interesting. I have actually presented nationally to many schools and conferences on the topic you're stating about, underground or unrecognized fraternities or sororities. It truly is a world of it's own. I haven't heard of many that have been co-ed and then gone into just one gender. Sort of happened at a school in NH, but eventually the men just formed a sorority that was separate.

And the topic of expulsion for participation is one that is very hot right now. Much study being done on the legalities of that within public and private schools.

[dionysia]

You have a problem with glitter, greenbunny? :mad: :p

At my college, we do something called "Elfing" where a sophomore is paired up with a first year and acts like kind of a "Secret Santa." Leaving her gifts, 'decorating' her door, etc. We also have "Disorientation," which I guess is as pranky as we get. My senior year, we (the seniors & first years from my dorm) went over to Smith and hung a banner on their front gate that said "Smith was my safety school."

Di

[greenbunny]

You have a problem with glitter, greenbunny? :mad: :p


Yeah. I have this weird quirk where I don't like tiny chunks of metal getting in my underwear drawer and chafing my ass.

[TriSigmaNC]

Wow, no glitter here friends ;)
Our bags will be embroidered and monogrammed, not glittered. Not our style.

[jesvet]

You haven't lived until you've sported some animal print. As an ACCENT, of course, unless you're Fran Drescher. It can be done.

And it has to be the right animal print. No cow patterns. ;)

[greenbunny]

So what's the deal with that? Really. I can't wrap my head around the point of it.

[PG-rated]

I haven't heard of many that have been co-ed and then gone into just one gender. Sort of happened at a school in NH, but eventually the men just formed a sorority that was separate.

And the topic of expulsion for participation is one that is very hot right now. Much study being done on the legalities of that within public and private schools.
Personally, I feel it's very anti-1st amendment, but IANAL, so I'm sure there's case law upholding it. I'd love to see it overturned, though.

As far as the co-ed becoming all-male thing goes, my society has a weird history, in that we were all-male, then several chapters went co-ed, which led to a split within the national and the creation of parallel organizations under the same umbrella. Amherst was one of the chapters that went co-ed, but the underground chapter was revived by the son of an alum, and of course his dad knew it as an all-male, so the son followed suit.

[TriSigmaNC]

jesvet
That would be new to me, but I'd lean upon my sisters to help me experience new things :)
For some reason I just never have been partial to them, even an expensive shoe or bag.

[TriSigmaNC]

PG Rated
Any possible chance it's Kappa Delta Phi nas?

[MLA]

Oh and just for you hon....I was published (book) this year too!

Wow. That's really cool. What was your book about?

[TriSigmaNC]

Our official motto: Be kind...everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

[TriSigmaNC]

Let's chat tonight about a Philanthropy. Since that is one of the MAJOR tenets of being in a sorority (the others are: Leadership, Scholarship and Sisterhood).
I know HPV is a really hot topic right now here and IRL. Other thoughts?

[MLA]

Let's chat tonight about a Philanthropy. Since that is one of the MAJOR tenets of being in a sorority (the others are: Leadership, Scholarship and Sisterhood).
I know HPV is a really hot topic right now here and IRL. Other thoughts?


I know all about philanthropy. I raise money pretty much all day. Good times. Is that what your book was about? If so, I'd really like to read it.

[TriSigmaNC]

So far I've gotten PM's about:
HPV
Heart Disease (so very important)

[MLA]

So far I've gotten PM's about:
HPV
Heart Disease (so very important)

Really? People are PM-ing you with suggestions? That's weird. Why wouldn't they just post suggestions here in the thread. . . :confused:

Well, I have a suggestion for y'all (as a SUPPORTER, here) -- how about anorexia and bulemia -- Wendalah brought up a good point earlier in the thread about the pressure to be super thin.

[TriSigmaNC]

MEMBERS---would You like to make suggestions? This is for you, so suggest away :)

[thedoorchick]

MLA - I think that's a terrific suggestion. Hope you're taken up on it.

[wendalah]

I can answer some questions about eating disorders, if you want.

