Ladies in Waiting [Archive] - Page 2

honeygirl

07-18-2005, 08:01 PM

How would you feel about TTC now, since it might take longer than you thought? That's kinda where I am with DH now. We originally were going to wait until late this year (after Christmas) to early next year. But we think we might have some difficulty, so we are going to give it a shot earlier just to see what happens. You might want to do that. If you get PG, great, but if not, you can start testing and doing things to make it happen. Keep us updated!

Hmm, we'll I'm still not quite ready to get pg, but I've been thinking of this. Actually DH and I were talking this afternoon and he asked why I would wait 3 months to stop BCP. So, I'm thinking of going off after this next cycle.

Good luck to you Mrs. Smith, sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation. Part of me is hoping that the dr is wrong and that everything will be fine, I guess that's the denial stage. Anyway, I'm going to try not to worry about it and just do what I can.

Twylla

07-18-2005, 09:07 PM

Pets? I have a 10 month old puppy, Ginger. She's in my avatar, but those 2 pics are from when she was just 2 months old... she's still really cute though! Ginger's a shih tzu, and the breed is generally really good with kids. She's been around a few kids, and she lvoes them, thank goodness. I'm trying to get her around as many little kids as possible, not only because she likes them, but also to get her used to them! I know the attention thing will be trouble though.. she's spoiled beyond belief right now. As soon as I get a bFP, I'm going to stop dealing with her first thing when I walk in the door. Luckily, she's small, only 10 pounds, so she shouldn't be too much hassel with a baby!

I've also thought about ttc taking a while. That's why we're starting the minutes I finish this darned marathon. well, maybe not that minute, but you get the idea! ;)

sissysue, congrats on little Sarah Olivia. What a beautiful name you've chosen!

jenji

07-19-2005, 06:07 AM

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?

we have 2 dogs. 1 border collie mix (Ellie Mae) and 1 chocolate lab (Hank). I think Hank will be fine with a baby. He's still a baby himself and has lots of energy, but he will grow out of some of that before we have kids. I'm a little concerned about Ellie though because she's very scared of children. My SIL is PG and due in March though, so I guess we'll get to see how she reacts to a baby before we get PG.
I hope she does alright, but I'm afraid she'll be scared all the time and if that's the case, we wouldn't be able to keep her :( She was abused as a pup and when she gets really scared she'll become very defensive even if there's no real threat and there's no way I'd take any chances with that

SQ2

07-19-2005, 08:57 AM

giry76 ~ I love your hedgehog! So adorable. I didn't know you could have hedgehogs as pets.

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?

We don't, but I have wanted a dog for as long as I can remember (didn't grow up with cats or dogs) and DH loves cats so we'll definitely be getting one of each. We don't live in a house yet and our apt complex doesn't allow pets but once we move we'll get our pets. :D I'm unsure as to *when* we'll get a puppy though. A can will be easier to take care of but I'm not sure if it would be a good idea to get a puppy when we have a newborn. Might be too much work. But, if we start TTC earlier I might be ok with getting a puppy when we move and the baby is a little older. We'll see. I'm definitely concerned about the time committment with training a dog and how that will interfere with taking care of a child.

artist

07-19-2005, 09:29 AM

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artist

07-19-2005, 09:59 AM

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jessied1025

07-19-2005, 12:59 PM

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?
Yes, we have a female yellow lab. Her name is Sugar.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v519/jessied1025/Sugar/Sugar.jpg
She is really good around our nephew and other kids. I am sure she will go through a jealous phase, since right now she is the baby of the house! :) But I think she will be very protective of the baby as well.

giry76

07-19-2005, 02:37 PM

Thanks for your comments about my little Doris the hedgehog. She is a cutie isn't she?
To learn more about hedgehogs or just to see more cute pictures here is a good web site. http://70.85.19.92/forums/

stevesbabygirl

07-19-2005, 03:55 PM

giry,
That hedgehog is so cute! I don't think California allows pets like that, just like ferrets and gerbils. But damn, how cute is she?!

QOTD - I have three cats and an iguana. One of my cats is very much a people cat, so I have no worries about him. The other two are declawed (I didn't do it) so I don't have to worry about scratching or anything. The iguana is in a cage, so I don't have to worry about her either.

Tracker:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v614/stevesbabygirl/DSC02417.jpg

Minnie:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v614/stevesbabygirl/Picture269.jpg

Zero:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v614/stevesbabygirl/DSC02379.jpg

Bogey:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v614/stevesbabygirl/DSC02405.jpg

honeygirl

07-19-2005, 08:29 PM

I love the pictures of the fur-babies! I heard from friends before we got a dog that they were a good practice for having a baby. Anyone agree? Our little guy took a lot of work and patience in the beginning (he's 11 months old now) to get him trained. DH did most of it :) I'd come home from work and he'd say "i'm tired take the dog", I used to laugh thinking that he sounded like a SAHM.

Here's Dante:

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y11/anneg/dantegrassJune05.jpg

Artist - I didn't know that you couldn't paint while pregnant (besides big rooms of course), paint fumes even is small amounts are bad?

Twylla

07-19-2005, 08:44 PM

honeygirl, I totally agree about puppies being good training for babies! They take a LOT of work. I knew that before we brought Ginger home, but I didn't UNDERSTAND, kwim? We literally had some sleepless nights in our house!

I was reading a thread about co-sleeping in the parenting forum, and someone brought up pets in the bed as well. That got me thinking.... what the heck are we going to do? I guess if we can keep Ginger in one area of the bed we'll be okay, but I know that she'll probably be jealous if a baby gets into the bed and she gets kicked out!

Today I was browsing the baby section at Zellers, and there are so many cute things! I was looking for a shower gift, but was distracted by big ticket items like cribs and bedding and swings, lol! I told DH I can't wait to shop for our kids, and he said he couldn't wait either! Yay!

And on a totally unrelated note, official training for the marathon I'm running starts this Sunday. 20 weeks until the Honolulu Marathon, which means 20 weeks until we TTC, that's just half the expected pregnancy to go! Yay!!!! :D

honeygirl

07-19-2005, 08:59 PM

Twylla - I can relate to the sleepless nights, he was such a whiner in the first few weeks. Not to mention having to get up at 2am to change the sheets when we let him sleep w/ us b/c he peed! Man I hated that, actually it still happens but MUCH less.

Good luck with the marathon training. I've been to the honolulu marathon before (watching not participating) and it's a lovely course. I used to live in Hawaii, but never quite got the hang of running, too painful (and I'm a slacker). It was all surfing for me! :)

Cinderz

07-19-2005, 09:36 PM

QOTD~Pets?
We have 2 dogs--Nina & Shelby. They are both "seniors" (12 & 11 yrs.) so we're not too worried about their behavior toward a new baby. Our fur babies are a part of our family, so DH and I will still give them special attention. I think it will be fun including the dogs on walks, trips to the park, etc. Actually, my biggest fear is when our baby starts crawling--I hope he/she doesn't eat any dog kibble.

LeslieandPaul

07-20-2005, 12:39 AM

New QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?

FH wants to have as many as possible-he jokes about having 12! Until recently I only wanted two, but lately I've been thinking that 3 would be okay-even if it means, gasp, driving a mini van! (I do not like them and do not want to drive one, but if you have to you have to)

eli1126

07-20-2005, 06:43 AM

How many kids do you plan on having?

Well I always wanted 2, but we'll have to see how everything goes.

Beth

mierin

07-20-2005, 06:58 AM

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
Ah, the great debate. We're deadlocked on this one. DH wants three and I want to two. Coincidentally, I have one sibling and he has two. I guess people like to have what they grew up with. Somehow, I think he's going to win. Maybe it'll be fun having three kids. I'm open to it.

al'sgirl

07-20-2005, 07:29 AM

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?

The current answer for us is 2. He is from a family of 5 siblings, so less than two probably wouldn't be enough for him. Twins fun in his family, so we'll see what happens!

SQ2

07-20-2005, 07:34 AM

2.5 ;)

If 2, I've like 1 boy and 1 girl
If 3, I'd like 1 boy and 2 girls

(DH also estimates that he'd like 2-3 kids).

Please and thank you. :D

jenji

07-20-2005, 07:56 AM

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?

I'd like 2 (a boy and girl) DH was adament about wanting 3 and I told him I didn't want more kids than God gave me hands. we went back and forth for a while, then he decided 2 was fine with him too :)

cat_loverpq

07-20-2005, 08:22 AM

QOTD ~ Kids:

We've pretty much settled on 2 - one boy and one girl would be ideal. :) If we do go for 3, I'd want two girls and one boy. I most definitely want a girl first though. (I already have a couple dress outfits that I couldn't resist buying! Hey, they were on sale! :D )

al'sgirl - I could be wrong, but I don't think it matters if twins run on your DH's side of the family. Multiple eggs/ovulations during each cycle is genetically passed down through females, not males. ;)

Peaches

07-20-2005, 09:06 AM

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?

We would plan for 2. However, if we had twins first we might consider having one more.

artist
Yeah, I drool over that pram but at $1225 I am resisting so far.
Great minds must think alike...I had a black Golf and loved it! Another Golf would be my ideal "mommy-mobile" :)

eli1126

07-20-2005, 09:34 AM

laurenc

07-20-2005, 09:37 AM

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?

i say 3 because i have a weird preference for odd numbers.

he says 2 because "don't let them ever outnumber you."

i think we'll be happy if we can just get 1 healthy happy child when the time comes and then take it from there. :)

j2478

07-20-2005, 10:07 AM

DH wants 2 b/c "after that they would out number us." I'm stuck between 2 and 3. We'll see after the second one comes if I really want another.

sunchaser26

07-20-2005, 01:50 PM

Question of the day: How many kids do you plan on having?

We plan on having two, hopefully one boy and one girl but that is not always likely to happen. So whatever we have as long as they are healthy that will be fine.

honeygirl

07-20-2005, 02:03 PM

MrsSmith

07-20-2005, 02:05 PM

In a perfect world, I really think I'd like to have about 5 kids. However, I doubt that will happen because of the costs of raising a child the way I'd want to raise them. So, we'll probably have between 2-3. But if we become rich all of a sudden, let the babies flow...LOL

eli1126

07-20-2005, 03:31 PM

QOTD: I'd like to have between 2-3, depending on how the 1st one goes ;). DH said 1-2. We're both the youngest of 3, so I'd think we'd be more open to having 3. At this point I'd be happy knowing that I could have 1 healthy child before I'm 40!

eli1226 - Yes, that means you have a greater chance of having twins! Any other twins in your family? We have twins WAY back (my grandma's mom), so I'm guessing we'll be twin free.

I have twin male cousins on my Father's side :eek: We aren't that close to my Father's side of the family so I 've only met them a few times. They were born a week or so before my sister and I were!!! I don't know of any others, I'd have to ask my Grandmother.

Beth

stevesbabygirl

07-20-2005, 03:48 PM

QOTD - I'd like 2 or 3 kids, unless we had all one sex, then I'd keep trying to make sure we had at least one of each. My dream would be to have boy/girl twins, I think it's so cute!

mimieliza

07-20-2005, 04:43 PM

QOTD - I'd like 2. The thing is, I think I really want a daughter. So if I had two boys, I might be tempted to have a third. I think I would adopt, though, maybe when our first two were a little bit older.

Re: dogs as baby preparation
We literally had some sleepless nights in our house!
Sleepless nights? We had sleepless months! Our puppy didn't sleep through the night until he was nearly six months old (we got him at eight weeks). He'd cry for as much as an hour at bedtime (how sad is that?) and then wake up at least once, if not twice, at night to go outside.

Thank God he finally turned into a normal dog. Now he sleeps all the time. :)

usafwife

07-20-2005, 06:19 PM

MrsSmith ~ Thanks.

Tywlla ~ Thanks.

Pets ~ We have 3 dogs (all huskies). Wolf, Kodiak, and Sakari are their names. We also have 2 cats - Tigger and Sassy. And 2 horses - Jo and Sissy.

How many kids ~ Ideally we want two but part of me would like 3. We will see if we get a boy the next time. If that happens I think that we are done but time will tell.

Cohl

07-20-2005, 08:35 PM

QOTD We are deciding between 2 and 3. I guess we'll have to see how we feel after #2.

lawgirl4

07-20-2005, 10:39 PM

QOTD - 2 kids definitely, possibly 3. I really hope we have 2 girls... and a boy as the 3rd if we go for 3.

eli1126

07-21-2005, 08:32 AM

I asked my mother if we only had the 2 sets of twins and guess what?! Nope! There is another set of male twins on my father's side who are a few years older than my sister and I :eek: So that makes 3 sets of twins in my family!!

Beth

al'sgirl

07-21-2005, 08:58 AM

I could be wrong, but I don't think it matters if twins run on your DH's side of the family. Multiple eggs/ovulations during each cycle is genetically passed down through females, not males. ;)

Thanks cat_lover :) You know ... people have been telling me for years that the chances of me having twins is higher because DH's father is a twin as well has previous generations. So, your comment made me do my research. The hereditary twin gene runs through the female side. So, any twins I would have would be "nature" deciding. Now, the interesting thing I found was that chances double after I'm 35 years old ... which could be possible for us.

jessied1025

07-21-2005, 09:17 AM

QOTD: We would really love to have 2 kids and of coure a boy and a girl. However it is came to be that we had 2 boys or 2 girls we might try for a 3rd...

melnv

07-21-2005, 10:27 AM

QOTD -Funny you should ask. This question shows just how sick I am. I just finished my prospective kid spread sheet. I typed out various scenarios playing with the number of children we would have and the spacing between them, complete with Jared and I's ages at all major events (birth, highschool/college grad, etc.) Sad, I know. I think I want 2-3. I like three.

flygirl

07-21-2005, 11:26 AM

QOTD -This question shows just how sick I am.
You said it, not me ;) :P You're nuts!

I'm a bit behind here...

