Multiple Miscarriages Support

[jeggink]

I know there is a miscarriage thread out there, but thought it may be may be nice to have a place where those who have had multiple miscarriages could talk about TTC'ing, testing that has been done or will be done and just in general how things are being dealt with.

I know I am having a hard time TTC'ing after 2 m/c and an OB that doesn't seem to really care that much. Also the fact that insurance won't cover any major testing till after the 3rd m/c.

We have had some testing and I have low progesterone and borderline immune issues that as of now will not be dealt with.

Anyway, hopefully this will be a great place to give and get information.

[Chelsea524]

Just dropping by to say sorry you are having a hard time with all of this. I know there are others going through this as well hopefully they will stop by soon to offer advice and support, I hope you can figure out whats going on and have a successfull pregnancy very soon, best of luck!

[Teresita]

jeggink I am so sorry for your losses. I don't blame you for being frustrated that your insurance won't cover the costs of testing until a 3rd loss. That's ridiculous, especially given that the most recent approach is to test after 2 losses.

I had two m/c's prior to my DD. I had the full battery of RPL tests run after my 2nd loss--I switched doctors to do this since my old one was of the test after 3 losses mentality. All tests came back normal except my thyroid--I had hyperthyroidism/Graves Disease.

Also, I ran into another complication as well. My 2nd loss was at 11 wks, so I needed a d & c and I ended up developing Asherman's Syndrome (http://www.ashermans.org) as a result of the d & c. When I was diagnosed, my doctor told me that I most likely would never be able to bear children. Thankfully, after several months of varying treatments, I was able to get the Graves under control. Once that was under control, I had hysteroscopic surgery with one of the best gynecological surgeons in the world, and he was able to remove all of the scar tissue from my uterus.

Can you switch OBs? After my 2nd m/c I switched. I went through about 4 different doctors until I found one I liked and was proactive enough to suit my needs. Even though it can be a hassle, it is worth it to make a switch to a doctor who listens to your concerns and treats them seriously.

You're not alone in this. I'm sending lots of support your way!

[jeggink]

Chelsea524 Thanks for the support!

Teresita Thanks for stopping by :). My dr told me that my insurance won't cover genetic testing and some of the more complex blood testing till after the 3rd m/c. I probably should have checked the insurance myself though, my own fault. I don't even think he checked my thyroid. He mostly ran these blood tests because "I was so worried", Uggg. What blood tests did your dr run for RPL? I think we did ANA (borderline), IGG (-), IGM (-), anticardiolipin antibody test (+) and progesterone at 7 DPO.

I just entered the 2WW and am starting Prometrium on Friday evening. I am also taking a baby asprin right now just in case. Not sure if I will continue with that. I have been seriously thinking about switching drs. I have had 2 D&C's now so I hope I don't develop something like that! Thanks for the support! I hope this thread eventually may help other women going through this!

[mia's mama]

Hi Jeggink,
I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. I had 3 M/Cs before DD, and we finally figured it out that they were likely due to low progesterone. I started taking prometrium 3dpo the cycle that DD was conceived, and she is now 19 months. :) My progesterone was tested during the 4th week of my 3rd miscarriage and it was only 7.4 (not enough to sustain a pregnancy) and although I started prometrium that day, I m/c'd a week later. With DD (and on Prometrium prior to implantation) it was tested during the 4th week, and was 24.5, which my doc was thrilled with. With my current pregnancy I got pregnant the cycle before we planned to actively TTC. I did not start the prometrium until my BFP, and I was pretty scared of another M/C. My progesterone at 5 weeks ended up being 44 though. I continued the Prometrium anyway, for piece of mind.

I hope it works for you! My SIL went through the same thing with her first 2 pregnancies, and is now preggo with #3. She is a naturopatheic doctor and totally believes that it was a low progesterone issue that caused the M/Cs in her case (I know there is some controversy as to whether some M/Cs are a cause or a result of low progesterone).