[MES in Chicago]

Strokes, my grandma died this fall from one and I really don't think she had any idea she was having mini strokes for over a year.

[April1234]

LMAO

http://www.thebabywearer.com/forum/images/smilies/lurk.gif

[TriSigmaNC]

We're going with Heart Disease :)

[MLA]

MLA - I think that's a terrific suggestion. Hope you're taken up on it.
Thanks!


I can answer some questions about eating disorders, if you want.
That would be great. Can you tell everyone what the early signs of an eating disorder are?


We're going with Heart Disease :)
What are y'all doing with Heart Disease? Will you be raising money for it? Because that would be awesome. I'm sure a lot of the CC girls would like to contribute to the cause.

[lawyerlee]

lawyerlee

Knowing you though, you'd want a monogrammed brief case, not a bag :)
Thanks for thinking of me, but this really isn't my cup of tea. You girls have fun, though.

[Rippy1010]

Sorry ... I couldn't get online last night (family drama).

As you know, I definitely would've voted on HPV. But, I'll roll with Heart Disease. :p ;) What's next on the HD philanthropy agenda? :D


But, I do want to say that I really like our official motto. Do we have a mission statement or something like that?

[TriSigmaNC]

Ally
We'll take a MEMBERS only vote on those two, how about that? :)
Members: HPV or Heart Disease, or both? :)

Updated to here

[Rippy1010]

MY MEMBER VOTE: I'll go with both! (b/c HD is important to Tracie, and HPV is important to me. :D )

[lml41981]

Our official motto: Be kind...everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

What a nice motto when SCG originally stood for Snarky Chatter Girls..
Potential names for our sorority:
Chi Chi Beta (CCB= Constant Chatter Bitches)
Sigma Chi Gamma (looking for greek letters...SCG=Snarky Chatter Girls)
Beta Chi Beta (BCB=Best Chatter Buddies)

Methinks Beta Chi Beta would have been better.

[TriSigmaNC]

Moving on.......:)

I'm sure akacharlotte would like HPV too.

[savannahgrl]

What a nice motto when SCG originally stood for Snarky Chatter Girls..


Methinks Beta Chi Beta would have been better.

Obviously, this was a joke and they were poking a little fun AT THEMSELVES. Have these girls ever been bitchy on this board? I don't believe that any of them have been anything but fun and friendly. It was a slow weekend on the boards last weekend and they were stuck at home sick or holed in because of the weather. They were just having fun, so please move on.

[dionysia]

I'm sure akacharlotte would like HPV too.

Well, that's not very nice.

Di

[Rippy1010]

Well, that's not very nice.

Di

She didn't mean it the way it came out. :p I knew what she meant to say. ;)

[dionysia]

Well, I'm not a MEMBER (what's with the all-caps, anyway?), but I think the topic of how to educate college students about HPV and the new preventative shot (Gardasil) is a worthy topic.

I think that having someone with HPV speaking about her experience could be very powerful.

Di

[MES in Chicago]

AMEN savannahgrl!

I would have to say if it was Heart Disease we should focus on women's heart disease as women don't think they are a likely canidate for it when it is one of our top killers.

[MLA]

Have these girls ever been bitchy on this board? I don't believe that any of them have been anything but fun and friendly.

Ummm . . . at least one has been pretty unfriendly on this board -- as well as on others, though she managed to delete most of the unfriendly posts. So the idea that they wanted to be "Snarky Chatter Girls" isn't so far out there. Guess I was wrong, though. My mistake.


That said, you girls have fun discussing IMPORTANT topics like heart disease and HPV. I'd love to learn more. And as I said, I'm sure lots of CC girls would be happy to donate to the cause. That's what you're doing, right? Philanthropy? Or was it purses? I'm confused.

[TriSigmaNC]

di
No need to take offense, that is for one of our Members who is very interested in HPV. We know each other very well. She's a member and would want it to be our Philanthropy.

[dionysia]

di
No need to take offense, that is for one of our Members who is very interested in HPV. We know each other very well. She's a member and would want it to be our Philanthropy.

None was taken. I am always amused when people phrase things in a way that implies something totally different than what was intended.

