Ladies in Waiting, Volume 3

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE


WELCOME TO OUR NEW MEMBERS!

[CLW4KU]

I'll join. I lurk enough on the ATF threads I suppose I should get involved in one.

CLW4KU
Me: Courtney, 25
FH: Kyle, 30
Engaged: 8/30/06
Wedding Date: 9/29/07
TTC: 2008

[SwiftyOWB]

I have not commented lately but I had a few experiences over the past few weeks that I need to share/vent.

MIL NEEDS GRANDCHILDREN
She is always bringing it up when we are around; luckily we live in another time zone so we do not see each other often. This last exchange consisted of her saying how much she wants grandchildren and her children had better get to it! DH and I have been married for 2 years and their younger son has been married for 3 but none of us are ready RIGHT NOW to have children. Every time the topic is discussed I try to change the subject but when that does not work I provide a pat answer along the lines of someday. This time I talked about her nephew and his wife and their comment on how happy they are with their new baby and each other because they had 9 years to build a solid marriage, she gave no response just continued to talk about babies. The constant pushing from her MAKES ME CRAZY!

According to others this is the right time
An older woman who lives in my building asked when Joe and I would have children because they would be so kind and beautiful like us, while this is a sweet sentiment who is she to say when should have children and does she have a crystal ball to predict their appearance and disposition?
We went to a bar we have not been to lately and ran into a guy we have not seen since October. The first thing out of his mouth was I thought you were pregnant and not going out so it is great to see you! Seriously, this guy was logically placing me being pregnant in the rationally of why I was not out getting drunk. Got news for you buddy maybe I have not been out because I did not want to see you.
When I told our closest friend about the exchange at the bar he said he was not surprised “after all it is the right time.” I pushed back as to why he thought this was the right time, he said well you all have been in the house 2 years, have good jobs, been married awhile. He knows our plans to wait until DH is done with his MBA to TTC but still he thinks it is the right time!

DH and I want to have children eventually but we are having a great time and busy as bees so the comments above have really bothered me. Maybe it is because I have the bug and they make it worse or more likely they are intrusive and make me uncomfortable. Sometime I feel like people view me as a walking uterus! I can only imagine the pain similar comments bring when couples want to have children and have problems.

[Linz]

I feel your pain Swifty. My dad wants grandchildren so much. I have two older sisters and an older brother. I was the first to get married but I don't think that should mean I should be the first to have kids. My oldest sister is 30, I am 22. Why not get on her about it! Actually though, it would probably be best for her not to reproduce.lol. :rolleyes:

[eli1126]

MIL and grandchildren: I am lucky here. My SIL has 2 boys and I think that takes the pressure off DH and I. FIL has been known to make a random comment here and there, but it's harmless enough to ignore. I don't know what I would do if it was constant and they ignored our wishes and kept it up. As for my family, my parents know what's going on in our lives so they want me to concentrate on school. I also have 4 nieces so there is no pressure from my side either.

[CityLover]

SwiftyOWB-I feel for you. I have had many similar experiences. I'm always so surprised when it happens, no matter how many times it has. I can't believe people think they know what's best for everyone else life!

[AmandaLeigh]

HI all...Its good to see some new "faces".
Swifty - I completely understand how you feel about other people knowing when you should have a child(ren). In my extended family only 1 of my cousins has a child, and that was completely unplanned for. I don't see any of my cousins or my brothers (I hope not since they can't take care of themselves) having cjildren anytime soon. The same is true for Nick's family. So the pressure is on us to start popping out babies (once we are married of course). They aren't telling us to have them now, Thank God. More of a when are you going to have them.

On the light side, I've had a stomache virus for the past three days. Every single person asked if I was pregnant. The answer was no. Why if a female has stomache problems must it be because she's pregnant?

[LeslieandPaul]

On the light side, I've had a stomache virus for the past three days. Every single person asked if I was pregnant. The answer was no. Why if a female has stomache problems must it be because she's pregnant?

This happened to me in December! I'm pretty sure my MIL was convinced I was pregnant (especially since the only thing I could handle were saltines).

[Eric's Wife]

I had that happen in December. I threw up once at work (working at a school it becomes public knowledge when you have to leave your class to throw up) and the rumors were going around that I was pregnant.

[Linz]

The month leading up to my wedding I was throwing up every morning. It was just nerves and my only living grandparents weren't coming to the wedding because they are assholes which had me really upset but everyone kept telling me I was pregnant. Freaked me out so much I went out and bought a HPT. It was negative, obviously!

[Julss05]

Can you change my TTC date to 2007 please:)

I haven't posted here in a while. I guess because I wish I wasn't a lady in waiting! We were planning on TTC in December 2006 but DH lost his job along with our health insurance a few months prior which kind of squashed any plans of TTC. We are just starting to get back on track but it is still a little rocky financially so we are waiting for that to stabilize along with acquiring new insurance first.

I hear you on getting sick! I had the flu last month throwing up with a fever and convinced myself I might be PG but AF showed up right on time:rolleyes:.

MIL and grandchildren- She never mentions it, sometimes I wonder if she wants me to have her grandchildren. We get along fine now but neither of us liked each other in the beginning. So I don't have to worry about pressure from her. My dad thinks I've decided not to have kids because of my age but I told him we are just waiting until our finances are better, he still doesn't believe me:rolleyes:.

Dreams and Baby Gender- At first I always dreamed I had a boy but now it is always a girl, dont' know what that means. I would like one of each.

[tgr68]

Dreams~I had another dream either last night or the night before. I ended up delivering my baby in a really small hotel room. The paramedics showed up as I was attempting to deliver the placenta and were all pushing on my belly to help push it out. :eek: Since I couldn't get it out, they decided to take me to the hospital. :rolleyes:

[Reenie]

Can you delete my information from the members' list please? Thanks. :)

[tgr68]

Bumping this thread up!

Anybody just want to say screw it and throw caution to the wind at times? I'm in a mode where I am just sick and tired of waiting. :( Blah.

[Jenyfer9]

Anybody just want to say screw it and throw caution to the wind at times?
Um, no. DH totally wants to though. I'm not going to be a preggo bridesmaid, so I'm the one holding back. Right now we're only using condoms though and last night it TOTALLY broke. I think that the timing wasn't great, so I don't think that this will be our month (thank goodness!). I'll keep you all informed.

[akacharlotte]

Sort of. FH definitely. He said as much last night. I told him no, we were waiting as I just bought my wedding dress and I want to wear it in 3 months!!!

[Kopper]

Anybody just want to say screw it and throw caution to the wind at times? I'm in a mode where I am just sick and tired of waiting. :( Blah.

DH does more than me. Sometimes he convinces me and sometimes he doesn't. If it happens it would be wonderful but chances are very very slim since I'm not cycling yet.

DH and I are still on the fence about actively trying after DS turns one. There is a ton we want to do to our house and having another little one would put that off. I have baby fever though and I'm pretty sure DH has it too.

[eli1126]

Anybody just want to say screw it and throw caution to the wind at times? I'm in a mode where I am just sick and tired of waiting.

No, There have been times that I have felt that way, but with everything going on in the next year, I know that I have to wait. We have a wedding we are both in the BP in November and going on a cruise next year so I definitely don't want to be pg for that :D I also am working on my M.S. and want to get that done and out of the way.

[Jenyfer9]

is it superficial that many of us are putting it off because we're in a wedding? :p

[tgr68]

is it superficial that many of us are putting it off because we're in a wedding? :p

I don't think so. My mom was getting remarried 3 weeks after DD was due and wanted my sister and I to be bridesmaids. I just couldn't accept. I had no idea if I was going to go late, if I'd be able to fit into anything decent looking, etc. Seriously, my reasons were all about the dress.

Got it. So I'm the only one that the baby bug is about to get the better of me! ;) Last night I nearly told DH that if he wanted an October baby, last night was the night to get one. :p

[Eric's Wife]

Anybody just want to say screw it and throw caution to the wind at times? I'm in a mode where I am just sick and tired of waiting.



Emotionally, I feel this way but then reality sets in and I know we are not ready.

[tgr68]

Ericswife~That is exactly where I'm at.

[eli1126]

is it superficial that many of us are putting it off because we're in a wedding? :p

For me, it's not superficial in the sense that I am thinking I want to be the *thin* bridesmaid (thin in the sense that I wouldn't be 8 months pg) or I want to be able to drink :p I am concerned with the financial aspect. Both DH and I are in the wedding party which means our finances will be contributing to everything that the BP does for a wedding rather than it just being the groomsman's or bridesmaid's events. The wedding I was just in was expensive! I contributed to the shower including centerpieces and favors, shower gift, hair, nails, wedding gift, dress, and alterations. So I can just imagine what's it's going to do to our account by adding the groomsman's expenses as well!

[Eric's Wife]

As far as weddings getting in the way, DH will be the best man in his cousin's wedding in a year which will be right about the time I'll hopefully be a few month's pregnant. I'd rather be more than a few months pregnant so the news could be shared with his family several months before the wedding as opposed to keeping it a secret to not steal the thunder away from the wedding.

[tgr68]

We have a tentative TTC date!!!!! :D :D

July 2007 I know it's still tentative, but it gives me a goal to shoot for! :p

[CityLover]

We have a tentative TTC date!!!!! :D :D

July 2007 I know it's still tentative, but it gives me a goal to shoot for! :p


Congrats! I'm sure it will be here before you know it.

