It's been four years but....

[ShamrockBride]

Ok, so I'm moving to a new apartment soon, and I'm going through some of my old stuff because well lets face it... it doesnt fit anymore.
So it doesnt fit, I havent worn it in four years, and yet I am bawling like a baby because it was the shirt I wore on my first date with FH. Its not even pretty. Its a stupid tee that says "Angels Bakery, A little taste of Heaven" I doubt even if I could ever again fit into a Junior's size medium I would wear it... so why cant I give it up. or the shirt he helped me pick out for my admittions meeting to college, which is NEVER going to fit me again.
I wont wear these so why is it so hard? Why can't I just move on with my life. Would it be so hard if he was still living with me... or do you think that is part of the problem... I feel like such a selfish baby.

[Natasha]

I'm confused...are you and FH no longer together?

[ShamrockBride]

FH and I are together, but he graduated college, and I havent yet, so he moved home to find a job.
I know I'm being very confusing, mostly because I am confused myself. I just need to quit being crazy

[Natasha]

It's not crazy, it's just being sentimental. I have definetly kept things like that. Someday, you can make a quilt or somehting. Who cares if they'll never fit again. i know a girl who made a quilt out of all her old volleyball tshirts and jerdeys. wouldn't it be neat to have a quilt made from clothes you wore while you and FH were "courting"?

[ShamrockBride]

I hadnt thought about that. it makes me feel better. I'm having a down day anyhow, but since I started playing in the christmas wedding board, I've started to cheer up some. I might keep at least one of my shirts, and if not a whole quilt, I might still do something with it. thanks

[houseblend]

I understand. I'm very sentimental, too, so sometimes it is hard to let go of "silly" things. If it means that much to you, though, it seems worth it to keep it. Maybe not in the closet since you won't wear it again but maybe start a momentos box of things that mean something to you. Then when you are missing him or feeling down, you can go through the box to cheer yourself up.

[Cricket4]

I was JUST going to suggest the quilt thing...my mom saved all my brother's old football t-shirts to do that with, and I wish I'd known about that b/c I would have saved all my t-shirts from plays and performances I've done.

If its just the two t-shirts, though, you could also have little kitschy pillows made out of them, or even one pillow with one t-shirt's "middle" on each side. I think that Angel's Bakery shirt would make a darling pillow. You could also use the fabric to cover a scrapbook or something.

[skyblu]

I felt that way with my son's baby clothes. So I kept some of them, but pared it way down. It's sentimental stuff, nothing wrong with keeping some of it!

I've even heard of cutting the T-shirts into big squares (maybe keeping only the part with the inscription, sewing them together, and making a big pillow!

ETA: If I had read all the responses, I would have seen someone already suggested that. Duh!

[sublime311]

You could also save swatches of the shirts to use in a scrapbook. It would be great to have a scrapbook with the pictures and mementos that you and FH have collected over the years - it would culminate with a section for your wedding - the you can start a new "family" or post-wedding edition scrapbook.

[ManteoChik]

I'm sentimental too, and I hate to throw things away because who knows if you might need it/wear it one day...lol. I too have kept things that were "firsts" with BF and me. Like the outfit I wore on our first date, things like that because they are sentimental.

[oceaneast]

Keep it, I'm sentimental about those things also. I still have the outfit I met Jeff in and I'm not throwing it out. (Of course I also want to remind myself that I was a size zero once)

[tinagirl26]

I can relate to this too. Before my last move I was pretty much forced to get rid of things like clothes that don't fit anymore but I was keeping for sentimental value. I was so sad. :( This may sound silly, but what I did to make myself feel better about it was to take pictures of the clothes that I really had a hard time parting with. I figured they could end up in a scrapbook some day. Is that weird? I dunno. I still haven't done a thing with those pics, but at the time it helped me deal with the anxiety over letting those things go.

[Georgiana]

Get the T-Shirt framed -like the way collectors do with collectable jerseys. That way you can have it preserved forever.... have a plate engraved on the bottom regarding the importance of the t-shirt.