January 2005 Kiddos ~ Walking and talking...

[SaphirimalMei]

JANUARY 2005 MOMMIES AND TODDLERS

alisong
name: Alison
kiddo: Felix
born: 1/21/05

asilversun
name: Karen
kiddo: Eli
born: 12/31/04

AusAshMommy
name: Lara
kiddos: Austin & Ashley
born: 2/3/03 & 12/24/04

Brio96
Name: Amy
Kiddos: Sarah & little surprise
born: 12/01/04 & EDD 11/18/06

Jenzen01
name: Jen
kiddo: Gabriel (Gabe) & little sister
born: 12/21/04 & EDD 10/18/06

lawyerwifemom
kiddos: rachel & wyatt & little surprise
born: ?/?/? & 1/4/05 & EDD 6/21/06

Lizzie Beth
name: Beth
kiddo: Susannah
born: 12/26/04 & EDD 11/21/06

lokahi
kiddos: Elton & Andrew
born: 1/10/03 & 1/16/05

lorbo
name: Lori
kiddos: Brooke & James
born: 1/22/03 & 1/18/05

marchfamily
name: Amanda
kiddos: Ellie & Catherine
born: 1/9/05 & 5/9/06

romansluv
name: Monica
kiddo: Isaac
born: 12/28/04

SaphirimalMei
name: Marisa
baby: Jillian & Finley
born: 2/1/05 & 4/28/06

twinnyme
name: Melissa
baby: Becca
born: 1/14/2005



LINK TO THE OLD THREAD (http://www.constantchatter.com/showthread.php?t=579)

[SaphirimalMei]

PLEASE UPDATE INFO IN RED, IF NEEDED :)

[twinnyme]

I'm here! Marisa - thanks for starting the new thread. Love the new title!

[SaphirimalMei]

thanks for starting the new threadyou betcha!

I've got some jilly pics finally uploaded:

these were all taken on mothers day

jillian is such a ham!
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motherhood: the real deal :p lol!
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[AusAshMommy]

AWWWWWWWW Look at her!! She is such a ham, but a pretty one! And little man is growing! Holy Cow!!!

We're here and everything's looking good!

[Lizzie Beth]

Yayyyy!! Jillypics! That girl sure has got style!

She is too cute.

[AusAshMommy]

Trying the Pics Again...

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Hope these work this time...

[twinnyme]

What a way to start our new thread - with photos of all the cute kiddos. Thanks for sharing! I love Ashley's hair, Lara - it's getting long, and it's just such a beautiful shade along with her eyes. Austin is cute, too! :D

Nice Mother's Day photos of Jilly & Finn, too - I like her dress especially. Adorable.

ETA: I'll share a couple of recent photos, too - just click on the thumbnails below to see a larger version.

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[Jenzen01]

awwww ... such cute toddlers we all have.

Thanks, Marisa, for starting the new thread!

Here's a quck pic of Gabe ...

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[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Thanks! I know I've been anxious for her hair to get longer...but she won't let me style it anymore :(

Jen ~ He's soo cute and soo big!

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Issues again...

Londonderry is back...the apartment community we left in MD. We gave them sufficient notice of intent to vacate and the dumb idiot working in the office lost our notice, so when I went in at the beginning of March to schedule our walkthrough before we left they told me they needed intent to vacate and used it to base everything on. Before we left we rec'd a letter stating that we would owe rent through May 7th...WTF??? We contacted Landlord Tenant Affairs for the city, explained the situation and they told us we gave them sufficient notice and we should be fine. Ok...so I rec'd a letter today from Londonderry saying that our $600.00 + $0.18 deposit was applied to the balance owed, and that we owed them Apr/May rent + Carpet replacement for a subtotal of $2,869.00...uh NO! When we signed the lease we gave them $2.087.00 which included that $600.00 previously stated...so where did that other money go??? We're going to contest this...I know I don't owe it nor am I willing to pay it...this is just ridiculous!

[twinnyme]

Lara - sorry you're dealing with the apartment problems. Hope it works out - and soon, so you don't have to lay out any money!

Well, we took Becca in yesterday for the tests she needed because of her recurring UTI's and the tests did show that Becca does have "primary vesicoureteral reflux" - in between levels 2 and 3 on a scale from 1 to 5.

Essentially, it's a "congenital birth defect that is caused by an abnormal attachment between the ureter and bladder with a short, ineffective flap valve." If untreated, the urine that refluxes back into the kidneys could potentially lead to kidney damage. This reflux occurs in 1 percent of children and is usually diagnosed after a child has a UTI. 3/4 of kids affected are girls. Reflux disappears on its own in the majority of patients with Grades I-III reflux after several years of antibiotic therapy - it improves or disappears in many children because the junction between the bladder and the ureter matures and becomes more normal. The first stage of treatment is using a low-dosage of antiobiotic once a day for a year. Then we'll re-test and see how it went. Antibiotic prohophylaxis (or "maintenance") does not correct the reflux but is intended to prevent UTI from occurring; reflux without UTI usually does not damage the kidneys.

So that's where things stand. She was a real trooper on the tests. She clearly didn't like them but she did great and was fine as soon as we got out of the hospital. She seemed happy enough so DH and I went out last night as planned for our anniversary - just to dinner; we were too tried to do anything else - while our friends watched her. It was nice.

My sister recommended we get a second opinion - this is the sister whose son was misdiagnosed as being on the autism spectrum - bu I don't think we're going to. As some of you may recall, we DID get a second opinion on her hip issues when she was a few months old because our pediatrican then referred us to an ADULT orthopedist who was terrible - had a terrible bedside manner, barely examined her, and I think both those doctors over-reacted to DH's family's history of hip dysplasia. Plus, the treatment was so difficult for her and so invasive - having to wear a harness on her legs/hips for 24 hours a day. But Dave and I both feel comfortable with how things were handled this time and we went to the Children's Hospital of Boston. How much better can you get than that? (though I'm not naive; I realize that even the best hospitals sometimes have problems. I just think we do have this handled now, and I don't want to put her through the tests again. I am typically against antibiotics except when really necessary but the typical dosage for this is 1/4 to 1/3 of the full-strength dose and the material I have says that "when used in this way, antibiotic drugs are generally safe, even when used for several years, and have little or no effect on overall immunity." I sure hope so! )

ETA: From now on, if Becca has a fever over 101, we have to take her to the pediatrician's within 24 hours to have a urine test - each time.