QOTD re: pets: We have 2 cats (5 & 6 yrs) & a dog (9 yrs). All three are great with kids. Annie (the dog) is super-gentle, but when she's excited she sometimes steps in to play when she shouldn't. She's really calming down with age, though, and by the time I have a child I think she'll be perfect.

DH travels all the time & we still don't know whether or not I'm pg. I told him the other day that pg women aren't supposed to change the litter box & he said, "well then, we'll just have to get rid of the cats." Yeah right. At this point he'd much prefer the cats. I told him I just get those surgical masks.

QOTD re: number: DH's preference is to have one, and he really wants a girl. So if we don't succeed the first time we may try again.

fsb2005

07-21-2005, 11:30 AM

I've read that three is the new two. ;-)

Right now I kind of want three (I had one brother, and I always thought it would be fun to have 3 kids). But we'll see. I think there are reasons people stop at two - exhaustion, finances - that I won't be able to predict until I'm handling two kids at once.

Not TTC until spring of 2006 though, so all of this is speculation!

Sabriel

07-21-2005, 12:46 PM

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?

DH wants 2, but I would really like to have more. I guess we will have to wait and see how the first 2 go!

betsyboop

07-21-2005, 02:20 PM

I haven't been here in a while, so I'll try to catch up:

What do we dread?

The lack of sleep, hands down, is my biggest concern. DH actually talks about it all the time- not for himself, but MY lack of sleep. I'm a terrible person when I'm tired and he's scared of what it'll be like when we have a baby. Eek!!

Pets?

We are SO not pet people, so that is luckily not a concern for us. One thing not to have to worry about:)

How many kids do you plan on having?

I would like 2. I grew up with just one sister and loved it. We didn't have to argue over the middle seat in the car, my parents were able to take us on vacations, etc. DH has 3 sisters and I think he would like 3ish kids. I would probably consider having a 3rd if and only if the first 2 were boys- I really want a little girl!!

Twylla

07-21-2005, 03:26 PM

honeygirl, my MIL lives on Maui! I'm really exccited. We've been to hawaii a few times, but this is a BIG trip for me! lus, what a great place to start TTC, right? ;)

mimieliza, We had a few sleepless nights, that's for sure! Ginger still sometimes wakes us up in the middle of the night. But at least getting up with her means one less load of laundry! lol.

bccum, I do that all the time.... I check how old I'll be for grads and stuff... and how old our kids would be for things like our 25th anniversary. It's fun!

QOTD: 2-4. I grew up with 2 siblings, DH grew up with 2 as well. But now DH has 2 step-siblings and a baby sister... and I have more steps on the way. We like the bigger families. We both want more than 2, so then we're at 3, but we're both big fans of even numbers... so, then we're at 4. But i think we'll take it one baby at a time! And then DH jokes that our fourth pregnancy will end up being twins!!! It would be fun, but....

Sha259

07-21-2005, 05:36 PM

Well, I have been gone the past 2 weeks out in vacation, but let me answer today's and past QOTDs

Pets: We have 1 cat named Sylvester, he hasn't been a hastle to us at all, so I don't think he is much good as baby training for DH and I. :rolleyes:

Kids: We have discussed this numerous times, and sadly each time the number goes lower and lower. :( First we said 5 kids, cause we would LOVE to have lots of kids. But then logic kicks in and we narrowed it to 3. I say three because we want to have at least one of each, a boy and a girl. But if we have a boy and a girl in a row, I think we will stop there. With the type of lifestyle we want to raise our kids in, I feel it wouldn't be fair to have 5 kids and then not be able to afford to let them do the things kids want to do. So, sacrificing quantity for qaulity of life, we say 2-3 max. And that still makes me sad.

southerner

07-21-2005, 07:48 PM

delurking (again) to answer QOTD

I always tell people to ask me after I have my first one :D

artist

07-22-2005, 09:05 AM

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DelSol

07-24-2005, 09:07 AM

I just got back from vacation, we had a great time.

Now I need to catch up on the QOTD's:

Pets: DH has 1 cat and I have 2 cats that live with my mom.

Kids: I always wanted 3 but as I get older, I'm thinking 2.

Cinderz

07-24-2005, 01:28 PM

QOTD-How many kids we would like?

Ideally, I would like 2 but since I'm in my 30's, we may just have one. I guess it all depends on how soon we try to have a second child. Maybe DH and I will get lucky and have twins-a boy and a girl. :p

MrsSmith

07-25-2005, 03:13 PM

New QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.

stevesbabygirl

07-25-2005, 03:39 PM

QOTD - I would like to use the techniques I saw while watching Supernanny, getting down to the child's level, 1 minute of timeout per year of age, things like that. I don't want to spank my child in theory, but in practice, it may be a different story. Only if they were really misbehaving or did something dangerous.

MrsSmith

07-25-2005, 03:46 PM

I'm on the fence about spanking. I think that some children just don't respond as well to other techniques and just in need of something more aggressive. I would probably leave that up to hubby though. I'm more for just talking and giving other forms of punishment like no toys or no playing with friends after school.

honeygirl

07-25-2005, 03:47 PM

QOTD: As a social worker doing child and family therapy I'd like to think that I would use more creative discipline techniques than spanking. A big part of my job is coaching parents and giving them parenting techniques. However, whether or not I can apply these to my own children is yet to be seen. :)

SQ2

07-25-2005, 04:02 PM

I'm pretty much against spanking or hitting of any kind. We will probably use the "go to your room" or "timeout" approach. But, when it comes to dangerous things, like if the kid tries to touch a hot stove burner, I could see slapping his/her hand away from it to help them learn not to do it again. Especially with really young kids.

Sabriel

07-25-2005, 04:05 PM

New QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.

QOTD - I would like to use the techniques I saw while watching Supernanny, getting down to the child's level, 1 minute of timeout per year of age, things like that. I don't want to spank my child in theory, but in practice, it may be a different story. Only if they were really misbehaving or did something dangerous.

I would also like to use these techniques. I also think that discipline should be specific to the child. What works for the first child may not be what works for the second. I am not totally against spanking, but I would definitely like to try to avoid it.

mimieliza

07-25-2005, 06:01 PM

QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.

I will NOT spank - I know that for sure. However, I think that I will be fairly strict about things like minding me, being kind to their siblings, pets and other children, and being polite to other adults. I plan to use a combination of motivators - like sticker charts, rewards, etc. and time outs and loss of privileges. I also hope that I remember to keep my expectations of our children age-appropriate.

cat_loverpq

07-25-2005, 07:45 PM

QOTD ~ Spanking

I'm not against spanking and neither is DH, as long as it's not the only form of punishment used. I would like to think that we will be able to control our kids using the techniques mentioned (time-out, taking away priveledges, using rewards, etc), but sometimes kids just push you too far and sometimes kids don't all respond to the same techniques. For the most part I was a "good kid", but I got the belt from my dad on several occasions growing up. However, I never felt abused or anything like that. I tell you what though, seeing him take that thing off definitely put the fear of God in me and my brother!! :p It definitely made me obey him better!

laurenc

07-25-2005, 09:07 PM

QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.

i'm in a cognitive-behavioral psychology program, and i've had the opportunity to learn a lot about techniques to help adults and children make changes. the behavioral stuff seems to work -- stickers, privileges, time-outs etc. besides, i've seen nanny 911 apply the very principles i've learned in my graduate work, so it's gotta be good ;)

i'm not against a light swat on the rear from time to time, but i think it might be hard for some people to keep from going down the slippery slope and turning a light swat into abuse. i mean, i see these moms in the grocery store or in the mall smacking their kids and i think, do they even know how hard they're hitting their kid?

that said, we probably will discipline spank-free because, well, uh... honestly? i can't take the concept of spanking seriously. i think "spank" and i conjure up images of people who have a spanking fetish, and i laugh out loud. no offense to anyone who likes a good spank in the bedroom, but i can't possibly see how i could discipline a child if i'm trying to hold back laughter. ;)

eli1126

07-26-2005, 05:51 AM

New QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.

I also would like to think that I wouldn't spank. I have watched the Super Nanny and have seen the way children respond to parents who are consistent and involved. That said, I sometimes see children who are really misbehaving and wonder how I would actually handle it.

Beth

jenji

07-26-2005, 05:51 AM

New QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough?

I can't say for sure now how I will discipline my child, but I plan on trying whatever necessary. DH and I were both spanked occasionally as children and I don't feel like I was abused and at times that was the only thing that got through to me. The part of the spanking that was the worst for me was the time between knowing it was coming and it happening when I had to think about it. My mom would send me to my room for 5 minutes so I could think about it and she could cool down if she was mad. They never really hurt that bad, but definitely got the point accross
Timeouts worked for me for some things, but grounding was my worst nightmare, that definitely got through. I think every kid is different and I'm perfectly willing, to take away toys, give rewards/praise for good behavior, do timeouts etc.
I guess it'll just depend on my kid. For some kids I've known a stern look and disappointment is enough to get them in line and others it isn't.
I think the most important things are
1) Your child knows you love them and the discipline is related to the behavior, not them
2) you are consistant. if you promise a reward, you follow through, if you threaten a punishment, you follow through. kids know when you're just bluffing

jessied1025

07-26-2005, 06:56 AM

QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough?

I would perfer not to spank our children and I would like to use the other techniques; time outs, rewards and loss of privilages. However there might come the occasions where a spanking is necessary (dangerous behavior, etc.) Both my DH and I were both spanked occasionally for misbehaving. Both of our parents would always talk to us after and let us know how much they loved us, so we both knew they never met to actually hurt us.

jenji had 2 great points about being consistant and having your child know that you love and care for them.

sunchaser26

07-26-2005, 08:13 AM

honeygirl

07-26-2005, 08:45 AM

Hello ladies, I need a little advice.

I'm in my last month of BCP and wouldn't you know it I've forgotten to take pills (which I've NEVER EVER DONE the whole time I took them). On saturday night I was camping and forgot the pack at home, I took the forgotten pill on sunday afternoon. Then last night I forgot again b/c I was too busy yelling at DH (that's another story). I actually took out my pills and water to swallow them, but placed them on the dresser while I yelled. Then forgot and thought I'd taken them since I gotten them out.

So, I looked up the pill info sheet and it says to take the forgotten pill right away and no big deal. However, this is pill #2 (missed). It isn't in a row, but almost (I remembered sunday pm's pill). Any advice?

MrsSmith

07-26-2005, 08:51 AM

Laurenc, you are hilarious! I've never thought about spanking that way!

Honeygirl, I think it might mess with your cycle a little. There might be some spotting.

al'sgirl

07-26-2005, 09:17 AM

QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough?

We would definitely try other forms of discipline such as time outs and taking away privileges etc. before resorting to spankings. I'm not against spanking if there is a need for it in certain circumstances, but not as the primary form. Every child is different and responds to different methods so we'll just play that one by ear. Can I hope for a "perfect" child? :D

artist

07-26-2005, 10:03 AM

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artist

07-26-2005, 10:12 AM

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Twylla

07-26-2005, 02:54 PM

QOTD: Well, I was spanked occasionally as a child, and I'm certainly not against it. I do agree that there is a fine line bewteen spanking and abusing a child, but I know that DH and I wouldn't go any where near the line. To me, the punishment of a spank isn't the pain, but the process. Does that make sense? I remember feeling so ashamed of my actions when I knew a spanking was coming. That alone was enough to teach me not to repeat the behavior that got me in hot water. I like some of the Nanny 911 techniques, especially the time outs.

And I don't think we'll do the go to your bedroom thing. My dad was always sent to his bedroom, and it was his favorite thing, lol. He had a science kit in his room, and he'd come up with funky new concotions when he was being punished... once there was so much smoke they had to evacuate! Perhaps a better punishment woud've been losing his science kit.....

cat_loverpq

07-27-2005, 06:03 AM

stevesbabygirl ~ Can you update my TTC stats to September of 2005? Thank you! :)

mierin

07-27-2005, 07:25 AM

New QOTD - How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.
This is one area that my DH and I really disagree on. I was not spanked when I was little and my mother was very against it. She grew up in an abusive household and refused to lay a hand on her children. My father was also spanked frequently as a child, but I don't think he had anything against it until my mother put her foot down. He actually used to have to go find his own switch on a tree. :eek:

DH was spanked a few times as a child and thinks it can be a useful method of discipline. I'm pretty opposed to it because I would just like to think that I'm more creative than that and I'm not sure if I could bring myself to hit my child, in any way. I think I would feel terrible afterwards and I don't think discipline should inspire those kinds of feelings. I don't think it should be fun, but I don't want to feel crushing guilt over it.

I also sort of agree with this:
that said, we probably will discipline spank-free because, well, uh... honestly? i can't take the concept of spanking seriously. i think "spank" and i conjure up images of people who have a spanking fetish, and i laugh out loud. no offense to anyone who likes a good spank in the bedroom, but i can't possibly see how i could discipline a child if i'm trying to hold back laughter.
Spanking seems weirdly sexual to me. Must be too much media exposure or something. Besides guilty, I think I might feel a little...uncomfortable doing it.

stevesbabygirl

07-27-2005, 03:59 PM

Will do catlover :D!

Twylla

07-28-2005, 03:48 PM

I just got back from the doctor, and he's concerned about my cycles, which have been wacky, wacky wacky since going off BCP last November. Long story short, we've booked a vaginal ultrasound to check for PCOS. He's already mentioned clomid to me. I guess in a way it's good that this is happenning with about 20 weeks (my marathon training schedule!) to go before TTC. I'm also glad he's on board with treating any problems from the start instead of TTC for a year or so (I'm 24, DH is 27) THEN starting treatments. Hopefully we can figure out my darned cycles quickly, then move on to TTC and having a baby without any help at all!

But of course, that got me thinking about clomid.... the doctor mentioned the possibility of twins.... or triplets.... woah.

honeygirl

07-28-2005, 05:38 PM

Twyla - Sorry to hear about your troubles, but thank goodness you have a doctor looking into things sooner than later. Good luck with the vaginal ultrasound, have you had one before? I think that's the kind I had before my surgery, I'd recommend taking deep breaths and try to relax.