For example, a company whose careers page I visited recently had the tag line: "Back in grade school, some people used to make fun of the smart kids. We hire them."

:eek:

Di

[thedoorchick]

So what's the philanthropy exactly? If it's a fund-raiser, I'm sure the more people who participate, the better. After all, the MEMBERS' donations will only go so far.

I'm happy to do my part for a good cause. :)

[TriSigmaNC]

MES
Alpha Phi nationally has Heart Disease as their philanthropy and I Love that so much. They actually have a Red Dress Ball coming up very soon :)

[TriSigmaNC]

So what's the philanthropy exactly? If it's a fund-raiser, I'm sure the more people who participate, the better. After all, the MEMBERS' donations will only go so far.

I'm happy to do my part for a good cause. :)

We've started our group and have:
Colors
Motto
Flower
OH--we need a jewel

And we're choosing our philanthropy. Just like a real sorority which most of us are in. It's for fun.

[ADSigMel]

For jewel, I nominate mystic fire topaz. I'm obsessed with it these days! ;)

http://pictures.kyozou.com/pictures/_2/1411/1410643.jpg

And I think that, since the Alpha Phis have heart disease covered, we should focus our attention on HPV.

[TriSigmaNC]

Wow, that's quite pretty. Mystic Fire Topaz.....wow.

[thedoorchick]

Sorry, I was probably unclear. My question was really, what are you doing with the cause of choice? Chatting about it? Or doing something to benefit it?

'Cause that's what philanthropy is, after all. ;)

[TriSigmaNC]

thedoorchick
At this point chatting, but we haven't appointed a Philanthropy Chair yet :) Maybe we really could do something about it. Many of us have been spreading the word on CC and other boards about HPV already and having some great discussions about it.

[wendalah]

So....:confused: you already belong to a sorority, but you are making one up for fun and choosing its elements for fun? Like, kind of playing the game of LIFE and naming your husband and kids when you get them in your car?

[Rippy1010]

phi·lan·thro·py (f-lnthr-p)
n. pl. phi·lan·thro·pies
1. The effort or inclination to increase the well-being of humankind, often by charitable aid or donations.
2. Love of humankind in general.
3. Something, such as an activity or institution, intended to promote human welfare.

I know personally that I'm already doing # 3 which is "an activity to promote human welfare".

So, anyway ... ADSigMel, I love the mystic fire topaz.

wendalah ~ Ooooh, I love the game of LIFE. Maybe that's why I like this thread. I like playing M.A.S.H., too! :D I personally think T's just doing it because I never got to be in a sorority and I wanna. :p

[princesse]

Isn't that what people do on CC every day? Recall the threads like "Sugar Dadday" and "What is your Perfect Life?" that I, and some of you, posted in. This is a place where people come to blow off steam and people do it in different ways. Honestly if there is a problem with one person, let it die with that one person. Although some stuff on here is silly and rollyoureyes goofy, no one else has started other threads to mock (if in fact that is what they were for.) But maybe it was just for whoever to blow off steam, so I'll just eat those words and leave it at that.

I really like CC and find it so unfortunate when something comes up where folks are nastified to one another.

[TriSigmaNC]

Ally
GREAT post hon :) You sure are doing that.
I love it!

The t-shirts my sorority women got say on them "Talk To Someone".

[Rippy1010]

Ally
The t-shirts my sorority women got say on them "Talk To Someone".

Are they black with a little "talk bubble"?

[TriSigmaNC]

Yep! Just like on TV.

[ADSigMel]

Aww, that's cute.

[TriSigmaNC]

Ok, ADSigMel
What other things can we do with that jewel, you're obsessed huh? I'd love to see more jewelry with that :)

[mb1197]

Ok, I'm totally confused by this thread. Is it MEMBERS only or for everyone? I saw that MLA repeatedly asked TriSigmaNC about the book she said she published only to be ignored with the following post directed at "MEMBERS". So what's the deal? Seriously, I'm curious. The "MEMBERS" are already in real sororities, but are now joining a made up one eloquently titled "Snarky CC Girls" but then claiming to be interested in philanthropy. Huh?:confused:

[Rippy1010]

Yep! Just like on TV.

