TTC 7+ months

[Squee]

Im not really sure where to put this thread so someone can move it if they feel there is a better place.

We have been trying coming up 8 months but Im on cycle 8 already. Silly me thought that golden time of 3-6months would be all it would take us. Now that 7months is nearly over Im really starting to loose hope that anything is going to happen naturally. I know we have another four months to go before we hit that dreaded 1yr mark but because Im loosing hope I feel like its not going to happen naturally.
Are there any ladies out there who got preggo 7+ months on..without any fertility help??

[bunny nose]

It took us nearly two years to get pg. We did a couple of cycles of clomid. But actually got pg onour own 3 months after not using any clomid. There is hope, don't give up faith.

Have you spoken to your doctor about any possible fertility issues? My doctor was very active in us trying to get pg. Sent me for sonograms and what not just to keep checking on things. We did start clomid at around the one year mark. I do have PCOS so that contributed to our problems.

You will probably hear this a million times, but just relax and don't try so hard. That's when it worked for us. We had given up on it happening on its own and was ready to go for a HSG when we found out we were pg. Just enjoy your time with DH and let it be romantic.


Good luck
Karen

[ellidew]

We were ttc for a year. We started charting and seeing what happens (kind of went back and forth) in Jan 2005. We got our bfp at the end of Feb 2006! I charted for the first 2-3 months and i was taking it was too seriously and dh asked me to stop for awhile. Over the summer months I didn't temp but kept a chart so i knew how long my cycles were, knew where in my cycle i was, etc... towards the end of the year i started temping again and was WAY more relaxed about it. Basically dh and i agreed that i'd chart but kind of do it in secret. He felt way too much pressure about the whole thing and i can't blame him since i was very high pressure during the beginning of the year.

We ultimately conceived on a cycle where we used Pre-Seed (for the first time) and we were on vacation so i'm sure we were way more relaxed. I don't know if one, both or neither of those factors led to our bfp but i have a feeling they did!

I know how it feels to be trying for 7 months and still not get a bfp. I remember taking tests out of wishful thinking and always knowing it was going to be negative. I was honestly in shock when i got my bfp because i couldn't even envision that moment in my mind and when it finally happened it was hard to believe.

Nothing anyone can say is going to be able to make you feel better, at least it didn't for me. It did help to know that other people experience the same thing though. Also, i can't count the number of stories i've heard where a couple got a bfp the month before or the cycle before starting clomid or other fertility treatments. I think we stress ourselves out over the whole thing and don't even realize it. Hang in there and i hope you get your bfp very very soon!

[Squee]

Thanks so much ladies, youve made me feel so much better. We havnt said much to the Doc yet so we shall see if he can figure out whats happening.

any more stories??

[Soulmate]

We were TTC for a year and a half (16 cycles). I had at least one miscarriage and two suspected chemical pregnancies all in the first four cycles. Then nothing at all for 12 cycles. I tried clomid for 3 cycles after my miscarriage with no success. I had an HSG and all the testing and everything looked great. DH was never tested though and we assume he was ok since I was pregnant before. The cycle that stuck was my first full cycle after starting acupuncture.

You will probably hear this a million times, but just relax and don't try so hard. I wholeheartedly agree with this *unless* you have a diagnosed fertilty problem. If there is a problem no amount of relaxation will get you pregnant. But the cycle I finally got pregnant I was not even really trying. I completely expected for the acupuncture to take 3 cycles to really start working so we were just BDing for fun when my son was conceived. I am a HUGE advocate for acupuncture especially when you have "unexplained" infertility. When I got pregnant I was also focusing on the other aspects of my life other than TTC. Each cycle with a BFN was just torture and I was tired of crying with each AF and wondering "why me?".

[Jess71903]

Hi Squee

I could have posted your post at the same time you did. I just had my lap, and since telling people about it, I and DH have heard so many stories about people that it took longer than a year to get pg naturally. I hate that doctors give you that dreaded year mark to obsess over. I know it was devistating to me. Like the others said, I am sure that there is very little that will get it off your mind. I know there's nothing that will get it off of mine. Just hang in there, girl!

[Smittenk]

I'm right there with ya Squee. We have now put off TTC until next spring because of travel plans but July was 9 months off BCP and actively trying. I became quite stressed about it in June and figured at that point it would never happen. If it hasn't happened by November 07 (that will be 2 years off BCP) we will be going to the doctors to get some help.

You're definitely not alone :)

[bellabonga]

I have been off the Nuvaring since August 2004 and since then we did not actively "try" for a second child but we just waited what happened. What happened was nothing. So in October 2005 I decided to get some bloodwork done to have my hormones checked. Turned out that I was low on progesterone. Since then I took Vitex and after some serious "trying" became pregnant in March 2006. In late May I found out that our baby´s heart had stopped beating and now I´m again in my third cycle of trying after the m/c. I had again some bloodwork done and it seems that I´m now even lower on progesterone and may be put on Clomid. So, no, you are definitely not alone in TTC for a longer time. If you haven´t so far, you could join one of the TTC groups here. They are really a great source of support. :)

[boilermaker]

I do not have any personal info to add, but I do know that several of my friends have found the Still At IT thread in family planning groups very helpful. It is specifically for those of you trying for more than 6 months. You might want to check it out.

Still At It (http://www.constantchatter.com/forum/showthread.php?t=21322)

[Squee]

Thankyou ladies so much!

I am sortof a member of the SWH thread but have pulled back alot the past month or so. I guess Im not strong enough to see ppl pop and leave a month or so later. Will check out the still at it thread!