Hmm, twins, a two-for-one :)

risa00

07-28-2005, 08:58 PM

I'm jumping in here late.

risa00
Me:Lisa-27
DH:Sean-33
Engaged-August 4, 2002
Married-July 12, 2003
TTC-May 2006

Sabriel

07-30-2005, 11:49 AM

Threadmistress, could you please update my stats? DH and I have decided to TTC starting September 2005. Thanks!

cat_loverpq Looks like we will be moving on to TTC together. :)

Twylla Sorry to hear about your cycle trouble. Hope that you can get things straightened out!

risa00 Welcome!

giry76

07-30-2005, 03:13 PM

Darnit Twylla... I have the running bug again. I think I am going to follow in your footsteps and train until it is time to TTC. I don't know if I can wrap my head around a marathon in the next year but I am definitly back into running. I am giry76 on coolrunning as well.

DH and I were wanting to start TTC this fall, but it just isn't going to be wise. We just bought a house and have some other debt that needs to get paid down so I can be a SAHM or only work part time. SO I need something to keep me busy for the next year or so. I have a good 50 - 70 pounds that I need to drop, but I would rather drop them before a baby than after. I want to be strong and healty to have a baby and running should do the trick.

Threadmistress could you change my TTC date to Fall 2006?

stevesbabygirl

07-30-2005, 04:42 PM

Stats are updated ladies :D!

cat_loverpq

07-31-2005, 04:14 PM

Sabriel ~ Yay, I'll have a TTC buddy! Are you as excited as I am to finally be TTC? :D I still have about 2 weeks left in this cycle and then it's GAME ON!! :p

Sabriel

08-01-2005, 04:51 AM

cat_loverpq Yes, I'm so so excited! My best friends have been TTC for 4 months and I have caught a huge baby bug from her. Also, I just found out that my cousin is expecting and due in April. DH is even really excited, which surprised me a bit. I can't wait!

laurenc

08-03-2005, 02:07 PM

i think it's time for a new QOTD, don't you?

QOTD: do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

assuming we don't win the lottery or anything like that, we've always planned to send our children to public school... we figure, we both went to public schools and we came out ok ;)

i think i'd go batty if i homeschooled. but i have a ton of respect for people who do it. i wish i had the mindset for such a thing, but i don't.

stevesbabygirl

08-03-2005, 02:22 PM

QOTD - I plan on sending our kids to public school.

SQ2

08-03-2005, 02:25 PM

Public school. Both DH and I went to public schools and had great experiences so we don't see any reason to pay $ for a private school. I'd rather put that $$ toward college funds for the kids. But, I guess it depends where you live. I can see people in a big city wanting to send their kids to private schools. We both grew up in small towns/cities so most people went to public schools.

honeygirl

08-03-2005, 02:36 PM

Depends on where we're living. If we're still here I'd say public, at least for the elementary years. Both DH and I had a combo of private and public school education, so we'd be fine with either one.

Sabriel

08-03-2005, 02:41 PM

Oh, I love to play QOTD! :D

QOTD: do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

I agree, our kids will most likely go to public school unless we strike it rich. We have really good schools here, so I'm not too worried about it. Though, one reason I would want to send our kids to private schools is for smaller class sizes so that they would get more individualized attention.

mimieliza

08-03-2005, 02:55 PM

QOTD: Public or Private

Well, where we live now it will definitely be public. We live in a small town with GREAT public schools. There are no private schools in our town that come even close to comparing.

If we were to move, I'd try to move to an area where I felt happy about the public schools.

If we were in an area that did not have top-notch public schools, though, I think that we would find a way to pay for private, even though it would be very difficult (and may influence our decision as to how many children we would have). I'm pretty sure my parents and DH's parents would help with tuition if necessary. It's very important to us that our kids get a high-quality education, but I think that is possible in a good public school setting with involved and active parents.

mimieliza

08-03-2005, 02:58 PM

TTC update for me:

We had an oops this weekend, so I'm in the 2WW. DH said, "Well, if something happens, we'd be so happy!" It's so nice that he's not freaked out, and getting really comfortable with the idea. I would be a little scared if we were pg, but I figure that's a pretty normal way to feel, right?

Still considering whether we'll start TTC soon or keep waiting awhile.

DelSol

08-03-2005, 08:00 PM

QOTD: Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

I plan on sending our children to public school. DH & I both went to public schools and we turned out pretty good.

Cinderz

08-03-2005, 09:07 PM

We'll most likely send our kids to public schools and save the money toward their college tuition..

mierin

08-04-2005, 05:54 AM

QOTD: Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?
Yet another thing that DH and I disagree on. :rolleyes: I'm starting to realize that we disagree on kind of a lot, which is slightly worrisome. Anyway, I went to public highschool in Vermont and had a great experience. He went to private highschool in New Hampshire and had a great experience. Naturally, both of us want our children to have the same great experience, so I say public and he says private. I think, though, that it really depends on where we're living and what the schools are like. If they're not good, I would consider private.

jenji

08-04-2005, 06:35 AM

QOTD: Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

I suppose I'm in the minority here. My dad was in the air force when I was younger and I've been in good public schools, good and not-so-good private schools and homeschooled.
If we live here when we have kids they will definitely not be going to public schools. we have some of the worst ones in the country. There are some affordable private schools here that are good, but I think I'd want to give homeschooling a try. it's definitely not an easy thing at all and my mom hated doing it the first couple years, but I feel like I benefitted SOOOO much from it and it was such a great experience for me, that I would feel bad not at least offering that to my kid.
I went to a private high school and it was an incredible experience. It wasn't anything like the snobby mess I'd imagined and no one but me seemed to care that my parents didn't have money like everyone else's families. I got so much more out of those 4 years than I did out of any of college, so I'd say for me and my family it was worth the time, money and effort.

I hope no one thinks I'm bashing public schools. I went to a great one in Oklahoma and DH went to a good one, but where we live the schools are awful and toooo overcrowded.

al'sgirl

08-04-2005, 06:45 AM

QOTD: Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

I grew up in public schools, and I turned out just fine :) Actually, there wasn't an affordable private school option where we were, and the public schools were good in my town, so that's where we were sent. DH had a mix of private schools and public schooling. From what I hear from friends in this area, I'm not convinced I would want to send my kids to these public schools. Homeschooling may be an option as well. I suppose we'll have at least 5 years to discuss the issue :)

eli1126

08-04-2005, 07:07 AM

QOTD: Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

I am in a quandry! The public school in our area is rough. Most of the teachers in our district do not send their own children to the school! If we lived in a better school district, my future children, would definitely be going to public school. A bigger problem is that while there are Catholic elementary schools in the area I wouldn't mind my children going to, the biggest Catholic H.S. in the area is the one I went to and hated and would never send my children there!! So I would really have to research what my otions are....I mean there is always Emma Willard (Jane Fonda's alma matter) if I became a millonaire :rolleyes:

Beth

LeslieandPaul

08-04-2005, 07:53 AM

QOTD: Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

We will most likely send our children to public school. BC has a very good public school system (IMO) and private school's are very expensive. I don't have the patience to homeschool :p

MrsSmith

08-04-2005, 08:52 AM

We'll send our children to private school or charter schools. I don't like the public schools around here. We both went to public school, but we lived in different states than where we reside now. I think private schools are worth the money, if you go to the right one. It's about the atmosphere just as much as it's about the education.

artist

08-04-2005, 09:46 AM

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lawgirl4

08-04-2005, 10:29 AM

QOTD

our kids will most likely attend private schools. thankfully, my ILs and DH's grandmother are big believers in trust funds for educational expenses, and we are lucky enough that they will start funding them as soon as our kids are born. My nephew is 27 months old and already has enough in his fund to take him through high school - and that's just after 2 years! We already have a good idea of where we would like to send our kids - and given that we live in a city with horrendous public schools, it's something you have to think about early.

cat_loverpq

08-04-2005, 10:30 AM

QOTD ~ Public School or Private School?

We will most likely have our kids go to public schools. We live in a really good school district, so I know they will get a quality education. Plus, our suburb is growing so much that they've added 2 new high schools, a new middle school, and at least one new elementary school (that I can think of) in the past 5 or so years. So the schools will still be pretty new when our kids go there, and will have a lot of the newest technology. :)

Twylla

08-04-2005, 02:56 PM

We'll more likely than not send our children to Catholic schools. I'm not sure if it's the same everywhere, but here they're funded by taxes and it doesn't cost anything to send children to them. I had a great time at my elementary school and high school. I doubt we'll be living here when our children are in school, but if we are, they'll go to the same schools as I did! Cool, right?

We did discuss high school a bit more though, and DH and I decided that should our children prefer to go to a public high school, by that time it will be their choice. For example, if all their friends are going to a public HS that's closer or something, I wouldn't want to force my kids to go to a different school than their friends.

Cool story: I was at a friend's bridal shower last weekend, and her MOH is just about 7 months pg. After we ate some chicken wings, the baby was dancing up a storm, and the MOH was more than happy to let us all feel baby kicking. SO INCREDIBLE. Very magic, I can't wait until it's my own baby!!!!

Kristibell

08-05-2005, 11:24 AM

Hi all!

I just found this thread! Can I be added as a late addition?

Kristibell
Me: Kristine, age 27
DH: Brett, age 30
Engaged: December 21, 2001
Married: September 27, 2003
TTC: Early 2006

Sare79

08-05-2005, 11:44 AM

Me too! I want to join as well

Sare79
Me: Sarah, age 25
FH: Joel, age 25
Engaged: September 29, 2004
Married: October 15, 2005
TTC: Fall 2005

We're hoping to conceive in the next few months to avoid summer pregnancy! :p

SwiftyOWB

08-05-2005, 01:34 PM

I think we will see what happens. I went to private school pre k - 1, public school 2-7 and catholic school 8-12, I guess I hit all the bases!! I think our kinds will go to private pre-k, public elementary and private high school. I really believe private high school made a difference with me. My DH on the other hand went to public school all the way and he has done very well for himself. It all depends on where you live and what your family can afford.

SwiftyOWB

08-05-2005, 01:38 PM

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

For 10 years (age 7 to age 17) I went to sleep away camp for one month. I really enjoyed it and it taught me a lot of life lessons. Our children will go to camp for at least 2 weeks if not a month. I know it sounds like I would want to get rid of them but, I learned that I could take care of myself and I got to have so much fun. Imagine a month without your mom nagging you when you are 14!!!

SQ2

08-05-2005, 01:48 PM

QOTD: Most definitely! Some of my best experiences and fondest memories are from summer camp. I started going in elementary school and finished the year after graduating high school as a counselor. I miss summer camp so much. Such a magical wonderful experience. I can't imagine not exposing our kids to that. My husband also went to camp and we both love the outdoors so I'm hoping our kids will enjoy camp too.

honeygirl

08-05-2005, 02:51 PM

Yes! I went to camp every year for at least 2 weeks (two 1wk camps). I had so much fun except for the one summer that my grandfather died (while I was at camp). I'd also want to go to family camps.

LeslieandPaul

08-05-2005, 04:14 PM

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

If it's part of their school curriculum, or scouts, then yes, but not summer camp. I never did it and don't feel like I missed out on anything. We will however take our children camping!

MrsSmith

08-05-2005, 07:43 PM

I went to camp once. It was for 2 weeks. I don't think it's mandatory. If there are some good ones in my area, I'll send them. But it probably won't be an every year tradition.

mimieliza

08-06-2005, 12:20 AM

So I found out tonight that a close friend is expecting. I'm so, so happy for her and her husband! I'm super excited, and can't wait to shower this baby with love and attention. But at the same time, I feel kind of odd. Not sad, exactly. I just really wish that it could be me. I guess I'm a little jealous.

Gah. It just really bugs me that my response to such wonderful news contains any negative, selfish feelings at all. What's wrong with me? Why can't I just be happy for them, and not jealous?

Maybe it'll be time for DH and I soon, and maybe my friend and I will get to be pg at the same time. That would be very fun. Or maybe she'll have her baby, and I'll get pg later and she'll have all sorts of been-there-done-that good advice and understanding. These are all good things, but at the same time, I can't help but feel a little disappointed that it's not my turn yet.

Anyway, I just thought you guys might understand all these conflicting emotions.

Peaches

08-06-2005, 04:43 AM

mimieliza
These are all good things, but at the same time, I can't help but feel a little disappointed that it's not my turn yet.
This is how I feel. I just want to jump ahead in time so that I can get to MY turn.

That being said-a HUGE congrats to all those who are moving on to TTC! ;)

QOTD-How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough?

We won't use spanking. Other than that we are open to try out some different techniques. Whatever works for us and our children.

QOTD- Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

This depends on the quality of the public schools in our area. I am a believer in public schools but I know that quality can vary widely. It will be either public or a mix of public and private.

QOTD- Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

If they want to go. I won't force it upon them. My brother and I used to go to day-time play schemes in the summer and loved it but we never went to sleep away camps.

SQ2

08-06-2005, 07:47 AM

Anyway, I just thought you guys might understand all these conflicting emotions. I definitely understand! Lately I've been super jealous of people I don't even know...pregnant people I see out in public or women with cute little babies. The baby bug has bitten me so hard in the past few months. It seems like forEVER until Fall 2006 which is the very earliest that DH and I would start TTC. But even that might be too soon for DH. I just wish I could stop wishing for a baby so much and just enjoy more just being the two of us. I mean, I do enjoy it and we're coming up on our 1st anniversary and I'm happy as can be. Why can't I just be completely happy with that and not wish for something more? I guess I feel like it's just an inner instinct or tendency that I have right now to want to be a mother. We recently got married, so it's only natural to want to start a family. But, must finish grad school first! Ok, babbling overwith. ;)

lawgirl4

08-06-2005, 09:04 AM

mimieleza - your feelings are totally normal, and completely understandable. I feel that way all the time, with very few exceptions, when I hear a friend/relative is pregnant - Even though I know DH and I are just 6 months away from our TTC date. Though I have to say that ever since we got our tickets for our last big "pre-baby" vacation (going to India this december, which we have been wanting to do for a long time) it is definitely easier. Try to focus on the things you want to do pre-TTC - maybe make a list, and check them off as you accomplish them. That way you will feel productive instead of like you are "waiting" to TTC.

lawgirl4

08-06-2005, 09:14 AM

QOTD - this is a great one!

my kids will absolutely go to sleepaway camp. I went for 6 years and then was a counselor for 3, and it was one of the best childhood experiences of my life.