I'm curious ... how did they come about getting them? Can you just call up the "oneless" HPV awareness organization, or did they get them some other way? I've looked online and can't find anything about getting the shirts.

[TriSigmaNC]

Ally
NPC (National Governing body for sororities) sent each of my chapters a packet that had the t-shirts, the workshop description and a CD to look at. So very nice isn't it.

mb
If you have an interest in our group you're welcome to PM me, if you're not interested, that's fine too! Thanks for being curious.

[mb1197]

mb
If you have an interest in our group you're welcome to PM me, if you're not interested, that's fine too! Thanks for being curious.

What do you mean "I can PM you"? Why can't I simply post here in the thread as so many others have done and ask my questions?

[greenbunny]

Ok, I'm totally confused by this thread. Is it MEMBERS only or for everyone? I saw that MLA repeatedly asked TriSigmaNC about the book she said she published only to be ignored with the following post directed at "MEMBERS". So what's the deal?

Good question. I asked a serious one, too, and apparently have my invisibility cloak on.

[mb1197]

Good question. I asked a serious one, too, and apparently have my invisibility cloak on.

I know. That's why I'm wondering what's going on here. Public board, public thread, why can't I ask questions along with everyone else?:confused:

[TriSigmaNC]

I was trying to design a bag and it I couldn't copy it.....will keep trying.

[greenbunny]

I know. That's why I'm wondering what's going on here. Public board, public thread, why can't I ask questions along with everyone else?:confused:

It's cool, though. With my newfound invisibility I can fight crime and save puppies.

[TriSigmaNC]

greenbunny
I must have missed your question. Cool, saving puppies is so much fun!

[greenbunny]

greenbunny
I must have missed your question. Cool, saving puppies is so much fun!

I wanted to know if you had any insight on hazing policies and the psychology of wrecking people's stuff before "accepting" them (whether formally or informally).

[MLA]

I wanted to know if you had any insight on hazing policies and the psychology of wrecking people's stuff before "accepting" them (whether formally or informally).

Would you ask my question, too, since I'm being ignored? I really do want to know about TriSig's book. Thanks!

[mb1197]

greenbunny - I think your invisibility cloak slipped off. Mine still seems to be in place though.

MLA - Your's works well also.

[greenbunny]

Oh, and if you have a synopsis or anything vitae-like of your book, we'd love to hear about it, considering your unique POV in the Greek system. Most of what's available now is, I believe, written by former members, not employees.

[TriSigmaNC]

I wanted to know if you had any insight on hazing policies and the psychology of wrecking people's stuff before "accepting" them (whether formally or informally).

This question is a little confusing. I think you were referring to the glitter comment? :) Each group is different on how they offer invitations to membership. SKraus can weigh in on this too. Most come to a public forum and hand a girl an envelope and then hugging occurs. That sounded silly but true. Some during an informal recruitment period visit the girls room and may have silly string or even glitter. If some get out of control and ruin a roommates belongings, I would have reported that to the RA or even Greek Advisor to talk about those practices.

[greenbunny]

If some get out of control and ruin a roommates belongings, I would have reported that to the RA or even Greek Advisor to talk about those practices.

Oh, so that isn't one of the standard rituals? I've only seen a few people rushing in person, but it did seem like a big part of it was messing things up. I think the members would get the roommate to give them a key, IIRC.

ETA: So maybe it's a subset of the "secret frats" thing? Unofficial, unapproved practices, maybe?

[jesvet]

I hope everyone's enjoying themselves! Get your digs in while you can.

[dionysia]

I know I'm not a MEMBER, but I nominate the pink tourmaline as the sorority jewel.

They are lovely and fairly reasonably priced, as semi-precious stones go.

Di

[dionysia]

I really like CC and find it so unfortunate when something comes up where folks are nastified to one another.

Nastified? Is that a Bushism? Or maybe a word Stephen Colbert came up with?