[Julss05]

Anybody just want to say screw it and throw caution to the wind at times?
Oh yes all the time:). What stops me is the realization that medical insurance and financial security will be so important when having a baby, otherwise I think we would have said "screw it!" and gone for it by now;).

[tgr68]

Julss05~Those are the exact reasons we aren't TTC right now.

[eli1126]

Oh yes all the time:). What stops me is the realization that medical insurance and financial security will be so important when having a baby, otherwise I think we would have said "screw it!" and gone for it by now;).

I think this is what ultimately stopped us when we would get on TTC kicks. Right now we have the imminent financial extras looming in the horizon, but it would be nice to be able to get pg and not worry about how we are going to make ends meet or put food on the table.

[AHammer]

AHammer
Me: Amy, 25
DH: DH, 23
Married: July 30, 2005
TTC: probably summer or fall 2008

i've sort of entered the "baby lust" phase, but we're still not quite emotionally ready or mature enough for kiddos. just thought this would be a good place to hang out :)

[BlackMagicRose]

I had to stop in here because I have had "baby brain" all day! My husband and I may be getting a bigger apartment soon, which would mean babies in our near future for sure! We have been talking about starting to TTC between December and June of next year!! :eek: I am going to start taking care of my body and getting to doctors to get check ups, ect. this year. I am so excited and so nervous. Gosh...I am really going to be TTC very soon!!! I can't believe it. You know...I have thought so long about this, but it has always been a "someday" thing and now I can say "soon" and really mean it!!

[Julss05]

BlackMagicRose- How exciting! I know the feeling. We have the house but not the insurance so that's all we're waiting on. DH has an interview for a full time job next month with full benefits so if that goes well we could be TTC by June/July! I have also gotten a few raises through work since the beginning of the year but my job does not offer any benefits.

[CityLover]

I had a crazy baby dream last night. I dreamt we found a baby on our doorstep and it was a whole "3 Men and a Baby" thing, trying to figure out how old she was and what to do with her. She was really sweet and looked just like this girl that was at BIL's wedding last night.

[AmandaLeigh]

CityLover - that dream doesn't sound crazy, it sounds cute.

Do you ever feel torn between wanting a baby and doing what is best. I see so many cute babies at work, and all I can think is that I want one. I know that I would be a good parent. But then I think about paying off debt, and saving to buy a house, and the fact that I am switching careers and will be back in grad school for at least 2 more years, and I start to think that I am crazy. Can anyone really handle all of that?

[tippy]

just wanted to stop by and check in since i haven't been here in a while. nothing much to report...we are still in waiting and will be for a while ;) though, we have been talking about it having a baby more than we normal do. we definitely still need to wait about a yr and a half or so more at the least so that dh can finish with school and get a full-time job.

blackmagicrose, how exciting!! :)

threadmistress, can you please update my stats?
tippy
Me: Tiffany, 26
DH: Dennis, 26
Engaged: 08.15.02
Married: 06.26.04
TTC: 2008-2009

i am going to do my best to stop in more regularly. hope everyone is doing well!! :)

[akacharlotte]

Blackmagicrose-I know what you mean about saying soon! Our wedding is next month and then we start our TTC journey. It is crazy to think that in a few months I may be pregnant.

Congrats on your new apartment!

[kithara]

kithara
Me: Gretchen, 27
DH: Neil, 26
Married: June 3, 2006
TTC: 2010

I thought I would join since I have a long wait until we are TTC and I could definitely use some company! DH finishes his bachelor's degree in May/June 2008. (I already have mine.) We are thinking about moving to the UK for a year and both pursuing master's degrees in Fall 2008. So it looks like 2010 would be the earliest we would be settled enough to TTC.

[K-L-U]

I am having baby brain too. It just drives me nuts because I want to start TTC now but we can't do it right now. We have pushed it back from June 2007 to Summer of 08. Which is not too bad.

DH and I talk about baby things more often. I think he is ready but with some debt we need to pay off - espeically student loans - we need to wait. We both are on the same page, which is good. 2008 will be here before we know it. :)

AmandaLeigh - I feel torn at times too. Sometimes it is just not fair. lol.

Threadmistress, can you please update my stats?
K-L-U
Me: Katie, 27
DH: Tony, 27
Engaged: 12.27.00
Married: 10.12.02
TTC: Summer of 2008

Does it seem like everyone else are having babies but us? UGH!!

[Jenyfer9]

Well is it bad to say that sometimes I think that 2 boys is enough? I mean, I really want a little girl... but then I also remember how good I have it now: both my boys sleep through the night, I'm only dealing with one set of diaper changes (the first time in almost 2 years), I don't have to worry about toting around baby food or formula or bottles...

And I know a new baby would fit into our lives, but I'm starting to see the appeal of waiting a while between child #2 and another one... the luxury I really didn't have with only 18 months between #1 and #2.

[Eric's Wife]

I am having baby brain too. It just drives me nuts because I want to start TTC now but we can't do it right now.

DH and I talk about baby things more often.
AmandaLeigh - I feel torn at times too. Sometimes it is just not fair. lol.



We have been talking more about having babies. I actually bought a book on pregnancy and DH was okay with it. I am a planner type of person and have no experience with babies so I want to be prepared. Am I crazy to start reading up on it? Luckily DH understands my need to feel prepared. Has anyone else bought any books on pregnancy, etc.?

[BlackMagicRose]

Hi Gretchen! I did not know you were here too! :)

So, the apartment we thought we were getting is on hold :rolleyes: The guy is moving to another city but wants to hold onto it for a while. We are pretty sure he will get tired of paying that much for an apartment he does not use in a month or two.

Any way, my degree is in Human Development and Family Studies and it might sound weird but I cannot wait to see my own child develop and grow. I know so much about pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, ect. but I just have not experienced it myself yet!

I just have to keep telling myself to enjoy my time being without a child now. Sometimes I want to say "F*** birth control" though :)

[K-L-U]

I don't think it is crazy to look into it now. I have TCOYF already. I started reading it but have stopped. I will have to reread some stuff but that is ok.

[BlackMagicRose]

I don't think it is crazy to look into it now. I have TCOYF already. I started reading it but have stopped. I will have to reread some stuff but that is ok.

I have the book to. I think it is important to read even if you are not TTC. I think it is interesting. I have a BS in Human Development and Family Studies and read the book when I was 21 because a professor reccommended it. I think I learned more about my body in that book than I did in any class!

[K-L-U]

It is interesting. It is amazing to know what your body goes through. I never recognized some of the signs until recently.

[AmandaLeigh]

I also bought TCOYF even though I don't plan to TTC for a bit yet. I was amazed at some of the details. I never realized how many things I didn't know about my body. I even thought about using charting to avoid instead of BCP, but that made me a little nervous. Just think how well prepared we'll all be when we are ready for babies.

[Linz]

I just bought TCOYF but I keep missing the UPS guy. I can't waot to read it, if for nothing else than to just know my body better.

[eli1126]

Well, DH and I finally had a planning pregnancy talk and I'm a bit bummed. Ideally, we decided that August, September, October, November 2008 will be the best time for us to TTC :eek: Which wouldn't seem like such a big deal except I'm 30 and will turn 32 November 2008. I will graduate with my M.S. in December 08 and would be done with school. I realize that this would be the best time for us in our live to TTC. I'll be done with school so I won't have to try and balance a baby, a full time Masters program, and substitute teaching 3-4 days a week. But at the same time, I've been around CC long enough to realize that pregnancy doesn't always just happen.

[eli1126]

Continued:

Realistically, it's only a year and a half away. The pros I think do outweigh the cons.

Pros:
I'll Done with school
We'll be in better financial shape
I'll have more time to save up for a more family friendly car

Cons:
I'll be older
There is an increase in the likelihood of birth defects/problems

Even though I realize that it would be better to wait, I still am a bit bummed.

[BlackMagicRose]

eli1126: Take it from someone with a background in Human Development. You do not need to worry about more birth defects at 32. The numbers of birth defects go up slightly at age 35, but this is not very significant. You will have plenty of time! Good luck!!!

So...my update:

It is unlikely that we will be planning to TTC in December as I originally thought. :( It looks like we will have to put it off until May or June 2008. We are just not ready right now. So many things are up in the air. Plus, we want time to have a second wedding. Our first wedding was here in Austria and no one in my family was able to attend. So, we would love a second wedding in the US with my family and this may not happen until April of next year.

I worry about the age factor to, but not because of birth defects. I just want me and my husband to have the energy for our children. In June of 2008 he will be 33. I will only be 28 (29 in September) but we want to space our kids three years apart. So, say we have our first when I am 30 and he is 34...we would not be trying for our second until I am 33 and he is 37. And, I know this sounds crazy, but I want to live to see one of our grandchildren graduate college and maybe see one great-grandchild. The chances of this happening get slimmer every year that goes by.

I also want to have a child while we still have one Grandparent alive. Unfortunately, my grandparents have both passed already. My husband still has a grandmother, but her health is delicate. I would love to see her hold our son/daughter. She already has great grandchildren, but children are such a joy to her and make her so happy. I would love to see that happen again.

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??

[BlackMagicRose]

Oh! I also forgot to mention that my husband's business partner and best friend's girlfriend wants to have another baby! How cool would it be if we could be pregnant together?? It would be so nice to have the support of another woman who is going through the same things. So, maybe I will talk to her about timing :P LOL We can try to make things work out so we can be pregnant together. Hehehehe

[Linz]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you?? I think the chances are good but this really isn't something I have thought about so I would say, no, it's not all that important to me

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life?? I never knew my great grandparents.

