Ladies in Waiting, Volume 3

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

Who are the ladies in waiting? We are a group of ladies who want a baby, but for one reason or another, can't at this time. Our other thread was so popular, we ran out of room, so here we are in volume 3!

When adding information, please do so in the following format, and in the color red:
CC name
Me: name and age
DH: name and age
Married: date
TTC: future date

THE GRADUATES

akacharlotte:
Me: Stacey, 34
DH: Jason, 31
Engaged: October 27,2006
Married: May 22, 2007
TTC: Wedding night

Aletheia
Me: Aletheia, 28
DH: Mr. Ramsey, 28
Engaged: 3/26/04
Married: 8/7/04
TTC: graduated!

Annette
Me: Annette, 28
DH: Mike, 29
Married: 11/10/2001
TTC: graduated!

betsyboop
Betsy, 27
Dave, 29
Married: 10/18/03
TTC date: graduated!

Camdynlyn
Me: Summer, 22
DH: Steffie, 25
Engaged: 10/19/02
Married: 7/17/04
TTC: graduated!

Can't_Wait
Me: Leslie
DH: Mike
Married: 05/24/03
TTC: graduated!

CityLover
Me: Maegan, 24
DH: Dean, 28
Married: August 2002
TTC: Summer 2007

Dansgirl
Me: Autumn, 26
DH: Dan, 31
Engaged: December, 2000
Married: September, 2001
TTC: graduated!

DelSol
Me: Dana, 31
DH: Scott, 37
Engaged: 5/10/03
Married: 11/19/04
TTC: graduated!

dpangel33
Me: Danea, 23
DH: Patrick, 25
Married: 10-16-05
TTC: graduated!

eli1126
Me: Beth
DH: Ed
Married: 6/12/04
TTC: graduated!

fsb2005
Me: 28
DH: 29
Engaged: November 2001
Married: June 14, 2003
TTC: graduated!

Harmony96
Me: Andrea 27
DH: Timothy 25
Married: April of '04
TTC: graduated!

honeygirl
Me: Anne, late 20's
DH: Late 20's
Met, Engaged and Married in 2003 (busy year )
TTC: May 2006

kdotp
Me: Kari, 26
DH: Nate, 29
TTC: graduated!

KKay
Me: Kris (33)
DH: E (33)
DD: Alexis (3/3/04)
Married: 8/31/02
TTC #2: graduated!

Kristibell
Me: Kristine, age 27
DH: Brett, age 30
Engaged: December 21, 2001
Married: September 27, 2003
TTC: graduated!

LadyD088
Me: Deb, 29
DH: Ryan, 28
Dating Since: 10/24/92
Engaged: 10/24/02
Married: 5/8/05
TTC: graduated!

lawgirl4
Me: Ericka, 30
DH: Rob, 36
Engaged: 9/4/02
Married: 7/6/03 (almost 2 years!) - together since the mid 90s
TTC: graduated!

Lil_Mrs_0702
Me: April, 21
DH: Shannon, 24
Married: July 2005
TTC: graduated!

lilo
Me: Natasha, 30
DH: Jared, 33
Married: 10/15/02
TTC: graduated!

Magrat
Me: 26
DH: 25
Married: 3/1/2003
TTC: graduated!

MamaBear
Me: Sara, 32
DH: David, 34
Married: 5/31/03
DS: 2/6/04
TTC# 2: graduated!

maplekitty
Me: Sarah, 24, Inside technical sales
FH: Curt, 27, Network Admin
Engaged: November 12, 2204
Married: August 27, 2005 (sooooooon!)
TTC: graduated!

melody
Me: Melody, 27
DH: David, 27
Married: April 24, 2004
TTC: graduated!

miaclear
Me: Amy 29
DF: Dirk 30
Engaged: Feb 19 2003
Married: Sept 18 2005
TTC: graduated!

mimieliza
Me: Michelle, 27
DH: Reid, 28
Married: August 9, 2003
TTC: graduated!

MrsHill
Me: MrsHill, age 32, SAHW
DH: B, age 40, Architect
Engaged: December 23, 2004
Married: September 24, 2005
TTC: graduated!

mrstim
Me: Amy - 20
DH: Tim - 24
Engaged - October 28, 2004
Married - February 4, 2005
TTC - graduated!

MrsWilson
Me: Jan, 26
DH: Michael, 29
Married: October 10, 2004
TTC: graduated!

mlfallis
Me: Melissa~25
DH: Scott~24
Married: June 10, 2006
TTC: 12/06

PookiePrincess
Me: Kristi - 27
DH: Sean - 30
Married: Oct. 29, 2005
TTC: 2007?

Purplevega
Me: Kim 25
DH: Bill 31
DS: Ashton 9/04
Married: 11/2003
TTC: Currently!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rosa727
ME: Rose-Anne, 27
DH: Eric, 27
together since: November 6, 1998
Engaged: November 5, 2000
Married: July 27, 2002
TTC: graduated!

Sabriel
Me: Cherish, 24
DH: Jon, 23
Engaged: 12/24/03
Married: 5/22/05
TTC: graduated!

Sare79
Me: Sarah, age 25
FH: Joel, age 25
Engaged: September 29, 2004
Married: October 15, 2005
TTC: graduated!

SlvSpring
Me: Oona, 25
DH: Josh, 27
Engaged: June 20, 2004
Married: July 30, 2005
TTC: graduated!

Smittenk
Me: Alison (28)
DH: Mike (36)
Married: April 3rd, 2004
TTC #1: graduated!
Pets: Barley, born August 29th, 2005

SQ2
Me: 28
DH: 26 (27 in August)
Engaged: 2/9/03
Married: August 2004
TTC: graduated!

Squee
Me: Steph 19
DF: John 21
Engaged: 29 Oct 04
Will be Married: 7 Jan 06
TTC: graduated!

sunchaser26
Me: Carrie
DH: Tom
Married: June 14, 2003
TTC: graduated!

Sunshine
Me: Tamara, 26
DH: 29
Married: Aug 27,2005
TTC: graduated!

Tonysweetie
Me: Leslie
DH: Tony
Married: March 26, 2005
TTC: graduated!

Twylla
Me: Twylla, 24
DH: Gordon, 27
Married: July 3, 2004
TTC: graduated!

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

THE LADIES

aam64
Me:Alicia, 24
DH: Mike, 27
Engaged: 11/23/03
Married: 6/4/04
TTC: Fall 2007

abbylynn
Me: Abby (27)
DH: Darren (41)
DS: Brandon Ryan (7/22/03)
Married: 8/4/01
TTC #2: Late 2006?

adamseve
Me: Ivette, 27
DH: Adam, 28
Married: 06.19.04
TTC: Spring '07

AHammer
Me: Amy, 25
DH: DH, 23
Married: July 30, 2005
TTC: probably summer or fall 2008

allison
Me: Allison, 32
DH: Geoff, 31
Engaged: 11/1/4/02
Married: 5/24/03
TTC: November 2006

Al'sgirl
Me: Andrea, 33
DH: Al, 35
Engaged: December 12, 2003
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: 2007-2008

AmandaLeigh
Me: Amanda, 24
FH: Nick, 29
Engaged: February 10, 2005
Married: August 4, 2007
TTC: Early 2008

amyloo
Me: Amy
DH: Kyle
Married: 3/12/05
TTC: When we get outta this tiny one-seater duplex!

artist
Me: Kristin, 26
DH: (divorced in 2007)
TTC: Not for awhile! (Would need to remarry first!) I always thought somewhere around age 30 sounded good though.

Belm
Me: Brenna 27
DH: Chris 28
Married: April 26, 2003
TTC tentative date: Fall 2007

bethnjim
Me: Beth-27
DH: Jim-25
Engaged-June 2001
Married-July 12, 2003
TTC-hopefully summer 2006

BlackMagicRose
Me: Christy (27)
FH: Elmar (31)
Met: April 24, 2005
Engaged: October 28, 2005
Married: October 28, 2006
TTC: December 2007!

BrownEyedGirl
Me: Bree 26
DH: Chad 30
Married: 11/29/03 (dating since 1996)
TTC: Me: Mid 2006, Dh: Late 2006

BryantRN
Me: Renee 32
DH: prefers to stay annon. 27
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: ASAP!! Just waiting on a job for him

buccm
Me: Mel
DH: Jared
Married: 09-06-03
TTC: fall 2006

candy corn
Me: Diane (26)
DH: TJ (26)
Married: 10/22/05
TTC: 2011

Charlizeangel
Me: Emily 23
DH: Dan 31
Married: 5-22-05
TTC: 2-5 years (or sooner if things change)

Cinderz
Me: 33
DH: 32
Married: 6/7/03
TTC: Hopefully by the end of 2005

CindyM
Me: Cindy - 26
DH: Louis - 31
Married: January 17, 2004
TTC: Hopefully August 2006 - or when I get a new job!

CLW4KU
Me: Courtney, 25
FH: Kyle, 30
Engaged: 8/30/06
Wedding Date: 9/29/07
TTC: 2008

Cohl
Me:Nicole-26
DH:Matt-28
Engaged-September 25, 1999
Married-October 19, 2002
DD-Bryelle Morgan-July 19, 2004
TTC-not soon enough for me-probably beginning of 2006

Constance
Me: 36
DH: 31
Engaged: 2002
Married: 2003
TTC: late 2006/2007

CuckooCat (rachelh on WC)
Rachel, 26
K, 27
Married: 6/23/01
TTC date: we agreed on Jan '06, but not soon enough at all!!!

curlyjr
Me:Jillian 27
DH: John 26
Married: 6/11/2005
TTC:October 2008

21Daisygurl
Me: Aislinn (28)
DH: Keith (31)
Married: June 3, 2006
TTC: January 2008'ish

December27JJB
Me: Jessica 27
DH: Josh 28
DD: Parker 9 1/2 months
Married: 12/2003
TTC#2: Sept/Oct 2007

doublej
Me: J, 27, self-employed
DH: A, 25, self-employed
Married: December 2002
TTC: No earthly idea!

elissa
Me: Elissa, 29
DH: Chris, 31
Engaged: 2/19/04
Married: 10/01/05
TTC: Going off BCP March 2006, then probably joining the seeing what happens ladies!