Di

[IrishEyes]

I'm not a member, and I know TriSig will answer, but there is some strong beliefs on sororities here, and people making generalizations.

I rushed 14 yrs ago. I received my bid from a third party (my RhoChi, or rush contact) and then showed up at the house to 'sink' my bid. There was no marking/ruining anything in my room. I was not hazed at all during my pledge period. On the other hand, I had a lot of opportunities present themselves while participating in this national sorority (which I now participate in as an alum) and I'm sorry sometimes that greek life is perceived so negatively.

[greenbunny]

The tourmaline is pretty (Google). I worked in jewelry in high school and college and we never had any of this stuff--tourmaline, tanzanite. It's like the industry suddenly just "invented" new stones (which I know makes no geologic sense).

As far as generalizing, I'm only talking about what I personally had to vacuum up. I just wanted to know if that sort of thing was common, since TriSig works with so many groups.

[lawyerlee]

Ok, I'm totally confused by this thread. Is it MEMBERS only or for everyone? I saw that MLA repeatedly asked TriSigmaNC about the book she said she published only to be ignored with the following post directed at "MEMBERS". So what's the deal? Seriously, I'm curious. The "MEMBERS" are already in real sororities, but are now joining a made up one eloquently titled "Snarky CC Girls" but then claiming to be interested in philanthropy. Huh?:confused:
And, if I can be so bold as to spring off of your on-target comment, then have the nerve to accuse others of being nasty. The only point in trying to have this kind of out in the open, yet exclusive click is to get attention. And there is plenty of that going around. I don't think there is anything nasty about giving people what they want. But to each her own, I guess.

[savannahgrl]

I'm not a member, and I know TriSig will answer, but there is some strong beliefs on sororities here, and people making generalizations.

I rushed 14 yrs ago. I received my bid from a third party (my RhoChi, or rush contact) and then showed up at the house to 'sink' my bid. There was no marking/ruining anything in my room. I was not hazed at all during my pledge period. On the other hand, I had a lot of opportunities present themselves while participating in this national sorority (which I now participate in as an alum) and I'm sorry sometimes that greek life is perceived so negatively.

I agree and had the same experience as you. No hazing, no glitter or messing up one's room, etc. It was a great experience all around.

[PG-rated]

greenbunny - I don't come from the same POV as TriSigmaNC, but I've found that most chapters have their own traditions surrounding bids and treatment of pledges. My next-door neighbor in my freshman dorm pledged Psi U, and when it came time to give out bids, he stored a lot of his stuff in my room for the night, because apparently trashing the room was part of their bid process. But I doubt it happened at other chapters.

As far as hazing goes, most Greek organizations have tried very hard to crack down on anything dangerous, with mixed results. In my organization, we've never had much of a problem in the co-ed chapters, but the all-male chapters have largely done away with the pledging process altogether, because they found it was the best way to stop hazing. Now they pretty much go straight from Rush to Initiation. My chapter has "voluntary hazing," which is basically directed by the pledges in terms of boundaries and even ideas (one of my friends asked to be kidnapped by ninjas in a public place), and we don't do anything involving alcohol.

[greenbunny]

(one of my friends asked to be kidnapped by ninjas in a public place)

I'd totally sign up for that! Ninjas or pirates, either is fine.

Sounds like my experience is the exception to the rule. Why am I not surprised it would be me? *shakes fist at the sky*

[PG-rated]

I'd totally sign up for that! Ninjas or pirates, either is fine.
We're pretty big on both ninjas and pirates - they didn't have National Talk Like a Pirate Day when I was an undergrad, but I know the current undergrads always participate. And we threw a Pirate Party my senior year, so we were ahead of the trend. :)

[kdotp]

Yes, many of the Groups on CC are exclusionary in the fact only people interested in that subject (specific states/locations, religion, political views) post there. But this group was created solely to be exclusionary and "private" which just smacks of middle school. CC is a place to have fun, but as someone suggested, an LJ group would have probably been a better venue. For real, we all know how that isht went down on WC with the snark and the bitches and the boo hooing.