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life?? um...It's probably not likely. We are going to wait about 6 years to have kids. My mom's parents are awful, they didn't come to our wedding because they "didn't feel like it" and I see how they are with my cousins kids, they are just such hatefull people I wouldn't want my children around them. Both sets of my DH's grandparents are very ill, on his dad's side his grandpa is on oxygen and his grandmother is starting to forget things...a lot. On his moms side, his grandpa is a fighter but still getting up there in age and his grandma has breast cancer so it is really up in the air whether or not they will even be around 6 years from now.

[tgr68]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you?? I think I have a relatively good chance of seeing my grandchildren graduate college, but with as short as the life expectancy's are in my family (most died in their 60s from cancer, but one died in his 30s of a heart attack), I'll consider myself very lucky even see my great-grandchildren born. :( DH, on the other hand, has very long life expectancy's in his family (90+ years), so he may very well get to see our great-grandchildren graduate college! :eek:

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life?? I really didn't have any great-grandparents in my life. I vaguely remember meeting my dad's maternal grandmother but don't actually remember her since I was really young.

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life?? Yes. Both of my MILs parents are living, as well as my FILs step-dad. She spends one afternoon a week with MILs parents since they are here in town.

[PookiePrincess]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you?? I think my chances are pretty good to see my grandchildren graduate college, but I don't know about great-grandchild. I've never really thought about that though.

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life?? I knew most of my great-grandparents, but we were never super close. I remember going to visit them as a kid, but they didn't live really close by where we saw each other at all holidays or family gatherings. One of my great grandmothers died when I was pretty little. The other two affected me more because I was 18 when they died. One had alzheimer's, so that made it a little easier. She didn't even remember me anymore. When my other great-grandmother died around the same time, that one hit me hard. She had been there my entire life and all of a sudden she just wasn't. I think it was nice to get to be around my granparent's and get to know them, but that year when both of my great grandmother's died was rough because that was my first real experience with death and funerals. Then when my (step-)grandfather died when I was 21, that was hard because I had just gone to visit him a few months prior and we had celebrated his birthday (it's the day before mine) and celebrated my 21st. It was kind of the same way, he was there and then he wasn't. It was really hard to go back and visit my grandma after he died.

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life?? DH doesn't have any living grandparents. My (step-)grandmother is getting on in age and I don't know that she'll be around for my kids, but she lives in Georgia and we don't see her that often. My real father's parents I don't have anything to do with and they'll never be around my kids. My grandmother (mom's mom) will hopefully still be around. She's the grandparent I've been the closest with and we even lived with her for a while when we were younger. I hope she is around when I have kids. My grandfather (her -ex) will probably never see my kids. He doesn't have anything really to do with his own kids, so I don't see how my kids would really matter to him.

My parents had kids young. My mom was 21 when she had me, so my grandparents and great-grandparents were younger. I don't think I'll have that luxury because I'm 28, so my grandparents are older than mine were when I was born. For the most part, people have kids later than they used to and that means it's hard to have all these living generations. My mom cherishes this picture of me (when I was about 10 months old), her, my nana, her mom and her mom. It was 5 generations of women in our family and I will probably never have another version of that picture.

[akacharlotte]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??
This is not important to me right now. Perhaps it is due to the fact that my own grandparents passed on when I was very young. I never had a strong tie to my grandparents. Considering I'm almost 35 my chances are slim that I'll live long enough to see that especially if my own children wait until they are older to reproduce.

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??

I did not. My FH did however and while he has a few fond memories of his great grandmother using tobacco chew and the strength of his great grandfather he doesn't remember them that well. I don't think he would say his great grandparents affected his life but I know he would say his maternal grandmother had a huge affect.


QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??
God-willing yes. Both of my FH's grandfathers are alive. FH's paternal grandfather lives right across the street from us now.

[tippy]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??
Hmmm, I never really thought about it. I guess it all depends on when we have kids (we are thinking of waiting 2-2.5 more years), and when our kids decide to have kids (early or later in life). Sure, I would like to see my grandchildren (and even children for that matter) graduate, but I try not to think that far in advance since I know life is not guaranteed. :(

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??
I did meet 1 of my great-grandmothers. I don't think I can say that it really had much of an affect on my life since I did not see her regularly. I think I might have met her at most 2 times that I can remember (maybe more when I was a baby). I really had the closest relationship with my paternal grandparents and my maternal grandfather. They pretty much helped raise me, and their influence has had the biggest impact in my life.

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??
Hopefully! Right now my maternal and paternal grandmothers are the only grandparents that are still living. I was never really close to my maternal grandmother as she lived in another state, and I rarely saw her growing up. My paternal grandmother like I mentioned before pretty much helped raise me, and I would love for my kids to know her. That said, she is 94, and I know that I don't have much time with her myself. :(

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??
I think it's very likely that i'll see my grandchildren graduate college (i'm only 23 and plan on having kids fairly soon). I would like to be around for great grandchildren, which I think may be possible. I guess it all depends on when my children and grandchildren start families.

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??
I knew 3 of my great grandparents. One passed away when I was very young so all i have is photographs. The others had all passed away before I was born.
I wasn't very close with any of my great grandparents. I was closest with my dad's maternal grandfather, but he passed away before I was even school aged. I do remember a little bit about him though.. He was in a home and we would take him out to the big park across the street and play and eat candy (which we took to him-those mint flavoured rosebuds). We have a picture of him drinking Pepsi-maybe that's why i prefer it :)

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??
DH's grandparents all live away from us, but we'd be willing to take a trip to Montreal or up to Northern BC for them to meet our child. Unfortunately they're all in there 80's and their health is ailing.
My maternal grandparents are in their 70's and in fairly good health, so i hope they'll be in my children's lives (they weren't in mine until i was 8). There's a bit of a rift with my paternal grandparents, but after the last time i saw them (my cousin's wedding in January), I really want that to end. They've aged so much in the last couple years which makes me so sad, and if they're still around, I want them to know their great grandchildren (mine will most likely be the first).

[Jenyfer9]

By reading all these replies about great-grandparents I feel old. My parents are in their 60s and my last living grandparent died just after Christmas and she was 94. My parents are the same age NOW that my grandparents were when I was born, and my grandparents always seemed old to me (even though I hardly consider that age "old" now).

Who knows if I'll be around.

[Eric's Wife]

QOTD #3 If we start TTC in the next year then our kid would have two great grandparents. DH's maternal grandmother and my maternal grandfather. Just like PP my parents are in their mid 60s and my dad has Parkinson's so with a disease like that you'll never know how fast it will progress. That's a concern that I have about wanting to TTC asap. I am very close with my dad and I wouldn't want to see the disease affect his ability to be around my child. So far he is lucky that it is only hand tremors but that would affect holding his grandchild. :(

[Julss05]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??
Chances are pretty good that I'll see my grandchildren graduate college unless my kids wait forever to have kids like me;). It would be great to be around for my great grandchildren, important? Somewhat but not much I can do now if I wanted to have kids earlier to be around for my great grandchildren.

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??
Yes, I knew both my great grandmothers. One of my great grandmothers died when I was 4 so I don't remember much about her, my grandmother told me stories about her though. My other great grandmother lived to be 96 but I didn't live near her and she developed alzheimers the last part of her life so even though I visited her in the nursing home she didn't know who I was. The main way it affected me is that it has made me want to really be near at least one set of grandparents, currently we don't live by either of our parents.

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??
I hope so. DH and I both have one grandmother left. One is in her 80's and the other in her 70's, doing okay health wise but at those ages you never know how much longer they'll be around. If not I plan to share pictures and stories with my children like my grandmothers did with me.

[AmandaLeigh]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??
I think it is likely that I would see a grandchild graduate, but not a great grandchild, just because everyone seems to wait so long before having children. I would love to at least know a great grandchild though.
QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??
I knew my maternal great grandmother when I was very young. I don't remember much about her. The main memory was of Christmas one year. The other great grandchildren got presents from her, but my brother and I didn't. I think it goes back to her not approving of both my grandmother and mother not marrying Italians, but I could be wrong. I don't think it made much of an impact on me.
QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??Between FH and I, we have only one living grandparent. He is in his eighties now, but you would never think it. He spent last summer hiking in Australia and routinely drives accross the country to visit different family members. If FH and I start having children right after we get married they might know their great grandfather, but its not likely.

[AmandaLeigh]

I found out a few days ago that my best friend is pregnant. I am very excited for her. She is very scatter brained, but has always loved children. I know she will be a great mom. Her boyfriend is very supportive of her, and is very respectful of her (he is the first male in her life to ever treat her decently). At the same time, I am jealous. I want a baby. FH and I both have jobs that pay well and want children eventually....why can't it be now.

[BlackMagicRose]

{{{HUGS}}} Amanda. I understand. Believe me. Two people in my family will be having children. The new babies will be comming in May and July. :( I wish I was working on a new member on the family tree to. I just have to enjoy these new babies and know that my time will come soon!!

[tgr68]

Amanda~I understand all too well what you are going through. :( I felt the exact same way when I found out my sister was pg. She is 5 years younger than me (18 yrs old at the time) and got pg after two weeks with the guy. :eek: In my mind it was so unfair.