Happy Memorial Day weekend, everyone! We have very low-key plans, which is nice.

[Lizzie Beth]

I'm sorry about Londonderry, Lara, I've always hated dealing w/ the move-outs in apartment complexes. I'd contest that, too. I'd send them a detailed letter rather than relying on them to adequately handle it over the phone. Then something goes into the file that's in your words, not theirs and you have a document that lays everything out while it's still relatively fresh in your mind. Yuck. What a PITA.

That must have been a teeth-gritting kind of day, Twinny. I had to take Susie for a urine test once, and that is NOT fun. She had a crazy week-long fever right around the time Becca did, her temp got up over 105 one night. And then they tested her for a lot of stuff, but they never figured out what it was. I completely understand not wanting to go through all those tests a second time, I wouldn't either!!

My mom came up this weekend and we bought Susie some summer clothes. She has become quite the sidewalk-walker in the past few days, so along with the new shorts, she's sporting her first pair of scraped knees. Ouch! Poor kiddo. She's a tough little cookie, though, more interested in the faucet running than me fooling around with cleaning her up or the Neosporin and band-aids. She absolutely refuses to hold hands on the sidewalk, throws a full-out tantrum, sitting down (sometimes laying down) and flailing and screaming. So much fun. :rolleyes:

[AusAshMommy]

Lizzie ~ That's the plan...we're gathering everything now as we speak and Jimmy's making the phone calls and composing a letter today while he's off. Took the day off to get everything squared away.

OUCH, poor Susie! But they do heal...Ashley has a scraped knee too and we couldn't do anything with it either...

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Our weekend was smooth, no speed bumps. Went to a mall walk Sat morning for a Mom's meet-up group I've joined, hung out at the play place then had lunch in the food court. Sunday we just hung out at home. And yesterday was a picnic at the home of one of the Mom's from the same meetup group. Austin and Ashley had fun with the other kiddos, however, we didn't stay too terribly long as it was blazing hot and they were getting dehydrated. There was water and juice but it was like pulling teeth to get them to drink anything...

Otherwise, we finally took the car to the DMV and got her registered here in NC! I'm not sticking out like a sore thumb anymore, LOL!!! $224 lighter it's all squared away! YAHOO!!!!

[lorbo]

Sorry to hear about Becca! I'm sure Children's is great...being that we spent a long weekend at Children's of Philly...fantastic care!

James is getting tons of teeth...his two bottom molars are coming up and i think i see his eye teeth on top of the incisiors that are still moving up. The child can't just get 1 or 2 teeth at a time.

Breaking news...i just quit my new job! i can't really go in to it...we'll just say that fellow professionals have differing opinions about me reporting this place. i just notified the administrator and in a roundabout way told her i took an oath to alleviate and prevent the suffering of animals...and i felt i couldn't do that in the past four days i worked there...i think she was fishing for a specific incident and i told her there were 3 that i didn't want to go in to...she can check with one of the trainers...i'm sure she'll tell her what i said...my ethics were compromised and i feel very torn about it...when i left the building on saturday, as i turned out their driveway on to the main street, i bawled my eyes out the whole way home. i can't live in my personal, nor professional life feeling the way i've felt all weekend. so, that's done and i'm trying to get my other job back...but at least i'm fine with my coworkers and doctors and feel that i have a say in regards to an animal's health and wellbeing. i also felt i had to tell her that i've felt a tremendous amount of guilt at not being able to give this job a chance...because i've had 3 jobs in the past 16 years-5years, 7 years and 3 years...so my ability to work under pressure and in different circumstances should not be called in to play. so i'm done...

[twinnyme]

Lori - sorry to hear about your job, but it sounds like you stuck to your ethical principles, which is the important thing, right? Hope you can get your old job back! Yay for James getting more teeth - we still have only one here, but I can feel one on the upper side of her mouth.

Lara - sounds like you had a nice weekend - must feel good to be meeting some moms in your new town! Hope you get the apartment thing worked out - sounds like it's keeping you busy. As for hydration, I've also had the issue with Becca drinking - tried like crazy to get her to drink more this weekend, it was so hot, but she drank even less than usual. Tried water, milk, even Pedialyte popsicles and chocolate drink and Gatorade. No go. I tried, though. But I guess she knows when she needs it; if she really had, she would have drank it, right? Right?!

Lizzie - isn't it nice to FINALLY be able to put the kids in summer clothes? I have a whole drawer full and closet-side full of summer clothes for Becca that have just been languishing away with the crazy weather we've had. Finally got to dress her in shorts this weekend, all weekend - we had fabulous weather. I've been worried at the playground, though, when she's been in shorts!

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Well, Becca's been on the antibiotics since Friday and the usual fun side effect of antibiotics (TMI: diarrhea) is in full force. I'm hoping it'll settle down eventually. I told daycare about it this morning and gave them a copy of her prescription bottle so they don't call me every time she gets diarrhea now! :rolleyes:

We had a wonderful, wonderful weekend. Had barely any plans on Thursday but ended up having a very busy weekend. On Friday DH and I went out for our anniversary while our friends watched Becca. Their daughter and Becca had such a good time together that we invited them over for a barbecue on Saturday (we rarely get together all of us and they only live 5 minutes away). The mother and I are taking the girls to the Children's Museum on Friday. On Sunday we took Becca to the zoo for the first time and were there for almost 4 hours. She enjoyed it and every time she saw someone pushing a stroller she pointed and said "Baby." She understands the concept - and the word! Amazing. She should be in heaven when her boy cousin is born in September. Yesterday we went to a state park about 30 minutes away that has a fantastic toddler pool and playground - we had a barbecue with SIL/BIL/nephew.

Very relaxing and fun weekend. We were lucky enoough to have almost-perfect weather all weekend, yay!

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Sounds like the 'ideal' weekend! Albeit busy it was good! Sounds wonderful...