Best of luck and Babydust to you!
~Stacey

[Teresita]

jeggink I don't know where my paperwork from my RPL tests is, so I can't say exactly which ones I had done. However, I do know it was quite thorough--they took 21 vials of blood!:eek:

Here is a list of RPL tests that I found online:

Tests after Multiple Losses
Here is a list of testing that you may want to have done after having more than 1 loss: The following information can be found on WebMd.com or other publication listed

ANA - Antinuclear antibodies, A positive ANA test is characteristic of systemic lupus erythematosus. Antinuclear antibodies also occur in patients with rheumatoid arthritis, Sjögren's syndrome, and scleroderma.

Anticardiolipin antibodies – Some cases of recurrent pregnancy loss are caused when a woman’s immune system produces antibodies against the lipids and phospholipids that are in her system. Phospholipids are molecules that are found in all cell membranes. They are the “glue” tjat helps cells to fuse. Antibodies attack phospholipids in the uterus and placenta, they prevent the formation of cellular structures called syncytiotrophoblasts. These are the building blocks of implantation and to regulate nutrition to the fetus. The antibodies can also damage the walls of the blood vessels that provide circulation to the fetus. When this happens the vessels constrict, and the circulation of the blood between the embryo and its mother is jeopardized. This can either retard the growth of the fetus or cause it to die. This is one of the first screening blood test that should be done in women who are continually losing pregnancies. This test looks at whether a woman’s immune system is manufacturing antibodies against important cellular materials such as phospholipids and cardiolipids.

Igm - immune response (antibody) IgM is principally concerned with the primary antibody response, appearing soon after initial invasion by an antigen and capable of destroying the antigen when it is first introduced. Its normal mean serum concentration is 120 mg/dl. Like IgG, IgM activates the complement system and together these two classes of immunoglobulins serve as specific antitoxins against the toxins of diphtheria, tetanus, botulism, and anthrax microorganisms, and snake venoms.

IgG - Baseline Toxoplasma test, to see if I have any signs of toxoplasmosis. IgG is the most abundant of the five classes of immunoglobulins. Its normal mean serum concentration is 1240 mg/dl. It is the major antibody in the secondary humoral response of immunity, serves to activate the complement system, and is frequently involved in opsonization. IgG is the only immunoglobulin that can cross the placental barrier.

PTT - time for blood to clot, if abnormal then could have the lupus anticoagulant test. Many labs use different baselines for normal tests, inquire with your Dr to see if your levels were normal.

Thyroid test - Thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH) and thyroxine (T4) levels are usually both measured using blood samples, although TSH is the more sensitive indicator of hypothyroidism.

HSG – Hysterosalpingogram Your doctor injects a dye into the uterus, which should fly through your tubes and come out the other end. X rays are taken as the dye is injected and can detect whether the dye passes through the tubes' open ends or not. If the dye passes through, your tubes are open; if it doesn't, your tubes are blocked, which will make the test more painful.

Creatinine - Creatinine is a waste product in the blood created by the normal breakdown of muscle during activity. Healthy kidneys take creatinine out of the blood and put it in the urine to leave the body. When kidneys are not working well, creatinine builds up in the blood.

ALT - One particular liver enzyme, alanine aminotransferase (ALT), can indicate hepatitis C infection when elevated. However, many infections, toxins and diseases can cause elevations in ALT. Therefore, additional tests are performed to confirm the diagnosis of hepatitis C infection.

Protein C Deficiency Those with this diagnosis more likely to develop blood clots than the average person, and this condition contributes to early miscarriages. Treated with heparin throughout the pregnancy.

Lupus Anticoagulant - Lupus and most autoimmune diseases occur more frequently in women of childbearing age. Your general chance of having Lupus is 1 in 700. If you are African-American, your chance of having this disease increases to approximately 1 in 250. Pregnancy does not increase your chances of developing lupus.

Fasting blood glucose Fasting Plasma Glucose. In order to simplify the diagnosis of diabetes, the American Diabetes Association has recommended the sole use of the fasting plasma glucose (FPG) test. It is a simple blood test taken after eight hours of fasting.