If you've never been, I can understand why you would feel trepidation about sending your kids - but it is truly an experience that shouldn't be missed. And I don't mean the 1-2 week sleepover camps - I mean a 4, 6, or 8 week program. (I attended an 8 week program and wished it were longer!). Meeting other kids from outside of my own geographic area (I grew up in suburban NYC, and my camp had kids mostly from the Boston area and many other countries) was a wonderful, eye-opening experience.

Sleepaway camp allows a child to experiment with independence in a very safe, controlled environment (even though to a child it seems so much more "free" than home); allows an oldest child or only child to feel what it is like to have a big sister in terms of relating to her counselors - for any kid to have a role model other than someone of "parental" age. It is important - and healthy - for children to spend some time away from their parents and learn about themselves, without direct parental involvement.

I cried at the end of every summer because camp felt like a second home to me. my most long-running friendship is with a friend from sleepaway camp.

there are so many different kinds of camps - there is something for every type of child. so at least keep an open mind!

plus, DH and I met at our summer camp. ;)

artist

08-06-2005, 09:56 AM

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eli1126

08-06-2005, 11:30 AM

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

I never went, but DH started going every summer for one week when he was 12 and liked it. I actually just asked him if it would be something he would want our children to do and he said yes and I think it might be something exciting for them to do.

Slightly O/T:

For those of you that did go to camp, how far away from home was the camp?
Beth

lawgirl4

08-06-2005, 03:57 PM

eli1126 - home was in NY, camp was in Maine. we actually used to fly to camp (a 45 minute flight) since the bus ride was usually about 7-8 hrs long because it made multiple stops.

DelSol

08-07-2005, 07:49 AM

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

I'm going to leave it totally up to my children. If they want to go, we will be more than happy to send them. If they don't, then we'll find something else that interest them.

granada

08-07-2005, 11:00 AM

I just read through this thread, and I think I'm also a lady in waiting. :) So, I'll join in. DH and I just celebrated our 1st anniversary, so this topic has been on our minds lately:

Me: 29
DH: 34
Married: 8/5/04
TTC: Possibly as early as Feb. 2006, but we'll see...

I'll attempt to answer the previous QOTDs in consolidated format:
Like Twylla, I'd like to run the marathon before we TTC. DH and I would probably like to do more traveling, but we only have planned a trip to Kauai in Oct. and possibly Vietnam sometime next year, so I may or may not be pregnant by then. Not sure that I want to go to Vietnam if we are pg, though.

Things I'm most afraid of:
- childbirth: neither option sounds like fun. :cool:
- having someone we can trust take care of baby since we'll probably both have to work
- being responsible for another human being and fearing that I'll do something wrong that will ruin baby's life forever

We'd like 2-3. Definitely plan to send my kids to public school. Don't plan to spank.

Sabriel

08-07-2005, 12:44 PM

granada Welcome!

mimieliza I understand how you feel. I found out recently that my cousin and his wife are expecting and due in March. I was SO happy for them, but I was also VERY jealous. (It doesn't help that they got engaged 9 months AFTER we did, and then got married 1 month before our wedding. They had been dating 8 months before they got married. DH and I dated for 5 1/2 years. And now they are pregnant. Our family is close, and I kinda feel like they have stolen our thunder over and over.) I want them to have a happy life together (she also has a 10 year old daughter), but I want it to be my time to have a family. But then again I also feel a little jealous everytime I see a pregnant woman or a couple with a baby.

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

I think that we will probably send them to camp. I always wanted to go to summer camp when I was young, but never got to go until I was in high school. I loved it. The camp was only 1 week and was about 2 hours away from home. Also, like someone else posted, we will definitely take our kids camping. We go overnight about twice a month now (except when it is too cold, I am a wimp when it comes to cold!) I would like to continue going camping after we have kids.

MrsSmith

08-07-2005, 12:50 PM

Ok, I had a really crazy dream. Not only was it long, but it was very detailed and I remembered most of it. I had a son, a baby, and I was going around the house cleaning and doing normal tasks with him. I woke up feeling very weird. Not to sound crazy, but I actually thought for a minute that I had a baby...I think I'm losing my mind :eek:

mimieliza

08-07-2005, 06:51 PM

Tuesday is our second wedding anniversary. Yay!

We had talked about starting to TTC around this time. I'm really nervous about it. At the same time, though, I'm really, really anxious to have a baby.

I have a new job that I love. I'd love to be able to work part time when we have a baby, and that may be an option. But I'm worried that my work performance may suffer while I'm pg. What if I'm sick all the time?

I'd love to have more debt paid off, but we decided quite awhile ago that we weren't going to put off a family because of that, because we'd be waiting a loooong time (we have a great deal of student loans).

I have to complete a graduate course this fall to finish my MSW - it will mean an evening course and some studying. Would being pg interfere with this?

OTOH, it could take a long time to get pg, and we'll wish we had started trying sooner.

GAH! I can't decide! Maybe the indecision is a sign we should wait, but when I think about waiting, I just feel really, really sad.

BTW, my 2ww was a 1ww - after our oops last weekend, I got my period today. I had PMS on Friday and yesterday - I was super tired, and crabby and out of sorts. DH was teasing me, and saying I was pg. So I was sort of disappointed when AF showed today. But if I was pg, I probably would be freaking out (in an incredibly happy way, but still).

So confused! Sorry for rambling, but again, I thought you guys might understand.

mimieliza

08-07-2005, 06:54 PM

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can! :)

After my whiny post, I thought I'd lighten things up a bit.

Anyway, after I started spotting yesterday evening and knew AF was soon to arrive, I indulged in a few mojitos - so good! I discovered the secret is to make a sugar/mint syrup ahead of time. I think mojitos are my new favorite.

DelSol

08-07-2005, 08:39 PM

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can!

I have two ~ Banana Banshee and Grasshopper. :D

mierin

08-08-2005, 06:14 AM

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
Sure, if they want to go. I went every summer from the time I was six until my camp closed in 8th grade. I loved it and I stayed for four weeks. As others have said, I cried at the end of the summer when I had to go home. It's really a great experience.

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can!
An ice cold Corona.

cat_loverpq

08-08-2005, 09:36 AM

QOTD ~ Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

Only if they want to go. I actually only went to one sleepaway camp, and that was with my church youth group for confirmation camp. I loved being there and I think the fact that I was among friends helped a lot. It was only a week long, but I was still homesick (and yet sad to leave) by the end of the week. I think the Christian setting helped a lot though. :)

QOTD ~ Favorite drink?

Anything strawberry (margaritas, daiquiris) is my absolute favorite. I also love anything fruity and sweet (hurricanes, mai tai's, bahama mamas). :D I actually just had a strawberry daiquiri this past weekend and I thought, "This is probably the last one of these I'll be having for awhile!"

al'sgirl

08-08-2005, 10:14 AM

QOTD ~ Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

Both DH and I went to sleep away camps when we were kids. I loved it. I think that we would send our children to one as well for at least one year, then see if they enjoyed it enough to send them back. DH was a director of a camp for a few years, so he definitely believes in the value of camping.

QOTD ~ Favorite drink?

I don't drink alcoholic drinks very often, but I will definitely miss my volume of chocolate consumption!

SQ2

08-08-2005, 10:20 AM

QOTD Favorite Drink

I can't pick just one. :D Some of my favorites...

Cider
Schmirnoff Ice
Chocolate Martini
Margarita

Lanapoo

08-08-2005, 12:28 PM

Hello! Please add me as a lady in waiting :)

Me(Lana):28
DH(Dean):32
Married: 7/15/05
TTC: Summer 2006

QOTD ~ Will you send your children to sleep away camp?
I would love to since was never able to do it when I was a child and always wanted to go.

QOTD ~ Favorite drink?
Lately I've been stuck on those TGIF drinks (LOVE the Pina Colada)where you just add ice and blend. Yum Yum ;)

laurenc

08-08-2005, 12:30 PM

QOTD ~ Will you send you children to sleep away camp?

if my kids want to go to sleep away camp, and there is an age-appropriate camp for them to go to, then i would probably have no problem with it. if they don't, however, i won't force them.

QOTD ~ Favorite drink?

stoli vanilla vodka in coke. when i make it myself, i use diet coke :)

i also like sweet, fruity drinks (daquiris, hurricanes, etc.) and i really love woody's ice hard blueberry, whenever i can find it.

eli1126

08-09-2005, 06:32 AM

QOTD ~ Favorite drink?

Wine...Red or White will do ;)

Beth

j2478

08-09-2005, 08:52 AM

QOTD ~ Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
Yes - if they want to go. I always had lots of fun.

QOTD ~ Favorite drink?
White Russian

stevesbabygirl

08-09-2005, 04:06 PM

Welcome to the new ladies in waiting :D! I have updated the master list with your stats.

QOTD1 - I would send my kids to camp only if they wanted to go. I never went as a child, so I don't have an opinion either way.

QOTD2 - Blended Midori sour

granada

08-09-2005, 09:07 PM

I've been looking at the Belly Shots thread, and I'm totally envious. *sigh* I figured you ladies could empathize. :o

This QOTD is for tomorrow: How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

DH and I had this discussion the other day, and he told me that he would never kiss his sons. I was so surprised, because he's one of the more sensitive guys I know. (He's been known to cry at movies.) Of course, when he insisted that he would only shake his son's hand when he said goodnight to him, I caught on that he was teasing me. :rolleyes: :D I have always thought that men should kiss their sons just like they do their daughters. But I have had this same conversation with male friends who say they would be uncomfortable kissing their sons. So, I was curious what your DHs thought.

Twylla

08-09-2005, 09:20 PM

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
Sure. i won't force them or anything, but I was a Girl Guide growing up, and I have so many great camping memories. we'll probably go camping a lot as a family too, so they'll be used to that, sleep away camp would just be a good step toward independance I think.

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can!
Mmm.... Pina Colada. Then best I've had are at the Maui Marriott... yum! Red wine is also good in a pinch.

QOTD: How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
We've never talked about it. But DH and FIL hug all the time when we're together, so I'm assuming he'll be just as affectionate. And since he'll kiss our puppy on the "lips" I don't see why a son would be different. Mind you, our Ginger is a girl pup... great QOTD, granada.

I've been wandering around aimlessly for a while, work's been busy. Then I looked at my big desktop calendar today, and I realized there are just 144 days left in the year, and since we're tTC as oof December 12, we have just 124 days to go. Woah..... :D Yes, I'm a total dork, lol!

jenji

08-10-2005, 06:12 AM

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

I'd never really thought about that before. If he treats our son at least the same as his dog (whom he calls "son") there will be lots of kisses on the top of the head. :)
I imagine there'll be lots of hugs. DH and his dad are very close and he wants the same type of closeness with his son, but I don't know how much kissing that'll involve

mierin

08-10-2005, 07:46 AM

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
We've never talked specifically about it, either, but I don't think he'll have a problem with it. He comes from a very large, very Italian family and they're all VERY affectionate. There's a lot of hugging and kissing and it's not optional! I think he'll pass that on.

DelSol

08-10-2005, 07:56 AM

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

I'm not sure how DH would be about kissing a son. I'm sure he will because he does kiss his cat all the time and I call the cat his son.

Lanapoo

08-10-2005, 11:57 AM

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

DH is a very affectionate kind of guy, and since he kisses and hugs our cat Mel I don't think he would be any different with a son. We're all very huggy/kissy people in both his family and mine.

honeygirl

08-10-2005, 12:00 PM

QOTD 1= I don't drink alcohol very much anymore, but I'd probably cut back on my vanilla coke consumption while pregnant :)

QOTD= Interesting question regarding physical affection by DH. Hmmm, like others we've never really talked about it. DH's family are huggers, but not really kissers, as is my family. I'd say the'll be hugging and rough-housing but kissing on the lips wouldn't happen (my preference). I'm sure forehead and cheek kisses would be good.

Granada - I can totally relate, I also look at the belly shots, and the pregnancy photo threads. Makes me jealous, but sometimes happy that I'm not that big!

Well I'm off the pill (once my AF stops) and am looking forward to seeing how my body changes. I'm hoping for: loosing weight, less moodiness, less bleeding (at the wrong times) and for my fibroid issue to go away. I'm hoping not to have: less boobies and longer more painful periods. Crossing fingers :)

granada

08-10-2005, 12:22 PM

I'd say the'll be hugging and rough-housing but kissing on the lips wouldn't happen (my preference). I'm sure forehead and cheek kisses would be good.
I definitely wasn't referring to kissing on the lips. I know that other families do, but my parents have never kissed us on the lips, so I probably would not with my children either. I was more thinking forehead and cheek type of kissing, too. :)
Granada - I can totally relate, I also look at the belly shots, and the pregnancy photo threads. Makes me jealous, but sometimes happy that I'm not that big!
This is definitely a good way to fight off the feelings of envy. ;)

DelSol

08-10-2005, 02:35 PM

Please keep a friend of mine in your prayers, she lost her baby yesterday. She was due in January. I feel so bad, I was thinking of emailing her and asking her when she finds out the sex of the baby.

betsyboop

08-10-2005, 02:44 PM

Wow, I have a lot to catch up on here!

Public or private school:

Undecided. We pay through the nose in taxes to live in a town that's always one of the top 3 schools in the state, so I definitely see us sending our kids to public school through 8th grade. I'm not sure about high school yet though- I guess it will depend on the kid and what we feel is best at the time. DH went to public school all the way, but I went to private starting in high school, so that is probably factoring into our indecision. I'm not in favor of homeschooling.