Eric's Wife
Me: Jen, 31
DH: Eric, 29
Married: 3-12-05
TTC: probably Jan. 2008

filmgirl7
ME: Carrie, 27
FH: Jeremy, 32
Engaged: 5/31/03
Married: 1/7/06*
TTC: July, 2006 at the absolute latest!

flygirl
Me: Jen, 30
DH: Jeff, 35
Engaged: 5/23/01
Married: 2/22/03
TTC: This fall (hopefully!)

giry76
Me: Colleen, 29, A/R assistant for a plastics company
DH: Troy, 29, Survey Department manager
Married: September 25 2004
TTC: Fall 2006

Goddess Tiff
Me: Tiffany, 26
DH: Ted, 28
engaged: September 23, 2000
married: September 21, 2002
TTC: very late 2007 or sometime in 2008

granada
Me: 29
DH: 34
Married: 8/5/04
TTC: Possibly as early as Feb. 2006, but we'll see...

guinevere
Me: 28
DH: 32
Married: 3/27/04
TTC: April 2006

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

j2478
Me: Jen, 27
DH: 27
TTC: Spring/summer 2006

Jandrews
Me: Jennifer, 28
DH: William, 29
Married: May 7, 2005
TTC: February 2007

j.d.l.102205
Me: 27
DH: 27
Married: 10/22/05
TTC: Late 2006 or early 2006

jellybeany
Me: Jolene, 23
DH: Larry, 25
Married: May 14, 2005
TTC: hopefully early 2007

Jen&Dan
Me: Jen, 26
DH: Dan, 26
Engaged: 12/20/98
Married: 3/30/02
TTC: In about 1 1/2 years

Jeneca128
Me: Karen, 23
DH: Dan, 23
Engaged: December 21, 2003
Married: March 26, 2005
TTC: 2010-2011. (wish it was now!)

jenjunum
Me: Jennifer, 25
DH: Scott, 25
engaged: September, 2002
married: July 27, 2003
TTC: 2008 or later

Jenyfer9
Me: Jen, 32
DH: Tom, 33
Married: 10/26/02
DS#1: 10/23/03
DS#2: 05/03/05
TTC: mid-June, 07

jessied1025
Me: Jessie, 27
DH: Jim, 28
Engaged: July 13, 2002
Married October 25, 2003
TTC: October 2005

JLRenheos
Me: 29
DH: 33
Engaged: December 3, 1999
Married: April 21, 2001
TTC: This Fall 2006

JMD
Me: JMD, 25
DH: 29
Married: 08/10/02
TTC: Summer 2007

jnettie
Me: Jeanette - 27
DH: Cory - 27
Married: June 25, 2005
TTC: 2007ish

Julss05
Me: Julie (29)
DH: Mike (31)
Married: 6/15/02
TTC #1: 2007

Katyanne
Me: Katie, 27, auth coordinator for insurance company
DH: David, 29, Managing Editor for a sports marketing firm
Married: May 21, 2004
TTC: Hopefully sometime this winter.

kithara
Me: Gretchen, 27
DH: Neil, 26
Married: June 3, 2006
TTC: 2010

K-L-U
Me: Katie, 27
DH: Tony, 27
Engaged: 12.27.00
Married: 10.12.02
TTC: Summer of 2008

Kopper
Me: Katie, 27
DH: John, 29
Married: 09/21/2002
DS: 03/31/2006
TTC #2: 01/2008

kris97
Me: Kristin, 30
DH: Ryan, 30
Married: 5/2/4
TTC: sometime in '06

KRM&TPS
Me - Kim -26
DH- Patrick- 23
Engaged- May 28, 2004
Married- January 22, 2005
TTC- This is going to sound very far off but late 2006 or even 2007

Lanapoo
Me(Lana):28
DH(Dean):32
Married: 7/15/05
TTC: Summer 2006

laurenc
me: Lauren, 27
DH: Tom, 30
Engaged: 6/23/01
Married: 6/14/03
TTC: 2007

lawyerlee
Me: Diana, 27, attorney for Kansas Legislature
DH: Cliff, 29, college student
Married: November 30, 2002
TTC or adopt: with next 2-3 years (hopefully)

Leigh0918
Me: Leigh, 29
DH: Michael, 33
Married: 9/18/03
TTC: whenever the mood strikes - no official plans

LeslieandPaul
Me: Leslie, 22, receptionist
DH: Paul, 28, technologist/commissioner
Engaged: June 22, 2004
Married: August 20, 2005
TTC: 2007

Little Angel '77
Me: Alicia (29)
DH: Seth (28)
Married: 8/21/04
TTC: ?

mamatallcott
Me: Holly 29 (30 in December)
DH : J 31
DD#1 Sophia 7/10/02
DD#2 Megan 1/27/05
TTC#3 around 7/08 or 7/09
and #4 2 years after number 3 then that's it finito no more babies..

MES in Chicago
Me: Melissa, 30 but 31 in June
DH: Paul, 38
Married: 10/23/04
TTC: March '07

mierin
Me: Meg (26)
DH: Allastair (25)
Married: 10/4/03
TTC: Probably late 2007

MoTray36
Me:Tracy, 25
DH: Keith, 26
Engaged: 7/4/03
Married: 6/25/04
TTC: July 2006

MrsSmith
Me:25
DH: 25
Married: 3/15/03
TTC: Nov/Dec 2005

Mystikal
Me: Rachel 26
DH : Joe 32 (33 in January)
Married: 6/22/02
DD: Julia 6/29/06
TTC #2: Not until we are out of this house. It's way too small for another child. Probably 3 years or so...2009, maybe.

numberlady
me:Kelby, 31, CPA
FH: Steven, 43, Network Admin
Married: May 19, 2002
TTC: May 2006

Peaches
Me: Pearl, age 26, 27 in two weeks
DH: Matt, age 25
Engaged: July 19, 2002
Married: December 29, 2003
TTC: Late 2006?

PG-rated
Me: Angela (30)
DH: (29)
Married: 04/02/05
TTC: Early 2007

polkadot
Me: Lauren, 26
DH: Brian, 26
married: Nov. 20, 2004
TTC: hopefully Aug/Sept. '05 more likely Aug/Sept 06

portinastorm
Me: 31
DH:30
Married: Fall 2003
TTC: February 2007

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

raven077
Me: Karen – 28
DH: Kyle – 29
Married: October 29, 2005
TTC: November 2006

Reebs
Me: Rebecca (or Becky), 27
DH: Ken, 28
Dating Since: 1/24/98
Engaged: 12/24/01
Married: 10/4/03
TTC: Mid-2008

risa00
Me:Lisa-27
DH:Sean-33
Engaged-August 4, 2002
Married-July 12, 2003
TTC-May 2006

RobynScott
Me: Robyn, 28
DH: Scott, 30
Engaged: 2/28/03
Married: 8/29/04 (10 months today ) - together since 7/2000
TTC: Possibly / probably next spring/summer (so mid-2006) - unless I get a new job - in which case, possibly waiting until 2007.

Rosebud03
Me: Erin, 31
DH: Kevin, 33 (as of tomorrow)
Married: 10.8.05
TTC: April 2007

ruledbymercury
Me: Heather, 25
DH: Tadd, 25
Engaged: February 14, 2003
Married: July 24, 2004
TTC: Mid-to-late 2008

Sab
Me: Sabrina, 20
DH: Nate, 25
Married: August 6, 2005
TTC: who knows... sigh

sarahh
Me: Sarah (28)
DH: Jeff (27)
Engaged: 7/21/00
Married: 9/1/02
TTC: September/October 2005

schmeevee
Me: Vee (28)
DH: Will (30)
Married: 07.30.05
TTC: late summer/early fall '07

sfaugustbride
Me: C, age 30, Accounting
DH: B, age 34, Plumber
Engaged: sometime October 2002
Married: June 19, 2004
TTC: Dec 2005/Jan 2006

Sha259
Me: Shamena, 24
DH: Avi, 23
Engaged: 06/19/02
Married: 7/20/04
TTC: not until 2008 at the earliest

Silverdecember
Me:Amanda-25
DH:Ryan-21
Engaged-February 21, 2002
Married-May 24, 2003
TTC-mid/late 2006

southerner
Name: I, 29
Husband: M, 31
Engaged: 11-11-01
Married: 8-16-03
TTC: Early-mid 2006

stevesbabygirl
Me: Heather, age 27
DH: Steve, age 28
Engaged: October 17, 2002
Married: August 31, 2003
TTC: July 2006

sublime311
Me: Kelli, 36
DH: James, 32
Engaged: March 13, 2004
Married: October 16, 2004
TTC: Since January 2004!!! I'm ready already!!

Sue
Me: Sue, 33
DH: J, 37
Married: 8/10/02
TTC: Spring 2007

summerbride2005
Me: C, 29
DH: W, 29
Married: 8/7/05
TTC: August 2007

SwiftyOWB
Me: Kelly 28
DH: Joe 32
Married: November 6, 2004
TTC: Late 2008

tashaw6
Me: Natasha, 28
DH: Neil, 27
Married: 25th of September 2004
TTC: 2007

tbell
Name: Tacy, 30
Husband: Tim, 34
Engaged: 1/1/04
Married: 5/21/05
TTC: hopefully around Aug 2006

tgr68
Me: Naamah, 26
DH: 26
Married: 6/1/02
TTC: July 2007

tippy
Me: Tiffany, 26
DH: Dennis, 26
Engaged: 08.15.02
Married: 06.26.04
TTC: 2008-2009

TracieB
Me: Tracie, 24
DH: Token, 31
Married: May 15, 2005
TTC: No specific one... we're targeting 2/3 years, so 2008/2009

TriSigmaNC
Me: Tracie, 32
DH: Eric, 29
Married: 10/4/03
TTC: Possibly Fall 2007, we'll see....

Wrighty26
Me: Michelle, 28
DH: Dan, 28
Married: 12/28/02
DS: Braeden - 07/06/06

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Articles

If you come across any articles that would interset the Ladies In Waiting, we can post the link here.


Twenty things you should do before you try to get pregnant (http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/preconception/gettingpregnant/7171.html)

Ten things HE should do before you try to get pregnant (http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/preconception/precondads/1347929.html)

[lawyerlee]

A shiny new thread! Cool. :)

QOTD: Out of your close friends/family, how many are TTC, preggo, and/or recent moms?
My cousin just had her third baby, but none of my other close friends or family members are pregnant or have kids. It's fun being around her kids (the oldest is three), but sometimes I do feel jealous. I just wish we were at that place where we could start trying. It's totally irrational, though. She's older than I am, so it's not like they are ahead of us or anything.

