Is my DS a "Mama's Boy"?

[Sebski]

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[abbytfox]

Seb Thanks for starting this thread! So sorry I don't have any ideas, but can totally relate to what is going on. We have the same kind of thing going on over here. I actually do think it is just separation anxiety, but they say that now is when it is at its peak (and we can probably both attest to that!) Elliott will actually be having an ok time playing with my mom or DH and then if I walk into the room he immediately starts whining and complaining. It is really hard. I will cuddle him for a little and then give him back to whoever he is playing with even if he protests. I am going to subscribe in hopes of learning from someone who has already gone through this!

[Toonces]

You are doing absolutely nothing wrong, and I hate to say it, but it is separation anxiety and totally normal for him to behave that way. The comments made by your FIL are unnecessary and would totally irritate me, too.

Our DD went through this at 10 months, and then again around 13 or 14 months, and hasn't gone through it again.... yet. I think it lasted for 3-4 weeks the first time and only a couple of weeks the second time. She wouldn't go to my DH, my mom who she sees regularly, or any of the moms in a play group that we go to regularly. My dad tried to tell me that, at 10 months old, DD was trying to manipulate me. :rolleyes: What.ever.

I believe that the more you assuage their fears and go to them when they need you, the shorter the separation anxiety episodes will last. I did what you did and took her whenever she wanted me, and it was very, very hard being the only person she'd go to.

What did help a little bit was for me to tell her when I was leaving the room or the house. She eventually understood that when I left, I always came back. It wasn't always easy to leave the room, but sometimes you have to take a shower or pee. :)

Hang in there. It is a phase and it will pass eventually. I know how trying it is to go through that. DD is 22 months old now and could care less where I am. :)

[Lvella43]

We're right there with you! DS is very much a Mamma's Boy. I'm so tired of hearing "he's just great until Mom is around" or "oh its JUST Mom, stop whining". Ugh. The comments get old and make me feel like I have to sneak around to be out of the room entirely as well; it sucks.

[Traciann]

i think its sepration anxiety. no worries, it will pass soon enough.

[solongtogo]

Defintely seperation anxiety. He's too young to be classified as a mamas boy anyways...if he's still clinging to you when hes 14 years old, then you need to worry :)

[NYN]

my DD went through this at exactly ten months BUT she only wanted her dad. now THAT is painful, lol.

[jmvan74]

I have to agree with previous posters. Separation Anxiety. ;) We went through that, too. Now DS is usually only like that when he doesn't feel well. It'll get better, hang in there.:)

[Sophia]

Yep...sounds like separation anxiety to me, too.

[Koala_Gurl]

Yep, same as everyone else. DD is still a "momma's girl" a bit, but nothing like it was around 9 - 10 months. But, now she'll play independently and sometimes cries a little when I leave, but gets over it pretty quickly. She has no problem going to daddy, or the grandparents (though she gets real coy with the grandpas) and even loves some of the other moms in Gymboree.

[LexyLou]

Yup, totally 100% seperation anxiety. DD is the same way and it started right before 10 months.

It totally breaks DH's heart too but at 11 months she's starting to allow him to hold her if I'm around...sometimes.

[Sebski]

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[ktdelsur]

Hey hon. Andrew will be 9 months old this week and is already doing that somewhat. I work full-time, though, and he doesn't do it at daycare. He's excited to see his "teacher" and doesn't care when I leave. I'm sure that will change come Feb/Mar when he transitions to his new "class." At home though - he will whine and cry when I leave the room. Even DH has to say, "She'll be right back...quit that!" and he's usually fine. It helps, when we're home by ourselves sometimes, to talk to him as I'm going about my business in the house so he can hear me wherever I am.

If DH is trying to put him to sleep - I have to leave the room because he will crane his neck around to look at me/smile/clap his hands at me.:D

A friend of mine had *BAD* issues w/ her 1.5 - 2-year-old son a while back, and it went away when, like catgirl, she started telling him, "We're going to big church now, we'll be back in one hour (or whatever)" and after a while he realized they weren't just leaving him there with that stranger "teacher" person for good.

I'm hoping it doesn't get too bad with Andrew. *sigh* we'll see.

[AlisonCO]

I am also thinking SA - your DS is in the prime age for it. My DS had it from 10-13ish months, but DD had it terribly from 6-9 months. My mom told me later that my crazy grandma thought that I should take DD to a pyschologist because it was so bad. For a couple of weeks in there, DD wouldn't even go to DH when I was in the house!!! Truthfully I think that you are doing the right thing by going to him (coddling) when he wants/needs you - this is a hard developmental phase for them and they need to know that you are there. I do hope that it passes soon for you - when DD came out of it, she was a different kid, so happy to be with my family, DH etc. Hang in there!