[eli1126]

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??

Yikes! I try not to think about it! If I do, great, but I want to think and enjoy the here and now as much as possible. Thinking of the things I may miss makes me a bit depressed :D

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??

I knew my mother's grandparents and I loved my GGF. My GGM was a witch! She never liked my grandmother, who is awesome, and hated my grandfather. My GGP were Italian and my grandmother married an Irishman, so my GGM was miserable toward the my mother and her siblings too. All she did was yell.

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??

I don't know. My mom's mother is still alive and we she enjoys all 7 of her GGkids (all girls!) However she will be 85 this year :( My other Grandmother is in a nursing home and will be 86. I hope they will both be around, but at this point, I couldn't count on it.

[eli1126]

Now that DH and I have set a firm TTC date, I am thinking of the things we will do before any baby arrives. Some major things that I think I definitely want done before baby are:

Home repairs: roof and siding. Hopefully, the siding will go on this year, but money is tight due to DH's job change so we have to wait and see. If the siding goes up this year, then the roof will go up next year. Luckily, there are no major inside repairs/remodeling that have to be done.

Vacations: We are planning a cruise to the Eastern Caribbean next February aboard the Carnival Glory and possibly a little trip to Myrtle Beach this May.

School: Our TTC date is 3 months before my graduation in Dec 08:eek: If I get pg within the first 3 months of TTC, then I will be in the early stages of pregnancy for my special education student teaching!!

Charting: My plan is to start actively charting for the next year and a half to get to know my cycles, but stop before starting TTC. I know it's controversial to say this, but I do think there is some truth to Charting and TTC causing stress. I think because charting makes you super aware of your body and your cycle, it can be more frustrating when you don't get pg right away.

*So QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?*

[Linz]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?

Good question. We probably won't start TTC for another 5 years at the least.

1) finish school and start my career

2) Lose 40 pounds and go on a congratulatory cruise and get a congratulatory tattoo

3) be lazy and selfish and lay around all day on weekends and at night while I can

4) Pay off CC's and cars and start saving up for a bigger house

I am sure there are more but that is all I can think of right now.

[tgr68]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?
Since our TTC#2 date is not far off, none of my goals are super huge, but they will take some stress away.

1. Get some debt paid down.
2. Lose 30 pounds.
3. Have DD potty trained.
4. Be able to move DD out of her crib and into a big girl room.
5. Be in a position to seriously look at purchasing a new vehicle.

[akacharlotte]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?

Well since our TTC date is next month there is not much we can get accomplished in that time frame. I wanted to lose some weight before TTC but I did not and I'm not going to worry about it now.

My biggest thing right now is trying to get the house more organized before we leave on our honeymoon. ;)

[Eric's Wife]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?


Mainly two things:
1. lose 10 pounds
2. save more money

[PookiePrincess]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?

Well, our original TTC date was June, but I think we've decided to move it to May. In the meantime, we plan on paying off more debt and buying a house!

[CityLover]

Thread Mistress: Please change my stats. TTC Date: Winter 2007/2008

We have moved our date back, which has left me not wanting to be around these threads much. I go through phases of wanting to be pregnant already and thinking I won't even be ready in a year. But anyway, due partly to finances and partly because of my current emotional state (which needs some work), we have moved our date to winter 2007/2008. I'm really pleased with that for the most part. I'm just not quite ready.

QOTD 1 What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??

My chances are very good, even if my children don't start families until later in life. I'm only 25, so I think I'll probably be around to see great-grandchildren. Getting to know my great-grandchildren would be a blessing, and sort-of a bonus in my mind. Whatever I can get in is great!

QOTD 2 Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??

I'm very lucky-I knew 2 great-grandmas very well, and a great-grandpa and another great-grandma fairly well. My great-grandpa was the first funeral I attended at about 9 years old. The 2 GGM's lived until I was in my teens. My parents had me when they were 20 and my grandparents had my father at 18, so my family is very young. I really value having gotten to know my GGP's. I used to mow my GGM's lawn, she lived just one block away. I think getting to know them gave me a good sense of what my family's history is like, which I appreciate. I understand this is quite the luxury.

QOTD 3 Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??

The chances look very good. I have one set of grandparents in their 60's and their health is good. My other set of grandparents are turning 80 this year, so their chances are little slimmer. But I'm almost certain they'll be around for several more years at least.

[CityLover]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?

1. Get our finanancial situation in shape (which includes a sheduled promotion/raise we are waiting on, save more money and be in the position to purchase a new vehicle).

2. Fix some of my emotional issues. Nothing major, just a few little things I'd like to have resolved before TTC.

3. Lose more weight. I've lost 10 lbs, would like to lose at least 15 more.

4. Move.

5. Take a couple of vacations.

[Julss05]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?

1. Lose weight by eating healthy and excercising (no diet), working on that now....

2. Get a new car, saving for that, plan to buy in July or August

3. Go Camping, doing that this month

4. Get house organized/throw clutter out (may take whole pregnancy and beyond:rolleyes: )

5. Visit family out of state this summer

6. Focus on finding a job more closely related to my field of study

7. Save for baby stuff.

[BlackMagicRose]

I hate thinking about this because my list is endless....

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?

1. Decide whether or not we will move back to the US or stay here.

2. Decide whether or not I want to go back to school.

3. Be Debt free.

4. Have a better place to live.

5. Get in shape.

6. Go on vacations!!!

7. Spend as much quality time with DH as I can.

8. More piercings and tattoos!

9. Make sure I am healthy (general doctor check up and dentist (shivers) )

[ruledbymercury]

I'm way behind here!

QOTD 1 - What do you think your chances are of seeing your grandchildren graduate college and maybe even see your great-grandchild? Is this important to you??
If we get this show on the road soon enough, then chances are good. I'll be 26 next month and I hope we decide to TTC in the next year or two. So I think we're still young enough that it's a real possibility. I would love to see future generations, so this makes me happy.

QOTD 2 - Did you have a great grandparent who you knew before he/she passed away?? If yes, how did this affect your life??
Yes, several. I've gotten to know 2 great grandmothers and 2 great grandfathers. Also, as a baby, I briefly met two other great grandmothers. I'm really into genealogy, so it's great to be able to link those names on my family tree with real-life people that I've met and connected with, however briefly.

QOTD 3 - Will your children have a great grandparent in their life??
Definitely. I still have 2 biological grandmothers alive and 1 step-grandfather that I consider just as much a grandparent as the other two (mom's bio-dad died when she was 2 and my grandmother remarried a year later, so he's the only father/grandfather we've really known on that side and he loves my mom and us kids as if we were his own). DH does not have any bio grandparents left, but does have one step-grandfather.

QOTD 4 - What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?
The major things are to pay down debt, buy our first house, and take one last major vacation.

[BlackMagicRose]

Can you change my TTC date to late summer or early fall 2008 please? :(

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?
-finish painting our house (just have the hallways left!)
-finish other small projects around the house
-finish studying insurance broker book and take test (i've had the book for over a year, I just haven't gotten past the first few chapters)
-get job in insurance field part time (i plan on staying at my current job for awhile)
-minimize Pepsi consumption and start eating better
-finish paying off debt

[eli1126]

In the last year or so during the time I am O'ing, I have been experiencing a crampy uncomfortable pressure in my lower abdomen. It almost feels as though it would be relieved if I were to have a BM, but that doesn't do it. It usually lasts for a few hours and then goes away. Sometimes it can be uncomfortable enough for me to take a Tylenol. I have always experienced the sharp pains on one side of my lower abdomen during O time so I am used to that, but this can be downright uncomfortable! I did mention this at my yearly and the OB/GYN said that it was normal, but I was wondering if anyone else experiences something similar?

[AmandaLeigh]

QOTD: What are the things you want to do while you are still a Lady in Waiting?
~pay off credit cards
~Get married
~have a few good vacations
~Get Master's degree
~buy a house

eli1126-I feel sort of like that a day or two before my period starts, but not when I am/would be ovulating. I am on BCP so that my make a difference.

A close friend of mine's baby was born a week ago. This is her second boy. I got the announcement with a picture today, and he is adorable. I am a smidgen jealous, but have been so busy that I don't feel too bad. I guess the key to waiting is to keep busy.

[JMD]

Me: JMD, 25
DH: 29
Married: 08/10/02
TTC: Summer 2007

I wish I'd found this thread MUCH earlier. I've been in law school, waiting to TTC since fall 2004, and will be done this summer so we finally can!!! I just thought it would be nice to have others to talk to about this instead of boring my family and friends about how tired I am of waiting and excited I am to start trying.
-JMD-

[BlackMagicRose]

WELCOME JMD! :)

So, we may be getting a new apartment with space for a baby VERY soon!!! We will still wait until summer next year to TTC because we have a lot of debt to pay off and we would like to try to move back to the US. If this does not happen, we will start trying between June and September of next year! I am so excited, but at the same time, I would love to start trying sooner. I just have to keep telling myself that this will be more alone time with DH and that we will be more prepared next summer.

How is everyone else doing today??

[akacharlotte]

Welcome JMD!