Sorry about the diarrhea...Austin's had some minor diarrhea all weekend as well...so I feel ya...

[twinnyme]

Sorry about the diarrhea...Austin's had some minor diarrhea all weekend as well...so I feel ya...

Yeah, at least DH does pitch in with changing them, so that's good! I'm hoping once she gets used to the antibiotics it'll happen less. I'm going to call the pediatrician tomorrow and see what he thinks. I can monitor it for a few days and maybe we can switch to a different antibiotic if necessary.... We'll see.

Yup, great weekend. Hard to come back to work! :)

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ That's good...thankfully Austin's made it to the potty each time...THANK-GOD!!

[Lizzie Beth]

Speaking of drinking....my DH had Susie guzzling water yesterday evening from the time he picked her up through dinner. With about 3 sippies plus her evening bottle, I had a VERY wet baby this morning. Guess we've got to taper off a bit in the evening, this is getting ridiculous!

Sorry to hear about work, Lorbo... Sounds like a crummy situation to be in.. But I admire your decisiveness. Susie seems a lot like James in the teeth department, it's always several at a time and she's usually pretty miserable about it. That little mouth is getting so full of teeth!

[AusAshMommy]

Lizzie ~ Ashley is like that with food...the child eats from the minute she gets home until she goes to bed, that's including a full dinner! OMG!!!

[AusAshMommy]

Hey Ya'll Swinging by really quickly...

Austin has yet another ear infection, this time in his right ear. The tube fell out but is still in the ear canal. I had to pick him up yesterday morning about this time because he had a fever of 103...gave him some Motrin and a cool bath and it chilled down to normal. Took him to the peds and they made us an appt at an ENT next week to discuss having the tubes put back in his ears. I'm not putting him through 7 ear infections again, not worth it. Anyhew, we have an prescription for Amoxicillin I am getting filled tonight.

Also, took him to get his hair cut lastnight and now he's got a really short boy cut, no more longer hair...he looks soo handsome!

[lorbo]

copying and pasting from the other thread...
the husband is gone...time to party

i noticed Brookie had this very light rash yesterday...i had to really look to see it. she doesn't seem bothered by it...but it's all over her arms, chest, back, bikini area, belly and thighs. i took her to the dr today and it's fifth's disease and/or hand, foot and mouth disease. the ped is leaning more towards fifths. she does't have a lacy appearance to her skin on her upper arms and thighs...but it doesn't look like those i've seen online...i wonder if James is going to have it and where, oh where did she pick that up? can't wait for Brooke to start preschool and see what she picks up!

i thought i'd update on my job situation...i spoke with the administrator about not coming back on tuesday...i was pretty ambiguous about why...i said there were three specific incidents that i couldn't talk about at that time. she called back wednesday, saying she needed to do an exit interview with me and i came out with everything...specifics and all. she completely understood and said she'll mail my check and that she was sorry that i wasn't coming back-that i'm a very capable nurse and it's a shame we didn't work out. i have a feeling that the owner will hear what i said and maybe things will improve...but i still get a shiver when i pass that building. i just spoke with my supervisor at my old job and have been given the "hire back" and i'll be getting my substantial raise as well!!! so no worries...aside from the christening of my husband's new godson/nephew...can't wait for the drama of that!

[twinnyme]

Sorry to hear about Austin and Brooke's illnesses. Hope they're both feeling better soon! I think Becca's coming down with something, too - she's had a cough, a runny nose, and today so far she's napped from 1:30 to 4:15 and counting.... She never sleeps that long (though I wish she'd do so more often!)

Lori - congratulations about getting your old job back - and with a raise! Good news!

Not much going on here.... Rainy day, expected to be a rainy weekend, we have a child's birthday party this weekend, and also MIL's 70th birthday dinner (just a small family dinner, thank goodness). Becca and I went with a friend and her daughter to an indoor playground this morning and the girls had fun. Not too much else to report - except that I guess my daughter is watching a lot of Sesame Street (I'd say 3-4 times a week, mostly the Elmo's World part) because she said "Elmo" on Monday! :D She said it when DH was reading to her in the morning, and it WAS the first time she said it clearly, so when he asked if I'd ever heard her say it, I said no. I like to let him have some firsts! (She really hadn't said it clearly before that; it was loud and clear enough that I heard from another room.)

Lara - would love to see photos of Austin's new haircut!

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Get in line...my 'rents want pics too but I don't have a digicam...and no film for my camera... :(

[twinnyme]

Hey everyone. So Becca's latest word is "all done" and we got a GREAT in-context example of that last night. So, I think I've mentioned that she HATES her baths the last few months and, of course, she's ALWAYS hated getting her hair washed, right? Well, last night it was clear she completely understands what "all done" means (I wasn't sure). The poor kid was saying "all done all done all done" the entire time I washed her hair.... The screaming was bad enough, now she's going to scream "all done" the whole time???? I don't think I'll be able to handle that. :eek:

Anyway, I hope everyone's doing well. Not much else going on here, except for a lbit of a language increase. She also says "more" now - and makes the sign. We were with a friend of hers on Friday who makes the sign - the friend did it, Becca did it right after, and she's been doing it ever since, and saying it alone with the sign. I'm working on "more, please" now. :rolleyes:

She's also been very whiny lately - I think teething is in full force now. I can feel a couple of more teeth - strangely enough, one on the upper right side of her jaw, and then I think the bottom right one. Luckily, she's still sleeping okay through it all, thank god.

DH and I took a refresher infant/child CPR course tonight offered by our daycare - we hadn't take it since a few months before she was born....

[lawyerwifemom]

Hi everyone

Still pregnant (38 weeks today) and work has been busy but otherwise not all that much going on around here.

Wyatt too has been adding words left and right. He spends a good portion of the day identifying people by name--over and over and over again. (Pointing) Dada, mama, Ra Ra, Drake(the dog), baby, Wyatt (sounds like a version of hat). He has important things to say--full sentences that I have no clue what he is trying to get across--but it is very.important.

He loves the swimming pool and the playground these days too.