[LeslieandPaul]

Threadmistress-can you please change my age to 22, and our TTC date to 2007? Thanks!

QOTD: Out of your close friends/family, how many are TTC, preggo, and/or recent moms?
None. We'll most likely be the first. However, we do have friends who we're not close with that are having a baby in August.

[PookiePrincess]

QOTD: Out of your close friends/family, how many are TTC, preggo, and/or recent moms?

Let's see...
My twin nieces will be 1 year old next Thursday.
My aunt had a baby in September.
My cousin had a baby in September.
My DH's cousin and his wife had a baby in March.
We just found out last weekend that our really good friends are pg.

So, most everyone we hang out with has kids already or is pg.

My DH always likes to be the last in his group of friends to do things. He was the last to get married. Now that they all have kids (or are pg), he'll be more comfortable with us doing it. There's something about him watching other people he's close to go through things so he can see how they did it, and what they did wrong/right. It's the closest he comes to having siblings, I guess.

BTW: Thanks for the new thread! :)

[MrsWilson]

Threadmistress--please change my DH age to 29 and our TTC date to August 2006.

We decided to start trying a month earlier. We are hoping for a warm weather baby!

[dpangel33]

Sorry Threadmistress but can you change my age to 23, Thanks for the new thread!!

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE :)

[Dizzy]

LeslieandPaul: Maybe you guys will be one of the first!

PookiePrincess: Thats A LOT of babies in your world =)

MrsWilson: CONGRATULATIONS on moving the date up!! Do you realize that's in like 1 or 2 cycles???

[artist]

(stolen from volume 2)

Out of your close friends/family, how many are TTC, preggo, and/or recent moms?

Sister- has 3 kids (including a 1 year old)
SIL (BIL's wife)- pregnant
SIL(BIL's wife)- 2 kids (including new baby)
Cousin's wife- pregnant
5 or so friends (IRL, not online)- recent moms
TTC Friends?- don't know

Plus plenty of friends who are definitely not TTC, pregnant, moms, etc. and don't plan on that for awhile or even ever. I would say though, of those I listed who either have kids, are TTC, or are pregnant, most of them are older than I am. (I will be 26 in July.)




Threadmistress, could you change my DH's age to 28 please? TIA!

[MrsWilson]

ryansgirl--I am getting excited! We are both very ready! I just hope my cycles become normal before then! I went off BC May 1 and started charting. It is day 37 and no AF so far.

Out of your close friends/family, how many are TTC, preggo, and/or recent moms?
Cousin (like my sister)-3 kids, youngest is 1
Older sister-no kids, but planning to TTC next spring. They've been married almost 6 years
Twin sister--not married, no kids
good friend--a 1 month old son
DH's sister (she's 10 years older than DH)--3 kids, youngest is 4

My mom has a very large family and many, many of my cousins have kids. I don't see most of them on a regular basis though.
And, my mom is a nanny, so I am around the kids she keeps a lot. It keeps her occupied until she has grandkids to spoil!

[charliezangel]

Hello ladies. I'd like to join. DH and I were TTC a few months ago, and then decided to take a break....now we're putting TTC on hold for a couple years. I am sad, but understand that we just can't have a babay right now. I am not on BCP, so we are using condoms during my fertile time!!! I'm not really charting, just kinda blocking off a couple weeks to use condoms...I O anywhere from CD18-CD21....

Charlizeangel
Me: Emily 23
DH: Dan 31
Married: 5-22-05
TTC: 2-5 years (or sooner if things change)

[jellybeany]

AF appeared today; I always kinda hope for an *oops*.

I am the same way! DH gets a kick out of me because even if I'm a day off I start to wonder/hope and he'll laugh and says that I will cry whether AF comes or not!

[Julss05]

Out of your close friends/family, how many are TTC, preggo, and/or recent moms?

Step-Sister- Had baby last month
SIL (BIL's wife)- Due this week
SIL (brother's wife)- Has 2 and 4 year old
Friend- Just celebrated son's first birthday, plans to TTC this summer for #3
Friend- TTC, hopes to be pregnant soon
Cousin's wife- Due this month

They are all younger than us except the friend trying for #3. Feels like we are lagging behind. We had planned to TTC this summer but we are waiting until December. All for very good reasons but the wait is excruciating when everyone else around us who is younger, not as prepared are having babies! Sometimes I think we are waiting for that perfect time that will never arrive. I guess in my mind being the oldest sibling, grandchild, and first to get married would mean we'd naturally be the first to conceive. I never expected my brother who said he didn't want any kids would end up with 2. Or my BIL who got married after us, divorced, remarried, would now be expecting this month. It's just crazy how life works. Those who don't do and those who do don't. But I know our time will come and it will be our special time because everyone else has beaten us to it:).

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE


Welcome charliezangel!

[Dizzy]

charliezangel: I'm sorry you're back in here after having "gone to the other side", but you seem to have a very mature attitude about it!

Jellybelly: I had a friend who hoped for an 'oops' to such an extreme that she stopped being careful on days she knew she was fertile. Of course 10 months later out popped a baby boy. Yikes!

[Annette]

Out of your close friends/family, how many are TTC, preggo, and/or recent moms?

SIL has a 2 1/2 year old.
Another friend as his wife who are our age have 2 kids.
Another friend has a 3 year old and they just got divorced.
3 women I work with are pregnant. I'm curious if they are going to come back.
No one I know is TTC although two of my friends might be within the next year.

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Can you please change my stats? DH is 29 and we pushed back TTC to Fall 06.

[charliezangel]

charliezangel: I'm sorry you're back in here after having "gone to the other side", but you seem to have a very mature attitude about it! Maybe you can pass some of that wisdom on to me...=-)

Jellybelly: I am SO glad I'm not the only one who hopes for an 'oops'. I feel so guilty thinking that way, kwim? I had a friend who hoped for an 'oops' to such an extreme that she stopped being careful on days she knew she was fertile. Of course 10 months later out popped a baby boy. I just don't want to be *that* girl! Yikes!


I don't know if I'd call it wisdom...more that I have just resigned myself to the fact that it's not time. Some days are really bad...i'll see like 15 PG women at wal-mart and i'll just start crying. DH is starting to understand why I'm emotional.

i think the thing that throws me over is when i see my bank account overdrawn...i KNOW it's not time. We're struggling as it is, and i just can't imagine trying to pay for diapers, food, day-care etc. right now.

[Dizzy]

Charliezangel: You have a good point about the financial side of it! I can't seem to control my money splurges, personally, so we definitely need to wait until we can handle our finances a little less selfishly.

[charliezangel]

well, i don't know how much longer I'll be "in waiting". I'm like 3 days late, and I'm NEVER late. The longest cycle I have ever had was 31 days. I'm on day 34. SOOOOO, i'll keep you ladies posted. 2 BFNs so far, but we'll see. I can't believe i'm saying this, but i hope AF comes soon!!!

[stevesbabygirl]

Subscribing :D!

Threadmistress, can you please change my age to 27? Thanks!

And thank you for taking over threadmistress duties! You're already doing a much better job than I did :D!

[Belm]

Out of your close friends/family, how many are TTC, preggo, and/or recent moms?

Very few of my close friends/family members are TCC/preggo or recent moms.

My cousin is pregnant and due in late September. Another good friend is mother of 2 (and I'm the godmother of one of them :) ).

[dpangel33]

Well ladies I guess I am no longer waiting. We found out late thursday night that we are indeed expecting. It was certaintly unplanned but might just be the miracle my family has been waiting for.

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE

Congratulations to dpangel33
Happy & Healthy 9 Months!!!




Thanks for everyone reviewing their stats. I noticed we have Ladies who's TTC dates have come and gone, if you know these Ladies status could you give me an update? I will try to see if they have graduated. Thanks! :)

[PookiePrincess]

Threadmistress, can you please change my age to 27 and my DHs to 30? Thank you!

[mlfallis]

Hello Everyone,

I would love to join you guys. We just got married as would love to have a kid asap, expect we need to do some work on our house and I would like to get my professional designation before going on mat leave. I look forward to suriving the next year with you guys.

mlfallis
Me: Melissa~25
DH: Scott~24
Married: June 10, 2006
TTC: June/July 2007

[laurenc]

another update requested:

please change my age to 27, DH's age to 28, and TTC to 2007.

thanks!

[BerBer]

I had a "I want a baby now" tantrum yesterday!:o Poor DH he has been so great and the thing is, I know that we aren't ready just yet and are planning atrip to Europe and everything.

[PookiePrincess]

I go back and forth.

Saturday was my twin nieces 1st birthday party. I was holding one of them and my DH said, "that looks good on you." I asked him, "what?" He said, "a baby...it looks good on you. It fits." I about had a cow. Because I'd have one now if I thought he was ready. But, I'm giving it time. He's adjusting to the possibility of a baby. When my nieces were first born, he wouldn't hold them or anything. Now he expects someone to hand one of them over to him! I just really want him to be comfortable with the decision when we make it. I don't want it to be all me and my doing.

I do battle back and forth with myself. I would so love to have a baby. But, the realistic part of me says to wait. We need to be in a better situation financially. I also go through phases where I really like my sleep and I know that would completely change with a baby. So, for now, I'm enjoying staying up late and sleeping late. And we'll talk about TTC next summer.

[Julss05]

Can you change my age to 29 and DH's to 31, thanks! So far TTC date is the same, sometime this year.

dpangel33-Congrats!

I just really want him to be comfortable with the decision when we make it. I don't want it to be all me and my doing.

Same here. It's such a life changing event that it's important that he is not simply giving in for me, I really want him to be ready too. I have spurts where I feel like it's NOW or never, but I know that is silly because we still have plenty of time. The fact that everyone I know that wants kids has already had them makes me feel like we've waited long enough though.

[tashaw6]

another update requested:

please change my age to 28, DH's age to 27, and TTC to 2007.

thanks!

[tashaw6]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

I ask this as I realised while reading someone's journal (their parents-both sides-kept asking)! Surprisingly NO ONE has asked us. I was wondering if this was strange...hence the QOTD! lol!