FWIW, each chapter at various schools do bids differently. Some do the whole glitter/posters/balloons brouhaha and some do very little. I had to miss my bid day due to marching band, so all I got was an envelope on the desk in my dorm room. I had a wonderful experience in my organization as an undergrad, am proud of my sorority affiliation and remain an active alumna today.

[AttyGrl74]

Ooh, oh, oh! Can I be kidnapped by Johnny Depp in his pirate outfit?

[dionysia]

Ooh, oh, oh! Can I be kidnapped by Johnny Depp in his pirate outfit?

Sure, just leave Orlando Bloom for me.

Di

[villanelle75]

Re: hazing

I had a friend who had to stand in her underwear in front of all the memebers. They took a Sharpie and circled all of the parts of her that were "flawed", writing notes on her flesh in permanent ink ("tits too small", "disgusting here", "giant and flabby").

Very PHILANTHROPIC, no? I wonder if her sorority's philanthropic focus was eating disorders.

[skraus75]

I would concur with some of what was stated above regarding hazing. Spreading of glitter or trashing of a room is something I would consider hazing. It not something any inter/national fraternity or sorority would condone. One of the sororities where I went to college used to collect their new members keys and then leave candy all over their bed. Again, although this seems minor and not destructive, it's not something that would be allowable under inter/national organizations policies or most universities policies against hazing. I would also add that I know plenty of non-fraternal groups that do similiar things -- college bands and athletic teams sometimes haze their newest members as well. Actually, anyone truly interested in learning more about hazing should check out Hank Nuwer's book Broken Pledges.

[savannahgrl]

Re: hazing

I had a friend who had to stand in her underwear in front of all the memebers. They took a Sharpie and circled all of the parts of her that were "flawed", writing notes on her flesh in permanent ink ("tits too small", "disgusting here", "giant and flabby").

I've only heard of this type of hazing happening way before my time in college. I've heard that exact hazing story. I would had walked out. Did your friend do it? :eek:

[villanelle75]

Actually, anyone truly interested in learning more about hazing should check out Hank Nuwer's book Broken Pledges.

Is "Hank Nuwer" TriSig's nome de plume?

[pocket]

Re: hazing

I had a friend who had to stand in her underwear in front of all the memebers. They took a Sharpie and circled all of the parts of her that were "flawed", writing notes on her flesh in permanent ink ("tits too small", "disgusting here", "giant and flabby").

Very PHILANTHROPIC, no? I wonder if her sorority's philanthropic focus was eating disorders.

Yeah I knew two girls who went through this horrible degrading ceremony too! I think it was pretty common. A lot of Greek hazing seems really bdsm and homoerotic to me.

ETA - or at least the stuff they were doing at Cal in the 90's which was, admittedly, a very long time ago.

[villanelle75]

I've only heard of this type of hazing happening way before my time in college. I've heard that exact hazing story. I would had walked out. Did your friend do it? :eek:

She was actually a coworker during my college years when I had a sumemr job at a kids day camp. Anyway, she was a nice girl but really shallow and kind of a snob. Beautiful, though. She was in a bunch of rap music videos. Things like hanging out with the "best" people appealed to her, and apparantly this was the "best" sorority. She did do it.

[Regina Phalange]

This thread cracks me up. One pot calling the other kettle black constantly. Interesting.....

[cynder]

Yes, many of the Groups on CC are exclusionary in the fact only people interested in that subject (specific states/locations, religion, political views) post there. But this group was created solely to be exclusionary and "private" which just smacks of middle school. CC is a place to have fun, but as someone suggested, an LJ group would have probably been a better venue. For real, we all know how that isht went down on WC with the snark and the bitches and the boo hooing.


Can I get an AMEN?

[MLA]

This thread cracks me up. One pot calling the other kettle black constantly. Interesting.....

Who's the pot and who's the kettle? I just want to be sure I know which side I'm on. ;)

[savannahgrl]

villanelle- I don't think that type of hazing happens much anymore or has in the past 10 years.

BTW, I hope that your other friend who was in the hospital is doing better.

[greenbunny]

I'm neither pot nor kettle. I'm a little teapot, short and stout--which is why I'm in the Weight Watchers thread.