Melissa, have you tried the shower? Wyatt loves it, especially because we have a detachable shower hose/head and he can hold it and control where the water goes. Wyatt will play in there by himself after we're done too and I can get myself ready. (hard to drown in a shower!). Also, Rachel detests getting her hair washed so we started giving her a wash cloth to hold over her eyes and that helps tremendously.

[Jenzen01]

Hi all,

I've been lurking along, just haven't posted much.

Gabe is super-busy-boy these days. Lots to see and do in a day! He just started putting two words together. He must say "bye" to everything. "Bye, bus." "Bye, daddy." "Bye, water." "Bye, potty." It's pretty cute.

He's also gone on the potty three times now, although I really don't think he's grasping the concept. But, hey, whatever saves a diaper! We were at Lowe's this weekend, and he kept pointing at the toilets and saying "potty" so at least he knows what they are.

Oh, and he kissed my belly the other night. So cute. :)

lawyerwifemom - I'm currently lurking in the busy June thread. Very exciting over there.

I wonder when we'll get to see a pic of Amanda's latest addition?

[twinnyme]

Melissa, have you tried the shower? Wyatt loves it, especially because we have a detachable shower hose/head and he can hold it and control where the water goes. Wyatt will play in there by himself after we're done too and I can get myself ready. (hard to drown in a shower!). Also, Rachel detests getting her hair washed so we started giving her a wash cloth to hold over her eyes and that helps tremendously.

Hi Heather. I did try the shower the other night, I was desperate - and last week we were at a toddler pool that also had a mushroom sprinkler, which was heavy like a shower. She wouldn't go all the way in it, but she seemed to get a kick out of it and get pretty close. I even got in the shower with her. Oh, no, that didn't go well, either. I've tried a visor with the hair-washing but it doesn't work for her. I dug it out again the other day and will try it again.... I'll be giving her a bath again tonight so we'll see how it goes... maybe I'll try the washcloth, too.

Nice to hear how everyone's doing. I hope to see a picture of C. soon, too! Amanda must be busy, huh? :)

[lawyerwifemom]

Melissa How'd the bath go?

Jen It is pretty exciting in there these days. Several women have had some crazy fast deliveries! One woman's husband passed out while she was getting her epidural and he had to go to the ER--and then he missed the birth! Crazy.

[twinnyme]

Melissa How'd the bath go?

Thanks for asking, Heather. It went much better - but I "cheated." I took the bath with her. Got in, sat her between my legs, and she had a ball. Maybe she likes the security of me in there with her? I don't know. Anyway, thinking this is just the way it's going to have to be until she tells me "self" or "me" (translation: I want to take my bath by myself! :D ) I hope that's sooner rather than later. She played for about 15 minutes happily then started throwing her toys over the tub and standing up to get them, so I took that as a clue that bathtime was over, told her "no standing" and immediately took her out, which she protested - but no crying DURING the bath. No washing of the hair, either, though - that's only a once-a-week process at this point, thank god. Sometimes I think if I did it more often maybe she'd be more used to it, but I just can't put her through that torture.

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ YAAAA!!!!! That's great news!!!

We have always found that doing a bath everynight becomes more of playtime and something that they get used to and start to enjoy. Ashley after her dinner gets down and walks to the bathroom going 'bath! bath! bath!' it's really cute!!

[AshAusAugustsHubby]

Me

I am new to Constant Chatter. Looking around still. You all know my wife of
course, so why deny you the pleasure of my company! ;)

[AusAshMommy]

Nothing else new is happening here, school is going, got a B+ in my hell finance class and am soo glad its done. Now onto another finance class but this time there's Operations and Risk Management intermingled, so yipee...(catch the scarcasm there)...But it's going a little better, the prof is more hands on so that's good!

Work is here, there's going to be a lot of changes coming down the pike, for one our landlord is selling the building and its lease, so we'll have a new landlord here. Then Mr. B is bringing on a General Manager to run the company so he can step down into just doing sales for a few more years until he retires, he's in his late 60s, but on top of that we have had a buyout bid that's been contingent on Mr. B finding a General Manager. Soo I am guessing that'll go through any day now, he was saying yesterday something about the end of June. He's also wanting to bring on another sales person to help Tiffany and myself. I told him though that I'd be willing to help the GM in anyway I can, afterall I am working on my MBA and it's something I'm being trained for and I'd like the experience on...so we'll see. Mom seems to think I need to get out and while I am leaning that way, we'll see what the tide turns. Finding a job down here w/an MBA is easier said than done...

What else?? Ah my good friend in NH...I don't know if I've mentioned her or not, but I have a friend, we'll call her J, who lives in NH w/her hubby DJ (yeah I know not original). Anyhew, I met J in my freshman year at Hood and we've remained friends via email convo everyday for the last 9 years, WOW amazing I know! Anyhew, the last couple of days she's expressed some issues in her marriage and it came to the forefront that she's feeling very lonely, depressed, rejected, and ignored by DJ. DJ is in his mid-30s has no willpower to stand-up to his family on J's behalf, nor is he willing to make a move to better his career (he's not happy in his current position) or his life. J is working on her PhD at UNH and is busy teaching and trying to better her own life, while working closely w/a mentor she's openly admitted to me as having a crush on. There's a whole history there I won't get into, but lastnight she and DJ had a long convo of where their marriage ranks in his priority list and where J stands in regards to being his family or not. DJ's always been bad about putting J 3rd or 4th in his life, comes home and falls asleep in front of the TV without so much as attempting to spend time w/J. This is all one sided on her behalf as I don't know his story specifically and I am not knocking him, I think he's been a great support for her while she went to grad school and now while working on her doctorate. She doesn't work full-time at all outside of teaching and going to school. I love them both and DJ's always been really sweet to me, so I have no complaints...

Austin's got his appt today w/the ENT...wish us luck there!!! He sounds like he's getting a cold though, wonderful!

That's it for now!!

[twinnyme]

Welcome Jimmy aka AshAusAugustsHubby! Hope you like CC. (Btw, you're brave, Lara, LOL!)

Sorry to hear about your friend and her potential marital problems. Hope everything works out! I didn't know you had a friend up here in my neck of the woods!

Hope Austin's ENT appointment went well.

Not much going on around here....

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Thanks...he brought himself on over...LOL!!!