[jellybeany]

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?

We both want a baby so bad and DH has been mentioning it a lot lately but financially its not the right time. We jsut paid off a credit card and next month we will pay off one of our first student loans, so we are working on it slowly. Ugh - sometimes I just want to give in so bad but I know we will be better off if we wait until next year.

[jellybeany]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

Mostly our grandparents and aunts & uncles. My parents don't really ask but will totally be excited. DH's family doesn't mention it because they think we should wait MANY years. :rolleyes:

[mlfallis]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

We got asked sitting at the head table during the wedding receiption :rolleyes: Not by our parents but our siblings. I am the youngest of 4, the first to marry and one of two that will probably one have kids. Plus my brother is a 3 hour plane ride away.

Scott's family is a bit more suttle and only mentions it when we are playing with his neices. They keep referring it is good practice.

[PookiePrincess]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

OMG, yes! We got asked a lot on our wedding day, too! It's not so much my parents because they would like us to wait until we've been married a bit, but any of the extended family. My aunts (though they've learned in the past year not to ask that question anymore) and my great aunt. She asked me one time and I looked her in the eye and said, "When people stop asking me that question." It shut her up quickly. My cousin asked me too (she's older than me and a lesbian). I thought about telling her I'd have one when she had one, but didn't.

The more it happens, the harder it is to be nice. It ticks me off that people think that's an okay question to ask. Whatever the response is, it's never good enough. Before they were asking when we were getting married. You get married and they ask you when you're having a baby. You have one baby and they ask you when you're having the next one. It just never stops.

[laurenc]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

not as much these days, but in general, yes. most of the time, it's from DH's 85-year-old grandmother and 90-year-old grandfather, and i try to be nice by saying "oh, don't worry, when it happens you'll be the first to know." i want to be snarky, since they ask ALL. THE. TIME. but i can't bring myself to do it.

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE

Welcome mlfallis!

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

We have been asked only a couple times. DH's family started asking around our 1st anniversary (last October). Fortunately for us, we told them the truth and they haven't asked again. My close family and a few friends know we are going to start trying later this year. It helps that my older sister has been married 6 years and doesn't have any kids. She usually gets the question more that us.

[CindyM]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

My family asks all of the time and my mom always points out the cute baby clothes and is like oh I can't wait. My In-Laws don't want us to have any babies so they never even mention it. I can't wait until I am so that I can share all of the JOY with my evil MIL!

[Sha259]

Threadmistress, please update my age to 24 and DH's age to 23

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

Well, since my SIL just had a baby, 2 girls at work are pg, and 2 co-worker's wives just had babies, I get that question an awful lot. Since one of my good friends at work is pg, now whenever we are together people ask when I plan to start the family. Sometimes it gets on my nerves. We have another 2 years before we TTC. DH's mother can be the worst sometimes though. Everytime we see her she asks about "her future grandchildren". Or implies that we need to have a girl, because DH's sisters both have boys. :rolleyes:

[DelSol]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

Our parents do not ask us, neither do our siblings. I think they all now not to ask. Occasionally, my mom will say something about us getting older. I do get it from a cousin of mine. At my graduation party, my step-mom brought her nephew who was only 5 months old and I was holding so my one cousin (the one who keeps asking) said "oh are you practicing for when you have yours??

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?
That would be DH but he has now come around and we are TTC in August. I worry he will change his mind but so far when I talk about it he's been good with it.

[allison]

It's been so long since I've posted!

Could you update our ages to 32 for me and 31 for DH?

After many,many discussions of late, DH and I decided that we will officially start TTC this November while we're on vacation.

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?
Not really. My Buella does every now and then but that doesn't bother me. Thankfully most everyone keeps to themselves concerning this matter. They know we feel and thankfully respect our decisions.

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?
Nah. If we're asked, we just answer and don't really elaborate.

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

Family members haven't really been asking, but everyone else asks. People at work, strangers who find out we're newlyweds. My answer is always, "We'll have kids one day, we're just not sure when." And some people I'm more comfortable with, I'll say "Is it any of your business?" :)

[stevesbabygirl]

QOTD: Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

My aunts seem to be the curious ones in the family. My parents, and especially DH's parents, leave it be. However, after the whole Dr. Phil fiasco, I don't know how long we'll be able to hold off :rolleyes:.

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?

DH is the strong one about this. We were going to start TTC in April, and being the good wife, I asked if he was sure and ready and all that good stuff. Then he said he wanted to wait. Well, poo. Now, we're waiting until DH's aunt comes out next month and then leaves, because we'll be going to Disneyland, and you can't go on rides if you're pg.

[artist]

Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?

Not really. Though other people in general have asked that and it always annoys me!

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?

No. I think we both pretty much agree on waiting.

[LeslieandPaul]

I recently started working at a naturopathic clinic and we have quite a bit of art. There's a statue on the front counter that is a fertility statue and the receptionist I'm covering for and one of the doctors both touched it and got pregnant. I really wish they hadn't told me that because now I'm tempted to touch it!

[Dizzy]

Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?


HIS family does; but mine assumes I will opt not to have children. I never really wanted any until I met the love of my life and got this desire to have children WITH him. Funny how life does that to you, huh? =-)

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?

I definitely have to be the strong one. He would love to make a baby right now! But it is sooo not the right time.

[SQ2]

update request:

Please change my age to 28
Please remove our first names from my info.

Thanks!

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Oh, ladies, I'm getting so antsy to start TTC. Just a little over 2 months to go....must learn to be more patient!

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE

Please remember to post any changes in red, it's a lot eaiser to see.



ETA: SQ2 ~ are you TTCing in Fall 2006? Your profile has a few different dates. TIA!

[tashaw6]

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?

I think we both pretty much have to be the strong one's as we both know that it is not the right timing but we both would be HUGELY happy if we got an oops!

[Sha259]

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?

DH and I both know we aren't completely ready yet, so we are both the strong ones.

[mlfallis]

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?

Depending on the day, it switches. Some days I am the one that needs to be the strong on, normally when DH is away and come home this occurs. A majority of the time it has to be him though. Part of our problem is everytime we talk about it, we always say if it happened we both would be ok with it.

[Annette]

Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?
I think thats all we got asked last weekend by our friends and family. My answer was eventually and his was soon. It got annoying after awhile.

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?

Me, because I'm the one who needs to plan these things out and while he can go back to work the next day, I still need to figure out what is going to happen with my career.

[K-L-U]

I want to be added. YAY!!!!

K-L-U
Me: Katie - 27
DH: Tony - 27
Married: 10-12-2002
TTC: 6-2007 (Too far away)

Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?
Thank god they have stopped. My IL's think it is inappropriate to ask so they don't. Though when we give them the big news they will be so excited.

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"?
It used to be both of us. Now it is mainly DH. He wants to wait until next summer to start TTC.

[Julss05]

Do any of your family members ask you when you are planning on having a baby?Dad use to tease me, whenever I called he'd ask if I was pregnant but the last time I saw him he said he stopped asking because he assumed we decided not to have any kids!:eek: I kindly reassured him we plan to but are waiting to get our life more in order. Mom never asks, she's had 6 kids and I think would rather me be successful in my career than have babies like she did. In-laws never do, not sure how they feel but I have in so many words let them know to expect a grandchild from us eventually.

So is there anyone here that has to be the strong one when it comes to saying "not yet"? No. I'm ready whenever he is;).

I never really wanted any until I met the love of my life and got this desire to have children WITH him.
So true. I was married before and we never discussed having children nor did I ever have a desire to have kids with him but now that I'm in a marriage with a man I love that I could really see myself with for the rest of my life having kids with him is something I really want to do.

[BerBer]

I'm not sure if any of you feel this way or not but, I went ot a BBQ on Saturday where two of our friends were and just had Babies about 1 month apart. Well, they were both super adorable but, I didn't find myself needing to hold them or wanting to talk about them too much. As the entire conversation was about babies. It was nice because I could tell these two brand new (and very different) Mom's needed to talk to eachother and feel like they had someone who understood them. But, I was rather concerned about my reaction to the situation. Then I realized... that everytime I picture myself with a child, the child is always older like a toddler...??? and I rarely have daydreams about having an infant...:confused:

So, Anyone else daydream about having a kid* rather than a baby? or is it always a daydream about a baby and not a kid*?

[PookiePrincess]

Anyone else daydream about having a kid* rather than a baby? or is it always a daydream about a baby and not a kid*?

This used to be me. I always loved kids, but didn't like babies at all. I really didn't see the infatuation with babies. People would ask me if I'd want to hold their baby and I'd flat out say "why?" or "no."

I think I've changed the older I've gotten. When my twin nieces were born, it was a chance for me to learn what I didn't know about babies. With them, it was different. By the time they were born, I was 26 and knew I wanted to have a baby in the next several years. So the experience was completely different for me. But, I don't know how I'll be with friends' babies. I think it's something different when it's close family (at least for me). Guess we'll have to see!

[BerBer]

Thing is I used to be a nanny and took care of a newborn and a toddler... so I definitly know what it's like to have one around all the time and I do *like them but I don't daydream about having one of my own...KWIM?

[BerBer]

crap... double post...

[tashaw6]

Anyone else daydream about having a kid* rather than a baby? or is it always a daydream about a baby and not a kid*?

I'm the other way round! I only day dream about a baby...when I think about it as a kid then I can't imagine it. Guess maybe it is because I have always been around babies and not kids...I don't know! :rolleyes:

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE

[DelSol]

Anyone else daydream about having a kid rather than a baby? Or is it always a daydream about a baby and not a kid?

I usually have dreams about giving birth but never being able to see the baby but for some reason I always know it's a girl. This has been a reoccurring dream for me, the majority of the time it happens when I am on vacation at the ocean. :rolleyes:

[jandrews]

Our family constantly bugs us about TTCing. We would love to start a family--but financial security is something that we need to consider as well. My mother and MIL have already picked out where they want to have the baby shower. We basically tell them to chill out.

[jandrews]

Please add me. Thank you!


Jandrews
Me: Jennifer, 28
DH: William, 29
Married: May 7, 2005
TTC: February 2007

[laurenc]

Anyone else daydream about having a kid rather than a baby? Or is it always a daydream about a baby and not a kid?

sometimes it's baby, sometimes it's kid. depends on the context of the daydream.