BlackMagicRose-Good luck with your new apartment! It sucks having to stall your TTC date but in the end if you are able to accomplish those goals it will be worth it. I am looking back now wishing I had really set out to accomplish the things I wanted before TTC but I'm just going to deal with the status quo. ;)

Nothing new here. 4 days and counting until our wedding. :D

[Wrighty26]

Do you guys mind another already-mom joining in? My DS is 9 months old (almost 10) and I already have the baby bug! We aren't TTC again until next summer though -- mainly because I want at least a 2.5 year spacing between babies. I don't think I could handle 2 under 2! I also want to wait till I turn 30 - mainly for selfish reasons ;) We are tentatively planning a belated 5-year anniversary/30th birthday trip sometime next summer to Mexico which will hopefully kick it off!

Wrighty26
Me: Michelle, 28
DH: Dan, 28
Married: 12/28/02
DS: Braeden - 07/06/06
TTC: Summer 2008

[CityLover]

Welcome Michelle!

I think we've been over this, but with new people I'm curious: Are you or will you be a SAHM?

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

[ruledbymercury]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

Yes, I work full time. We have talked about this extensively and we would both like for me to stay home with any future babies if it becomes possible. Right now, it would not be possible, as I make more money than DH. But that situation could very well change by the time we're ready to TTC. My DH wouldn't mind being a SAHD at all, as long as he could still provide income via freelance projects (he's a graphic designer). But he's the one with an actual career he loves, while I'm just kind of going through the motions to get a paycheck at mine, so I'd rather be the SAH parent if at all possible.

[Linz]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

I do currently work full time and go to school full time. I would like to stay home with our kids but unless my DH gets his butt in gear and takes the LSAT and kicks butt at law school I don't see that happening. However, before we have kids I hope to have my own Marriage and Family Therapy practice so I will have a lot more leniancy as far as taking care of the kids. I couldn't see my DH wanting to be a SAHD, however, right now I can't even see him being a dad which is why I am a LIW.

[tgr68]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?
Right now, I am a SAHM, and DH is a WAHD. We hope to be able to continue this setup whenever #2 gets here.

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?
I'm working full time. I'm very lucky to get a one year maternity leave (Go Canada!) so I have time with a baby. After it's over I will probably go back to work for financial reasons, but if DH gets a new job that pays more (which is unlikely since he already makes a lot for his area of work) then I could stay home.
DH would love to be a SAHD, but since he makes more than me, that won't be possible.

[AmandaLeigh]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

I also work full-time, and have since I was 17. Right now I am a teacher, but will be starting back to grad school to get a counseling degree. FH and I have already decided that I will work after having children. I am very shy in person and would probably not have very many social outlets without work. I do think I would enjoy working part-time, and when I do switch back to doing therapy, there are lots of part-time opportunities.

[akacharlotte]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

I currently work full-time. I would love to quit my job to stay home with our future children or perhaps work part-time. Unfortunately, we need both our incomes to afford our house, bills, etc. I'm lucky though in that my FMIL will take care of our children unless she decides she wants to stay at her job. FH does not want to be a SAHD although that might change if he was able to work from home.

[Wrighty26]

Thanks for the welcome :)

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

I am a WOHM. I've been back to work since DS was 7 weeks old. I started out working 20 hours a week and gradually moved to 40 hours. I always said that I would work after having kids and people thought I would change my mind - but so far I really enjoy it. It helps that I love my job and the company I work for is VERY flexible/family friendly (I work 7-3 M-F). However, I have much respect for SAHMs, it's REALLY hard work and can be very isolating. I don't think that is something I could ever do!

As for my DH - we have somewhat opposite schedules, so he is TRULY an equal partner in parenthood. He takes care of my DS every morning until 12:30 (with the except of W/F when has spends ALL day with him on his days off!). He also watches my friend/coworker's DD most mornings (her DH watches DS in the afternoon) - so sometimes I think he's more hands on than me!

I'm not sure how this schedule will change when #2 comes along. I'm hoping that DS will be in preschool, and my coworker will be having her 2nd baby :D We have also toyed around with the idea of me working part time. In some ways I think it would so great, but careerwise I'd like to keep moving up the ladder. It's probably just a bridge we will cross when we get there (much like our daycare decision this time)!

[kithara]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

I am currently working full time and my DH is a full time student. When I have a baby, I will do anything & everything to be a stay at home mom. I actually would love to be a stay at home wife - I just can't afford it. I hope things will be easier when my DH starts working. I think I'd be very sad to have to go back to work.

[eli1126]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

I am currently substitute teaching while working on my Masters full time. I plan to substitute until I get a permanent position. If I do have a permanent job, I don't plan on quitting when I have a baby. DH is a firefighter and will be able to be home with a baby most days. We will likely utilize a licensed private babysitter for the 1-2 days per week that DH and I will both have to work. I will also be off during the summer and school vacations so hopefully that will ease any guilt I may feel. Because our schedules are a bit more flexible and one of us will usually be home with the baby, neither of us feel that we need to SAH full time. I also think that after we factor in my students loans, we probably won't be able to afford it!

However, If DH was still working the 72 hour weeks with the crazy mandatory OT he was before he got this job, I would be a SAHM. I couldn't imagine trying to manage a baby's schedule, my work schedule, and never know when DH was going to be able to relieve me!

[JMD]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SSHD?

I'm finishing law school in just over a month, and then I plan on taking the bar. Although I've put this time into school, I never really planned to work as a full time lawyer straight away. I really want to be able to stay home when we have a baby. So, if all goes as planned, I will work up until it is time for maternity leave, and then probably not return. DH loves his job - so I don't think he's looking to be a SAHD.

[Eric's Wife]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

DH and I are both teachers (DH will be this upcoming school year). At first, DH was adamant about me taking a year off to be with the baby. Now that he realizes that it might not be financially realistic he has backed off of that idea. We have a couple of scenarios that can happen. I currently work a second job that pays well enough for a second income that I could just work that for the first year since it would be during the time when DH is done at school. I think we'll have to look at the situation as we get closer to reevaluate things. DH has not expressed interest in being a SAHD since he will be starting his career.

[CityLover]

I've been having baby dreams every night these days. It's really making me anxious to start TTC.


QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

I currently work two part-time jobs, one from home and one out of the home. I plan to quit my out of the home job, which is quite physical, several months into pregnancy. So I'll be a WAHM. I think this suits me well, as I always thought I would be a SAHM when I was younger, but with age have desired to work continually-partially for money, partially for myself. DH would probably enjoy being a SAHD, but he makes a lot more than I do, so that's not an option.

[Julss05]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

I work full time. I don't think I will quit when the baby arrives. Why, partly because DH and I like the extra money but also because I feel it is important to keep steady employment and career going. I also think I would go crazy being at home all day, moments of unemployment made me realize it wasn't for me. Although, my opinion could drastically change once the little one is here!:o My husband wants to be a SAHD, and if I made more money he probably would be. He only works 10 days a month so he will have a chance to be a part time SAHD if he chooses and our daycare costs will be much less.

[BlackMagicRose]

QOTD: Do you currently work? Will you quit your job to stay home with baby? Why or why not? Anyone's husbands wanting to be a SAHD?

It depends on where we are when we decide to start TTC. If we are here in Austria. I will be staying home. The government will give us 800 euors a month for 15 months and 400 euros for 6 more months. If we are in the US, I would STILL like to stay at home. It is just very important for me, but we may not be able to do it as easy. Right now DH's place of work is VERY close to our apartment, so I am sure he will check in very often, but would not be a SAHD. I am sure I would also bring baby to work a lot. :D

[CityLover]

Great news! We just found out DH will be getting his big promotion/raise next month. That is the big thing we have been waiting on. So we've decided when I've finished the birth control pills I already have, we won't be getting any more. That will be mid-june. At that point, we will have to decide whether to go for it, or avoid it for a couple more months. That depends partly on DH, as he is going to be changing to an entirely new position at work with this promotion. So we'll have to see how he adjusts. In addition, we have to get a new car before we have a baby. So we'll have to evaluate that situation as well. But either way, I'm thrilled! It's just so great to have some kind of date in mind!:D

Threadmistress, please change my stats again :o. TTC: Summer 2007

[Linz]

Congrats! :)

[tgr68]

Congrats, CityLover!! We may be TTC at the same time!

[BlackMagicRose]

Congrats CityLover!!!! That is sooooo exciting!

Can I please vent???

I am tired of getting finances in order, I am tired of waiting around for things to fall in place. I am ready to settle down...have a place to call my home and start a family!!!! The apartment I live in now sucks and we are SO close to having a better place...but it all depends on whether I get the nanny job or not which we will not know about until the 15th!!! By then the apartment will be gone and we won't get another deal like that. Then what???

Plus, do I even want to be here?? Should we move to the US?? Can we move to the US?? Will everything be decided by the time we want to TTC next summer??? GRRRR. It is all so frustrating. I feel like nothing is moving...

[AmandaLeigh]

Congrats Citylover! It must feel good to know that things are going forward.

[ruledbymercury]

BlackMagicRose - I can somewhat feel your pain...DH and I were planning on househunting starting this month, but the job he took back in November turned out to be a nightmare and he finally quit a few weeks ago. He got a much better, much more promising new job recently and his first official day was yesterday. Since the last job freaked him out a bit, he wants to wait a few months until he's sure everything is going great with this job before leaping into a homebuying commitment. Plus, the new job means we would be looking for our future home at an entirely different area of town, so we want to take the time to become more familiar with the best locations between my job and his. PLUS he has some credit issues from some poor financial choices in his late teens that we are waiting to fall off his report once they hit the 7 year mark, this coming August through November. It would help his FICO score tremendously and I'm sure we'd end up with a much better rate. So because of all of those reasons, we are pushing back house hunting until probably September/October of this year. And we probably won't TTC until we are settled in a house.

