Husbands and Weight Watchers

[ambula704]

Hi all,
I am about to start Weight Watchers again (yay) after losing weight years ago and then again right before my wedding. I have gained some back since I have stopped going and know I need to start up again. My question is, do any of you have husbands or SO's that go to WW with you? I have about 25 pounds to lose and my husband only has about 15-20, but I know if he went to the meetings with me and learned the program we would both lose alot easier!!

I have brought up the idea to him and he said "Men dont go to WW" but I know they do, I have seen them there. However, since he is tall and doesnt have to lose alot of weight, I know he will feel weird. He is semi-interested, so I am just trying to think of some ways to get him there and let him know its normal.

I guess the main reason I want him there is for support (not that I wont get it if he doesnt) but it will make cooking, eating out, exercising, etc so much easier if we do it together. I dont care if he loses a pound-even though I know he will since I really stand behind the program! But thats not what this is about...

Any advice on how to get him to go? Anyone else in this situation? Any lucky gals out there doing it with their men??

Thanks!

[greenbunny]

I do WW online and DH has been enthusiastic about following along with me. He likes to use the formula and figure it all out manually, it's almost like a "gadget" to him. Maybe you'd be willing to try online with him, then see later if you can merge into meetings?

[ambula704]

Greenbunny-
Thanks for the advice! Thats great that your husband is so excited about WW. I have talked to my husband since my post and I think hes going to go with me! I didnt have to talk him into it after all!

Good luck to you!

[Katy]

My husband wouldn't consider doing WW with me (but he did do Atkins with me before the wedding). I've noticed though, that he's losing along with me since I'm the one cooking and measuring dinner portions and he's eating skinny cow treats instead of higher cal, ice cream treats. I'd think that your husband will pretty much lose along with you unless he has crazy eating patterns when he's not with you (like at work).

And FWIW, we have 3-5 men (all ages - young to OLD) at my meeting.

[Anna Low]

My husband loooooves WW. Why? Because I cook dinner almost every single night. Before WW, it was grab whatever. The food is healthy and after I measure out my portion, he gets the rest. Because I don't have to cook 2 meals, it has helped me stay on track.

He is not at all into attending the meetings. He thinks they are great, but just not his thing. But, when I got my lifetime, he went along because he was proud of me. It was sweet, but I could tell it was painful for him.

[emmjay]

My husband does WW with me as well - we have both joined a few times in the past 6 years. He was a bit hesitant at first but he wanted to support me and he needed to lose a few pounds as well. Now that he is familiar with the program, he is totally enthusiastic about it because he knows it works and is a healthy way of eating.

This time I go to the meetings but he doesn't (he hates the meetings). We are both doing Core so he doesn't have to do a lot of counting. Also, like others said - even if he didn't want to, he has to do it by default because I do all of the shopping and cooking!

I actually have a funny story about my husband and WW - when we first joined, we both attended the meetings. We each lost 5lbs the first week so we got up in front of the meeting and got our bookmarks. This meeting had about 3 or 4 people who had a little group - they were talking beforehand about how they never count points any more, they gain weight every week, etc. etc. They seemed like they were just at the meeting to socialize. Anyway, they started bitching when we went up to get our bookmark (Oh, must be nice... 5 lbs in one week, it's just water, that will never happen again, blah blah). Total sour grapes.

Then the leader asked us what we thought about the program after the first week. So DH looks straight at the little group of people and says, "It's easy IF YOU ACTUALLY DO IT"! They all started muttering and harumphing to themselves and giving us the dirtiest looks imagineable. When we left I said, "Um, I guess we're never going to THAT meeting again, huh?". ;)

[ManteoChik]

Count me in the group.

My SO and I started together just about two years ago - actually it was his idea, he thought it would be a great way to keep each other motivated. He had a few pounds he wanted to get rid of and so did I. At first, I felt really uncomfortable because I'm not overweight at all and neither was SO. I wanted to lose about 10-15 pounds (and get more tone) and SO wanted to lose a little more than that.

At first it went great, he lost about 30-40 pounds and I lost about 15. We both became lifetime and I stuck with it for a while. After a while I got really bored and quit...be he kept going. We still eat WW for all of our cooked meals, and he still follows points but I've slacked a lot. (Although the past couple of months have been crazy and we really haven't followed it other than dinner) In fact, I gained most of my weight back so I'm thinking about getting back in gear.

There was only one other man in our meeting group...but we're in FL so honestly, its mostly women over the age of 50. That's one of the reason's I felt uncomfortable because most people would look at me and say that I'm little, but it was personal for me. A lot of the women gave me strange looks when we started.

[udsweetpea]

I'm doing the meetings, and SO is interested in the program but it would be too big of a drain on our budget if we were both going, so I teach him what I learn in the meetings.

[wildcat]

DH and I joined WW in Aug03. However, I use "joined" loosely! A friend of mine was going to the meetings and losing weight and tought me about it and I bought the books on ebay and DH and I got started, on our own. However, having eachother was the best support to have! By Dec03, DH had lost 80 pounds and was at goal, and I had lost 30 pounds and was at goal.

We maintained for about a year until we got pregnant and then it's been a free for all since then (and DD is now 13months old!). Once I was finally done BF and we were back from our DD-free vacation, we re-committed ourselves to WW on 10/23/06. So far we're both down about 5 pounds (1.5 weeks).

We want to start TTC #2 a year or so from now, but I want to be at goal before then (I had actually gained 15 pounds back before getting pregnant with DD which was still in my healthy range, but not as low as I'd like to be and I want to start this pregnancy out at goal so I don't have to fight pregnancy weight along with overeating weight while BF).

We've never felt we needed to attend meetings as we keep eachother accountable. I keep a notebook where I write down our points each day before dinner and then at the end of the night, and we also keep track of our FP's and WI's in the notebook. We usually treat ourselves to 1 meal out a week where we have something one or both of us have been craving (burgers/fries, Mexican, pizza, etc). Also, I think the expense of paying for meetings for the 2 of us would be a bit much and I don't think there's any way I could get DH to go to a meeting. And, like some of you have posted, I am fairly small, just not at my personal goal, so I'm afraid people would look at me strange.

Good luck to everyone!