[jandrews]

Anyone else daydream about having a kid rather than a baby? Or is it always a daydream about a baby and not a kid?

For me it is usually a baby. I think I am pretty prepared for the baby part. I think a lot about what type of parent I will when the child gets older. DH and and would like to try to avoid some of the things our parents did that we didn't like, while insitlling the things we did like with our own twist. Either way--I guess we will find out when we get there. You can not plan for everything. :)

[LeslieandPaul]

Anyone else daydream about having a kid rather than a baby? Or is it always a daydream about a baby and not a kid?

Almost always about a baby, although sometimes I do think about what kind of parent I'll be, and what my kids will be like.

[jandrews]

DH and I do a lot of things together and share hobbies. I think that one of the reasons why our relationship is so good is because we make time for one another. I plan to prioritize time together, however, I know that things will certainly have to change after the baby arrives.

[jandrews]

One of my very close friends is pregnant now. We always hoped we have children around the same time. In addition, a cousin or two may be TTCing around the same time as us. My older brother has two small children--but I think they are done having kids. :)

[schmeevee]

schmeevee
Me: Vee (28)
DH: Will (30)
Married: 07.30.05
TTC: late summer/early fall '07

thanks for adding me! i've been hit bad by the baby bug, but i know we're not ready yet. we're doing a lot of traveling within the next year so we want to do that first before TTC. we're going to Cabo San Lucas for our 1 year anniversary, i'm hoping to go to France this Fall (unfortunately, it would be a business trip, so technically DH and i can't enjoy it together), 2 weeks in thailand, vietnam, and cambodia (again, another business trip - actually it's an educational field trip), and then we want to go on a mecca to Europe before we have our first born (crossing fingers). right now, we do have a Boston Terrier furbaby who has been giving us a taste of what parenthood might look like (he's so spoiled!) anyway, glad to be going along for the ride!

vee

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE

Welcome to K-L-U, jandrews & schmeevee!

[Dizzy]

So I'm on my longest LP ever... I have Charted to Avoid for 6 months and every LP has been 8-9 days, but I am currently 12DPO with no signs of AF...except that my temp dipped 2/10 of a degree this morning(still above my coverline, though)
So, I'm either preggo or I'm having my longest LP to date. I would really like to know what in the world I did to increase my LP by 3-4 days! Unless my O date is off, which I just can't see that being the case...or if I didnt' actually O, but I had a clear thermal shift and CM dry-up.

Has this happened to anyone else? You have a longer than normal LP and actually start to hope/think/wonder you're pregnant?

[PookiePrincess]

Has this happened to anyone else? You have a longer than normal LP and actually start to hope/think/wonder you're pregnant?

I can't say this has happened to me, since I've only been charting for 1 cycle. Though, I can tell you once when I was on BCP AF was 2 days late and I thought for sure I was pg, though I wasn't sure how that was really possible. I wasn't pg and chalked it up to my body being weird on me.

[candy corn]

Has this happened to anyone else? You have a longer than normal LP and actually start to hope/think/wonder you're pregnant?

hmm... well, I've had really normal, regular cycles too... and this morning I passed out and threw up on the commuter train on my way into work (super fun!!) and EVERYONE at work was certain I was pregnant - which got me worrying... I got AF on my honeymoon about 2 weeks ago, but then again, it was pretty light, so of course I started to freak out that it was really just implantation spotting....

long story short, my temps have been really low (below 97) so I know I'm not pregnant, which is a HUGE relief for me!!! So that just proves that I am just not ready for kids!!! but maybe your time is here! time to start SWH!!! ;) let us know what happens!

candy corn

[Reenie]

Threadmistress, would you update my information? :)

Reenie
Me: Reenie, 25
DH: Eric, 26
Officially a couple: November 13, 1999
Engaged: January 9, 2004
Married: November 13, 2004
TTC: July-August 2007

[DelSol]

Has this happened to anyone else? You have a longer than normal LP and actually start to hope/think/wonder you're pregnant?

I just started charting so I really can't answer, there have been times when LP was short and LP was longer than normal. With my last chart I was 12DPO and the one chart where I wasn't taking temps I was roughly 9 DPO.

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE

FYI: Threadmistress will be on vacation starting tomorrow for a week :D , all updates will be done when I return.

[K-L-U]

Have a good vacation.

[artist]

Anyone else daydream about having a kid rather than a baby? Or is it always a daydream about a baby and not a kid?

Yes, this would be me. Don’t get me wrong, I think babies are adorable. I am sure that having a baby someday will change me as a person. However, for now, when I daydream about our family being more than just the two of us, I think of a kid, not so much a baby. When I do think about a baby, I tend to feel nervous about the whole thing. I get nervous about the idea of being pregnant, nervous about the idea of giving birth, and nervous about the possible feelings of isolation and exhaustion I could feel immediately after giving birth along with the physical pain and discomfort. I worry about how I would never be able to get time free either by myself or with just DH as a little person would depend on me, and JUST me to be fed and how if I tried to go somewhere with a baby, it would take 10 times as long and require 10 times as much stuff, and be 10 times more challenging. Now if I need to quick run and errand, it’s very simple.

On the other hand, when I picture a child, even slightly older, I picture being able to talk with the child, play with the child at the park, take the child to museums, read books to the child, do art or play music with the child, and in that image I feel much more calm about the whole thing. And the older the child is in my head, the more relaxed I feel. I am glad someone asked this question because I too was starting to wonder if something was wrong with me that although I do want children, I do not get all excited to have a baby just because I’ve seen a baby. If anything, I get nervous. But I imagine once I have my baby in my arms, my feelings will naturally change!

Has this happened to anyone else? You have a longer than normal LP and actually start to hope/think/wonder you're pregnant?

Generally I assume I am not pregnant as I am on birth control. I think there was one time that we sort of half wondered if I could be, and of course I wasn’t. DH told me he was half relieved and half disappointed. I think simply thinking about the small possibility got him actually imagining the whole thing. I do think we both were relieved not to be though. I was more relieved. I’d much rather actively plan a pregnancy as opposed to have a “woops” one. I’d also like to be on the same page as DH about it.

I think I am at that odd in between stage. As in, my clock hasn’t exactly started ticking. Overall I am happy/content right now NOT to have kids. Though, I do have my moments of daydreaming about it and thinking about the future. Sometimes I feel like I must not be normal as other married women my own age seem so eager to have kids right away.

QOTD: Are there any people in your community, neighborhood, or place of worship who would do various things to help you out when you first have a baby?

A neighbor friend of mine mentioned that when people have a baby in our neighborhood, neighbors will bring the family prepared meals! I also wouldn’t be surprised if the people at our church do similar kind things. I knew my neighborhood was very much about being a close knit neighborhood, but I had no idea they cared that much! I also get the sense that if I end up being a SAH parent, there would probably be other families and parents to network with and get together with. I feel relieved about that, because one fear I have about having children would be possibly feeling quite isolated (as in, not enough contact with other adults), so this information calms my nerves slightly.

[PookiePrincess]

QOTD: Are there any people in your community, neighborhood, or place of worship who would do various things to help you out when you first have a baby?

We live in an apartment, and don't talk to our neighbors, so no one in our community. We're hoping to buy a house before we have a baby, so hopefully we'll have some friendly neighbors when we do.
Our church is great about helping out though. Sunday school classes get together and have sign ups for bringing food. My brother and SIL had people bring them food for three weeks after their twins were born.
We do have our parents, too. My parents will help wherever and whenever we need them. They'll just be excited to have another grandbaby.

I'd also ideally like to be prepared before baby gets here though. I'd like to plan ahead and have lots of snack-like food and easy to make meals in the house so that's not an issue. When my brother and SIL had the twins, the first thing he did when they got home was go grocery shopping. But, they're not as type A as I am.

[artist]

PookiePrincess:
I'd also ideally like to be prepared before baby gets here though. I'd like to plan ahead and have lots of snack-like food and easy to make meals in the house so that's not an issue. When my brother and SIL had the twins, the first thing he did when they got home was go grocery shopping. But, they're not as type A as I am.

Oh wow! That was kind of you to do! Also very smart thinking. I wonder what some good snack ideas would be for a family who just had a baby. I would assume things that don't require preparation, are healthy, and non-perishable. I also wonder about other things one might need from a store as obviously running errands would be much more challenging with a newborn.

I could see my parents doing stuff like buying some groceries that first week. Heck, my dad has been known to drop by with 7-up, soup, and crackers if I am home sick! (Yes, I know I am an adult, but my dad does happen to work very close to where I live.) So, if I had a baby I am sure my parents would be willing to help out a lot at least the first couple of weeks!

[Annette]

I think I am at that odd in between stage. As in, my clock hasn’t exactly started ticking. Overall I am happy/content right now NOT to have kids. Though, I do have my moments of daydreaming about it and thinking about the future. Sometimes I feel like I must not be normal as other married women my own age seem so eager to have kids right away.

Same here. I'm almost 29 and I still don't feel my clock ticking. I've thought about having kids and I am pretty sure I am ready, but there always seems to be one last thing I need to do. Like we were going to TTC this summer, but last month or so ago, it hit me and I told DH that I didn't think I was ready. THen we found out we have a wedding to go to in April and we wanted to plan our last pre-baby trip which is set for Oct in Italy. Since I want to enjoy the trip and not worry about morning sickness we're going to wait till after the vacation to TTC. DH is cool with this plan. I also told him that having a child affects me a heck of a lot more than him. He can go back to work a week later. For me though, its a bit more complicated. I'd like to keep my career part-time hopefully, but I have no idea if that will actually work. I am really curious as to what the other pregnant women in my office are going to do.

I also feel that having a baby is going to be a lot harder than having a child. With a child, there's so much more we could go out and do with them. I would love to get our kids involved in our outdoor hobbies and it does suck that our hobbies will have to go on hiatus for awhile while we still have babies at home.

[artist]

That last post got me thinking:

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?