Even though I 100% agree with the reasons we are waiting, and realize this will be sooo much better for us in the long run, it just feels like yet another huge setback. I feel like we've pushed back the house hunt soooo many times for this reason or that. It's frustrating! I just want everything to fall into place already!

Good luck to you with getting the apartment and job you want and figuring out what to do about where you are going to live. Hopefully you get everything figured out soon and you'll be on your way to TTC!

[BlackMagicRose]

Heather I am soooo glad you understand. It must be so frustrating for you! DH and I took a logn walk in the park tonight and I told him about how much I wish I could just stop taking the pills now, because I do not want to be "scientific" when it comes to making a baby. I want to go off the pill early and just "see what happens." He understands and really hopes we have some sort of security soon. This month has been much better than last month and I just hope things get even better in May. If we get this apartment, things will feel a bit more secure. If we do not move to the US by early summer of next year, I think we will settle in and I will be off the pill around June next year. At that point, I will still feel very relaxed about having a child.

Thanks for all the good luck. I hope your Dh gets settled into his new job and that you find a house this fall!!!

[CityLover]

LINZnWILL-Thanks!

tgr68-Thanks! Maybe we'll be TTC buddies. Are you planning to chart are see what happens?

BlackMagicRose-Thanks. I know how you feel about things not falling into place. It's pure luck for us that they finally are. I hope things will for you soon.

AmandaLeigh-Thanks. It's so nice to know we're finally getting there.

[BlackMagicRose]

I just have to post that my baby cousin will be on her way soon! She is due in May and I am soooo very excited!!!

[CityLover]

BlackMagicRose-That's wonderful! Congrats!

[tgr68]

BlackMagicRose~Congrats on your soon-to-arrive cousin!

CityLover~Last time we charted and were very blessed to get pg in our first month, so we'll be going that route again. ;)

[akacharlotte]

Threadmistress-Please remove me from the list. AF started today so I am no longer a Lady in Waiting! Good luck to all of you and I'll check back periodically. :D

[CityLover]

Threadmistress-Please remove me from the list. AF started today so I am no longer a Lady in Waiting! Good luck to all of you and I'll check back periodically. :D

Congrats and good luck! I'll be joining you soon! :D

[BlackMagicRose]

Good luck Stacey!!!!

[AmandaLeigh]

Good Luck Stacey and CityLover!

So I have a question for all of you:
QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?
I ask this because I have had some medical problems the past couple of moths - really bad joint pain, swelling, tiredness, ect. This has happend a few times in the past. My doctor thought it might be arthritis, but all my tests came back negative. I feel pretty good now, but while I was hurting, I couldn't do anything. So I thought we should think about having kids sooner than planned because I am scared that I might have worse symptoms when I am older. FH is still very set on waiting until everything is "perfect". In your relatinship, who is the one set on things being rigt before hving children.

[tgr68]

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?

It honestly depends on the day with us. Either of us would be willing to throw caution to the wind at any time, but then the other of us is right there with all the reasons to delay TTC.

AmandaLeigh~Definately keep an eye on your joint pain. I have rhuemmetoid arthritis. My OB told me (when I was pg with DD) that pgcy rarely changes your arthritis symptoms, but when it does, it's usually a pretty big change (in either direction).

[Linz]

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?

It really depends. Most days it is about even. We both just really aren't ready. But for me, if it were to happen, I would deal with it. With my DH, if it were to happen, he would have a full on coronary!!!

[Wrighty26]

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?

When were first TTC it was me. My DH was ready to start a family right after we got married. I originally wanted to wait until I was 30 (we were 24 when we got married, and I'm now almost 29 -- however I can't imagine waiting that long now!). I'm really glad we got pregnant when we did. I was at a good age, and things have really started falling place for us. While the TTC process was lengthy and frustrating, I know we would not have been ready if we had a baby sooner.

This time it's both of us. He often talked about just having one when we were dating - but now we know definitely know that we want two. However, we want to wait until he is 2 to try again, with the hopes that he is almost out of diapers and into his own bed by the time the baby arrives!

[ruledbymercury]

BlackMagicRose - Congrats on the new cousin! Exciting!

Stacey - I'm so happy for you and J! Congrats on your graduation from Ladies In Waiting!

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?
It shifts from time to time and we both firmly agree on the reasons why we are waiting, but I think DH could be persuaded to throw caution to the wind much more easily than I could. We both want to buy a house and have a more stable financial future in place prior to TTC, so that is why we are waiting. But all that aside, I think DH is 100% emotionally and mentally ready for a kid now, while I still have some catching up to do in that category.

[BlackMagicRose]

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why? I guess it is me! My DH keeps telling me "let me know when you are ready and we can start trying!" Some days I want to just get off the pill and start trying, because you never know how long it would tak, but it could happen sooner than expected too!! So, we are still looking at next year. I think it will stay that way.

[Jenyfer9]

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why? It's all me. DH would have a million kids if he could. I've always wanted fewer than he (but we have agreed on a number). I had thought that this was our year to go for #3, but I'm not so convinced anymore. I'm finally starting to get ds#2 under control (he's a wild one!) and the idea of still dealing with his craziness and dealing with another baby scares the crap out of me. So I'm thinking that we'll be waiting longer than this summer... but that could change.

[eli1126]

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?

Mostly DH, but when DH seems to have moments of weakness, I am the voice of reason. So maybe subconsciously, I also realize right now isn't a great time. Anyway, Sept 2008 will be here before we know it.

[JMD]

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?

DH definately. He is ready to try, but he has consistently insisted on waiting until I finish law school and the bar. I keep telling him that I can study for the bar and be pregnant or at least trying, but deep down I know he is right. Pregnancy can be crazy or easy, you just don't know. Since July is not too far away, I'm backing off on the subject and waiting. My cycle should start today - that means this cycle and the next - and then it's time to start TTC!!!
-JMD-

[BlackMagicRose]

There is a SLIGHT chance I may be pregnant. I will know if AF comes or Monday when I test....:eek: AF is due tomorrow. I just had to share!!!

[tgr68]

Hmmm...........keep us posted! ;)

[BlackMagicRose]

I am still a lady in waiting. No baby yet.

[PookiePrincess]

Threadmistress, please graduate me. We are starting our TTC journey.

[CityLover]

Threadmistress, please graduate me. We are starting our TTC journey.

CONGRATS!

[Eric's Wife]

Congrats! Be sure to keep up updated :)

[BlackMagicRose]

Congrats! Hope I will be able to join you next year! Yes, please keep us updated.

[ruledbymercury]

Congratulations on graduating, PookiePrincess! I wish you an easy and enjoyable TTC experience. Please let us know how it goes!

[JMD]

I'm having the hardest time waiting right now. We are suppossed to start trying in July. School just finished yesterday and I graduate Sunday. I want to throw caution to the wind and start ttc before taking the bar, and I can't get it off my mind!!! Just one of those days I guess.

If I can, I'm going to see if DH is willing to stop preventing in June. He'll be on a trip during my fertile time anyways, so we probably wouldn't get pregnant. I think it would make me calm down about it though. Anyways, thanks for listening. I hope every one else is doing great.

-JMD-

[Linz]

I think that since I am getting divorced I should take my name off of the LIW list. It will probably be even longer now. Thanks.

[CityLover]

Linz-Good luck with everything. I'm sorry you're going through this.

I'm having the hardest time waiting right now. We are suppossed to start trying in July. School just finished yesterday and I graduate Sunday. I want to throw caution to the wind and start ttc before taking the bar, and I can't get it off my mind!!! Just one of those days I guess.

If I can, I'm going to see if DH is willing to stop preventing in June. He'll be on a trip during my fertile time anyways, so we probably wouldn't get pregnant. I think it would make me calm down about it though. Anyways, thanks for listening. I hope every one else is doing great.

-JMD-

I know EXACTLY how you feel. The closer it gets for us, the hard it feels to have to be waiting. I'm ready now! And even just "trying" without much hope of conceiving is enough. It's the waiting status that feels so bad.

[tippy]

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?
Well, fortunately, DH and I are pretty much on the same page when it comes to this topic. We've both discussed it a ton, and we realize that for various reasons we are not ready to have kids. We've also both agreed to wait another 1.5-2 yrs until we are both done with school, are more financially stable, etc.

PookiePrincess, Congrats!! :)

Linz, I am sorry you are having to deal with this! :(

[Kopper]

Linz - I'm so sorry. Good luck and best wishes on your new life!

QOTD: Who is more insistent on waiting? Why?
- Neither of us are really insistent on waiting. We are more in a SWH mode right now. Sometimes I get scared and think we should wait and sometimes DH does but for the most part we are ready. Right now we are in limbo, not really trying but not preventing. I STILL don't have my cycles back despite quitting my meds and nursing less often. Next month it will be two years with no cycles. As soon as they are back, I get to "graduate" and we will actively TTC. That could be next week or a few months from now. It's pretty frustrating.

[BlackMagicRose]

So, I have some good news to post. Things are looking up in my life! Things are getting back on track. I was just offered a nanny job, that I will probably have for 15 months if I want it that long!!! I am currently only working part time teaching English (I live in Austria and do not speak much German yet. The people I am teaching know English but not a lot of American culture ect.). I am not sure if I will have to give up that job or not. I will be getting my nanny schedule tomorrow.