Blood-glucose level —The concentration of glucose in the blood. It is commonly called blood sugar and is usually measured in milligrams per deciliter (mg/dl) or in millimoles (mmol). serum insulin level.

Insulin —A hormone secreted by the beta cells of the islets of Langerhans in the pancreas. Promotes the utilization of glucose.


I wouldn't worry too much about having Ashermans--it is quite rare (lucky me got diagnosed with two diseases that affect less than 1% of the population!). Also, if you got your period after your d & c, all is probably ok. I never got my period back even though I was charting and could tell I was ovulating. An HSG confirmed that my uterus was completely blocked with scarring.

That's great that you are on prometrium and baby aspirin. I was on baby aspirin with my last pg and am on it again now with this one. My doctor feels with my history (family history of immune issues, family history of clotting issues, pg loss, and ashermans--which can cause problems during pg) it is better to be safe. I think most doctors feel that aspirin won't hurt and it may help, so why not.

I hope this 2 WW ends with a BFP for you!:)

[jeggink]

mia's mama Thanks for that info. My progesterone was 8.0 last cycle (7 DPO) that I was not pg so he thinks it may be a progesterone issue. But then I wonder how I was able to carry DS almost to full term?? Hopefully it will help.

Teresita OMG, 21 vials, yikes! I think mine was just 4 vials. Thanks for all that information, it was very helpful. The dr didn't understand why my Anticardiolipin antibodies test came up + but my IGG & IGM didn't. That and with the ANA being borderline, he didn't want to do anything about it. He told me that if it were a little more positive, he would put me on steroids or baby asprin. I did some research and started taking baby asprin just in case. It didn't look like it could hurt and may give me that extra chance in case it is an immune issue. I figure if I didn't take it and then later it was determined that I should of, it would be even harder if I lost another. I did get my period back no problem, so that is a relief! We also have some immune issues in my family, scleroderma (Uncle) and my mom had symptoms of Lupus when she was young but had radiation treatment for it and doesn't test positive, so we don't know if she had it or not??

Thanks, I hope a BFP comes as well.

[pixielou]

on the one hand, it totally s u x that there has to be threads like this. but for those of us who have suffered rpl, it is nice to have the support.

to be perfectly honest, i have lost track of how many lost pregnancies we have had. there have been quite a few m/c's and chemical pregnancies. we suffered from vts with my dd. as we have tried for #2 you can also add an ectopic to the list.

we went thru rpl testing. slight problem with low progesterone. but every time we have tested fetal remains, we have had a trisomy. just plain old bad luck? right after i found out i was pg with the twins, which resulted in my dd, our insurance approval came thru for ivf with pgd. however, dh's company switched insurance carriers and the new carrier rejeted our ivf with pgd request - they do not consider rpl to be a form of infertility.

our current status is ttk. we should be somewhere around 7 or 8 weeks (i won't even talk due dates until we get a clear amnio). i'm a bit encouraged since morning sickness is seriously kicking my butt. however, our 2 u/s have been a bit questionable. the growth is consistent, however the heartbeat is borderline.

right now i'm on progesterone, some other meds to help control the nauseau, and modified bed rest. i'm on bi-weekly appointments. i've never considered myself a religious person, but i do find myself praying daily.

~pixie

[jeggink]

So sorry to see you here Pixielou. I will cross my fingers for you that this pg will work out for you!!! Sending lots of hugs your way, keep your chin up!

[shouldaeloped]

I'm glad to see you started this up jeggink as I have had multiple miscarriages too. My DD was just born 3 weeks ago after going through 2 miscarriages and I have to admit, the sting of miscarrying nevr goes away and the fear of it happening again still stays with me.

