My sister and her bf broke up-kinda upset

[LeslieandPaul]

Last year we introduced my sister to one of our friends, who we love. He had never had a gf before. They've been dating for about a year and two months. He has the world's biggest, whiniest b*tch for a sister and she is not nice to my sister-or anyone for that matter.
Last Friday my sister was so fed up she finally spoke to his parents about their daughter's behaviour. Since then things have not been going well, and we haven't even talked to our friend, and my sister didn't want to talk. Well, tonight at about 11, he called FH-they've broken up. FH and friend went out for coffee, and I called my sis-she doesn't sound like she's doing very well, but she feels this is what needs to be done.
I just wanted to be there and give her a big hug! From the sounds of it, she doesn't think them getting back together is very likely. Her now ex-bf says he's not going to come to our wedding, which really sucks. She also told me that in the past he's said that if he ever lost her, he'd kill himself, so she's really worried about him. I'm just so sad right now; i needed to get that off my chest.

[berry]

My sister was also dating a guy who my DH and I (as well as my parents) were really close to. When they broke up we were all so upset, they had been together a while and it was like losing a family member and really good friend.

My sister told me later the best thing was that we were all supportive of her and her decision to break up (even if we didn't all agree with her). We spent time with her, hung out, etc. She said that us being there really helped her.

Anyway, the story has a happy ending b/c her BF came to his senses, made some life changes and proposed to her!

I'm sure it means a lot to your sister to just be a friend to her right now. Best of luck.

[Zelda Von Yitz]

The kid sister sounds rather young and immature.

I beg to differ, though, with your sis: she should have told the kid sister herself that her rudeness and boorish behavior should stop. She shouldn't have spoken to the parents about it -- it's of no avail anyway.

I find this worrisome and horrific:

She also told me that in the past he's said that if he ever lost her, he'd kill himself, so she's really worried about him.

THAT is something she should make his parents aware of. Whenever someone threatens to hurt himself, do not take it lightly.

That's also a way to emotionally manipulate and emotionally blackmail your sis.

[lawyerlee]

It must be difficult to be unable to comfort your sister in person when she's going through such a hard time. But I'm sure she appreciates your support in talking last night.

I would imagine that being friends with her ex-boyfriend is making this news even harder for you, but just try to remember that being friends with someone is a whole lot different than being in a relationship with that person. And even though he may be a very special friend to you, it kinda sounds to me like your sister did the right thing. I obviously don't know the context of his comment about committing suicide, but that sounds quite manipulative to me. :(

[LeslieandPaul]

The kid sister sounds rather young and immature.

I beg to differ, though, with your sis: she should have told the kid sister herself that her rudeness and boorish behavior should stop. She shouldn't have spoken to the parents about it -- it's of no avail anyway.

I find this worrisome and horrific:

She also told me that in the past he's said that if he ever lost her, he'd kill himself, so she's really worried about him.

THAT is something she should make his parents aware of. Whenever someone threatens to hurt himself, do not take it lightly.

That's also a way to emotionally manipulate and emotionally blackmail your sis.

What's scary is it's his OLDER sister-she's 26 and very immature. Since she's never had a boyfriend (until very very recently) she's most likely jealous of their relationship.

He would never try to manipulate her. He is so in love with her, and he's respecting her wishes by not contacting her (although he wrote her a letter and an e-mail, but from the sound of it, he didn't bring this up).

I'm doing my best to be supportive of my little sister (we went shopping together yesterday, and I'm not asking questions-just letting her tell me what she's thinking/feelings when she wants). Her ex-bf visited me yesterday for emotional support and was over last night with me and FH to distract himself. He's suffered depression in the past and is worried about going through that again. I'm hoping that for both their sake, this works out however it needs to.

[Zelda Von Yitz]

Too bad you didn't know a nice guy for the sis...that'd have got her outta your hair.