Yeah they are working through them slowly. I didn't mention that? Oy, I kept in touch with her after she transferred from Hood to Simmons at the end of our freshman year because I had a BF who lived (lives) in Brockton and I was always going up to visit him every 2 mos or so and I'd always make it a point to visit with her and DJ. I think I mentioned going up there when I was PG w/Ashley sometime in 2004...I dunno, oh well. They are slowly getting through their problems and working them out...

The ENT appt went as such:

They checked his ears and sure enough there's a loose tube in his right ear and wax in the same ear. Fluid (though clear) in his left ear. So, they ran a hearing test and he's hearing fine (so why does he ignore us when we're talking to him??) but there's fluid build up in his ears. The doc suggested one of two things, 1) we put the tubes back in immediately, or 2) we wait a month and see how he does before making a decision. I decided on #1 so we wouldn't be going through the whole 'he's got a fever come pick him up' - go to the peds get the Rx - get cleared up, rinse and repeat, LOL!! So not going there! He also mentioned that if the tubes fall out again in a year, year-and-a-half and he started having ear infections again we'd talk about taking out his adenoids, but there's possible complications there, and we don't want to go there either...sooo his next surgery will be scheduled for the end of this month early July.

So that's that!

[AshAusAugustsHubby]

Thank you for the welcome. She is brave *insert evil grin* isn't she? Well I
won't embaress or bother to much, I just wanted to see what CC had to offer
and learn about something Lara (mah Baby) enjoys!

To my wife I just want to say thanks so much for everything you do and for
be the wonderful wife you are. ;)

[AusAshMommy]

**blushing**

Thanks!!!

[Jenzen01]

OK, that was sweet. :)

[marchfamily]

Fly by post....having a toddler and a newborn sleep at the same time is heaven......

QOTD - How are you handling discipline at this stage? We've got some hitting going on at the house and I want to stop this before it becomes an issue.

Things are great in our land. E is 17 months today and C is 1 month. Having two this close is harder than I thought it would be....but hope this phase will end soon and things will settle in once the newborn has more of a schedule.

[Jenzen01]

Amanda! You can't do this to us! I want to see some new baby pics. :) :)

By the way, E is absolutely adorable. (Gabe has my permission to date her.) And I love her dress! Where's is from?

[AusAshMommy]

Amanda ~ We use the 'No No, don't hit, NICE' showing her how to be nice while speaking sweetly..sometimes it works, other times it doesn't.

BTW, Loving E's hair, she's getting some pretty blond locks there!!!

[twinnyme]

E. is absolutely beautiful - great photo, great hair, great dress! I, too, love the dress. Where is it from?

As for hitting, recently (just this week?) Becca has been hitting me and then saying "ow" - it's very strange. I just keep telling her "no we don't do that" (nicely). It's weird, though, tonight I even thought maybe she's acting out something that's happening at daycare and I tried to talk to her about it. :rolleyes: Obviously, she didn't have a clue what I was talking about. I may ask her teachers on Tuesday about it. Still no set plan on discipline other than redirection and consistency.

Bath went pretty well again tonight. I got in her with her again but she didn't stand at all this time. Eventually....

[twinnyme]

So, I finally did it - got Becca's hair cut today, her first haircut in 17 months. MIL respected my wishes completely. You can barely tell it was cut from the photos but it looks 100% better. All the pictures we have of her crying show MIL so I'm not going to post them but suffice it to say that she cried a lot - and also seemed "mad" at MIL afterwards, LOL. Mostly she cried when "snarls" ("tangles") had to be gotten out... just as she cries during that every morning! On to photos:

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I didn't get a great after shot of her full face, so that's it!

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Awwww...glad she did ok! That 1st haircut is scary for them...

Ashley got hers the other night as well, this time it was just her bangs though...they were creeping down into her eyes.

News on our end: Ashley moved to her toddler bed today!! We didn't have much choice though because her crib was getting kind of rickety...it's old was used for two kids before Austin got it and it was 3yrs old at that point, and now it's 6yrs old and I didn't trust it anymore...so...now she's sleeping in her toddler bed!!! OMG!!! Soo tomorrow night we dismantle the crib and trash it!

[AshAusAugustsHubby]

Read Huppy dismantles it and trashes it :)

This will be her first full night in the toddler bed, so lets see how she does
before we remove the crib. Wow....she is growing up soooo fast. :(

[AusAshMommy]

Ok Ok...but...it'll be gone sooner than we thought ;)

[Jenzen01]

Wow, Lara ... congrats on moving Ashley! That's one of our summer goals, too, but first we have to paint Gabe's new room.

Melissa - Yeah for the haricut! Gabe also got a haircut this weekend. It was his second haircut, but his first "real" big-boy haircut because the stylist used the clippers, so it's really short. He looks too cute.

And, Gabe has learned to use the word "no." Oh, good grief, am I going to get sick of hearing it.

Me: Gabe, let's put your shoes on. We have to go.
Gabe: No.

Me: Gabe, do you want some milk?
Gabe: No.

Me: Gabe, give me that toothbrush!
Gabe: No. No.

[AusAshMommy]

Jen ~ I know how those 'Nos' go...he's just using the words...

Thanks! We were surprised at how well she did!!! Ooh fun a new room for him and all! WOW!!!

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Forgot this one:

Oh and...Austin's been sleeping in diapers for a long while now, well for the past 5-6 days he's woken up dry, lastnight he spent the night in his underwear and woke up dry OMG!!! Let's hope this continues!!!!

My baby's are growing up so fast!!

[lawyerwifemom]

Lara Wow on the move to the bed! We are planning to move Wyatt in the fall/winter and put the baby in the crib. Meredith will be in a bassinette in our room until then (5-6 months)

Jen I haven't taken Wyatt to a stylist yet--I am doing it myself. But I think he deserves a pro cut pretty soon. I am NOT very good at boy hair! And he won't stay still. Post a pic of Gabe's new do please!

Wyatt just nods for yes. But for no he nods and says un-uh emphatically.