I miscarried my first pregnancy naturally at 12w2d. as we ended up in the ER, we weren't able to do any testing on the fetus and didn't do any testing on me either. my second pregnancy ended in miscarrige and a d&c at 9w2d and this time my doctor became more proactive. she testing the fetus and determined that nothing was wrong there. she tested me for everything under the sun- lupus, chromosomal issues, uterine abnormalities, and a bunch of other blood work that I don't even remember. she also tested DH for chromosomal abnormalities. everything came back normal. that was one of the hardest things to hear since she couldn't "fix" anything for next time. deep down I think I wanted something to be wrong so my next pregnancy could be fixed. she told me over and over again and that I got the answer I should have wanted and that it gave me that much more of a chance of having a normal pregnancy next time around. I conceived again 5 months later, went on progesterone as a precaution immediately, had an ultrasound just about every 2 weeks for my own peace of mind and finally delivered my daughter at 39w3d. although I have my daughter now, I know I want more kids and the fear of going through this again stays with me. my fear of losing my DD is slightly irrational at times and I have a hard time even putting her down.

I will say that having a great OB has saved my sanity. I love my doctor and am still looking for a good way to thank her for everything she has done for me. If you aren't happy with your doctor, than keep looking. this is way too sensitive of an issue to be dissatisfied with your caregiver.

anyway- great idea for additional support and I would like to follow along and offer support where I can. I know I'm going to need it at times.

[pixielou]

shouldaeloped
although I have my daughter now, I know I want more kids and the fear of going through this again stays with me. my fear of losing my DD is slightly irrational at times and I have a hard time even putting her down.

i could have written that! my dd is 21 months - and i still have total irrational fears of loosing her. it does get better with time. but nothing can send me off in more of a tizzy than someone suggesting that i put my dd in dayare/preschool or something like that. i swear i won't even send her to kindergarten!

and i totally agree with you on
I will say that having a great OB has saved my sanity. I love my doctor and am still looking for a good way to thank her for everything she has done for me.
again i know it is pretty irrational, but there is a huge part of me that bellieves that the only reason my dd survived in the womb was because of my ob.

jeggink how did you do on the progesterone? personally i can't wait to stop the stuff - but i know that i need to keep it up for a few more weeks.

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update on me. i saw my ob again today. the baby's growth is good - i'm measuring between 9 and 10 weeks - which is exactly where i should be. morning sickness continues to kick my butt. i still have not had any spotting. and the midwife was actually able to hear the heartbeat on the doppler. that's all the good news.

unfortuneately the u/s revealed that the heartbeat continues to be weak. so my ob remains concerned about the possibility of another chromosomal abnormality or some type of heart defect. i'm scheduled for an early risk assessment (also called a nuchal fold scan?) on 3 august. after the era - we will determine whether i should schedule a cvs or if i can wait for an amnio. the genetics department has actually approved the cvs request based on the heartbeat issues - normally genetis will not allow rpl patients to have a cvs. i already have the amnio scheduled for 8 september.

i'm trying to remain optimistic, yet not get my hopes up too high. my dh and my parents are the only ones who know about this. i feel like i'm running out of excuses as to why i'm not feeling well all the time.

~pixie

[jeggink]

pixielou Uggg, the prometrium sucked big time, I was soo emotional. Since I took it before bedtime, I didn't feel the symptoms as much. The one thing I did notice is that my temp didn't go up more than normal and my lp was no longer than normal. Weird, maybe it isn't working to well for me? Glad to hear there is good growth and I will cross my fingers that the HB gets better and better!!! Keep thinking positive!

shouldaeloped Yeah the m/c thing sucks big time, but glad you found us :).

I have an appt at the end of August with my family dr to get a referal to an RE. We are still trying to get pg, the 1st cycle was a bust and I should be o'ing again within a week or so. I am just worried about getting pg and keeping it. I want to get a full immune panel run and I didn't want to go to my OB, just not happy. So the only other way is to go through my primary. If we get pg this cycle, then I will cancel the appt. But if not, then the appt will be around the middle of my next cycle. So that is where we stand.

I am afraid to get pg and am afraid not to get pg at this point.

