Anyone else sad to leave a message board?

[DiscoDiva]

I've been a member of *another* message board for years now, and I considered the girls there my friends, and it was such a great place to be. The board has undergone so many changes lately that it is no longer a home for me. I've been patiently waiting for things to get easier, for the bugs to get worked out, for things to get back to the way they were. But now I'm realizing that the old boards I knew and loved are gone forever. It's so sad. I've finally decided to go over there and delete all my posts and my username forever, since it just doesn't make sense to try and hang on any longer. But it feels like a part of me is missing.

Is this feeling dumb since it's only a message board with few people I've ever met or spoken to in real life? Does anyone else feel this way? Is anyone still hanging on, hoping it will get better?

[LDS Angel 19]

I would venture to say that a lot of us probably feel that way. To a lot of us it's more then 'just a message board'. It's where we have met great friends and made tons of memories.
For me, the timing of the switchover was about the worst it could be. It really added to the feeling that nothing in my life was ever going to be the same.

I don't go there anymore, but I probably won't have my account deleted.

I do miss 'the way things used to be', but being here at CC comes pretty close to filling the void.

[LeslieR]

I actually like it here waaaaay better, so, nope, not sad here, but I can understand why some would be sad.

Good luck getting your account deleted-I've been waiting for 2 weeks now to get mine deleted. :rolleyes:

[gayle]

I was originally VERY sad, and also quite angry. But I have to say it has passed, and for me, the best of what I loved about that board is now here at CC, so I can't be sad any longer with such a nice place to visit.

Another chance to thank Katy and Richard for what they have given us here :)

[KristyK]

Ditto what Gayle said! :D

[udsweetpea]

I'm very sad and disappointed because it seemed like "home" to me. But this site is so much better.

Is anyone able to see any of the threads over there now? I'm trying to get to my journal to move it all over here, but there's no threads anywhere!

[Zelda Von Yitz]

I see zip. I saw 'em for a second and then when I refreshed, gone.

[DiscoDiva]

You know what's getting to me the most? The spam! There are vendors posting all over the place - and it seems like TPTB don't even care. It's changing from a message board for a community to an advertisement.

Today was the final straw - I posted a message asking for photographer's help, expecting the people there who are known photographers and are always ready to give others advice, and instead I get replies from 2 new posters who are professional wedding photographers that *say* they are on there to give advice and help others. :rolleyes: Thanks, but no thanks.

Thank you Katy and Richard for the CC!!!

[nylons73]

You know what's getting me the most? (sorry if this is turning into a 'vent' and not an ES post) but I have pm'd the 'admin' every week asking for my username and posts to be deleted. They ~finally~ got back to me and said that I am 'in line' to be deleted but that THEY WILL NOT DELETE ANY OF MY POSTS!!!! WTH?????? They said it would disturb the intergrity of their boards or some such nonsense. THAT IS TOTAL BS! :mad: :mad: :mad:

Ok- whew- It felt good to get that off of my chest. I don't much care if my posts remain there or not, but there are pics of me and DH that I don't want over there any more. I had to go in manually and 'edit' every post that I wanted erased. Not a fun way to spend a morning.

[lml41981]

I had to go in manually and 'edit' every post that I wanted erased. Not a fun way to spend a morning.
Geeze...how were you able to get into some of them? When I try to search my posts so I can delete any photos and some stuff I realized I posted that I want removed, I can't access the post. I don't know the thread it was posted in or anything.

[hub1176]

I'm really sad that my journal is over there - can it be moved?

[GeekGirl]

I joined this board and the other board around the same time...I couldn't understand why people were so upset about the other board over here, but after a scant few weeks I can say without reserve that I TOTALLY GET IT!

[Zelda Von Yitz]

Now I just sadly scratch my head.

We've got disappearing boards and posts that come and go, it seems, in a blink of an eye. You post and you get odd error messages like "number of replies in this thread: -1" or flat out java gibberish. And now you cannot start a thread at all.