Hitting Wyatt does this to be "affectionate" or because he thinks it is funny. (He CHUCKS things when he is mad.) For the hitting, he usually does it when I am holding him and he pats/hits my face. I say NO HITTING in a firm voice (but not raised) and put him down. I also step away from him. He gets so offended and begs to be picked up again. This is the same technique I used with both kids to get them to stop biting at the breast when breast feeding. It was very successful there (only had to do it a couple times) and I am hoping it will work well with the hitting. So far, it does seem to help. He doesn't want to be "rejected" and put down. The throwing is harder and I am trying the "ignore the unwanted behavior" and refuse to pick it up for you technique most of the time. I have a feeling his little temper is going to be an issue for years--just with different expression as he gets older!!

He's been sick with a fever all weekend. I am virtually certain it is an ear infection from the swimming pool. He is miserable until the Advil kicks in. Funny though, he has turned into a couch potato. He knows we are lenient with the videos when a kid is sick (usually we don't let them watch every day and then only 1 30 min video at most). So he climbs up onto his "spot" on the couch, demands a blanket, and points emphatically at the TV. I'll ask if he wants to watch Baby Einstein/Wiggles etc and he furiously nods yes. And then he asks for Muk (milk). Frat boy in training I swear.

[AusAshMommy]

LawyerwifeMom ~ Seems you have more incentive to make the move than we did, wow you are going to have your hands full sooner rather than later huh???

The hitting thing - uh yeah that's become a regular issue in our house...we haven't tried the routine you have. Though I have started walking away from her when she does it.

Throwing thing - my ped suggested giving the chucked toy a 'time out' within clear view of the child so that said child gets the idea that they aren't to throw things...

[marchfamily]

Hey all!

Lara - Yey for the big girl bed!
Melissa - How cute are those haircut pics?! Adorable!!!!
Lawyerwifemom - Good advice on the hitting. You are my hero right now....I never knew how difficult it could be to juggle an infant and toddler.

Thanks everyone for the comments on E's picture. The dress was on clearance at Old Navy (I love their clearance section). Super cheap and she's outgrowing everything right now.

QOTD - Anyone else having trouble getting their kiddo to sit still for nail clippings? E won't let me clip them to save my life.

Here's a picture of C at 4 weeks (will remove) - great baby so far. Looking more and more like a little baby instead of a newborn.

[AusAshMommy]

Marchbride ~ She's soo cute!! :D

[twinnyme]

Cute pic of C., Amanda! Thanks for sharing.

No tips on nail cutting - it's one thing that DOESN'T make Becca cry (unlike getting her hair done, getting dressed, getting suntan lotion put on...) unless I take too long.... I usually have her watch a video while I do it.

Re: the hitting discussion we've had before. Heather - I tried your technique of "reject" and "refuse" - thank goodness I saw your post the other day before it happened again. I've done it twice now. Don't know if it's working yet, really.... She just gets more upset when I refuse her so after a minute or two I change tactics and distract her with something fun.

In other related information, though, I asked Becca's primary teacher this morning about the hitting - not only is she hitting more lately, she'll hit herself (!) or me and then say "ow." I was so worried, I mean she's hit for quite a while and we're working on it, and I figured it was a developmental thing, but it's really frustrating, especially now that she's 1) hitting herself and 2) saying "ow" on top of it. I was starting to think she had some issues!

Anyway, they've been reading: Five Little Monkeys Jumping on the Bed, which we don't have a copy of, and also singing "Bringing Home a Little Bumblebee," both of which have a version of getting bumped in the head or an "ouch." The teachers have been demonstrating hitting themselves in the head and saying "ouch." So that explains it a little bit. I just searched for the lyrics online and printed them, so I can try it out tonight with her (and use "hitting" in an appropriate context). She's probably wondering - why is mommy getting upset about me doing what I do at school?? This is why trading info with her daycare providers is SO important. Of course, WHY they're demonstrating hitting themselves is another question - but kids are learning about their bodies and cause & effect at this age, so I guess it does make some sense.

[Jenzen01]

Amanda - She is so precious! Thanks for posting! (by the way, you're scaring me a little about having 2) :)

nail-clipping - We were having a bugger of a time with this, but Gabe has been pretty cooperative lately. I do "This Little Piggy" with his fingers as I clip them, and I do it really fast, which has been working.

twinnyme - That's funny about Becca hitting herself. Gabe has started saying "ow" and pointing to himself when he gets hurt. He's using it in the proper context, which is good. We try to teach him about "nice touches." I started this a long time ago ... I would take his hand and stroke my hair or something and say "nice touches." Now, when he's being naughty, I tell him to give "nice touches" and he'll pat my head or something. He gives the baby "nice touches" at daycare, so I think it's worked.

[twinnyme]

Gabe has started saying "ow" and pointing to himself when he gets hurt. He's using it in the proper context, which is good. We try to teach him about "nice touches." I started this a long time ago ... I would take his hand and stroke my hair or something and say "nice touches." Now, when he's being naughty, I tell him to give "nice touches" and he'll pat my head or something. He gives the baby "nice touches" at daycare, so I think it's worked.

Yes, we do this, too, such as with flowers yesterday. She pets them gently and I say "gentle, gentle," then she starts touching them a little harder and glancing my way every once in a while and I continue to say "gentle, gentle, nice touch." Then she'll all of a sudden whack them or tear off a flower. :rolleyes: What were we talking about a few weeks ago? Oh, yeah, that's right - TESTING LIMITS. I can't help but want to laugh sometimes - thank goodness, because I really really need a sense of humor for this stuff sometimes. I try very hard not to, though, and I immediately remove her from the situation when she does something like that. It'll be interesting to see what she does with my newest nephew who will be born in September - she hasn't been around little babies much.

17 months today. I can't believe it. Last night she wanted to walk holding my hands, and it reminded me of when she was around 7-9 months and wanted to "walk" all the time but couldn't yet so I walked bent over for most of those three months. Where have the last 10 months gone???

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Uh yeah, we have the same issues with Ashley and we went through this routine w/Austin way back when...it gets better I swear, but sometimes I know it's like they are also testing our patience!