[jeggink]

Bumping for jjsanner

[jeggink]

Pixielou I hope you are doing OK. Question, have you and DH ever been genetically tested? Just curious cause we are dealing with chromosome issues right now.

[jeggink]

Bumping for Sand

[Sand]

Thanks jeggink. I called my RE office today to ask about all the bloodwork/testing they did back in Sept and she rattled everything off so fast I have no idea which tests she was talking about. Basically she said everything was normal, the only thing that was a little low was my progesterone (which is why I am on the Prometrium) and my "DRVVT" was short. I have no idea what that meant. I suspect the bleeding will start in a day or two once my beta levels go back to 0.

I have an appt with the RE next week so we can talk about where to head next. If I am not happy with his suggestions I will find another RE. He hasnt been very proactive, but I suppose with all the testing he's done coming back normal I'm a guessing game as it appears nothing is wrong. I will suggest chromosomal testing if he doesn't.

I'm thrilled to see the list of testing from Teresita. A lot of those were words my RE's nurse was throwing at me over the phone today but it was all so fast that I didnt get a chance to catch which ones exactly she was saying. I'll print that post out and take it with me.

[jeggink]

Sand I am hoping your RE will help you out! One thing to ask, see if they will give you progesterone vaginal suppositories next time, much easier than prometrium and no real side effects (I had bad side effects with Prometrium). Plus it is absorbed right where needed. I used Prochieve 8%, they also have a 4% and its the same as crinone. The only thing they could find with me was low progesterone as well, but I recently found out that in my family there "could" be an issue with having girls and that is what DH's family makes mostly :p. Make sure they do the chromosomal testing on the both of you! Good luck at your appt.

[Sand]

The Prometrium I take are intravaginal suppositories. 100mg. Real fun, but I understand thats where it helps the most. :) My friend going through IVF took the exact same pills by mouth, when she got them she called me freaking out because they were the exact same pill and she thought she was putting them in the wrong place. :P

I will take my DH will me to this next appt. He's open to the idea that it could be his problem too. We'll both get tested. Thanks.

[jen]

M/C #3 currently in progress.... sighhhhhhhh :(:mad::(:confused::confused::(


This thread has been helpful, even though I've just skimmed it, I just wanted to thank you all. 3 is the magic number in my OB's office for when they start testing..... I'm hoping it's just progesterone and easily (?) fixable. I had DH get his sperm tested last week before I even knew I was pregnant and from what we can tell it is normal.... will bring the results to my OB appt. next week.


take care!

[pixielou]

jen sorry to hear you are on loss number 3. this is one thing that does not get easier with experience. i hope you find somthing "easily fixable" with your testing.

jeggink i just noticed your signature - you have another on a way. i'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

we just had another m/c. #9 for anyone who is counting. after we lost our daughter at 19+ weeks last fall, i pretty much decided i wanted to stop trying. this latest m/c really reinforced those views for both dh and i. so i'm scheduled for a tubal ligation on 26 july. i've had many conversations with my ob, my geneticist, and a fetal loss psychologist. and i'm at peace with my decision. it's not necessarily what i would choose to do in a perfect world, but given our circumstances - it is the best decision for us and a decision that i know we can live with. our daughter will be 3 in september, and we feel extremely blessed that we have her.

~pixie

[jen]

Just wanted to bump this up because I have my appt. with my OB tonight to talk about our "next steps" now that I've had 3 m/c's. Does any one have any tips for me?? I've copied the list of test posted earlier in this thread.... is there anything else I need to know? I feel like I need to go in there and tell THEM what I want,which is ridiculous, but it seems that's the way health care is these days...... I just want to go in there informed.

THANKS!

[mpc863]

Bumping this up as I just had mc #2. First one was a missed abortion at 10 weeks and I think that this one is a chemical pregnancy. I got a bfp one day after af was due. Miscarried at 5 weeks.

I will call my doctors office in the morning. I am going to push for testing.

Anyways, just wanted to bump this up in case there are others in similar situations that need some support too.