Summer camp:

We will absolutely be sending our kids to camp each summer. I went to camp every summer growing up and I really loved it and can't imagine my childhood without having gone. DH never went to camp, so he's not as insistant on it as I am, but he's not against it either. To be honest, I feel bad for him that he never got to go to camp as a kid and it makes me fel even stronger about sending our kids.

Favorite drink:

It's tough to choose just one... it's a toss up between red wine, mojitos, and Blue Moon beer with a lemon wedge.

DH kissing sons:

I'm really not sure about that one- we've never discussed it. I've never seen him kiss his own dad, but they have a funny relationship... I'm sure he'll kiss a son as a baby/little boy, but I'd imagine them growing out of it over time. I don't know though.

stevesbabygirl

08-10-2005, 03:49 PM

QOTD - I have no idea if DH would kiss a son. He kisses our cats all the time, but that's different.

Lanapoo

08-10-2005, 04:52 PM

Congratulations on going off the pill Honeygirl! I hope that things go well for you. I've had fibroid issues myself and finally had to have surgery in May to have mine removed. I'm so glad I did! My periods went from long and heavy to short and light. I hope yours get better now that you're off the hormones ;)

honeygirl

08-10-2005, 06:25 PM

Thanks Lanapoo - I had surgery last Oct to remove fibroids and I was so not happy that it looks like I may have them again! (so soon) So I'm hoping that going off the pill will make them go away, or at least not get worse!

Warning possible TMI question: Can anyone recommend a good spermicidal, we're looking at trying those now that I'm off the pill. I'm also going to do the basal temps and maybe charting (it seems very complicated to me).

Thanks!

Twylla

08-10-2005, 09:25 PM

honeygirl, good luck off the pill. I'm so happy to be off them it isn't even funny. I hope you have textbook 28 day cycles right away!!!!! We've been charting, but using condoms as well. We got ours from condomcountry.com and they have astroglide on them, very nice! lol. Sorry, I can't help with the spermicide question.

Guess what? I'm currently training my official "backup" this week, training continue next week, and she'll start filling in for me when I leave for Hawaii to run the marathon in December! Hopefully a few months after that I'll be able to give her the news that she can fill in for me for a mat leave as well! lol.

cat_loverpq

08-11-2005, 06:10 AM

QOTD ~ How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

I don't think he will have a problem with it. I can definitely see him kissing a son on the forehead or cheek. Obviously as the baby got older I'm sure it would taper off, and there probably wouldn't be any kissing on the lips.

BeachBride19426 ~ I'm so sorry to hear about your friend and her baby. :( I will keep her in my prayers.

eli1126

08-11-2005, 07:58 AM

QOTD ~ How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

Hmm..I have no idea! FIL and DH are hand shakers, but DH is affectionate with nephews. I would have to ask him, but I think like Courtney it would be more kissing on the forehead or cheek until the baby gets older.

Beth

LeslieandPaul

08-11-2005, 10:15 AM

Paul's aunt and uncle are in town for the wedding and they brought their 9 month old baby who I finally got to meet yesterday. The exact words that came out of my mouth were "I want one." My baby bug had subsided slightly and then I got to hold and cuddle a baby and it all came back, full force. And it doesn't help that he's so darn cute and kept wanting to go in the laundry basket!

granada

08-11-2005, 10:43 AM

honeygirl ~ Charting is not complicated at all. And it's fascinating learning about how your body works. TCOYF is definitely a good book to get if you want to learn more about charting. It's an easy read, and the subject is so interesting, I finished it in one weekend. :)

BeachBride19426 ~ I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. She will be in my thoughts.

Sabriel

08-11-2005, 01:56 PM

Well, we have decided to just jump into TTCing. We were going to start next month, but yesterday we decided why wait? It has been great waiting and talking with you ladies!

Lanapoo

08-11-2005, 02:00 PM

I would love to get off these pills as well. Adding MORE estrogen to your body when you have or have had fibroids is kind of a bummer because it makes them grow more. I've recently picked up TCOYF and am reading it now. Now I just need to get DH on the bandwagon.

Honeygirl-It make me nervous that you may be already having fibroid probs so soon after your surgery. I was hoping to have at least had one child before I had to deal with this again. Then again, I only had one big one and I hear it's less likely to come back if it's just one. I guess I'll just have to wait and see. Does it make you want to start TTC sooner just in case?

Lanapoo

08-11-2005, 02:02 PM

Congratulations Sabriel :)

artist

08-11-2005, 02:15 PM

:::

honeygirl

08-11-2005, 02:31 PM

Lanapoo - I had 3 fibroids if that makes a difference. The Dr told me after my surgery last year that I probably wouldn't have any more fibroids, but here not even a year later having similar symptoms as before. We won't know for sure if I have them again unless I have the ultrasound, which WASN'T fun last time. She said to come back in 3 months if I'm still bleeding after going off the pill (at the wrong times) and we'll do one. Even if I have fibroids I won't have a surgery until we're ready to TTC.

I'm wanting to start TTC in April, but DH isn't quite on board yet. I figure that if it will take awhile and if I'll need a surgery I'd rather start sooner than later. I'm in my late late 20's so I want to get a move on.

Sabriel Congrats on moving on!

DelSol

08-11-2005, 08:27 PM

Congrats Sabriel!

artist

08-12-2005, 08:16 AM

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Annette

08-12-2005, 12:53 PM

Yikes that this thread is over 40 pages. I've started to get the baby bug recently. Now that we have stability in our lives we are thinking next year is a good time for TTCing. I want to wait for the summer because I am going to be a BM in my best friend's wedding and we were also going to wait till our 5 year anniversary in the first place. For now we are going to be planning a nice vacation before we have children. Here are my stats:

Annette
Me: Annette, 28
DH: Mike, 28
Married: 11/10/2001
TTC: Probably next summer.

Lanapoo

08-12-2005, 01:22 PM

Welcome Annette :). DH and I will also be TTC sometime next summer.

tbell

08-12-2005, 01:38 PM

I want to join!!!

Name: Tacy, 30
Husband: Tim, 34
Engaged: 1/1/04
Married: 5/21/05
TTC: hopefully around Aug 2006

I know I've only been married for 3 months, but the baby bug has hit and it has hit hard! I've promised DH at least a year so we can travel, etc, but sometimes I want to be pregnant so badly that I ache. I'm trying really hard to be patient for when we're both ready (not just mentally, but financially, etc) but we're not getting any younger. My biological clock's alarm has started to ring--loudly!!!

stevesbabygirl

08-12-2005, 02:04 PM

Congrats Sabriel! Welcome to the new ladies :D!

curlyjr

08-12-2005, 03:55 PM

I'm joining

curlyjr
Me:27
DH: 26
Married : 6/05
TTC: probably 2008 at the absolute earliest

DAmn that baby bug! I keep reading the pregnancy and family planning boards but the fact is we are just not financially ready for a baby. I'm still in college and DH is hoping to go back for his Masters soon. We have a tiny apartment and barely make ends meat. But it would be so nice.....

tippy

08-12-2005, 05:01 PM

I have missed so much in my absence. Ok, let me see if I can answer all of the questions.

QOTD-How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough?
I would definitely like to try the techniques that I saw on 'Supernanny'. I think they are effective (well, from what I saw). I am not against spanking, but I am against beatings. But I would use spankings as a very last resort, if at all.

QOTD- Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?
Well, this is a tough one for us. I went to private school (Catholic school on top of it) all my life, and DH went to public school. But I think we have come to a compromise that our children would go to private school for grade school, and public for high school. I don't know, we still have to talk about it.

QOTD- Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
I hadn't even thought about camp. I think if anything, I would send my child to camp during the day, but nothing that they would have to be away from home for.

QOTD - Favorite drink?
I really like foo-foo fruity drinks. I love margaritas, daquiaris (sp?) and mudslides.

QOTD - How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
Wow, that's a good question. I have never even thought of this. Guess I should talk to DH about it.

honeygirl

08-12-2005, 09:42 PM

Happy Weekend ladies!

I have a story about a book. The book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility", or TCOYF here on the boards, came highly recommended so I've been trying to buy it. First I ordered it online, but my order was cancelled (not sure why). So I went to a book store on my way to work, no luck. Today I went again to a Borders and looked ALL over the store for it. I finally asked for help (since their computer showed that they had one), and a nice man looked in "Infertility" (after talking with a co-worker about it) and couldn't find it either. Long story short it is in the store but they can't find it (still in a box).

Sooo, I try another Borders across town. I look ALL over and same thing. I ask for help (getting annoyed by this point) and they talk about the "infertility" section. We finally find it and as I'm checking out the lady says "If this book is for you I wish you well and will say a prayer for you". Okay, that was nice. But HELLO, talk about personal. And anyway, it isn't just a book about infertility, but fertility and birth control in general.

Anyway, this whole experience is making me feel like a freak. And, I'm hoping that the book is worth it. I'm planning on brining it on my vacation (I leave on sunday).

Thanks for letting me vent.

-Anne

laurenc

08-12-2005, 10:14 PM

honeygirl -- yikes, holy inappropriate batman. why do completely random people feel the need to add their two cents to personal matters??? sorry you had to go through that... :P

lawyerlee

08-12-2005, 10:38 PM

lawyerlee

08-12-2005, 10:40 PM

Reenie

08-14-2005, 09:51 AM

Me: Diana, 27, attorney for Kansas Legislature
DH: Cliff, 29, college student
Married: November 30, 2002
TTC or adopt: with next 2-3 years (hopefully)

Hi, everyone, I'm new here. :) I'm ready, ready, ready for a baby, but it isn't the right time for us yet. Cliff is in school to get his bachelor's in education, so it isn't realistic for us to TTC or adopt until he finishes and a permanent professional position for him is in sight. I can't wait until we're ready, but I'm so glad to know there is a whole group of women feeling just the way I am. I'm looking so forward to getting to know all of you! :)

Not only am I so glad that someone else is just joining now (because I am, too!), I could have written this post myself! It just isn't time for us yet, although we're both pretty ready!

Me: Maureen, mid-twenties, Chicago Public Schools high school English teacher
DH: Eric, mid-twenties, mathematics education major (college student)
Officially a couple: November 13, 1999
Engaged: January 9, 2004
Married: November 13, 2004
TTC: spring-summer 2008 (so, so long!)

DH will finish B.S. (that's bachelor of science ;) ) projected May 2007, and he will go on the accelerated master's track to finish May 2008.

I will hopefully finish my master's summer 2007 or fall 2007. :)

cat_loverpq

08-14-2005, 04:02 PM

Annette ~ If you go to your User CP and click on Edit Options on the left hand side menu, you can change the number of posts shown per page. That way you don't have to scroll through so many pages. For me, this thread is only 11 pages b/c I view 40 posts per page. :)

Welcome to all the new ladies!!

Reenie

08-14-2005, 07:18 PM

What are your top names right now?
My DH is pretty picky; here are names we’ve agreed upon
For a girl: Nora Elaine and Audrey Rose
For a boy: Timothy Edward
I love the name Gabriel for a boy, but he said absolutely not. :rolleyes: I also love Madeline for a girl, but he isn’t too keen on that, either.

So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Yes, we want DH done with Bachelor’s and Master’s Degrees (and a career job, instead of a “college” job), and we want me done with my Master’s. Our finances are in good order as it is, we are closing on our first property in September, and we have been together for several years, so really, it’s all about the schooling for us. And actually, I would like to be back down to a size 8 before TTC- that may sound superficial, sorry! But for a variety of reasons, that is true, but that's not such a big deal- I'm a size 12 now, so I know that I could lose the weight relatively quickly- I'm back on the work-out eat-healthy plan.

It's totally biological. I'm convinced. It's like a switch is flipped, and it's mommy time.
ITA- I swear this is absolutely true. I was kinda, "Eh, we'll have kids some day," and then I woke up one day, and I've had a one-track mind ever since!

Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Yes, absolutely. I know that our families and our friends will be totally supportive, no doubt about it.

What is some of your favorite baby gear right now?
I don't really let myself look too much, and although we'll probably find out the sex of the (currently hypothetical ;) ) baby, I still want to do the room in neutral because what if there is a mistake :eek: , so I love the Boyd's Bears Cowgirl/Cowboy bear room and any Noah's Ark room.

http://i.walmart.com/i/p/00/03/42/15/00/0003421500098_500X500.jpg

http://a583.g.akamai.net/7/583/175/2005040510/cache4.jcpenney.com/images/large/0900631b80bdc0aaL.jpg

How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind?
He thinks we need to wait until he's finished with school, and then he's ALL ABOUT it!

What do you dread most about being a parent?
I don't really dread any of it, but I do have concerns about the changes our relationship will experience, about sleeplessness, about worrying (I'm a huge worrier, so I could just worry myself to death over a child!), etc. I have no fears of poop, blood, etc. I guess I'm a weirdo.

Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?
We have two cats. I am a little nervous because they're both spoiled and I've heard that cats can suffocate a baby and also that you're not supposed to clean the litter box when you're pregnant, but DH will do that, and I'm sure that the cats will be fine with a baby- it's really a toddler I'd be more worried about!

How many kids do you plan on having?
We would like between two and four. We both think three sounds good, and our outside limit would be four (i.e., we would have vasectomy/tubal ligation if we ended up with four). But we say possibly two because we never know how we'll feel once the babies are here. :) We don't care about how many boys or girls, but it would be nice to at least have one of each.

Reenie

08-14-2005, 07:19 PM

How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.

Because I'm a teacher, I have pretty good ideas of discipline that do not involve hitting/spanking, etc.; I am not against spanking as a last resort, but DH is, so no spanking in this house. As a sidenote, I was spanked as a child (maybe four times- it wasn't a routine thing), and DH never was. I certainly deserved it when I was spanked, and I have never forgotten what I did!

do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?
Public. I'm a public school teacher. I think that's enough said.

Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
If the child is interested, probably so (depending on cost, location, etc.)

What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can!
I don't drink often, but when I do, I love Mike's Hard Lemonade, Amaretto Stone Sours, and Malibu with Pineapple Juice.

