View Full Version : What do you NOT miss about Life Before Baby?
07-12-2005, 09:20 PM
We all know that a lot of things fall by the wayside once you have a baby. And I'm sure there are a lot of things we 'miss'...in the sense that we wish there was time for ALL of it. I mean, I used to be very into 'cute' outfits and dressing in the latest trends, but now if it's clean, it's cute. And since I'd rather spend time with my DD than on primping, it's fine.
Another thread made me realize there are actually some things I don't miss now. For example, before DD I was pretty much always watching my weight. Salads with fat-free dressing on the side and ice water w/lemon were staples in my diet. Now? I still like salad but give me full-fledged, full-of-fat dressing, and don't skimp on the cheese. I don't have the figure I used to, but for some reason, I don't care.
I don't miss being on a constant diet. I don't miss agonizing over what to wear. I don't miss matching my jewelry to what I'm wearing (earrings? what are those?). Sure, some (most?) days I know I'm a trainwreck by my 'former' standards, and sure, I could stand to lose a few pounds, but so what? I have DD and basically, nothing else matters.
So what DON'T you miss about your Life Before Baby?
07-12-2005, 09:31 PM
ummm, SLEEP is the biggest one! sorry-in my sleep deprived state of mind...i read that wrong.
as far as not missing stuff before babies...the constant longing to have a child!!! it was so ingrained in my head and my kids have filled that void.
i also don't miss the hectic overtime out the wazhoo job that i left-it was a closing on the owner's part...but the 60-65 hour work weeks were killing me!
07-12-2005, 10:18 PM
I don't miss working extra long days at my job. I guess I was just banking the hours for when it would be my turn to check them out. At my place of employment, the non mommy types typically worked longer hours because they "didn't have to run and pick up their kids from day care". :eek: Now it's my turn to go home on time! :D
Honestly, there is nothing that I miss. I kind of miss spending more time in the gym but not really.
I don't miss being self indulgent and more self obsessed, I don't miss having nothing else but my work (which made my work harder to do), I don't miss all the stupid things I worried about, I don't miss spending money on frivolities because I was bored or whatever. I save money now. I have so much more self discipline now that I have my girl.
Everything is better in my life now that I have my baby. She really has given me a reason to live, a reason to do everything. She's just made my life so amazing.
The work hours. I was very driven and focused on my career before I had DD. I've changed completely! I flex my hours so that I'm off every Friday. I leave on time b/c I want to pick up my DD and spend time with her. Probably not the best thing for my career. I work for one of the Big 3 automotive companies. As you know, we aren't doing all that well. Yet - DD will always come first.
I guess I'm a little different from some of you. Sometimes I do miss the cute, trendy side of me. I walk past BCBG and look at the cute outfits, yet I know that I don't need those outfits to hangout at the playground and do finger painting. Maybe I just need a date night with DH to justify buying just ONE trendy little outfit. :D
07-13-2005, 05:47 AM
I don't miss how uninformed or even mis-informed I was about things related to parenting. I don't know if "uninformed" is the right word, but there is just a lot I didn't know before I had kids. Obviously, I didn't know what I was missing because a lot of this stuff you have to experience for yourself before you "get it." I think I'm trying to say that i look back at my pre-baby self and I realize how close-minded I was. "I would NEVER do that when I have kids" was something I'd say a lot. Now that I'm a mom, I could eat some of my words. One example: I used to be uncomfortable with moms who chose to nurse their children well past 1-year. I nursed my DD until she was 13 months old and would have liked to go longer but it didn't work out that way; I was sad when our nursing relationship ended that "early."
I feel like since I had a baby, I have joined a secret club of woman who "know" something that nobody else knows. It's hard to explain, but it's a really neat, nice feeling. I guess I feel grown-up or something :eek:
07-13-2005, 06:55 AM
I dont miss nasty people in public, now that I have a baby, people do kind things hold the door open for me. It's nice. :-)
07-13-2005, 06:57 AM
It is funny how I don't miss alot of things. In some ways I miss that I don't miss them. I kind of hope that in a few years when my son is older and any others we may have are older, that I will start doing some of the things I used to do and enjoy them. Now they are a pleasant memory of another time, like playing with dolls was once fun but I out grew it. Things like eatting out at fancy resturants, going to plays and concerts and getting awsome seats, going away for the weekend with my husband, alone, without a breast pump. These days none of those activies seem to be really worth the expense in time or money, except maybe a weekend away with DH, that would probable be a good boost for me and my marrage, but it is not something I focus on the way I used to. I actually think it is important that I make myself make some time for these things I don't presently miss so that I don't have all my eggs on the mommy basket and find myself with nothing to keep me busy once my child/children no longer want or need so much of me.
07-13-2005, 08:20 AM
I most defintely DO NOT miss the hangovers ;) LOL
It is weird because you think sometimes you miss things and you really dont. My DH has been saying he really wanted to go play pool. He did that regularly before the baby. The other night I told him to go ahead. Zoey goes to sleep at 6 and I was all amped for computer time. He was back a couple hours later. He hated the waiting for a table, then he was tired... basically we are getting old! j/k but it just felt different for him; if that makes sense. We still do a lot fo the same activities the frequency and level of enjoyment varies a lot more now.
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