[maplekitty]

I think what made me the most upset is that I'm not typically a person that keeps a journal very well. I never really did the diary or journal thing as a kid, I tried having an online journal before but my attention span is so short I never updated it. The other side was the first time that I actually stayed in one place for a long period of time and continued to journal. I made friends, I read other people's journals, they read mine and I got *involved* in people's lives...if only online, but who cares, it's still real. Because we write very personal and real things that many of us wouldn't want to say in RL. I was *pissed* that it happened mere months before my wedding, after I had invested countless hours of my time building my journal with stories and pictures. Even Curt knew it was my special place and that I was "addcited" so to say. I'm semi-journalling on LiveJournal, but it's different, and I want to keep CC journal for Newlywed things...so still a couple months to wait for that. A part of me feels lonely...lonely and sad missing some of my journal friends who are still back there and havn't made the switch, sad for the fact that now I have to jump back and forth to three different sites to catch up on everything. Online conversations are a part of our society, as much as telephones integrated it's way into people's lives and homes. thankfully we have a new and growing community that is holding true to the fact that it doesn't matter where it is, it's who it's with. I could be on an astronomy site for all I care, as long as my online friends are all here and we're having a good time :)

[Sazoo]

I've been trying to hang onto my newlywed journal over there, but it's getting harder & harder. I have pretty much learned the new format & how to navigate around the site, so it's not a learning curve issue. I just don't like it. Plus, there's so little activity/conversation going on there anymore so it's like visiting a ghost town when I try to go browse in, say, NWCC. Also all of the random technical problems they've continued to have since the changeover are quite annoying. This whole weekend I've had trouble getting into my journal there, & finally after a lot of effort I figured out a way to do it but then couldn't find some other threads because it said they didn't exist! WTF?

I've begun a journal here on CC & plan to start it up on a full-time basis soon. I'm sorta waiting for my one-year wedding anniversary next month, because for some strange reason I feel like the "right time" to retire my WC newlywed journal is after my anniversary when we're not really "newlyweds" anymore, per se. :rolleyes:

Anyway, yes it does make me sad to see the old site fall apart like this. I mean I love CC, but I just have such fond memories of my WC days (both pre & post wedding). It's also hard because some of my journal buddies have chosen to move to LJ for journaling now, while one or two are still on WC & others are here. This means I'm trying to keep track of people on 3 different boards, which is time-consuming & sort of a PITA. WC is rapidly becoming the one I check the least often, though, so I'll bet pretty soon it'll be off my radar almost completely. :(

[mb1197]

When the change first happened I definitely didn't like it. I tried to give it some time, but it hasn't gotten any better. I noticed less activity on the boards and finally got curious about this site. I posted on that site for years and felt like it was a great place. Not anymore though and that does still sadden me a bit. However, this site is great and I do recognize many names and such so it's been a comfortable transition. I don't feel like I've lost touch with everyone because so many people seem to have moved over here.

[greenbunny]

So if you do get your account deleted, will all your posts be deleted, or will they stay? I don't think I'll be going to all the trouble to get it deleted if it won't make my posts go away.

[houseblend]

I totally hear you Disco. It's been very hard for me to leave, too. At first I still lurked over there waiting for it to improve. Over time I am lurking less and less. It is sad because I spent 3 years over there. What makes it harder for me is that I have been on a lot of other message boards and none of them were ever able to match up (CC aside). The women there (now here) are just so intelligent and compassionate.

Watching what has happened over there is like seeing a best friend completely change to where you no longer mesh. You want your old friend back....but, at some point you realize you have to let the friendship go. Very fortunately there is a new friend (CC), but I totally hear you about letting go.

[emmjay]

I'm not "sad", per se, but I do want to get rid of my travel thread over there since I probably won't be using that board anymore (and all of the pics are gone anyway). I was thinking about just going and editing the posts so they aren't there anymore, but then all of the posts from other people will just be hanging around in the thread. I suppose I can make a journal over here and transfer most of the info/pictures.