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

My DH is much older than most of his siblings, and he hugs and kisses them all of the time, so my guess is that it will be the same with our children. He's a hugger more than a kisser though (unless it's me :p ).

As an aside, I am not on BCP. We do prevent during ovulation, but we are aware of the "risk" involved.

mimieliza

08-14-2005, 08:08 PM

So, DH said he wants to use up the pack of condoms, and then not buy any more (that's our only BC right now).

Note to guys: this is how to get your wife to want to do it ALL THE TIME! I asked DH if he would be insulted if I wanted to do it, like, three times a day now so we can be through that damn pack in less than a week. He actually did look a little offended. Hey, don't make an deal you're not willing to keep! :D

We'll see how he feels when we get through the pack... this is not something I'm going to talk him into, so if he's uncomfortable with it, we'll keep TTA. But I may be graduating from the thread soon. :)

Lanapoo

08-15-2005, 02:54 PM

Welcome to our new ladies :D

Honeygirl - I totally feel you on trying to find that stupid book! I went through the same thing except that I just couldn't bring myself to ask anyone for help. I finally found the book in the Women's Health section. This makes sense because it ISN'T an infertility book. It took me like two months to find it but I wasn't in a hurry so it didn't bother me to search a few times.

Okay, I'm going to make my first attempt asking a QOTD...

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?
Dean and I do this all the time!! Thank goodness we agree for the most part.

Twylla

08-15-2005, 03:01 PM

honeygirl, I'm so sorry about your book shopping experience. The book IS really good, so I guess it's worth it, but my goodness! I geuss it could've been worse, it could've been a young high school guy saying the same thing, lol. Are you planning to start charting soon? Good luck with it!

Well, guess what? We threw caution to the wind over the weekend! But, I think with the whole PCOS possibility and irregular AF, I don't think it'll amount to anything. Oh well. Plus, we agreed to sort of start TTC.... I say sort of b/c AF is so irregular, and my doc is testing for a efw things, including PCOS, so I just don't think it'll happen right away. I have my vaginal ultrasound in October, stupid wait lists! Hopefully that'll tell us what's going on!

cat_loverpq

08-16-2005, 06:34 AM

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?

We do this occassionally, but only when we see really bratty kids. Since DH already has a very well-behaved daughter (most of the time anyways ;)), he usually compares how he has done as a parent, especially with his sister's kids. I tell you what, these kids need some serious discipline! They are obnoxious, always yelling to get their mom's attention no matter if she's talking or busy doing something, they completely ignore you when you tell them to do something, and as babies their mom could never leave the room. They would scream bloody murder if even put them down on the floor but was still sitting beside them. :rolleyes: The 2 year old still can't be away from her. In some crazy way I think she actually likes the fact that they are so needy. Makes her feel wanted I guess. Who knows. She's a SAHM and spoils them rotten. What they really need is socialization skills, so I'm glad at least 2 of them are finally starting school. (they are 8 and 6 years old).

When we've watched the Nanny 911 or SuperNanny shows, DH always says "That's what I did with my daughter," or "See, I'm an awesome dad. I knew that already!" He's so funny to watch. :)

jessied1025

08-16-2005, 07:13 AM

I am really far behind on keeping up with this thread, so let me answer a couple of the QOTD's...

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?

DH and I do so as well...all the time. It is reassuring to know that we are on the same page!

How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.

I like the idea of using time outs. I see my SIL use this technique with her little boy and it does work. I am not totally against spankings, but they should only be used when absolutely necessary.

do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

Yes, both myself and DH went to public schools and we turned out just fine! :)

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

DH's family is very affectionate. They always give hugs. He only shakes hands with his dad and brother, but always a hug and a kiss for his 2 sisters and mom. He is also affectionate with me as well. He likes holding hands in public once and a while and always wants a hug and a kiss before we leave for work in the morning.

What are your top names right now?

For a boy, we are set on the name - Jacob Gus

For a girl, we are still on the fence...I like the names Jenna & Lindsey. He likes the names Claire & Samatha.

So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?

Yes, well kind of. I would really like to finish our basement at least before any baby arrives. When we do have a baby we are planning on turing the guest bedroom into the nursery and then the office into the guest bedroom. So it would be great to have the basement finished so we can put the office/den downstairs.

Reenie

08-16-2005, 01:29 PM

Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?

My DH is, and to tell the truth, it kind of annoys me. I think, "Yeah, that's what you say now, but wait until you're a parent!" I do like that we can talk about how we'd handle things, and I am a little surprised at how strict he will be, but for the most part, we agree about the (many) things we have discussed. :)

laurenc

08-16-2005, 02:09 PM

Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?

i wouldn't exactly say i'm a good armchair parent... ;)

but yeah, i'd have to say, we do spend a good deal of time dissecting behaviors that i'm sure i'll just be repeating when i'm a parent...

MrsSmith

08-16-2005, 02:13 PM

I only know one other person with a child. Hubby and I have only been together with them and their child once. Usually, it's adults only.

However, when we are in the store or somewhere in public and there are children present, we will comment on their behavior and take note of things we would have done differently.

*quick sidebar* I am SOOOOO ready to be a parent, NOW!!! I wake up every day hoping this is the day that I mysteriously discover that I'm pregnant. Hubby is even getting in on the excitement too. I heard some good news from the repairman yesterday. I called hubby and said "I've got good news!", he said "Are you pregnant?" Aw...how sweet...ok, sidebar over*

stevesbabygirl

08-16-2005, 04:02 PM

I agree with MrsSmith. I see kids in stores and comment on their behavior and what the parents should've done. But most of the time, my impatience wins out and I end up saying "I would smack that kid" :p.

curlyjr

08-16-2005, 10:07 PM

:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?
We defeinately do , thought I'm sure that once we have are own we will find out how wrong we were
How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.
I'm not against spanking, especially in younger toddlers but it would not be the first resort
do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool
It really depends on the school actually
How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
My DH is very affectionate and I have no doubt he will be with all of our children
What are your top names right now?
I like Sebastian for a boy and Lavinia for a girl, DH is not exactly a fan of those names though
So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Become financially secure for one. Also Dh and I both have hobbies we are passionate about and we would like to see what we can do with them

Cohl

08-16-2005, 11:31 PM

I am joining in on the "baby bug biting me in the butt hardcore" group! I don't know what it is all of the sudden, but I am ready for another one NOW!! On the upside, my DH has agreed to "see what happens" as of today! Now, if AF would only come back. (It has been over 2 years. My DD is a little over 1 year.) I so want to get pregnant right now! I know all of you ladies can relate!

Nicole

MrsSmith

08-17-2005, 02:00 PM

Twylla

08-17-2005, 03:01 PM

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?

Well, I'd say we sort of discuss more than anything. We like to play the, "If s/he was our child..." game. Good practise I guess, right? lol. Nanny 911 scares me a bit, I'd hate hate hate to be in any of those parents' shoes. I think about what we'll do with kids all the time, but it really is SO hard to know what you'd do until you're in that position, right?

I got to play with a 2 week old baby yesterday... sigh. He was so sweet, just cuddling with his grandma (my coworker) and letting everyone ooh and ahh over him.

melnv

08-17-2005, 08:15 PM

Armchair Parent I'm awful. My Mom had a daycare in our home while I was growing up (and five children), so I used to bring her up all the time. "My Mom would have.. My Mom would never let.."
Now it's I instead of My Mom. I've suddenly become qualified to comment. Sometimes I want to slap myself on the arm because I know I'm jinxing myself to have awful, devious children.

Affection by DH He will be totally affectionate. Can not wait to be a parent.
I know I'm going to be the mean one. Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?

bunnybeth

08-17-2005, 08:36 PM

Ok, I was a member of the LIW over at the WC, but I've basically given up going over there. So, even though I only have about a month of waiting left, I'll "rejoin" the group here. :)

Me: Bethany, 26
DH: Elon, 27
Married: 6/23/02
TTC: September 2005

Ok, time for some QOTD fun...

Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?
Not very often, but sometimes Elon will comment on disciplining tweens and teens, as he's a high school teacher.

How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.
I think spankings are only really effective for some things and for smaller kids, maybe through kindergarden. Also, soap in the mouth when appropriate (but not SoftSoap like MY parents used-- ewwwww!)

Do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?
I'd prefer private school, but we probably won't be able to afford it. At the very least we'll move to a better public school district.

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
Given his interaction with his parents and brother, I think he'll show physical affection to children of either gender.

What are your top names right now?
Ummm... changes a lot. I think now we're on Simon and Adelaide.

So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Go to my OB/GYN for a pre-conception check-up and annual.

stevesbabygirl

08-17-2005, 09:19 PM

"Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?"

Absolutely.

stevesbabygirl

08-17-2005, 09:21 PM

Welcome Bethany :D!

curlyjr

08-17-2005, 10:30 PM

I already know I will be the bad guy :mad: especially once the kids are in their tweens and teens, our familes had very different approaches to raising us and I simply think that his parents were much too lax in a lot of things and I don't plan on following their example. DH and I are still debating this.

granada

08-17-2005, 11:20 PM

Armchair parent ~ I totally do this. I have a cousin who has three little ones (all under 5, I think). She lets them run rampant anywhere and everywhere. We had a family function at a restaurant, and the kids were just all over the place, climbing on tables even. :eek: I couldn't believe it. The littlest one also cries all the time to get his way. I've seen him crying and the mom will take away a toy from the other kids just so the crying one will stop crying. That makes no sense to me. I wouldn't encourage that kind of behavior by giving the crier what he wants. Of course, I'm convinced my kids will be perfect angels. ;)

I know I'm jinxing myself to have awful, devious children.
Everytime I'm critical of other people's parenting, I have this fear, too. :)

Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?
I will probably be the bad guy. DH's parents were much too lax, too, so I think a lot of the discipline will come from me, just because he probaby doesn't know much about discipline.

granada

08-17-2005, 11:30 PM

DH and I had a discussion about baby names tonight, the first time he actually talked seriously about names he liked. He said he did not like Mia or Amelia or Madeleine (my choices). He suggested Emily or Margaret, neither of which I love. But I don't hate them either. So, this may be a long process for us. :cool:

(I don't know why, but I've always thought my first child would be a girl, so I've only thought of girl names.)

cat_loverpq

08-18-2005, 06:51 AM

Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?

Not really. DH does a pretty good job of discipline when it comes to his daughter. I think we will be fairly even in this category. :)

mimieliza

08-18-2005, 08:33 AM

Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?

I'm kind of worried about this. I'm definitely more strict with our dogs - I insist that they ALWAYS heel on the leash, and I don't let them wrestle and play with each other in the same room that we're in (I make them go outside or down to the basement). I just get irritated more easily than DH does. So I imagine that I will be more firm about stuff like whining and other annoying behavior.

allison

08-18-2005, 09:05 AM

I'm so far behind!!!

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?

DH and I do this sometimes. Mostly, though, I've been amazed at what wonderful parents my friends are. Not that I expected them to be bad parents, but DH and I find ourselves agreeing with their styles moreso than disagreeing.

How will you discipline your child? Are you against spankings? Do you think time out is more than enough? Etc.

I'm not against spankings, but it's not something I plan do all the time, or even some of the time. I'm not so sure about time outs. I've seen them work and I've seen them fail, so who knows for us. I hope to be able to talk to my children calmly and not yell. Honestly, though, I don't have a clue!

do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?

DH and I both went to public school (although I attended a private school for elementary school) and we're just fine. We have talked about private school a lot lately.

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?

With DH it's mostly handshakes with his brothers and Dad and hugs for his sister, Mom, and neices and nephews. My Dad hugs DH which I think is cute and funny. He's not at all uncomfortable with affection, but I did seem him cringe when we were watching a movie and a dad kissed his son on the lips. DH said not lips, cheeks....

What are your top names right now?

Nothing set in stone...we joke about names a lot, though.

So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?

More travel. We love to gamble, take trips, and be spontaneous. We really are enjoying our lives right now and aren't ready for change. Plus we've just planned a trip to South Africa!

MrsSmith

08-18-2005, 09:14 AM

I don't think I'll be the bad guy. I think we'll both be bad, but in different ways. I'm more of an intimidator, but hubby is the bite behind my bark. I think our kids will pick up on that eventually though. So, we might have to try another way to discipline them.

Lanapoo

08-18-2005, 12:11 PM

Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?

Sometimes I am and sometimes I'm not. I think we will both be pretty good with dicipline and consistancy but every once in a while I wonder if DH will be turned to mush with a sweet smile or sad eyes :p

Okay, I'm a little weirded out right now. Last week I missed Wednesday and Thursday's BCP, I almost missed Friday's too but realized that I hadn't taken a pill that morning and ended up taking it way late in the day. That was when I realized that I'd missed the other two pills. So I doubled up on Friday and Saturday to make up for the lost pills. So that was my last week of pills before my period and now here I am, started my period on Tuesday and all I've had is some spotting and that's it. NO REAL PERIOD :eek: Can't test because even if I did manage to ovulate during that window I'd still only be about 7 or 8DPO and nothing would show up...hmmm.

granada

08-18-2005, 01:05 PM

Lanapoo ~ I've been in a similar situation when I was on BCP, too. (Forgetting to take the pill, doubling up next two days and then no AF.) I wouldn't get AF, but I wasn't pg either. It may just be the irregular taking of the pills that caused AF not to arrive, rather than pg. Good luck, though!

Reenie

08-18-2005, 01:33 PM

Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?

Not really; a couple of years I would have said yes, but I have heard him talk about future fatherhood and its joys and frustrations enough that I think we'll have pretty similar discipline ideas...

Lanapoo

08-18-2005, 01:39 PM

Thanks Granada, now that I think about it that's probably right. Most likely I just confused my body when I doubled up on the BCP's. I guess we'll see...