I hope that question made sense, and I realize a person may answer this question one way and life may turn out a different way. What I am trying to get at is that when my sister had her first child, she and my BIL took my niece everywhere. Restaurants, get togethers, whatever. It didn't matter if there were lots of people talking and it was late. The baby could sleep through anything! Granted, they weren't taking the baby to a bar or something like that, but they did take the baby everywhere. No real need for a sitter. The baby was just that easy going with new situations. (Though that only really works that well with ONE baby. Having more kids later makes that a little more tricky.) I have other friends who have babies and it's 7:00 p.m., they've been away for about one hour, the dad IS watching baby, but they STILL think they need to hurry up and get home. I do understand a big part of that is probably the need to breastfeed, but it just seems like these people are being really tied down and trapped by the baby as opposed to the baby adjusting to other people and situations.

Perhaps my question is a bit controversial. I don't know. But if it were ME, I think I would prefer the approach of taking baby places with me and not feeling the need to stop doing anything enjoyable after 6:00 p.m. I don't want to feel like my entire life has ended just because I gave birth. Not that the baby is not of course the #1 priority and dependant on me, but I would not want to basically give up my identity and anything fun. I think a baby CAN in many cases get used to noise and fall asleep to it so that one does not have to say "Shhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!" all the time. But I do realize of course every baby is different and they all have different temperments.

[PookiePrincess]

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?

We actually had this conversation with a friend of ours right after he found out his wife was pregnant. I'm a firm believer in taking your child anywhere. We are homebodies a lot of times, but when we have a baby, I'd like to not stop the normal going out things that we do. We'll still eat out, still go to games, still visit friends. I think your child will be as portable as you make him/her. You can still keep with your child's schedule and not be wholed up in the house 24/7. I think if we did that and only went somewhere in between naps and feedings, one or both of us would resent the child and I think that's not healthy. A baby will adjust to your life and I'm a firm believer in not stopping your life because you had a baby.

Artist, you always come up with good questions!

[artist]

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?

We actually had this conversation with a friend of ours right after he found out his wife was pregnant. I'm a firm believer in taking your child anywhere. We are homebodies a lot of times, but when we have a baby, I'd like to not stop the normal going out things that we do. We'll still eat out, still go to games, still visit friends. I think your child will be as portable as you make him/her. You can still keep with your child's schedule and not be wholed up in the house 24/7. I think if we did that and only went somewhere in between naps and feedings, one or both of us would resent the child and I think that's not healthy. A baby will adjust to your life and I'm a firm believer in not stopping your life because you had a baby.

Artist, you always come up with good questions!

Thank you! :)

I agree with you. Granted, there are certainly some restaurants that are more "kid/baby friendly" than others, and I would definitely walk away to a more private area if my child or baby started screaming or crying, but overall I think a baby really is as portable as you make him/her, like you said.

For example, earlier in the summer I was at a baseball game and noticed a couple with this very adorable and TINY (as in less than one month old) newborn! I thought it was adorable and thought it was just great that even though there were crowds of very loudly cheering fans, this sweet little baby just slept through it all. I thought it was so cute that this was probably one of the baby's first outings and I imagine the baby's first ball game!

[Annette]

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?

I hope I don't have to put my life on hold. It would be great to take the baby rock climbing. We go with friends so it would be easy for one of us to watch the baby while the other was climbing. We could probably take the baby hiking too. I'll still invite friends over for entertaining too.

[Belm]

I thought I could vent here for a minute....

We were hoping to TTC in October, now it is definetly on hold for another year. DH's job/career isn't working out quite the way we were hoping. So, we are putting things on hold for a while.

We were both really looking forward to expanding our family (we have 2 furbabies) now, and I feel a bit sad that we are putting it off. I know that it is the best thing for us right now.

Thanks for letting me vent. Noone in R/L really knows about this, so I'm glad that I could turn to this thread.

[jandrews]

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?


I hope that I can balance the two. Of course a new baby will require a lot of sacrifice--but there is no reason to raise your child in a bubble. I think it is important to not let you children be your ONLY life. In my opinion a well-balanced individual can make a better parent and role-model.

[BerBer]

Belm~ I am really sorry that your plans have been changed. I can understand how frusterating that can be for you.

[BlackMagicRose]

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?

I think once I have a baby my life will not be put on "hold" at all. I think my experiences will expand as I watch my baby grow, take my baby out to experience the world and live through his, her eyes for a while. So, I think about this differently, I guess. I think a baby will enhance my life and I do not think anything would be put on hold. But I am at that point in my life where I am ready to not be so selfish and I can not wait to learn and grow with a new living being in the worls that I helped create. Sorry if this is a little wacky...I am just sooooo ready to have a baby.

[laurenc]

i've been busy with my big move to SC, so i'm a little overwhelmed with catching up...

i'm in a weird place right now. i'm working on my dissertation -- something that NEEDS to get done SOON -- but i don't like working on it. whenever i'm in a situation that i want to escape, i get a touch of baby fever. but that's the LAST thing i need right now. that's only going to make my situation worse. so i'm fighting the urge to procrastinate and not do my work as well as fighting the urge to let baby fever consume me. i've been content with our decision to not TTC until sometime next year, and this current bout of aimlessness with regards to my work is undermining that. it's very frustrating.

anyhow.

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?

i don't really understand what this means. in a way, i feel as if it's simply asking the beat-the-dead-horse question, "SAHM vs WOHM?" or if it's encouraging a discussion on attachment parenting. both are unproductive tracks to take...

to me, sometimes people have to be more "let the baby dictate what we do" and other times people can be more, "we're doing something and baby's not changing those plans." do i intend to keep working after having baby? yup. i see that as "making baby adjust to my life." will DH and i adjust our schedules so that we can maximize our time with baby and minimize the expense of daycare? yup. i see that as some degree of putting "life on hold." few people would pick lifestyles where baby had no influence or complete influence over their lives.

i guess we all do what we need to do to retain our identities while at the same time raising our children as closely to the standards we set for ourselves.

and, for the record, i don't think many people would pass up the gift of having baby sleep through any kind of noise!!! :)

[Annette]

I think the poster who originally asked the question meant that will you still stay involved with social activities with your friends. Will you still go out to eat on occasion or get togethers at friends houses, etc.

When our friends visited us once with their one year old, our schedule of things to do was dependent on the baby's nap schedule. We had to wait for the baby to finish napping before we went out and did anything. DH and I were more under the impression that we would go out and the baby could sleep in the car.

[BerBer]

Not sure if any of you can relate or have thought about this as much as I do so here goes...

I am totaly excited and obsessed with having a baby and being a Mom and having a 'real' family. I definilty daydream about what it will be like and how everything will just be hunkydory... when I read about women who have marriage issues, and PP I never think it could happen to me. I think, 'oh my DH will surely pitch in', and 'I'll do this play group and that play group so I don't feel isolated'... and 'of couse I will have sex with DH after the baby comes'... and on and on. Sometimes I think that everything will be so perfect and we will be the happiest family ever. Then I worry that OMG, a baby WILL change everything and I'm sure all of those ladies that I read about with all the problems didn't anticipate their current situation.

My question is, Do you have a game plan to keep all balls(new baby, husband, marriage, work, self) in the air without dropping them after the baby gets here, or do you only think about the preparation before the baby arrives? Have you thought about how the baby will affect your sence of self, your marriage, and SO?

[mlfallis]

Do you have a game plan to keep all balls(new baby, husband, marriage, work, self) in the air without dropping them after the baby gets here, or do you only think about the preparation before the baby arrives? Have you thought about how the baby will affect your sence of self, your marriage, and SO?

Well I hope I have a plan, but in reality I don't. I am lucky that I get the first year off with the Baby since I live in Canada. I am hoping that can help me adjust and learn how to make everything work. Also my DH is his own boss, although it does mean some long days, it also means days off when he wants and he can leave for an hour in the middle of the day.

I do want to keep our once a week meals out. I think it does us both good to get out of the house and talk and not have a million other things to do.

A baby is going to effect everything in our lives, but I think in a good way. As silly as it may seem, I know all the challanges we have been though so I know we can surive. Plus we have four furbabies that have trained us well ;)

[DelSol]

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?

We are hoping the baby will adjust to our life style. We've talked about how we will travel with a baby and get him/her use to traveling. My INLs live almost 2 hours away so we will be traveling rather soon with an infant to visit them, DH has an elderly grandmother that is in a nursing home and can't travel so we would like her to see her great-grandchild before she passes, she's 88/89 now.

But then this also depends on what type of baby we have, one that is happy or one that is colicky

Do you have a game plan to keep all balls(new baby, husband, marriage, work, self) in the air without dropping them after the baby gets here, or do you only think about the preparation before the baby arrives? Have you thought about how the baby will affect your sense of self, your marriage, and SO?

I really don't have a game plan so I just would like to think I'd take one day at a time. With DH trying to start his own business and working from home, he will most likely be the person who stays at home and watches the baby. I'll be working so it should be interesting to see how he does.

[artist]

QOTD: When you have a baby, will you basically put your life on hold for awhile, or will you bring your baby everywhere you go, let the baby sleep through noise of other people, and basically let your baby adjust instead to YOUR life?

i don't really understand what this means. in a way, i feel as if it's simply asking the beat-the-dead-horse question, "SAHM vs WOHM?" or if it's encouraging a discussion on attachment parenting. both are unproductive tracks to take...


:confused:

Maybe you completely misunderstood.

It's not a SAHM v. WOHM question. I also had no clue what the heck "attachement parenting" was until recently. It's more a question of, will you completely give up your life/freedom/pleasures simply because you have a baby (as in, you won't ever go out with friends, won't ever leave for more than one hour, won't ever really leave as baby might cry because people are talking, etc.) or will you still do some of the things you do now (within reason), just do those things with baby along? I honestly don't think the question has to do with WOHM or SAHM.

Is it related to "attachment parenting"? I have no idea. I'm not asking if you're planning on doing things like co-sleeping/baby sleeps in your room, holding the baby constantly, etc. I think it's quite possible to do things like that AND still bring your baby everywhere you go regardless of the potential for noise, regardless of baby maybe liking being at home more, etc.

The question was in no way meant to cause a debate. Honestly, as opiniated as I am on things, I don't care one way or the other if another woman puts her kids in daycare, stays at home, dad stays at home, they have a nanny, baby is in a nursery, baby is in parents' room, parents have no kids, one kid, or 12 kids. So long as a person is not abusing their child (or someone else's), it's none of my business and it's totally their choice. I think the main thing is that people do their best to provide a loving home for their kids and do their very best to be good parents regardless of how they end up doing that. Everyone has their own style.