Overall I don't have a problem with transitioning over to this site - I was never really an active or well-known member of that community so CC is virtually the same for me, you know?

ETA - I can totally understand why people are upset and sad, though. I have frequented another message board since around 1998 and even though I don't post too much there either, I would be really bummed if something similar happened there.

[nylons73]

So if you do get your account deleted, will all your posts be deleted, or will they stay? I don't think I'll be going to all the trouble to get it deleted if it won't make my posts go away.

greenbunny - The way that the admin put it to me was 'your account is in a line, waiting to be deleted. Your posts will NOT be deleted as it will orphan some threads, yada, yada, yada. " I have no idea what they're basing this on as they have been very happy (previously) to remove people's whole existance from those boards with one fell swoop!

I just went in one morning, and edited every post (that I remembered about) that I felt was too personal. I left everything that I wasn't worried about. Big time waster to say the least!

[Zelda Von Yitz]

Isn't there some way to extract certain threads and keep them on the boards, even if the person who began the thread has requested their membership be deleted? Just curious...

[HeatherFL]

I too was a member of that other message board for almost four years. The women helped me through health scares, cheered me on when I was to give speeches, receive awards or run marathons. They supported me throughout the hardest times in my life--to include my divorce. They were truly friends.

I am saddened by what happened over there and I do miss it. But I am also so happy to see many familiar faces here on CC. :) I hope more ladies from that other place ;) make the move over.

Heather from WC

[isign]

Dh and I were talking about the other day. I had never been on a board till that one. I was more active after we got married, and really formed some great friendships. I've gone though some really emotional times since I've been online and my journal buddies really helped me get through them. I was really mad at TPTB for changing what felt like home to me. I still have a journal there but I can't even get into it, which is so frustrating. I love CC and am very thankful to Katy & Richard, but I feel like I moved away from home.

[Mindy3094]

I was disappointed at first but decided to wait it out and see if I "got used to" the new changes. However, after not being able to get onto the message boards for 5 days now, the disappointment turned to anger and I brought my journal here. Now I still can't get in to post and let my other journal buddies know I'm over here. Ugh--maybe the self destruction of the board is in process and that is why I can't access it. I just have this feeling that when it is back up, then *poof* all of the NW journals will be gone.

[Zelda Von Yitz]

That site has been down a day and a half. Not promising if you ask me; I think the boards are gone completely.

Nice -- what if you want to access your registry or you want to go look up somebody else's?

[Irish Elf]

OK, lack of sleep is making me snarky so I apologize in advance.

I'm sitting here laughing b/c when the mass exodus to the promised land (aka CC) began, there was a thread on the board that shall not be named questioning how long CC would last. Umm, longer than the other one did?! ;)

Doing a happy dance over here. See me move. Oops, fell.

[mel7dog]

I was sad a first because I had been on there for so long and everything was so familiar. Once I realized all the people I liked best had left I figured there was so real reason to stick around :)

I think WC made a huge mistake. Maybe they were trying to get rid of all the married people, but I will be a key planner in several of my friends wedding in the future.

I am also kinda bitter on how poorly they handled the changes and cutomer service.

PS: I am glad it happened how because CC is so much better :D:D

[pocket]

Actually I'm still reeling. It all happened so fast. One day I was plowing along happily checking in every now and then and posting and feeling guilty about not keeping up with my journal and the next day it was all over. 3 years I was on the other boards and now it's gone. CC is great, don't get me wrong. I really love it and it reminds me of what the other place was like when I first started posting. But it was just a big part of my life. It's hard to move to a new place and get married. I think a lot of us feel that way, and this sort of helps. Not that it takes the place of RL girlfriends, but they are real friendships and real relationships. It was all the components of having a great tight group of girlfriends - drama, gossip, fashion advice, practical advice, emo support. I feel sad, that's all. :(