RobynScott

08-18-2005, 03:29 PM

I haven't had a chance to read all (or even a lot) of the posts yet - but I think I need to join here. DH and I "decided" we would shoot for Spring/Summer 2007 to have a baby - so TTC next summer. However - all of a sudden we are surrounded by babies - and I think the idea of being pregnant is starting to appeal to me a bit ... but deep down I know we should wait. Right now - I'm thinking about being pregnant - but not quuite the whole parenting part yet - kind of an important component, don't you think :)

Anyway - we're coming up on our one year anniversary in 11 days :) - just moved into our TH eight months ago - and still have things to do - we have time to wait to get pregnant - I think I just need to remember that, hehe :)

2006 will be here before we know it! (though I somehow wonder if we'll make it till the summer before TTC) - we shall see!I'd like a spring baby so that would mean trying not too early in the year.

And oh yeah - now that I have gone on and on - my name is Robyn my husband is Scott , I'm 28 (soon to be 29) - and he's 30 - so no great rush - but not spring chickens either *lol*

Thanks for letting me join!

Robyn :)

eli1126

08-18-2005, 03:34 PM

I think for all DH's kidding and joking he will be the tough parent! He can be rather drill sargentish with his nephews...but our older nephew has a big attitude problem :eek:

Beth

DelSol

08-18-2005, 07:21 PM

QOTD: Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?
We don't know many people with kids but when we see kids in stores or restaurants acting up, we usually comment on it and say if that us, we do this.

Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?
Good question, not really sure who will be the bad guy. I use to work at a day care, many many years ago and I felt like I was always yelling at the kids to behave but they were 18 month - 24 month olds. I just hope I have the patience left for my kids.

Twylla

08-18-2005, 09:22 PM

Welcome to Robyn, and our other new LIW that I've missed. It's a fun thread, but don't feel like you need to go back to square one, just jump right in!

I'm off on holidays next week, and I get to go visit my neice and nephew (well, not really, but they're my cousin's kids!) then to a wedding. i'm really looking forward to the time off! Plus, Hayley and brenden are really young still, super fun. Hayley is 2 and a half, and Brenden was just born in February, still a baby, yay!!!! Even DH is looing forward to it!

artist

08-19-2005, 09:39 AM

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cat_loverpq

08-19-2005, 09:50 AM

Well ladies, my time in this thread has come to an end. AF showed up today, so we are officially on CD1 of our first TTC cycle! I wish everyone the best of luck in *patiently* waiting for their time to come! ;) It's been fun getting to know all of you! And who knows, maybe I'll see some of you on the other side sooner than you thought! :)

magrat

08-19-2005, 11:34 AM

I don't want to officially join because my baby craving comes and goes, but there have been some good questions lately.

I will most definitely be the bad guy. I don't mind that at all though, my mom was the bad guy too and I always respected her a little bit more for it. I find it funny whoever said they would ask their dad permission for stuff because he was a softy. I knew very well I couldn't ask my dad, partly because he would always say "ask mom", and partly because if he did give me permission for something and I knew mom would have said no, I would have gotten in trouble anyway :p But really, I doubt discipline will be a problem, my husband and I were never trouble makers and we're pretty easy going. I hope to be really relaxed about parenting because my parents were too stifling and I never tested the boundaries. I regret not having more fun as a teenager, and I hope my children are able to date lots and go to concerts and stuff since I never did.

I'm sure DH will be more affection with them than I will be, he comes from a very affectionate family. I was always bit shocked how affectionate FIL is to my SIL, they're hugging all the time without any specific reason, whereas I almost never hug my parents unless I'm leaving the country for a year or something.

Names...we always thought picking a boy's name would be hardest, so we've worked on that more. We would go with Samuel for sure, but it's DH's cousin's name and he has a small family. I love Sebastian, but DH says absolutely not. In order:
Miles
Oliver (though becoming too popular)
Walter (not sure DH likes this so much)

Girls names...I know DH likes Elizabeth, and so do I, but I'm not sure about using it. I like
Jane (Janie)
Evelyn (maybe using the nickname Eve)
Josephine (Josie)

Twylla

08-19-2005, 03:06 PM

Good luck cat_loverpq!!!!!! Come back and let us know when you see an extra pink line, okay???

And magrat, it's totally okay to pop in and answer QOTDs without joining.... especially if you're toss more pretty baby names into the hat!

SQ2

08-20-2005, 02:17 PM

Good luck, Cortney! :D

Lanapoo

08-22-2005, 10:44 AM

Okay so AF never came after my missed pills one and a half weeks ago. I'm going in on Wednesday morning for a blood test so I can know for sure. I can't believe this is happening!! :eek:

DH has been my calming influence. He told me that if we managed to make a baby with so many odds against it (BCP's and the tried and true 'pull out' method :p )then it must be 'meant to be'.

I'll update on Wednesday to let you all know the results, but my time with the LIW's may be short...

cat_loverpq

08-22-2005, 11:39 AM

Twylla ~ Will do! Keep your fingers crossed that it won't be too far in the future! :)

SQ2 ~ Thanks! I need to catch up on your LJ from your trip... ;)

sarahh

08-22-2005, 01:20 PM

Figured I would join in the fun!

sarahh
Me: Sarah (28)
DH: Jeff (27)
Engaged: 7/21/00
Married: 9/1/02
TTC: September/October 2005

Reenie

08-22-2005, 02:47 PM

Okay so AF never came after my missed pills one and a half weeks ago. I'm going in on Wednesday morning for a blood test so I can know for sure. I can't believe this is happening!! :eek:

Whoa! Does that mean that you took a urine test that was positive? If it's true and even if it is unexpected, that's still very exciting! :)

Lanapoo

08-22-2005, 03:30 PM

Thanks Reenie :) I haven't had a positive test yet but I think I'll test tomorrow morning because I'm too impatient to wait until Wed morning :D It's still early in the game though since the only time I could have ovulated was the week before last on either Wed, Thurs or Fri (the days I missed my pills).

stevesbabygirl

08-22-2005, 03:40 PM

Welcome aboard Sarah :D! And best of luck to you catlover! Come back and update us!

tippy

08-22-2005, 04:36 PM

Congrats, cat_loverpq!!

Welcome ladies!!

armchair parents - i can't say that we do that when we spend time with our friends that have kids (we don't have many friends with kids anyway), but we do it when we are around kids that are acting up in public and their parents aren't disciplining them ;)

bad guy - well i am pretty sure that dh is going to be the 'bad guy' when it comes to disciplining. i am pretty much a push over. however, my mom was the disciplinary in the family and i am becoming more and more like her every day (*gasp*) so we'll see how that turns out :D

jenji

08-23-2005, 07:05 AM

Lanapoo - question about your pills: after you missed 3 pills what did you do? I know the one time I missed 3 in a row the instructions in the packet said to just start a new pack (It probably differs depending on which 3 pills you miss) and I never got my period that cycle.
It's possible that 3 days without the pills threw your cycle off, even if you didn't start a new pack at that point.
hope your HPT gives you good news

Lanapoo

08-23-2005, 10:41 AM

BFN for me this morning. I'll still get the blood test tomorrow to know for sure but I'm thinking that I'm probably not pg. If I ovulated on the days I missed I would be anywhere from 10 to 13DPO at this point and would think that the test would be accurate.

Jenji-The instructions said to start a new pack right away. I didn't read them though and thought that all I had to do was double up for the next couple of days like you normally do when you miss a pill. I didn't actually read the instructions until I didn't get AF like I was supposed to :rolleyes:

Lanapoo

08-24-2005, 10:47 AM

Well BFN with the blood test too.

I will no longer be taking over the LIW thread with my "Am I PG?" obsession :p

Can I just say that I'm actually a little sad that I wasn't pg? Even though it would have been before we were ready I still was really excited at the thought that I might be a mommy :(

lawgirl4

08-24-2005, 11:34 AM

hey lanapoo - don't worry about talking about your "am I PG" questions over here!! I had a similar experience last week and was constantly looking for advice in the "charting to avoid" thread - but everyone here is helpful and supportive, so don't beat yourself up over it!

also, I can understand the disappointment factor even though you aren't ready right now to be PG - I felt the same way. I am starting a new job next week, I still REALLY want to lose 10-20 pounds, and we are going to India this december (the last "before the baby" trip) - and all those things would have been difficult or impossible if I had been PG now. But I still felt a tiny bit disappointed as well - so I can empathize. :)

PG-rated

08-24-2005, 01:55 PM

I wasn't going to join at first, but as I've been lurking in this thread I'm liking it more and more. :)

Me: Angela (29)
DH: Matt (28)
Married: 04/02/05
TTC: Probably late 2006

Recent questions: DH and I are HUGE armchair parents, but mainly of kids we see in public. :p I am going to be the bad guy parent, no question. Not only was DH raised in a much more lenient household, he's also a big softie and has a hard time saying no. I don't really mind being the tough one, though, as long as he backs me up.

Lanapoo

08-25-2005, 12:15 PM

Thanks Lawgirl4 - it helps to know I'm not the only one. There are lots of things for us to look forward to before TTC. A late honeymoon for one :D

Welcome PG-rated (Angela) :)

Anybody have a new QOTD?

RobynScott

08-25-2005, 12:21 PM

Um - no QOTD here - but a story to share - the other night, DH goes "wanna make a baby?" - uhm - eeek! I thought he was the one that wanted to wait, *lol*

On the one hand - I figure there's nothing stopping us from seeing what happens now - on the other hand, we've only been married a year - nothing wrong with waiting.

I was just so shocked by the comment that it's still on my mind - not quite sure how to react or what to think.

We should probably wait - but then again - why? (I would make that a QOTD - but I'm sure it's already been asked - why are you waiting?)

ETA - other potential QOTD - has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?

Next year - next year - need to wait until next year ...

granada

08-25-2005, 12:28 PM

Here's a QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?

I hope this question isn't too controversial. :cool: I'm not sure if DH and I would want to go through IVF. We might consider adoption, though. Or we'd just be a really cool aunt and uncle to DH's niece and nephew. And we'd travel a lot, I think.

Why are we waiting? We've only been married for a year, so we're working on being more settled in our relationship, careers, finances, and life in general.

lawyerlee

08-25-2005, 12:36 PM

We should probably wait - but then again - why? (I would make that a QOTD - but I'm sure it's already been asked - why are you waiting?)
We're waiting because my husband is still in college and because we're trying to pay down debt. I am more than ready, but I don't feel comfortable moving to a bigger place right now. I want to wait until we've paid down our debt and Cliff finishes school because I think we could buy the kind of home we'd really like to start out in without killing ourselves to do it. Further, iour current financial situation would make it really hard for me to take any time off after giving birth because I'm the primary breadwinner and there wouldn't be anything to fill that gap right now.

lawyerlee

08-25-2005, 12:37 PM

Here's a QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
Adopt! We're considering it, anyway, but probably after we have at least one that's biologically ours. I love the idea of adoption, and there are lots of mixed race babies out there who need homes, so I think it would have the potential to be a positive experience for us. I would prefer to adopt a cacausian/African American child because that's what our kids will be. :)

honeygirl

08-25-2005, 12:59 PM

QOTD: We are waiting b/c my DH isn't ready, he's so paranoid now that I'm off the pill that we used 2 forms of BC last night LOL :) . Also, we need a bigger house (seriously) and would like a few more vacations before we "settle down".

QOTD#2: If we can't have children biologically I think we'd either adopt (which we may do either way) or consider being child-free. I recently read about IVF in a book (Lance Armstrong wrote about their experience in his biography) and it sounds SCARY. I'm not a fan of needles let alone daily and self-injected.

Welcome to the new members!!

PG-rated

08-25-2005, 01:08 PM

QOTD #1: The biggest reason (for me, at least) is financial: We live in a one-bedroom apartment, with absolutely no room for a baby. We don't want to move until we can buy a place, but we can't buy a place until we've paid down our debts from when we were first living together (on less than half our current income). DH's main reason is that he's not at all ready to be a father. He's absolutely terrified of the idea, but he knows it's something he wants out of life, so he's working on it. I actually think it helps us a lot that it'll take at least a year to be in a decent financial position - he's got a built-in buffer with no pressure from me. :)

QOTD #2: We haven't really talked about this, honestly. DH knows it's very important to me to have children, but he has reservations about adopting (I understand his reasons, but they're personal and so I won't post them here). Meanwhile, I'm not sure how I feel about the option of IVF or other aggressive fertility treatments. I feel comfortable that we'll figure it out together if necessary.

The "other" QOTD: We've had two friends have babies this year, and DH has surprised me with how quickly he's taken to them. I thought it would scare him that his friends are all having kids, but he's doing really well with it. I was a little shocked because I'm not ready for him to be ready, KWIM? But either way, we still have the financial issues, so it doesn't matter much if he suddenly comes down with the baby bug.

bunnybeth

08-25-2005, 01:57 PM

QOTD #1: Before we were waiting because we wanted to be married without kids for a few years. Plus I wanted to wait until I reached my 5 year anni at work because that really improves the length of maternity leave. Now, we're just waiting a few more weeks until I get in for a pre-conception/annual exam at my new ob/gyn.

QOTD #2: We would want to adopt. Actually DH is kind of for the idea of adopting after we have a biological child. We have a good friend who was adopted as a baby, so we've seen what a great option that can be.

PG-rated: Lemony Snicket! Those books are so very funny, just my kind of humor. :D

SQ2

08-25-2005, 02:55 PM

We are waiting because we're both in grad school. It's possible that we'll start TTC next fall and then we'd have a baby right after I'm done with school (spring 2007) , but perhaps wait until he's done too.

melnv

08-25-2005, 02:58 PM

QOTD 1- school and an upcoming move across the country are making us wait.

QOTD 2- Adopt. I would love, love, love to adopt! Even an older child. So many children need homes.

So today I had an ultrasound for other medical reasons, and I secretly hoped the Dr. would randomly find a child in there. No such luck.

Lanapoo

08-25-2005, 03:22 PM

QOTD1: We are waiting so we can go on a trip in Jan without me being pg, get our debt paid down, and get new cars. We want to be in a different house too, but our townhouse would work in the meantime. DH is ready to be a parent just like me but we both want these things first. He even admitted to being a little disappointed that I wasn't pg with my recent BCP blunder :D

QOTD2:We totally would adopt if we were unable to have children on our own.