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Well the walk was rescheduled for the mall lastnight 'cause it was raining Well I was able to drop Austin off w/Jimmy at home and just took Miss Ashley with me. Well she decided it'd be fun to run off out of the playground area and I would have to go after her. Well one time I went to jump over this crawl through log thing and I didn't quite make it all the way over and managed to land all of my weight on my left leg. So now it hurts from the knee down...OUCH! I can't hardly walk on it, nor can I sit comfortably on it. Dummy me! I did manage to catch her however and walk for a bit afterwards...but I was hurting lastnight.

Austin's surgery is scheduled for the 13th of July w/a pre-op visit on the 10th. We have to be at the hospital @ 5:45 am, so be thinkin' of him that day. Told Jimmy that Austin and I both will probably nap when we get home that morning, LOL!!! Being there @ 5:45 means I have to get up by 5:15 at the latest...YIKES! Been awhile since I was up that early...

[lorbo]

we're having some minor issues here with the youngin...he's heading everything...i ran out to move my car at my parents, in the 30 secs i was out there, he flew thru the house and was sitting at the door...which i threw open in to his head...one of many head things happening in the past few days:rolleyes: he just got another lower molar and the corresponding molar on the other side is getting ready to make its appearance. not a lot of talking...i wonder if he's gearing up for that...lots of babbling and technically, he's still 15 months gestationally. James' newest thing is nose picking. not that he's picking, but he's shoving his finger up his nose and laughs about it. he's even shoving his finger up my nose:eek: i'll have to see if i have a newer pic of him...

i just bought a bike trailer and DH has bought a used treadmill-wow, how much of a hint is that???? just kidding, he needs to lose weight and lower his blood pressure, according to his doctor. i'm almost done with the wall prep in James' room-no more peachy orange/white walls for his room. i do need some advice though...but i don't have any pictures, so i can't ask for opinions yet. i'll try to post some pictures soon.

[AusAshMommy]

Lorbo ~ Sorry you've had a rough go of it lately...yikes! Hope he was ok!

Uh sounds like a hint ;-) LOL!! Nah sounds like fun! We've taken to walking everynight to get me some much needed exercise!

[lorbo]

deleting pics

[twinnyme]

Great photos, Lori!! I love the bathtub one - but maybe I'm just happy when I see smiling kids in tubs since that's such a recent thing for me. :-)

And IIRC from some of the photos you've posted of yourself with the kids, it seems like Brooke looks a lot like you. Does she?

Not much going on here. We watched our friends' DD last night so they could have Date Night, and the girls had a lot of fun together. Becca is really into cars now and yesterday I got her a bunch of Matchbox type cars - plus a divided craft container (sort of like Tupperware; didn't even know these existed until my co-worker told me about them) - she seems to love putting cars in and out of containers lately. We went to the park this morning with a friend and her DD and she's been taking a LONG afternoon nap, which is truly wonderful.

What's everyone doing for Father's Day? We're going to SIL/BIL's for a barbecue - and they have a pool. Since it's supposed to be in the 80s, I bought a swim boat for Becca yesterday - we should get use out of it a few more times this summer. By the time I wanted to buy it last summer, I couldn't find one in any store, so I wanted to buy it early this time!

I also bought DH tickets to our local baseball team and made him a photo collage of Becca that says "DADA." Here's how it came out, but since it's not a very good shot of the framed photos, I'm also posting the photos below it:

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The photos are slightly different because I chose different photos when I printed them. I was also going to put a photo of DH and Becca in the last frame, but serendipitiously (sp?) while we were making a father's day card, Becca walked in the room with it, and I had the camera ready, so I put that in the last frame instead.

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Cute Cute Cute idea!!!

What are we doing...hmm..probably going to the beach for a few hours to chill and relax. I took the kids to a Paint & Play place last Sat w/my Mommies group to paint a mug for Jimmy. Well Sat night Austin said "Daddy I put paint in your cup" LOL!! We picked it up lastnight and Austin couldn't wait for Sunday to give it to Jimmy so when we went to pick him up Austin proceeded to open the mug. He said "Daddy I open your present" LOL!!!! So James was floored when he saw it and was soo appreciative that Austin painted it himself!

Too cute!!

[twinnyme]

The mug sounds great, Lara - glad Jimmy liked it!

I can't take credit for the photo idea- it was in the Father's Day Ideas thread and I just made it my own!

[AusAshMommy]

Aww either way it's cute!!! :D

[lorbo]

here are newer pics of James

[twinnyme]

Cute, Lori! We have the same music bucket - Becca's usually trying to take everything out so she can climb in or on top of it. :rolleyes:

[AusAshMommy]

Lori ~ Cute Pics!! He's soo handsome!

[twinnyme]

Hope everyone had a nice Father's Day!!

We had an "eh" one. Poor DH - Becca wanted nothing to do with him. :( It was an "I want mom" day all day. We think it's her teething; she napped for 3 hours yesterday morning (she woke on her own, but seemed to want to just lay in her crib - after a bit, we took her out and got her ready to go; she wasn't lethargic or anything, just slow to really wake up), then again in the car on the way up, and then for an hour in her stroller while we were there (after we gave her Tylenol). I hope it is just teething and that she's not getting sick. She's getting her top left tooth, her bottom right tooth, and two upper teeth (by her cheecks, one on each side).

She wouldn't even help Dave open his presents - oh, well, he understands. Anyway, we went to my SIL/BIL's for a barbecue (they have a pool) and it was very relaxing. And DH enjoyed himself, so that was the point. We didn't get any real good pictures of the two of them, though. Maybe next year! Oh, and DH liked his frame, and other presents, too.

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Sorry Becca was so ick yesterday, hopefully it is just her teeth! But it sounds like Dave enjoyed his day!!

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Jimmy enjoyed his father's day, loved the mug! Though the crack didn't seal during baking so it leaks... :( Oh well we'll just use it for display purposes. I told him we'll go back to the paint & play place this weekend and do another one for him...

But...we spent the day yesterday running around like fools! First to Wal-Mart for a new shelving unit for the kitchen. The one we had became a roach nest so we threw it out (we've had roach issues for awhile now, exterminator's been out 3 times now) and sprayed the kitchen real good and hopefully they are gone soon! Then home from Wal-Mart for kiddo naps after lunch before heading to the beach for some fun in the sand and sun! Ashley went in the water with me and had a great time sitting in my lap and 'playing' with the waves as they came up. I even got Austin to go in with me and just rest on my hip while I stood in water about thigh deep. Not out past the breakers mind you...