[lawyerlee]

She was actually a coworker during my college years when I had a sumemr job at a kids day camp. Anyway, she was a nice girl but really shallow and kind of a snob. Beautiful, though. She was in a bunch of rap music videos. Things like hanging out with the "best" people appealed to her, and apparantly this was the "best" sorority. She did do it.
Wow, dude. So what flaws could anyone possibly point out about her body?! :eek:

I hope most girls who rushed had much better experiences. Annecdotally, that seems to be the case, but sometimes it makes you wonder when you hear stories like that one. :(

[Regina Phalange]

Who's the pot and who's the kettle? I just want to be sure I know which side I'm on. ;)

That's the part that cracks me up. You're both....along with everyone else.

[villanelle75]

villanelle- I don't think that type of hazing happens much anymore or has in the past 10 years.

BTW, I hope that your other friend who was in the hospital is doing better.

It might be quite uncommon but this was 9 years ago, I think. Certainly I don't think all sororities are this way (my mom and sister are both in sororities) but I think these things do happen. It's a mindset I just can't begin to udnerstand. Who would subject themselves to that, just to join a club, no matter how exclusive? And after having been subjected to that humilation yourself and knowing what it was like, how could you participate in infilcting that on the next group to pass through?

Thanks for your good wishes for my friend.

[lawyerlee]

That's the part that cracks me up. You're both....along with everyone else.
But you're above the fray, I suppose? Riiiight.

[Regina Phalange]

But you're above the fray, I suppose? Riiiight.

Didn't say I was above anything. Just been reading along and observing. :) I'm just the cook on the side watching the pot and kettle go back and forth.

[mkredhead]

I too heard that Sharpie story when I was in college. We didn't haze in our house. There was incident when I was a pledge where an active came home drunk and acted like an idiot to the pledges. She was brought up before our judicial committee.

I never felt uncomfortable or judged in the sorority rushing process. There were some houses I liked and some I didn't. Likewise, some people liked me and others didn't. Ehhh, that's how it is every day.

[lawyerlee]

Didn't say I was above anything. Just been reading along and observing. :) I'm just the cook on the side watching the pot and kettle go back and forth.
Fair enough. :)

[villanelle75]

So we have cook, a pot, and a kettle. Hmm. I wonder who the teabag is?

(Which brings to mind one of the best SATC episodes ever!)

[Regina Phalange]

So we have cook, a pot, and a kettle. Hmm. I wonder who the teabag is?

(Which brings to mind one of the best SATC episodes ever!)

Haha! I watched that episode last night.

[MLA]

That's the part that cracks me up. You're both....along with everyone else.

Dammit. I want to be one or the other (kettle preferably, since I like tea). I need to be able to IDENTIFY with a GROUP. I'm eiter a pot, or I'm a kettle. I can't handle being both. I need to belong! I need to belong!

[kam]

We have one person saying they're a teapot, another wondering where the tea is; okay people - what is your obsession with tea? What do you have against coffee? Hmmmmm????

[thedoorchick]

Coffee - blech! I prefer Starbucks skim chai lattes.

[AttyGrl74]

I lost my Starbucks card today (and it was set up for automatic reloading, so it probably had $25 bucks on it).

Can I be the Philanthropy today?

Pitch in to get Atty a Venti Caramel Light Frappuccino, no whip, extra caramel!

[greenbunny]

I'll gladly drink coffee, as long as it's 3/4 Bailey's.

[MLA]

We have one person saying they're a teapot, another wondering where the tea is; okay people - what is your obsession with tea? What do you have against coffee? Hmmmmm????


First off, coffee's more ladylike than tea. Second off, we don't want to support the oppression of indigenous peoples throughout the world who are forced to harvest coffee beans for next to no pay -- that wouldn't be very philanthropic.

Personally, I could go for a nice chai right now.

[jennylou]

We've received quite a few reports on this thread. It is going to be locked - it may be temporary, or it may be permanent depending upon what the mods and admin team decide upon, but for now, we're locking it.

Thank you for understanding.