Plus, as my signature says...I will be moving into a new apartment on June 15th! More room!!!

So, things are looking good for us to TTC next Spring/Summer. I am still holding on the the possiblity of a second wedding in my home town. We had a small wedding in Austria that no one in my family was able to attend. If we had a wedding, it would probably be in April or May next year. We would probably start to TTC that same month or a month after!

Oh and other great news...my cousin Lydia Grace will be making her debut tomorrow! My aunt is having a c-section. I am so excited to see pictures of her!

BTW, anyone else planning to TTC next summer?? I would like to "hang" out with you on CC so we can have TTC buddies! :)

[BlackMagicRose]

QOTD: What is your checklist of things to do before TTC and what have you been able to check off already? What still remains?

Getting a new job...CHECK!
Getting a new apartment...CHECK!
Paying off debts...
Second Wedding....
Doctor checkups...
Vacations....
Deciding if we are staying in Austria or moving to the US...

[ruledbymercury]

Christy - Congrats on the apartment and new cousin! I'm so glad things are going well for you!

QOTD: What is your checklist of things to do before TTC and what have you been able to check off already? What still remains?

We would basically like to work on debt and buy a house before TTC. I'd also like to lose some weight and get healthier. We've already made some major strides in the past 12 months, mainly due to DH finishing school in December. Our income has increased by almost 40% in the past year, thanks to him finally being able to work full time (he worked part time retail to supplement my income while he was in school full time) and getting a decent job in the graphic design field. We still don't make a ton of money, but it's nice having some wiggle room, and our hopes of becoming homeowners don't seem so far-fetched anymore. We are looking to buy a house sometime next fall or winter, which will be the last major hurdle. So we are slowly checking off things on our list.

[summerbride2005]

summerbride2005
Me: C, 29
DH: W, 29
Married: 8/7/05
TTC: August 2007

[BlackMagicRose]

Welcome Summerbride!!! Feel free to go back and answer some of the Questions if you like. You TTC date is comming up fast!!!

[JMD]

Hey All,
Welcome Summerbride!!! I've been lurking. But I've been too busy to post because studying for the bar is all consuming. Anyways, I thought I'd answer the QOTD.

QOTD: What is your checklist of things to do before TTC and what have you been able to check off already? What still remains?

1. Finish Law School - Pretty sure I'm done with that one (I'm still waiting on a couple grades though)

2. Lose a few pounds - I lost 19 pounds last year. Unfortunately, I gained back 8 of them. So, I'm still trying to lose those. But if I get pregnant before doing that - I won't care one bit.

3. Get all my check ups - done

4. Start on prenatals - done

5. Take the Bar - studying now!!! Only have till July :)!!!

So, really just one more thing to do! I am getting so excited. I still hope for an "oops" every month. But really, we only have one more cycle (this one ends this coming weekend) before we start trying!!!

I hope all of you are doing well. Have a great week.

[summerbride2005]

thanks BlackMagicRose & JMD for the welcome.

QOTD: What is your checklist of things to do before TTC and what have you been able to check off already? What still remains?

(1) have enough money for a baby
(2) get a promotion
(3) go on our anniversary trip in August
(4) get off all of my stomach medication

So, we are okay with money (except we need a bigger apartment), and I don't really need the promotion right this second but eventually it would be nice. It looks like we are going to Hawaii for our anniversary, which makes me happy. I have been cutting down all my meds gradually and I should be okay by August 1st.

[tippy]

QOTD: What is your checklist of things to do before TTC and what have you been able to check off already? What still remains?

- DH graduating with degree (hopefully in Dec 07)
- DH getting full-time job
- Buying a house (looking to do that in the next 1.5 yrs)
- Me graduating with Masters (should be done in 1.5-2 yrs)
- Taking a trip abroad (I would like that to be our "baby making" trip ;) )

[AmandaLeigh]

Nxt week I have a dual babyshower to go to for 2 of my co-workers. I didn't even realize that one of the women was pregnant! My best friend is pregnant and I will be helping with her shower the week before my wedding. Two close friends were house hunting so that they can start a family. I feel leftout.

[Wrighty26]

QOTD: What is your checklist of things to do before TTC and what have you been able to check off already? What still remains?

This was on our list before we started TTC last time:

-Move to Orlando (we lived in Tallahassee)
-Make more money
-Buy a new house
-Go on vacation

We did accomplish all of those things before I started dealing with fertility drugs/ etc. I'm glad we did too!

There are only a few items on my checklist for this go round:
- Wait until DS is at least 2-2.5
-Turn 30 (I don't want to be pregnant when I turn 30, purely for selfish/partying reasons!)
-Celebrate our 5-year wedding anniversary/30th birthday with a vacation (that's just us)

Amanda - Sorry you feel left out :( The positive thing on this is that when you do get pregnant not only will your baby shower be kickass, but you will have a lot of friends with kids.This will lead to very useful gifts (hopefully) and an understanding of what you are going through when you're pregnant/when the baby is born. I'm the first of my friends to have a baby and I sometimes feel the opposite of you! I'm really looking forward to #2 because I think more of my friends will be having babies around that time.

[Ladies_In_Waiting]

UPDATED TO HERE

WELCOME TO OUR NEW MEMBERS AND CONGRATULATIONS TO OUR GRADUATES

[artist]

I just realized that I was a member of this group thread and obviously my life has changed a lot! (Some of you might be aware of that.)

This is what my information says right now...

artist
Me: Kristin, 25
DH: Allan, 28
Engaged: 12/01/02
Married: 07/05/03
TTC: No idea when. Perhaps not until 2008 or later.

If you don't mind, I will still be a member (because I definitely DO still want children SOMEDAY), but please update information to this...

artist
Me: Kristin, 26
DH: (divorced in 2007)
TTC: Not for awhile! (Would need to remarry first!) I always thought somewhere around age 30 sounded good though.



ETA:
I noticed Linz left this thread as she is going through something similar. If you would like to take me off the list, that's fine. However, part of the reason I still would like to be a part of this thread is that I loved all of the QOTDs! I always thought there were some really interesting questions. I don't think one has to necessarily be married/in a relationship to be able to answer many of these theoretical questions. I may of course have to skip SOME of the questions though for obvious reasons!

[CityLover]

Threadmistress: can you please graduate me?

We are officially TTC! :D Good luck to everyone, I hope everything goes as planned in your waiting process. I hope to see some of you on the other side!

[AmandaLeigh]

Congratulations CityLover!!

[Julss05]

AmandaLeigh- I know what you mean! I just went to a baby shower last month, have one tomorrow and I'm sure a 3rd shortly with another girl due in July. It's kind of fun shopping for baby stuff, but I'm starting to wish I was shopping for my own baby instead of everyone else's.

Wrighty26- I'm turning 30 soon too and definitely looking forward to partying before really settling down;). Why not right?! Live it up while you can.

artist-Totally agree with you. Sorry to hear about the divorce but seems like you have the right attitude. I've been divorced as well and it doesn't mean you'll never meet the right man and eventually have kids.

CityLover-Congrats on TTC!!

Hmmm don't know what my stats are, I'm sure they are outdated as well. We were supposed to TTC in December, DH lost his job, TTC got pushed to June, DH didn't get the job we were hoping for so now we wait some more....
Anyone have independent health insurance? Neither of us get health insurance through our employers which is a major reason why we haven't TTC. I've looked into it somewhat but all the independent ones either don't carry maternity coverage or have outrageous premiums.

[Wrighty26]

Congrats CityLover -- good luck and keep us updated!

artist - Sorry to hear about your divorce... of course you are still welcome here!

Julss05 - Sorry about your DH/job :( I can't help as far as independent coverage goes, I do think you're smart waiting until you have insurance to TTC! It's so freakin' expensive without it (as I'm sure you know!).

I'll throw out a QOTD (since we haven't had one for a while)....

What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?

For me it's 2 things... 1) I will struggle with infertility/not ovulating again and it will take a lot longer than I expect it to. 2) That I won't enjoy being pregnant as much the second time because I'll have a toddler running around.

[ruledbymercury]

QOTD: What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?

What doesn't scare me? Ha! Seriously, I can think of about 5643219876541 answers to that question. I hate doctors. I hate needles. I'm a wimp when it comes to pain. I worry I won't be a good parent. I worry that we won't have enough money. I worry that I will miss being without kids. Yes, I'm a worrier. It's crazy to me that I'm still somehow looking forward to all of this, despite being terrified, but I am. That internal clock/maternal instinct is a strange thing...

[Eric's Wife]

QOTD: What scares me the most is the pain of delivery and the pain afterwards. I have read a lot about tearing of perenial tissue and how much it hurts to go to the bathroom, etc. postpartum.

[Jenyfer9]

QOTD: What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?

This isn't so much about ttc or being preggo, but with dealing w/a new baby. We have a really good balance right now in our family. The 2 boys are finally starting to play nicely together and are able to do so w/o my constant eye. I know that since the boys are so close in age, throwing in another sibling (either boy or girl) will mix things up... if it's a boy, I wonder if he'll feel left out since he'll be the youngest one (and the other 2 are so close in age), and if it's a girl... well, I don't think that there would be a down side to having a girl. Can you tell I want a girl??? :p

[Julss05]

What scares me the most is miscarriage. I want to say I'll stay strong and want to continue with TTC but it's hard to say what reactions will be until it happens.