Thanks!

[Blondie]

mpc You know I need the help and support! :( Have you gotten to see your RE yet? Good luck! I hope I can get in with one without waiting forever.

I am pushing for testing since this is #3 for me. Only my 2nd one I didn't see my doctor and it isn't documented, but he believes me I guess. This thread was helpful because of the list of tests that were posted. I'm copying that list and I'm going in there armed! Hopefully something will turn up that will give me an explanation for my RPL. It is really hard to feel like your body is failing you at something that is supposed to be natural. I just pray that this is a detectable problem and a fixable one!

[mpc863]

blondie, my RE appointment is today. I am also going to bring the list of tests. Like you, I am hopeful that there is something he can do. I've been feeling pretty down about all of it lately.

Can you make an appointment with the RE? Your insurance should cover it after 3 losses. My OB actually suggested that I go to an RE.

Thinking of you and I hope you are able to get all of the tests soon!

[Blondie]

Oh, I hope that you will update and let me know how everything went and what they did! I don't know if I can just go without a referral since I have a HMO. THere is only one RE in my city, and I would also like a referral from my OB on whether or not he is any good. I might have to go to LA which I dread because that will be hard for me but getting a great doctor would be worth it.

Good luck today!

[tandt]

blondie, I wanted to drop in and say how sorry I am at your loss. :( I read it in the March thread once I returned from vacation. Life is unfair and heartbreaking some times.

My thoughts and prayers are with you-- I think it's an excellent step to see a specialist.

We conceived thru IVF (after trying IUI), but because DH had prostate cancer and we could only use his frozen sperm. But, through the experience, I've met some incredible women who are strong and can face anything. I am still hanging around the SAI thread and those women are wonderful-- I hope you find the same support!

[hiphopgirl]

Jen, mpc863, and Blondie - I am heartbroken for you all and your losses. I hope that you get the answers you are looking for at the doctor. I'm so glad that there is a resource like this one to provide a list of tests for you to take. I wish I'd had it before. One m/c is awful, but more than one is awful to the nth degree. I hope - from the bottom of my heart - that these are the last m/c that any of you have to experience. HUGS.

[mpc863]

hiphopgirl, thank you for your kind words.

blondie, i will try and summarize my RE appointment. It was only ok, but I had really high expectations and I think that had something to do with it.

The RE's office seems nice - office staff was friendly. They accept my insurance which is good. Given everything this year (mainly the d&c), I have hit my out of pocket maximum so I hope that this doesn't cost too much. We (DH came with me) met with the RE in a little office - not his office but like a consult room (i.e., no stirrups). He was nice and but I felt like he was a bit dismissive. He kept saying how normal this is and that we can do testing, but it is expensive and more likely than not, I will go on to have a successful pregnancy. During the appointment, I was a little put off, but after thinking about it (and talking to John), I think he was just reacting to my anxiousness by trying to reassure me. I am weird of course, in that I don't want to be told that I am normal. If it's normal, then I shouldn't be upset, which means that I am overreacting. Not ready to hear that. Of course, that was 98% me projecting my feelings onto him. One of the first things he asked me is how I am holding up emotionally.

Anyways, he ran through the testing options. He said that it’s expensive and that they probably won’t tell us much but that if I want to do them, we can do it. He definitely wanted to do an ultrasound and HSG to check for fibroids/polyps/leftover tissue from first m/c. He also wants to do a mid-cycle u/s to check on my lining and my ovaries (or maybe that is the first one?). Their office has a checklist and it explains the test and what they can show. I also have to repeat my day 3 blood work as my FSH was elevated the last time I had it done (don’t know why my OB never mentioned that!!!). However, he said he is not concerned at this point (until I repeat the test) because it is not consistent with my age and my ability to get pregnant. I am trying really hard not to borrow trouble, so I’m not going to worry about that until we repeat the blood work.