[artist]

Do you have a game plan to keep all balls(new baby, husband, marriage, work, self) in the air without dropping them after the baby gets here, or do you only think about the preparation before the baby arrives? Have you thought about how the baby will affect your sense of self, your marriage, and SO?

Great question!

I don't have a game plan, but I have thought about what you're asking. Maybe that's why I don't feel ready yet. A baby puts stress on even the most solid marriages and happiest people. Some manage to okay and work through it and others just feel miserable for awhile. Some women who have husbands who do pitch in and are helpful and great still get post partum depression. I could see that happening to me. I haven't had a whole lot of experience with babies, I am so used to having a lot of "me" time, my DH already has long work hours even without kids, and as of now anyway even without kids we worry about things like money. Maybe if we were more financially secure and DH had more normal work hours a baby wouldn't seem like such a stressful scary thought. But for now, as adorable babies are and as much as I definitely want children, it just is not the time. I'm not sure how it would affect our sex life. I guess we'd just have to make a point to make time for intimacy, even if it's only for 10 minutes while the baby is asleep. I guess we'd also have to pay attention to times of the day and week that we both have more energy to do things like that! I suppose things like "dates" would be much more challenging with a baby. I'm sure our parents would watch our children so we could get away sometimes for a dinner or a movie or something. I think we're already pretty smart about not spending a fortune on a date. And it is possible of course to be romantic in your own house even if it's something so simple as renting a cheap movie and cuddling, eating a nice meal together with candles or flowers on the table, etc. It's a matter of making sure those things still happen sometimes. I think people just get tired, stressed, broke, busy, and crabby and forget. It can happen to anyone but I guess people just have to try to make a point to make SOME time for each other and for themselves.

I always am in shock when I hear about those couples who hardly ever have sex (as in less then once a month), maybe since they had their kids. You see those stories on shows like Dr. Phill sometimes and it's always so drastic, like the couple rarely has sex, hasn't really done that too much for the past 6 years, sex is a "chore" for the woman and the man gives up, they seem really miserable, and they're only married for the kids or because they don't know what else to do. I wonder how a marriage can even last for that long without having sex? If we were to go more than a couple of weeks without sex it probably would indicate either one of us had a serious medical problem or our marriage was a hair close to divorce. I realize we've only been married a few years and obviously don't have children, but doesn't the "average" couple have sex 2-3 times a week? Obviously I would understand if people with young kids has sex a little less often, but there comes a point where you'd have absolutely no intimacy and basically be more like roommates who happened to have the same kids.

[melody]

My husband & I decided to start TTC! I am thrilled. We shall see what happens...I will update if I get a BFP!

[BerBer]

Congrats Melody!!!! Yippeee Skippeeee!

[SwiftyOWB]

I am a little late!

SwiftyOWB
Me: Kelly 27
DH: Joe 31
Married: November 6, 2004
TTC: Late 2007 early 2008

I had a touch of the baby bug in late June after spending a few days with my niece. She is so smart and funny and it got me thinking what our child/children would be like. For me it is silly but every time I talk to her on the phone I get chocked up. I guess that is the unimaginable love of family that you have to feel to understand? I am over it now and DH and I have made the decision to go on a safari next summer and depending how we do, i.e. malaria, parasites when that is all clear I think we will TTC. I am so excited about this trip! It is going to be our BIG trip that I would be hesitant to do if we either had to bring a little one or leave them at home. We can tour Europe with a little one or just do a quick trip on our own. So we are about a year and half from trying, which gives me time to quit smoking and lose more weight then the 25 lb, I already have.

[SwiftyOWB]

QOTD: Any favorite childrens books.

I just sent a beautiful book to my neice - Mermaid Dreams

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/P/0439796105.01._BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-dp-500-arrow,TopRight,45,-64_AA240_SH20_SCLZZZZZZZ_V62069496_.jpg

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: Any favorite childrens books

I love the Polar Bear Express (i got it for christmas the year the movie came out), and There's a Wocket in my Pocket by Dr. Seuss.
And the Chronicles of Narnia (not really illustrated, but still for children). I just finished reading the series and I LOVE it. I will definitely read the stories to my children.

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE
Welcome SwiftyOWB!



Threadmistress will be graduating soon, does anyone want to have the honors of being Threadmistress? Please PM me.

[artist]

Any favorite childrens books?

Fun question! I could probably think of tons!


I thought of a lot I love and I could likely think of at least 20 more! Proof I guess that my children will be read to a lot!

http://teachers.net/gazette/NOV02/images/Caterpillar.jpg
The Very Hungry Caterpillar

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The Big Orange Splot

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0439309085.01._AA240_SCLZZZZZZZ_.jpg
Old Turtle

http://images.barnesandnoble.com/images/7070000/7076487.jpg
Frog and Toad are Friends

http://www.apples4theteacher.com/images/arbor-day-books/the-giving-tree.jpg
The Giving Tree

http://ec3.images-amazon.com/images/P/0156012197.01._BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-dp-500-arrow,TopRight,45,-64_AA240_SH20_SCLZZZZZZZ_.jpg
The Little Prince

more...

[artist]

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0916291456.01._AA240_SCLZZZZZZZ_.gif
Everyone Poops

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0385077254.01._BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-dp-500-arrow,TopRight,45,-64_AA240_SH20_SCLZZZZZZZ_.jpg
The Velveteen Rabbit

[Tonysweetie]

Hello! I've lurked around this thread a few times and even joined a while back but left b/c DH and I decided not to TTC for a long time but things have changed. We FINALLY set a TTC date and I couldn't be more excited. So I thought I'd come back and wait for my journey to start. Here's my info...

Tonysweetie
Me: Leslie
DH: Tony
Married: March 26, 2005
TTC: March 2007-June 2007

We're not sure what month we will start. DH is joining the National Guard and it all depends when he leaves and returns from boot camp and training. We want to wait until he gets back. So it'll be in that time frame. I'm so exited and so happy to be here. :D

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

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Welcome Tonysweetie!

[PG-rated]

Hello again!

I more or less dropped out of the group around the time Volume 2 got started, because I realized that I had too much going on to have the baby bug, so I wasn't really a LIW. Then my last two living grandparents died, and that was sort of a shock to my system. I never, NEVER thought that my grandparents wouldn't be around to see at least my first child, and then I realized that my mom is the same age now as my grandmother was when I was born. I was very blessed to have her in my life until she was 93, and I want my mom to be around to see her grandchildren grow up. So now my biological clock is getting louder and louder.

Meanwhile, DH is really digging in his heels about kids. We're finally reaching some of our big financial goals, and I think the fact that he's seeing the light at the end of the tunnel makes him even more nervous about getting off track. I convinced him to let me go off BCP a few months ago, mainly because I was sick of what it was doing to my body and our sex life, and he's still acting like he made some huge sacrifice by agreeing to go back to condoms. So I got a diaphragm, but we haven't used it yet because he doesn't think it's reliable enough. :rolleyes:

Anyway, even though our TTC date is up in the air right now, I'm really feeling like I belong here again!

Updates: Please change my age (30), DH's age (29) and our TTC date (maybe early 2007). Thanks!

[Tonysweetie]

Thank you for the warm welcome! :) I'm very excited to be here. I'm so ready for my TTC journey so I know the next 7 months is going to be a long one but it's nice to know I'm not alone in the wait. :)

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

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[MrsWilson]

Stopping by to say good-bye. I have graduated and we are on our first cycle of TTC! Thanks for all the great QOTDs and talks!

[Reenie]

Congrats, MrsWilson! I hope that you get that BFP soon! :)

[MrsWilson]

Thanks, Reenie! I'll report back when it happens!

[DelSol]

I have graduated also, we are on our first cycle of TTC and I'm currently in the 2WW.

We should have our new threadmistress soon.

Good Luck to everyone and I hope your time flies by. :D


I'll make updates shortly after my meeting is over.

[BerBer]

I sorta graduated with an opps...and am in the 2ww right now but, if I'm not pg I think I will be back here waiting...

[Tonysweetie]

Congrats to the graduates how exciting!!!! :) :D

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE

Please welcome your new Threadmistress, SwiftyOWB!

[Tonysweetie]

YAY for SwiftyOWB!! Welcome :) :D

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

New Threadmistress reporting for duty!

[SQ2]

I forgot to drop in here. I have graduated too. We are on our first cycle of TTC now. Decided to start trying a little earlier than planned. Best of luck to everyone!

[Tonysweetie]

I forgot to drop in here. I have graduated too. We are on our first cycle of TTC now. Decided to start trying a little earlier than planned. Best of luck to everyone!

Good Luck!


Wow lots of graduates! :)

[K-L-U]

welcome swiftyowb!!

Cograts SQ2

[Reenie]

Welcome to the new threadmistress, swiftyOWB!

[PG-rated]

Yikes - I feel like I came back, and now everyone is graduating! :)

[Tonysweetie]

Girls I'm graduating a bit early b/c I got a BFP today!!! WHOO HOO! :D

[MrsWilson]

Girls I'm graduating a bit early b/c I got a BFP today!!! WHOO HOO! :D

Thanks GREAT! Congratulations and have a wonderful 9 months!

[stevesbabygirl]

Congratulations :D!

[mlfallis]

Congrats!!

[Tonysweetie]

Thank you!!!! God Bless!!!

[jellybeany]

Congrats!! :)

[Sue]

I guess it's time for me to join, I've been reading along for a bit now. Congrats to all the BFP's!!

My info:
Me: Sue, 33
DH: J, 37
Married: 8/10/02
TTC: Spring 2007

We had originally plannned to TTC this fall, but have decided to wait until we move or at least put our house on the market next winter or early spring. In the meantime I am charting and planning everything I can, just like I did with our wedding :) I had my dress picked out 2 years before J proposed - thankfully it hadn't been discontinued!

[mlfallis]

Welcome Sue

[Sue]

Welcome Sue

Thanks!

[21daisygurl]

Oh my! I can't believe there are others out there who want a baby like I do but can't have one just yet. I LOVE this board! It is so nice to know I am not alone out here!

