Single, No Kids, The Group!

[maxandmolly]

The relocated singles group is here! I think we're doing one for those of us that are single, another for single with kids.
So, single, no kids? Here's your new home!

[maxandmolly]

(Shameslessly swiped from another group thread :p )
Question of the Day:
Where do you find guys to date?
Online?
At the bar?
At work?
The bookstore?
In your dreams?

[Zelda Von Yitz]

Most of the bars/clubs I habituated when I was a single single are now closed. So, now I have to find new places to play:D and it's tough when you're mid30s+ and up, because out here most of the clubs and bars are geared to those waaay under 30. It's like an amateur drinking night in those places and quite frankly, I don't want to spend my Friday and Saturday nights out in a kiddy bar.

The few places left for the mid30s+ crew are way way out from here -- 35+ mile drive -- or it's relatively close BUT very high priced and high end. We're talking $4 for a friggen diet coke!

I'm thinking of on-line dating.

[maxandmolly]

Try myspace.com. It's a completely free site, not dedicated solely to dating. You can search by age, location, and what they're looking for (friends, dating, serious relantionships) etc. I noticed when I was doing my boy shopping, that there were quite a few guys a little older than the average 22 year old surfer dude. You end up with a few more freaks than average, but again, it's FREE! I found my current BF there, and the disaster before him, too.

[mkredhead]

I've been divorced about a year and have just recently decided to see what's out there.....it is weird to find people. I work all the time, which I love, but it really limits my opportunity to meet folks outside of the ol' work environment. My best friend convinced me to set up a profile on match.com. We'll see about that! :)

[Katy]

Glad to see you guys got your own site. I'll go delete the other one :D

Be sure to post this site in the other single/divorced site so we can start separating the two (we actually have the ability to pick and chose out of the posts where to re-post them).

[jaeger]

I'm here! Single, no kids, and in my 30s. After years of being in an on again/off again relationship, I'm back to the dating game. I thought I would be married and on my way to starting a family by now, but it hasn't happened. Hopefully it's because I haven't met the right guy yet.

[imagirliegirl]

I'm single, no kids also. I hate the dating scene. I've met 2 guys in bars (disasters) and a few guys online (freaks). Sometimes I think there are no decent men out there.

I second MySpace though, also Friendster. Both are free and you never know. I have a made a friend or two from those sites.

[Raven_Girl]

Single no kids.
I don't relaly date anymore....just can't trust guys right now.
Okay need to get to bed.
Night.

[maxandmolly]

Trust is definitely a difficult thing! My first date with the current boy (after a couple weeks IM, and several very long phone conversations), we met at a restaraunt, in keeping with internet dating rules, told a friend where I was going, etc. We had a great time, and it was hard, trusting that I could date someone without necessarily getting hurt, you know? I was riding in his car. He paid for dinner. I've had such lousy luck with men that those were both fairly new experiences (yes, sad, I know!).
So, Question of the Day (well, for tomorrow at this point!):
Do ALL men run screaming when they find out you're past 25 with no kids, because they assume you're in a giant hurry to get married and have babies?

[Raven_Girl]

I've done that but then i get all shy and then won't go meet them. I freak out most of the time. I'm always thinking something is going to happen. Not like they will hurt me physically but more like emotionally.

Trust is definitely a difficult thing! My first date with the current boy (after a couple weeks IM, and several very long phone conversations), we met at a restaraunt, in keeping with internet dating rules, told a friend where I was going, etc. We had a great time, and it was hard, trusting that I could date someone without necessarily getting hurt, you know? I was riding in his car. He paid for dinner. I've had such lousy luck with men that those were both fairly new experiences (yes, sad, I know!).
So, Question of the Day (well, for tomorrow at this point!):
Do ALL men run screaming when they find out you're past 25 with no kids, because they assume you're in a giant hurry to get married and have babies?

[jaeger]

I am finding that now, in my 30s, I find it a bit harder to trust, and I have my guard up a lot. I go on a blind date every now and again but I hate them. I had a personal ad on Match but I never dated anyone from there. Maybe it's too soon for me. Hopefully I'll be in another relationship someday, but for now I am ok.

[annie_girl]

Another single, no kids, 30-something....

Do ALL men run screaming when they find out you're past 25 with no kids, because they assume you're in a giant hurry to get married and have babies?

Seems like for me, they run away screaming when I say I've never been married. They're like "What? Why not? Something wrong with you?" And I'm like ME?!? But now that I have an engagement under my belt :rolleyes: I guess I'm not all that scary. :rolleyes:

I was telling my aunt (a non-Christian) a few months ago about my criteria for meeting men, they must be Christian, non-smokers, like cats (since I have 3) and she stopped me and told me I was being too particular and that if I ever wanted to get married I wouldn't put my future husband in such a small box.

I was like what the heck, are you saying I should just settle for any ol' guy JUST so that I can be married, and then be miserable for the rest of my life? I was shocked she said that. This is actually my mom's brother's wife, and she got married for the first time at age 35, had a child at age 40, and now is pretty miserable (she's almost 50). Pretty weird. I'd rather be single the rest of my life than be miserable!

[jaeger]

I'm with you, annie girl, I am not going to settle just for the sake of being married. If I find someone I want to marry, then fine. But if I don't, I'm not going to freak out about it.

[maxandmolly]

I've gotten a little of that 'what's wrong with you, you've never been married' thing, too. Like they just can't believe I stayed single rather than marry one of my many, many Mr. Completely Wrong's.
I would rather be single and miserable than married and miserable. At least single and miserable, I don't have to put up with anyone else's misery.
On the other hand, baby fever is gripping me HARD. I'm afraid my hysterical uterus will eventually cause me to make a stupid-er than normal decision.

[Elizabeth]

Coolness! Great thread! I can feel so overwhelmed with all the marriage and babies on this site and WC! But I guess that's my own fault! ;)

Another SNK here! I am a 26-year-old soon to be divorcee. On the flip side, AnnieGirl, I feel really weird telling people I'm divorced b/c I'm so young. But I haven't gotten any negative reactions from it. Most guys don't seem to care. Some even think it's a plus b/c it means that I know more about what I want in a relationship.

[jeepgirl]

Hey, what happened to this thread?! I just found it, and I want support too! :D

[maxandmolly]

Yeah, we need to get this one going again!
Anybody have any new dating horror stories to tell?

[kugrrly]

single girl checking in!!!

[Elizabeth]

I would love to tell some dating horror stories, but I found that when you Google my e-mail address, this site comes up! So I am very un-anonymous on here! Maybe once the cache is cleared I'll be back to tell stories. I don't know how often Google clears their cache. Not very often.

[kugrrly]

I tried doing that and it did not work for me.

[Elizabeth]

It's b/c I originally filled in how people could message me on MSN messenger on here. I erased it, but it's still in Google's cache. I really hope it gets updated soon!

[maxandmolly]

Found a new, fairly busy (as in, lots of emails already- 1 day in!) FREE online dating site:
www.matchdoctor.com

[kugrrly]

I will have a glass of wine and investigate that site! :)

[maxandmolly]

Careful now! You sure you really wanna go there PWI?

[kugrrly]

makes for an intersting evening! ;)

[maxandmolly]

True. But it may not attract the kind of guys you're looking for.....

[kugrrly]

oh no no no it will not!!!!

[maxandmolly]

There's www.craigslist.com for that kind of guy! Have you been over there? The freak factor is VERY high!

[kugrrly]

no freaks for me!!!!

[maxandmolly]

Then I would stick to matchdoctor- reasonably sober. A glass of wine may be good for you, though.