Overall, I think he is fairly skeptical of the auto-immune testing but he is willing to test it. He explained that there haven’t been many good scientific studies (number of reasons, including it’s hard to get a sample of 100+ women) and that it’s hard to tease out the effectiveness of the treatment vs. the fact that it is still more likely than not that a women with RPL will go on to have a successful pregnancy. I’m still going to do it as I think it’s worth doing.

So, I will be doing the testing (everything except kareotyping, want to wait on that) but I can’t start until CD1. I am pretty sure that I did not ovulate this month so who knows when CD 1 will be. It’s the first cycle post m/c.

[Blondie]

mpc Thank you so much for posting that. It's so funny because the ER doctor kind of did the same thing to me and made me feel like I was overreacting, but I had the same thought process like maybe it was ME and he was just trying to help. I was pretty upset with him at the time but I was pretty upset period so I don't know if it was that. Well, at least he is willilng to do the testing. I know that I will do anything just to find an answer. I hope that AF finds you soon so you can get to CD1!

hiphopgirlThank you! That is very sweet and much appreciated!

tandt Thank you as well! I know you have been through so much to get pg and I am so happy for you! I will miss being in the March thread. The support here has been so wonderful and I don't think I could get through it without being here. I really have noone else to talk to except John and he is supportive and understanding but I don't want it to be the focus of all our conversations. Here it's different though, because it is women who know what I've been through and it helps so much!

I have an appt next Thursday! I hope it goes well.

[Sand]

mpc, did you post this on lj and I missed it!!!?? If so I'm sorry. I'm glad there is a plan in place and you can hopefully get some answers. I for one think its completely normal to not want to be 'normal' in this situation. Its incredibly frustrating. I'm sorry you weren't feeling this doc right off the bat. Hopefully it was just one of those awkward first date moments and you (& John) and he can work some magic! I do think it has to be tough to be an RE - no one that enters your office really wants to see you and since people deal with painful issues so differently i'd think its hard to know how to react to [general] you. I dont know if you recall but my first RE was super schmoopy touchy feely guy which I thought I liked at first but then he gave me the willies...after I got over not wanting to "fire" my RE I found my miracleworker!

Good luck with the testing and GET HERE CD1!!!!

[adamseve]

Hello ladies - as some of you know from different threads, I am on loss #4. Scheduled for a d & c this Friday due to a blighted ovum. I've gone through the range of emotions - trying to keep my mind and heart in focus as it's the only way to move forward. I went in for my pre-op appt today with the RE and had an opportunity to briefly discuss our "plan" post d & c. I'm obviously discouraged (and emotional), but I'm feeling that we're not on the same page right now. Considering that this is my 2nd RE, a part of me feels like I'm just looking for someone to tell me what I want to hear (at this point, I'm not even sure what that is) ... Anyhow, just needed to vent.

Thinking of all of you.

[Blondie]

Adamseve Oh I just wish I had the words to tell you how sorry I am Are you saying that you and your RE are not on the same page? If so, I hope that you are able to find some support and some answers soon. I wish it didn't have to be like this for us. It's just not right. :(

[ktnkids]

anyone still here?
Currently on my 3rd m/c and I feel like I"m a wreck. My last one was in Nov 2006 and we've been ttcing since so I was really hopeful this time but I felt something just wasn't right. I was right-I have a blighted ovum and we're waiting for it to pass. If I don't start something this weekend I thinkn I'm going to call on Mon for a d&C. I just can't do it any longer. All of the joy and planning and excitment are just sucked out of you. I'm so scared to even start ttcing b/c I can't handle this again. I don't know how I'm doing it now as I felt awful w/ the last one-this one is worse after those years of TTCing.

[mamax2]

I didn't even know this thread existed. I post in the regular m/c thread (where lots of ladies have had multiple m/c anyway).

I've had 2 m/c back to back. The most recent one was in the 2nd trimester so I did get all the testing done and found that I'm Compound Heterozygous for MTHFR. I'm on high-dose folic acid and baby aspirin now, but have only had 2 attempts since starting this protocol so not sure if anything is going to work yet.