Please add me:
21Daisygurl
Me: Aislinn (28)
DH: Keith (31)
Married: June 3, 2006
TTC: January 2008'ish

So basically, where I work, EVERYONE is pregnant all the time, so that doesn't help my baby desires! I always say my biological clock isn't ticking...it is BONGING. ;)
Originally I wanted to start trying June 2007, but I am going back to grad school part time this fall, so the new plan is for me to be pregnant in my last term at school so i deliver around the time school is done (in a perfect world). DH has never been around kids really so he is less keen on starting right away.
I just came off the pill this July and am charting, but we aren't being very careful b/c I am pretty much infertile as far as I know...so if an "oopsy" happens, we would be ok with it. (It is so nice to know others kinda "hope" for an oopsy...b/c I do it monthly!).

[21daisygurl]

P.S I forgot to add, that my parents have fertility dolls that they 100% believe in. In july I touched them b/c my DH rubbed them on me...and my parents are convinced that by September we will be telling them that we are pregnant.
Yesterday my mom found out I was off the pill and I think this further confirms their thoughts. Oy vey!

[Reenie]

Congrats, Tonysweetie. :)

Welcome Sue and 21Daisygurl.

[laurenc]

congrats to all who've graduated!

just wanted to pop in and update quickly, we moved to SC and i've recently started my internship. i love love love it! for the first time in my life i love going to work every day and i am excited to be here. DH didn't do so well adjusting to the move, though, so he went back to boston for a month. he'll be back next week, but is going to be basically splitting his time between boston and SC for work from now on. it was tough the first few days but i'm completely fine now; i have great friends and a great job here that keep me very busy!

my feelings about TTC have changed since i got here. i'm loving my work so much -- and am having a stressful time with DH's adjustment issues -- that i'm not sure i want to TTC in the spring as we originally thought. i still want a family, but i'm not really feeling the baby bug at all. plus i am going to be applying for post-docs in the fall and i sort of want to stay here, which would make TTC/pregnancy difficult if DH can't be here full time with me. i don't know what's going to happen.

i'm not on here as much anymore, i just don't have the time i used to have anymore, but i hope everyone is doing well and enjoying summertime!

[Tonysweetie]

Congrats, Tonysweetie. :)

Welcome Sue and 21Daisygurl.

Thank you were very excited!

[BerBer]

Could the Thread Mistress please Graduate me, I went straight from Ladies in Waiting to May Mommies 07... LOL! Shocked and excied all at the same time!:eek: :D

[Julss05]

Congrats BerBer and Tonysweetie !:D

I haven't posted in a while, been busy looking for and getting a job which I finally did last week! We will be TTC starting around Christmas time if everything goes well (cycle is the same and no major problems going on). Gives me something to look forward to:). At least there is a set timeframe now which makes it seem more real.

My former coworker just found she is pregnant after trying since March. She is so funny, its all she can talk about and eats A LOT with no morning sickness, lucky girl! She's about the same age as me and we were both supposed to TTC this summer but DH and I decided to wait after I left my last job.

[LeslieandPaul]

We probably won't be TTC until 2008, but I know what we're doing for the nursery! I'm going to put panelling up on the lower half of the walls and paint the upper a very nice green colour. When I do get pg, I'll buy navy blue bedding and if it's a boy i'll accent with green and if it's a girl, accent with pink. I was inspired by this Serena and Lily room
http://www.imagestation.com/picture/sraid211/pd4e871995199d71771cb635e325f38ad/ed94a982.jpg

[Rosebud]

I guess I should join now. Hi everyone!

Rosebud03
Me: Erin, 31
DH: Kevin, 33 (as of tomorrow)
Married: 10.8.05
TTC: April 2007

We're definitely planning to TTC next spring. I've gone off BCP, read TCOYF and am charting. I've been lurking a little bit on these boards and trying to get familiarized with TTC/Pregnancy/Baby stuff.

I'm excited to start a family (and my DH is even more excited than I am!) but definitely have worries/concerns. The biggest worry is our jobs, which are unstable (we do production work on movies). Also, we both work 10 hour days (minimum) and I'm already pretty sure that I'm going to hate being away from my baby for so long. Our employer offers great day care, but it's very expensive. I'm trying to come up with other work/daycare options that will still allow us to pay our rent (neither of us makes enough individually for the other to stay at home) and still have some quality time with the baby.

But, we're both really at the age and place in our lives where we want to have children-- and with our jobs the timing would never be completely perfect. When my DH finishes up his next movie in April 2007, we're going to take my dream trip to Ireland and then start to TTC.

I'd be curious to know if anyone else is struggling with the work/kids issue and how you think you'll make it work.

[Annette]

I'd be curious to know if anyone else is struggling with the work/kids issue and how you think you'll make it work.

It is a huge struggle! I really like my job and I would love to be able to work part-time in my current position after I have a baby. It will also allow me to keep my health benefits which are really cheap. I am just hoping my company offers that flexibility. I should find out within the next few months since there are two women out on maternity leave and two more about to have babies. With my current work hours plus commute, I am out of the house from 7am to 6pm. DH's hours are not much better, more like 7:20-5:30.

[Sue]

I would love to be able to stay at home, but I don't think it would be possible on one income. Like Annette, I hope my company will be somewhat flexible.

[stevesbabygirl]

My DH and I have been blessed with some good luck, so I will be able to stay at home with our kids.

[PG-rated]

Congrats to even more graduates!

Work/kids - I don't think I could handle being a SAHM, plus I hold the health insurance for both of us, so I have to work. We're hoping to do daycare only part-time, since DH works Saturday-Wednesday, but we'll see what happens. Luckily, both of us work reasonable hours and have short commutes. That's a huge benefit to living downtown, even if it means we can only afford a one-bedroom apartment for the foreseeable future.

[Reenie]

I plan on being a summers-only SAHM because I'm a teacher. I know being a teacher, in some ways, will be more conducive to work and kids (and in some ways not so much), but I did find myself sitting in a meeting the other day thinking that it might be easier for men. Stupid, I know.

[laurenc]

I'd be curious to know if anyone else is struggling with the work/kids issue and how you think you'll make it work.

for me... i don't struggle with it, because i know i'll work. i want to work. i would not make a very good SAHM anyhow. besides, i've put way too much blood, sweat, and tears into graduate school, and i am finally happy with where my career is headed -- i didn't think i could be this happy with work. i want to continue doing what i'm doing now. i do want a family, but i also want to maximize my career potential given that i've been in school for 24 years now and only have just started to reap the rewards...

but that's just me.

[tippy]

just re-subbing, and checking in since i haven't been here for the longest time...
congrats to all the grads, and welcome to all the newbies!! :)

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE


WELCOME TO OUR NEW MEMBERS AND CONGRATULATIONS GRADUATES!

[PookiePrincess]

Thought I'd bump this thread back up and ask a new QOTD.

Is anyone approaching your TTC timeframe and still worried about things (money, living situation, debt)? Do you think you will still go for it, or wait longer?

We've talked about TTC next summer because that would time us for a spring baby if we are successful the first couple of months trying. I know it would be smart to wait another year so we are more ready. But I feel like we'll never be completely ready financially. We have some substantial debt but we could be paying on that for years. Our goal was to have our 1st by the time I'm 30 (I'll be 28 when we TTC) and we'll have been married for almost 2 years which isn't that long, but longer than some.

I guess I'm still second guessing our timeframe but I'm so excited to start that I don't want to wait anymore. I don't even want to wait until next summer, but we have to. We have some friends who are pg and due in Feb. and she was talking last weekend and I felt jealous that she is pg. And they've been married longer than us. I don't know. I guess I just wanted to see if anyone else feels the same way about not waiting for the completely perfect time.

[Sue]

Is anyone approaching your TTC timeframe and still worried about things (money, living situation, debt)? Do you think you will still go for it, or wait longer?

The reasons listed above are why we are waiting until the late spring. We want to move to a bigger house and pay down some debt first. I think we'll always worry about $ and debt, regardless if there is a child. The child would make it more difficult to save $ and pay down debt - probably cause more :) Originally we were suppose to start this month, but we decided to push it out. I'd like to start sooner than later, but I think it's smarter to wait a bit. I know there will never be the "perfect" time to start, but I'd like to be in a better position than we are right now.

[Reenie]

Is anyone approaching your TTC timeframe and still worried about things (money, living situation, debt)? Do you think you will still go for it, or wait longer?


Well, PookiePrincess hit the nail on the head for me with this:
I guess I'm still second guessing our timeframe but I'm so excited to start that I don't want to wait anymore.

That's exactly how I feel; I don't have big issues with our money situation, which is fine (although, couldn't you always save more...), we have the house, etc., etc., etc. My only concern is that once we have a baby, well, this is kinda selfish, but once we have a baby, I know I won't be able to take any more grad classes for a while. I plan to finish this master's degree one year from now (hoping to be pg at the time), and I kinda want to do a second master's, and I can't do that with DH in school, too (he'll be working on his PhD until, oh, forever. Or maybe 2010 or something ridiculous like that. We've definitely decided that we WON'T wait for him to get the degree before TTC). But the truth is, our desire and readiness for this baby supercede my wishes for more education, and I think I'll just have to go with that and stop second-guessing our decision, you know?

[tashaw6]

Is anyone approaching your TTC timeframe and still worried about things (money, living situation, debt)? Do you think you will still go for it, or wait longer?

Well we have pushed our TTC date back to the end of 2007 and no longer the beginning of 2007 due to living situation. So yeah, we are waiting longer. Although some days I just say to DH that we should just do it cause even when we do settle somewhere it is going to take time for that and then we will never get around to doing it! Gosh...I hope I have a baby one day! We are both so ready!!!

[PG-rated]

Is anyone approaching your TTC timeframe and still worried about things (money, living situation, debt)? Do you think you will still go for it, or wait longer?

Well, we've already adjusted our timeframe a bit for this very reason - I was hoping we could TTC this fall, but it appears that early 2007 is the first feasible opportunity. We just aren't where I want to be in terms of debt management. On the other hand, we also said originally that we wanted to own a place before TTC, but we're now realizing that a) that could easily push our TTC date out another year or longer, and b) there's a possibility that we can't afford kids AND a house right now, and personally I'll take the kids over a house. So I think we're going to compromise on both sides - adjust the date slightly, and rethink our pre-child goals. But we'll see; a big part of the holdup is DH's reluctance, and he's taking his sweet time to get over that. :rolleyes: