Mad. DH to sit at kid's table. How should I handle it?

[MrsD108]

A little background. I have been T's friend for 18 years and my daughters and I are in her (2nd big wedding) wedding at the end of the month. I am the only bridesmaid that is from out of state. I have tried to be nice and even though I just received the 3 dresses that need to be alterated within 2 weeks. Her other BMs still have not picked out shoes so I have no idea how high the heel will be and she just told me what shoes she wants my girls to wear so I need to order those ASAP. Even though I will be spending over $1000 to be in this wedding not including travel expenses, I could care less because she has been a dear friend for a long time.
:mad: She just called to tell me that she hopes it is OK but she is sitting my husband at the kids table because he knows my girls and really does not know anyone. I am pretty sure my husband does not want to be at a wedding with over 200 guests and he is the only one sitting with kids without any adults. Would it be pushy to ask her to move him to a table with adults? I know I can not sit with him because the bridal party is sitting at a seperate table but at least he will have an adult to talk to.

[Larissa]

That's weird that she would want to put him with the kids. Maybe she thought he'd feel more comfortable there? Whatever the case, I think you're well within your right to call her and say that you talked to DH and he is very much looking forward to getting to sit some the adults so that he can get to know them better. Besides, the kids probably won't want an adult at their table if it's all other children but him.

[Asha]

She just called to tell me that she hopes it is OK but she is sitting my husband at the kids table because he knows my girls and really does not know anyone.

since she said this, i think it is ok to tell her that your dh would rather sit with other adults. maybe, she thinks by having your dh, an adult, at the kids' table, there will be a free babysitter.

btw, it is a real pet peeve of mine when they separate sig. others for the sake of having a wedding party table.

[kk junebug]

seeing as how you are spending a lot of money to be in this wedding, if there is anyone who can say something its YOU! im sure she wouldnt want to be put at the kids table if the roles were reversed!
i think its totally lame and inconsiderate.

i would totally call her...in a calm fashion of course..and express your concern. where are the other significant others sitting? is there room at the co-workers table? etc. there HAS to be a better way! stick "Aunt So&So" w/the kids! :p

[nooblet]

To me it sounds like she's trying to pass off the kid-sitting duties on your DH. I assume since you say "kids" table they are younger then the teen ages, and need someone at the table to say. "Don't throw the peas at your sister" or make sure they are not tucking brussle sprouts in to the cake.

I would ask to be moved with adults. Even if he does not know anyone the adult converstations will be much more fun for him. Unless he just loves the little ones.

[MrsD108]

Well I called her and asked her to place DH with other adults and she got Huffy with me and said she would figure something out. I feel bad about asking her to do this because this is suppose to be a special time for her but I really can not believe she put him there in the first place.

[kk junebug]

Well I called her and asked her to place DH with other adults and she got Huffy with me and said she would figure something out. I feel bad about asking her to do this because this is suppose to be a special time for her but I really can not believe she put him there in the first place.


i think you did the right thing, OF COURSE the bride would get huffy cuz she probably has to switch around some people on the seating chart...but come on! how could she possibly think you'd have NO problem w/it!
does your DH know?
(yikes my DH would be PISSED if he was shafted like that!)...and i would too!
well i hope your friend can make it happen for you!!

[CLW4KU]

Every wedding I've been in there are two chairs for every person in the bridal party. One for the actual person, and another for their SO. That's another option.

[DisneyGirl]

since she said this, i think it is ok to tell her that your dh would rather sit with other adults. maybe, she thinks by having your dh, an adult, at the kids' table, there will be a free babysitter.

btw, it is a real pet peeve of mine when they separate sig. others for the sake of having a wedding party table.

ITA!

I would call her and ask that he be moved to an adult table. WHo the heck wants to sit with a bunch of kids unless they are your own or your familys kids.

[MrsD108]

DH would be sitting with my 2 daughters but would also being sitting with 5 other kids. My husband is very good with kids but I think it was disrectable to make him sit with 7 kids by himself. If we do get to the hall and he is still being placed with the kids I will not let him sit there by himself because I will not sit with the bridal party but with him.

[Asha]

mrsd - i have also been to weddings where people will make room for another person at the table. once i was placed at a table all by myself with no one else i knew. all my friends and coworkers were at a table together. they all made room for me by just squishing closer together.

[jesseybell]

I can't believe she's doing this! Kids, not adult, belong at the kids table.

Plus, I have only been to one wedding where the bridal party sat separate from their SO's and the bridal party was miserable...its one thing to sit on your own during the ceremony while your SO is in the wedding, it is entirely a different thing to separate them for the whole reception.

[salysaturn]

Weird...why aren't your daughters at the head table? My flower girl sat with us, as did I when I was a fg in my sister's wedding.

I'd ask if he could be moved. We had a few non-family members who didn't know anybody, and we sat them with other adults...we also didn't have a kid table, kids that came sat with their parents.

[BusyBee]

I would have done the same, said that he'd rather sit with adults, and added that he could sit with me, too. I don't think it's too much to suggest that couples sit together.
At first, I thought she was concerned about him not knowing anyone else, but her reaction proves it was just more convenient for her seating chart.

We had a sweetheart table for ourselves, and split the bridal party with their SO's at different tables with other people they'd have a good time with.

[lml41981]

I'd ask if he could be moved.
I'm betting that it is a non-issue now that a) she did ask that be be moved and b) the wedding was six months ago, according to the OP's post in July of 2006.

[Sophia]

I'm betting that it is a non-issue now that a) she did ask that be be moved and b) the wedding was six months ago, according to the OP's post in July of 2006.

LMAO :D

[MrsD108]

I forgot about this thread or I would of come back and updated but still funny that someone posted after all of this time. :confused:
My DH was able to sit with adults in the table in front of us. We ended up only being at the head table for dinner and then after that I was with him the rest of the night.