Reenie

08-25-2005, 04:08 PM

Why are we waiting?
Because my DH is in school and I am going to grad school first. Other than that ;) we're in a good position to be parents, but we'd like to wait until all of our schooling is finished.

What would we do if we couldn't have kids?
Like lawyerlee and her DH, we are considering adoption regardless of infertility issues, so we would adopt if it were an issue, too. I do not anticipate us doing IVF or the like, but I guess I won't say never.

MrsSmith

08-25-2005, 04:33 PM

We were waiting until my hubby was ready and we bought a house. We also wanted to put a little more time into our relationship. Now that we've been married almost 3 years, we are feeling more ready. We'll be TTC very soon.

If I couldn't have kids I would try everything financially and physically possible to make it happen. When that didn't work, I would try a surrogate and finally, adopt.

mimieliza

08-25-2005, 04:38 PM

QOTD 1: Why wait?
Good question, because we're getting to the point of not wanting to wait anymore, but $$$ is really the reason. We don't own a house, and we have a lot of debt (student loans and a car payment, and we owe our parents some money). But we're coming to terms with it, and are starting to feel we could handle starting a family at this point. We definitely are waiting until after Sept. 1, though, due to a glitch in our health insurance. We both started new jobs, and we ended up being uninsured for about six weeks, which I actually didn't expect (damn insurance policy fine print). As soon as I get the insurance info, I'm also going to verify that there is no waiting period before pregnancy is covered.

QOTD 2: Infertility
If we had the money, I would go for IVF and/or adopt. If finances were really an issue, I'd probably skip IVF and just look at adoption.

DelSol

08-25-2005, 04:43 PM

QOTD #1 ~ Why we are waiting? DH & I have had to go through a lot of adjustments so we are waiting to smooth them out. Plus with my recent lay off, we weren't sure when I'd get a job. But on a good note, I have just accepted a position, TTC could be right around the corner.

QOTD #1A ~ Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait? Nope he'd never say that, we had a little afternoon fun today and I had to remind him to get protection since I am off BCP.

QOTD #2 ~ What would you do if you couldn't have kids? If we couldn't have our own biological children, I'd be heartbroken. I'd consider IVF but with the cost and it not being covered by insurance I know it wouldn't be an option. Adoption is something I would do, DH is leery because he's not sure how the child would turn out, if that makes sense. He's thinking the child might be addicted to drugs but he doesn’t realize there are places where we could have an open adoption and such.

Welcome to all the New Ladies!!!!

stevesbabygirl

08-25-2005, 05:08 PM

QOTD 1 - DH isn't ready for kids yet, and sometimes I think that I'm not ready either. Plus, I'm not making any money right now, so our finances are not ideal at the moment.

QOTD 1A - I think he's smart enough to not say anything because he knows I'll jump all over it :p. That, or somehow if he says it, I will magically get pregnant.

QOTD 2 - I have no idea. DH can be kind of a jerk in his thought process sometimes, so he thinks that if people can't have kids, they were not meant to have them, so they shouldn't go out and use all the science available to them. I don't know how he would feel if we were really in that situation though. I don't think he's keen on adopting. As for me, I don't really know how I feel. I really want to have my own children, so I think I would feel like I was missing all the wonders of pregnancy and childbirth if I adopted a child.

RobynScott

08-26-2005, 06:22 AM

QOTD #1 - Why are we waiting?

I guess now that I've asked the question, I should answer it. I'm still not 100% sure why - I guess the main reason is that we've only been married a year (one year on Monday!) - so there's no rush. We're in the house we're going to be in for the next 5-10 years (if not forever) - we're comfortable financially (though I guess you can always be more comfortable :) ) - I think we *could* start TTC now - but there's no rush either. I guess that's what is starting to make waiting harder - there's no specific reason.

We really ought to take advantage of this time before kids - but we don't - so in some ways that makes it harder to 'justify' waiting.

On the other hand, we just moved into out house at the end of last year and there are still a lot of things I would like to do to it (decorating - $$) - so I guess we'll do those first and then plan for baby :) (which - once we are lucky enough to get PG, we'll need to decorate nursery too)

QOTD #2 - DH and I have not actually discussed this. I'd like to think that if we could not get PG we would adopt (I've always thought about adopting anyway) - but DH is not as open to adoption as I am (perhaps b/c we've never really been faced with the issue) - so I'm not sure what we would do.

eli1126

08-26-2005, 07:42 AM

QOTD #1 - Why are we waiting?

I finish my BA this May and I wanted to complete this before starting a family. I would also like a job so if anyone has any "in's" in Upstate NY schools... :p

QOTD #1A ~ Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?

Not really although at first he had practically mapped out me finishing a PH D for heaven's sake before trying to have children :rolleyes: When I explained to him that I am not really interested in a PH D, but also am not willing to wait until I'm 50 to start a family he became a little more realistic.

QOTD #2 ~ What would you do if you couldn't have kids?

I would adopt in a heartbeat, but I don't know about DH...He feels we adopted the cats and met our adopting "quota." However, we have said this in jest so I think he hasn't entertained the idea of being at the point where we can't get pg and looking at other options for creating our family. He may feel differently if it ever came to that. Although I would be interested in adoption even if we were able to have our own biological children (I hope I used the term correctly :confused: )

Beth

al'sgirl

08-26-2005, 08:47 AM

QOTD #1 - Why are we waiting?

I have always said that I would want to wait at least 2 years into marriage to start TTC. That would give us a good amount of time to settle into our relationship nicely. That said ... I would love to have some of our debt gone and house renovations completed.

QOTD #1A ~ Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?

Sometimes he'll come out with silly things like "are you pregnant", when I complain about PMS bloating or pants not fitting right. Lately he's been coming up with childrens names, and asking me what I thought about them. (We've got to stop naming our fish before we run out of good kids names! :))

QOTD #2 ~ What would you do if you couldn't have kids?

We haven't really talked about this, but I would definitely be open for an adoption discussion.

PG-rated

08-26-2005, 10:42 AM

I think we *could* start TTC now - but there's no rush either. I guess that's what is starting to make waiting harder - there's no specific reason.
I can picture us getting to this point, and when we do, I'll probably suggest going off BCP, taking pre-natals, and not thinking about it for six months (or until I miss my period). :)

curlyjr

08-26-2005, 11:25 AM

QOTD 1:
We are not finacially ready and we have only been married a few months for one thing. I also want to finish school which is not finacially an option for us right now.

QOTD 2:
We actually just discussed this the other day, we would try IVF if we could but not a surrogate or a sperm donor. If there was no physical way, we wold look into adoption.

DH has made comments lately that he can't wait for us to have kids and I have a feeling it will get more frequent since his sister is pg for the first time and due in december. We both basically want kids soon but we know we should wait.

artist

08-26-2005, 12:34 PM

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magrat

08-27-2005, 07:29 AM

Why we are waiting?

Money. We have quite a bit of debt, though most of it is to our parents and is no interest. I plan to quit working and we wouldn't have the extra to pay it down anymore, so we have to pay it off first. I actually have it planned out month by month, how much we can throw towards the debt, and it puts us in a good position 15 months from now, so we'll probably start trying sometime next spring or summer to give us a little breathing room as well. I'm am still really worried about surviving just on DH's income though, I think I'll probably have to find a part time job, especially because we'll have to switch to insurance through his work which isn't nearly as good as mine.

Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?

Not really. I always thought he would have to be the one to convince me to have kids, and then the hormones hit. He really likes kids, but he is also concerned about the expense (which is odd because he normally has no concept of our finances).

What would you do if you couldn't have kids?

I would be pretty devastated. I would try fertility drugs, but not IVF. My mom had to use fertility drugs to have me, so it would be odd for me not to do the same if I had to. If that didn't work we would do an international adoption, I think from India or the former USSR. I would be too scared to do a domestic adoption, because the only people I know who have done that got children who had serious emotional problems that can only be linked to genetics. I think since people in the US are less likely to give their children up for adoption, there's a better chance that those who do have problems themselves (though by no means all, it's just my own experiences that scare me off of it).

Annette

08-28-2005, 06:35 AM

Why we are waiting?
We still want to take one or 2 more big trips. I've only been at my company a year and would like to be there at least a 2nd year. This year I'll find out what sort of raise I'm getting and I will have more bargaining room if I want to come back part time. Plus tt doesn't hurt to save for another year. We bought a lot of stuff this past year for our house, but now we are finally settled in. We also want to pay off the car. Plus my best friend is getting married in June and I'm a BM and do not want to miss her wedding.
I do feel the baby bug coming on. I keep having dreams about babies or being pregnant.

Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?
No not really. We both agree that we will wait another year.

What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
I would be devastated at first, and I hope we would be able to try IVF. If not we would consider adopting.

sarahh

08-28-2005, 06:46 AM

Figured I would join in the fun!

sarahh
Me: Sarah (28)
DH: Jeff (27)
Engaged: 7/21/00
Married: 9/1/02
TTC: September/October 2005Hey ladies...I know I just joined, but Jeff and I decided that we would start trying now! :D

Cinderz

08-28-2005, 02:57 PM

DH and I just returned from our Hawaiian vacation and I'm keeping my fingers crossed that we brought back a little "souvenir". :D

QOTD....Why wait?
Finances and a bigger home. We live in a 2 bdrm. condo right now and ideally we would love it if we could afford to move into a 3 bedroom home...but housing prices in So. CA are crazy! DH seems to think we never have enough money. Do any of yours feel this way? I know this sounds crazy, but I'm hoping to a spring/summer baby because DH works for a school and is off during the summer months, so I'll have an extra hand to help out.

Recently, I was talking to a few women at work that have baby girls and the topic of ear piercing came up. I never gave it much thought, but listening to their opinions for and against piercing their daughter's ears really got me thinking.

My mom didn't have mine or my sister's ears pierced when we were babies, so I still remember the day I had mine done. I was 10 years old when I finally felt brave enough to have my ears pierced. Even though it wasn't very painful, I was still pretty nervous and anxious about it.

I'm not trying to start a big debate but thought I would post a new [B]QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby?

stevesbabygirl

08-28-2005, 03:17 PM

QOTD - I would not have my daughter's ears pierced as a baby. That seems like a lot of pain for a baby to go through, and even though an older girl would remember how much it hurt, at least it would be her choice. I pretty much want my daughter to decide when she gets her ears pierced.

SQ2

08-28-2005, 04:34 PM

So, the other day, DH goes "I found out that our apt complex doesn't offer daycare for children under a year old."

A bit of background. We're both in grad school, me with 2 years left, him with 3 and initially we decided to wait until he was done with school to have kids but recently we considered the possibility of starting TTC sometime in my last year of school. Well, I asked him if he was starting to think more seriously about that and he said yes, he really likes the idea! :D So, it's not for sure yet, but I think the plan is now about 90% that we'll TTC starting a year from now!! :eek: Wow. If Ido get pregnant right away, I'll be pregnant for most of my last year of school. Not sure if that will be hard or not, but we're also considering waiting a bit into that year to start as well. Lots of time to think about it. But, what is exciting to me is at my next physical (in May) I'll actually be asking my doctor about what I should do to prepare for TTC. Craziness.

I asked him to please not share this news with anyone and he said he already sort of told his parents so I asked them to keep it on the downlow. I dunno, I just don't want everyone and their mother knowing exactly when we're TTC because then I feel like there's all this pressure and people will be wondering "is the pregnant yet?". Know what I mean? So, we're just telling people that we're thinking of starting a family sometime in the next couple years and leaving it at that. He doesn't really get why I care about people knowing, in fact, he doesn't get why people wait to tell family and friends that their pregnant (what is the rule, 12 weeks or something?) I told him that I cared about that a lot so he respects that. OMG, I cannot imagine finding out and then having to wait to tell my parents. I guess this could be another QOTD:

How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?

(I guess this is also just a general question - how long are you supposed to wait?)

I'm so excited! We both have always known we wanted to be young parents (we're 27 now and would prefer to start having children sooner than 30 if possible) but it just took both of us awhile to figure out what we wanted to go to grad school for. And while our ideal was always to be done with grad school and moved and settled down somewhere in a house, etc. before TTC, that's just not how the cards are playing out and I'm totally fine with that. It will just make things interesting to have a baby in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment but I know it will be just fine. It will just be for a year anyways.

Anyways, just wanted to share our news, even if it is a ways off. :)

DelSol

08-28-2005, 08:46 PM

QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby? No. My mom let my sister and me decide, we were older and felt the pain but it only stung for a moment. I would let my daughter decide when she was ready because she should make the decision not me as a parent.

How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant? I think it's usually after your 1st trimester, and I think it's because you are less likely to miscarry after the 1st trimester. Everyone is different, I had a friend who was about 4 months along and she recently miscarried.

Personally, I would wait till I was closer to my 12 weeks to be sure everything was ok.

mimieliza

08-28-2005, 09:21 PM

If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby?
No. It's really not a big deal for her to have it done when she's old enough to want it and help take care of the healing. I'd be worried about the ears getting infected in a baby, or that she would try to pull the earrings out and hurt herself. Plus, I just don't think it looks right on a little baby.

How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?
I know everyone says to wait, but I can't imagine not telling everyone. I will tell my parents and my ILs as soon as we get the positive test. I'll probably tell friends after a few weeks (maybe around 5-6 weeks along). If I were to miscarry, I think I'd need the support. I would probably ask my friends to keep somewhat quiet about it for the first trimester, however.

LeslieandPaul

08-29-2005, 12:19 AM

If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby?
No. When she's older, I'll let her decide if she wants them-that's what my parents did with me and my sister.

How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?
We'll tell our parents and family early on, and try to wait until the 12 week mark to tell everyone else, but since Paul's family is so close, and we're friends with some of his cousins, we'll probably tell our friends pretty early on

Why wait?
We want to go to Europe, have to buy a house (own a condo right now that doesn't allow kids), I need a job so I can get my year of mat leave.