[JMD]

QOTD: What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?

I am most scared of it taking awhile to get a BFP! I'm so baby hungry, and feel like I've already been waiting for three years, that I don't want it to be a lot longer.

Anyways, so I am in the thick of my last non-TTC cycle! We haven't been careful this month but nothing will happen because DH is gone for the most important "time" of the cycle this month anyways. So, I'm just waiting, impatiently, for July! Have a good weekend.
-JMD-

[Wen]

I would like to join in the fun too
QOTD : What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?

Having more than one. My DH is a twin, my dad is a twin and DH and I both have several sets from grandparents and up. We even have a couple sets of tripletts above us too. No one in our generation has had twins and I'm terrified it will be me. Having two or more from the very beginning I think would be overwhelming.

[tracer]

I think I am a lady in waiting too. We can't wait to have another baby. We went of the pill the beginning of the year and charted TTA for almost 5 months. Once we decided it was time to start on the next cycle, I began to get really ill. I ended up having appendicitis that ruptured which put me in the hospital for an emergency surgery. Oh it was horrible! After that I wasn't in any condition to *try* even if I had O'd. But the whole process really messed up my body and cycle so all those 5 months of charted are of no use now. So we are waiting for my cycle to get back on track. I finally got AF last week, but it has been really really light, although I am counting it as a period. So hopefully next week I will O. I was CD1 period and CD14 O. Very consistent. Fingers crossed my body gets back to that cycle...NOW! I am so ready...

[Kopper]

QOTD: What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?

I'm not scared of being pregnant it's after the birth that I am scared/nervous. It's tough in the beginning and I imagine it will be tough having a toddler and a newborn.

That said... Sunday AF made an appearence after being gone for almost exactly 2 years. So.... we are offically TTCing! We are going to take it slow for a few months and not try and time things but I am going to chart.

Threadmistress, can you move me to the Grad section? Thanks!

[tracer]

Good luck Kopper! I hope to join you in the TTC thread soon!;)

[tgr68]

QOTD: What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?

Nothing really. I do want some things to go differently than last time. I had horrible morning sickness from 6 weeks on, and I ended up with a c-section because DD had the cord wrapped around her neck. Overall, though, I had a pretty uneventful pgcy! This time around the biggest thing is that I would really like to have a VBAC.

Minor Vent
I hate it when people ask when we are going to have another! It just reminds me of how I feel that DH and I have failed financially so to speak over the past year and how if I got pregnant according to our original plan, I would be about 6 months along right now. :( I know they don't mean to bring up all these emotions, but it just sucks!! KWIM?

[artist]

artist-Totally agree with you. Sorry to hear about the divorce but seems like you have the right attitude. I've been divorced as well and it doesn't mean you'll never meet the right man and eventually have kids.


Thank you! Well, it looks like you are certainly proof that one can move on after a divorce, meet the right man, and eventually have kids! :)


Hmmm don't know what my stats are, I'm sure they are outdated as well. We were supposed to TTC in December, DH lost his job, TTC got pushed to June, DH didn't get the job we were hoping for so now we wait some more....
Anyone have independent health insurance? Neither of us get health insurance through our employers which is a major reason why we haven't TTC. I've looked into it somewhat but all the independent ones either don't carry maternity coverage or have outrageous premiums.

So sorry to hear about your DH's job loss as well as the crappiness of not having health insurance! I unfortunately don't have any advice or ideas, but I hope you both can somehow get some adequate health insurance soon as well as luck for your DH in finding a job that he's happier with! It is so awful how many people in this country are without health insurance!


artist - Sorry to hear about your divorce... of course you are still welcome here!


Thank you!

[Sue]

Wow, I thought I had subscribed to the thread :o

QOTD: What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?
I'm not really scared about pregnancy or how long it'll take to get PG or even labor. What scares the crap out of me is being responsible for this little person and how it'll change my relationship with DH.

Update to stats...
TTC has been changed to Sept. 07 and my age is now 34.

[Wen]

QOTD: What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?
I'm not really scared about pregnancy or how long it'll take to get PG or even labor. What scares the crap out of me is being responsible for this little person and how it'll change my relationship with DH.




Eww, yes ITA with this too. But my number one scariest is still two or more at once.

[Sue]

Eww, yes ITA with this too. But my number one scariest is still two or more at once.

With as many multiples that are in your family, I would be too :eek:

[CityLover]

I'm back. DH didn't end up getting his promotion afterall. We thought for awhile we would go for it anyway, but when the time came, we knew we weren't ready financially. Surprisingly, though, I'm not terribly upset. I guess we got to the place where we could have a baby and chose to wait, and that makes waiting seem right, KWIM?

CityLover
Me: Maegan, 25
DH: Dean, 29
Married: August 2002
TTC: Fall/Winter 2007 (very tentative)


Anyone have independent health insurance? Neither of us get health insurance through our employers which is a major reason why we haven't TTC. I've looked into it somewhat but all the independent ones either don't carry maternity coverage or have outrageous premiums.

This is one of the reasons we decided to wait. When we ended up not getting the health insurance through DH's promotion, we compared a lot of independent plans. In the end, we decided there was no way we could swing it right now. The best premium we found for maternity insurance was $250 from Humana.

[AmandaLeigh]

QOTD: What scares you most about TTC/being pregnant?

What doesn't scare me? I am afraid we will wait too long and have trouble getting pregnant. I am afraid that I will get pregnant before we are ready and FH will be resentful. Probably my biggest fear is having a child with a severe disability. I know that I could handle this as I worked with kids with severe disabilities and loved them to pieces and would have gladly taken care of them if something had happened to their parents, but I really do not think that FH could deal with it. So I guess that is my biggest fear.

[Wrighty26]

I don't think I've been getting updates to this thread!

Kopper - Good luck!!

tgr68 - I'm sorry you've been getting so many questions about TTC again!! I have been getting asked when we are trying for #2 since DS was about 3 months old. What is with people?

Sue/Wen - Multiples scare the crap out of me too! My mom keeps reminding that twins run in the family (on both sides). I think that if it did happen it would be a blessing -- but wow! I would SO not be prepared for it!

CityLover - Awww -- I'm sorry that DH's promotion didn't pan out and I'm sorry you are back -- but honestly, I think you are making a very smart decision! We're here for you if you want to vent!!

My DS is turning 1 on Friday -- I CANNOT for the life of me believe how fast this year has flown. They don't tell you about this in the pregnancy/baby books!! I really do have the baby bug badly -- but I know that waiting another year is the best thing for me, my son, and my DH. It's kind of bittersweet -- hoping this next year to fly by too so we can TTC again -- but at the same time I want to enjoy every moment with my son. They are only so innocent so long these days...

[tgr68]

Wrighty~Happy early birthday to your DS! :D And, I'm so glad there's another mom in here waiting on TTCing #2. It really seems like people assume that once you've had one, you are ready to pop out half a dozen more. :rolleyes:

[Wen]

It really seems like people assume that once you've had one, you are ready to pop out half a dozen more. :rolleyes:


Just like the day you get married and sometimes even when you get engaged they ask when you're having a baby. I was hoping this wouldn't continue after you have your first. Oh, well. :( Thought I might get a break from it after number 1.

[Wrighty26]

Just like the day you get married and sometimes even when you get engaged they ask when you're having a baby. I was hoping this wouldn't continue after you have your first. Oh, well. :( Thought I might get a break from it after number 1.

I don't think we get a break until we hit menopause!! My cousin and his wife have 2 girls -- the youngest is 7-- and they still get asked ALL.THE.TIME if they are going to have another one. Ummmm...that would be a big no!

tgr68 - Thanks the for the birthday wishes for my son! I think physically I could do it a million times in a heartbeat -- but the thought of care, patience, lack of sleep, and pure exhaustion make me snap back into reality!

[tgr68]

Wen~Exactly.

Wrighty~DH and I have really been ready since January of this year. It's been all the outside factors (job, insurance, finances, space, etc.) that have caused us to push things back a bit.

Okay. DH and I had a long talk last night about when to start TTC again. We had originally plan on January and then my July cycle (which I'm expecting to start around the 21st of this month) but our businesses were looking rather shaky. We decided that basically we could be in a better financial situation that we currently are, could be prepared a little more, could be all these things that we're not, BUT in the end are we willing to wait until DD is in school before we really start trying? No. We also decided what major difference could one month make and realized that we are going to be across country during my fertile time of our first TTC cycle.

So, threadmistress we are moving on to SWH/TTC. Please move me to "graduate" status. Good luck to everyone here!

[AmandaLeigh]

Congratulations tgr.

FH and I had a very interesting conversation last night. This past Sunday, there was a woman with a baby and the grandmother in front of us at church. Looking at the baby, you coud tell it had some sort of abnormality (head was very misshapen/small). FH was asking about birth defects and age, and of course I told him the risks increase with age. He said that that was what he and his one friend had talked about the other day and that his friend and friend's wife were going to start trying next month. Why is this significant, you ask. FH wants kids in a someday in the future way whereas I want them in a I'd rather have them now, while I am at a place in my career where it would be easy to come back to.
By his friends having kids, it made him realize that he is not super young anymore. So this is good because it puts him closer to when I think we should have children. Okay that was a lot of rambling. Hope it made sense.

[Wrighty26]

Yay! Congrats tgr :) It sucks when you are just waiting for the "right time." Doesn't something always pop up?

AmandaLeigh - That's great