Then we went home for showers/baths before heading to Golden Coral for dinner!!

The kids crashed hard lastnight! it was Amazing!

[AusAshMommy]

Miss Ashley moved to the older toddler room this morning! OMG!!!`

[lawyerwifemom]

I just wanted to stop by and tell you that Meredith Jayne was born on Friday night June 23 at 7:22 pm. She is 8lbs 4 ozs and 21 1/4 inches long. Wyatt and Rachel adore her and have been terrific with her so far. Wyatt loves to sit with me while she's nursing. He says "Hi baby!" and gives her kisses and lays his head on her tummy. Here are a couple pictures!

Please don't repost

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[lokahi]

Welcome Meredith Jayne!
CONGRATULATIONS, lawyerwifemom!
You have a beautiful family! Take care & best wishes!

[twinnyme]

Congratulations, Heather! Meredith is beautiful - as are Rachel and Wyatt. Wonderful pictures, thanks for sharing.

[Jenzen01]

Heather, your story about Wyatt made me tear up. (Of course, EVERYTHING makes me tear up lately. :) ) Congrats again! I hope Gabe does as well with our baby.

Lori - I love that pic of James smooshing his face ... it made me laugh.

Update from here - Mr. Gabe is doing well on the talking front. Lots and lots of new words, and he's started making two-word sentences. We can actually communicate most of the time. However, the temper tantrums have increased in intensity when we don't understand each other. Good Lord can he scream when he's misunderstood. Still trying to figure out what to do at those moments.

As for Baby No. 2, she's moving around a lot these days. Right now, she's got the hiccups. By the way, we're strongly considering Ada Grace for her name. I'm really liking it.

That's all for now. I'll try to post some new pics soon.

Jen

[twinnyme]

Jen - love the name Ada Grace. Very pretty!

We're on vacation this week - just doing local trips. Monday we just went to a local sprinkler, then to a bookstore and out to dinner; yesterday we went into Boston for the day, which was really really nice.

Today we're just doing chores/errands, then I have an editing conference call at 2, and we head to NH after that for a couple of nights. Going to Storyland (http://www.storylandnh.com/index-flash.html)tomorrow. My sister and her family are coming to visit for the holiday weekend.

So far it's been a very relaxing week of a lot of nice family time.

Btw, here's a photo of Becca taken at daycare in May. We don't love it but we bought it (the one of her smiling) anyway! I did get the other one in wallet size, plus the smiling one in wallet size... I like the pensive look, too. :)

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[marchfamily]

Congratulations, Heather! You have a beautiful family!

[lawyerwifemom]

Thanks everyone! for the well wishes and compliments. We are doing well so far.

I have yet to take all three out in the car by myself and I think it is going to be a logistical feat. But I managed to take Wyatt and Meredith to the dr's this morning by myself. (Wyatt has remnants of an outer ear infection and Meredith got her newborn check). Rachel was a little older when Wyatt was born (22 months) than Wyatt (18 mos next week) is now so I expected a little more from her. I was mostly worried about the parking lot but I just used the stroller for Meredith in her car seat and carried Wyatt through the lot. Worked fine! I imagine I will use the bjorn alot for the baby and the double stroller for the older kids (or Rachel will walk)

[lokahi]

Jen
Beautiful name :)

Way to go, Gabe! That's great he is starting to make two-word sentences.

twinnyme
Cute pics!

**UPDATE**
I'm still subbing at the preschool. They call me at least 2x's a week.

Andrew's a "monkey". He loves to climb on the kitchen table, bathroom sink, and computer desk. =/

Elton started speech therapy again. The therapist comes to our home once a week. And the best thing is, there's NO cost!

I LOVE watching my boys play. They are really into trucks, digging dirt, and playing in their pool.


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[Jenzen01]

lokahi - those are some cute pics. that's what i'm really looking forward to ... seeing both of my kids playing together. :) i'm hoping it will mean that gabe isn't so dependent on us as his playmates. :)

Here are some new pics of Gabe:

In the pool.
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Breakfast on the Farm during June Dairy Month.
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And, Gabe being a munchkin.
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[marchfamily]

Okay - the pictures of the kiddos are killing me! We've got some cuties in our group!!

QOTD - Anyone thinking about starting potty training? E has been signing before she has a BM, then signing when she needs to be changed. And second question, anyone know if its recommended to use a kid sized potty or use yours with one of those safety rings?

[twinnyme]

QOTD - No, not thinking about potty training yet. No signs of readiness from Miss Becca yet.... I'm not sure about which is recommended as better to use, either, sorry!

Cute pictures of Gabe, Jen!

Lokahi - I love your new avatar of the boys! It's so cute that they play together so well.

Heather - glad to hear you're doing well and managing the logistical feat of taking the kids out!

So, we had a VERY nice vacation week. Storyland was GREAT - though we had a little trouble with Becca sleeping in the hotel she had a fun time at the park. Then my sister and her family came for the weekend, and we watched our nephew overnight on Saturday while they went to a wedding (he was so good). On Sunday night, they watched both kids and DH and I went to a movie and dinner; it was so nice. No good movies out really but we had fun just being out... and I enjoyed my popcorn at the theater! Yesterday we went into Boston for the day again and today we're not doing much of anything.... they've already left to go back to NY. I handed off some baby clothes back to my sister - she's due in September. So now I can finally reorganize Becca's closet a bit more.

Here are some photos of Becca from Storyland and other parts of vacation:

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[lorbo]

I'm a bit late...a huge congrats to Heather and family. your babies are adorable...wow, look at the head of hair on Rachel.

hope everybody else is well...adorable pics of Becca and Gabe!

so on July 4th, we had to make an ER visit...due to James bouncing off his sister and smashing his lip on the parents' drum...i think his front teeth tore in to his lip. DH picked him up and i thought i saw blood in his gums-i was thinking OMG, he injured his teeth. i went running for a paper towel with cold water and when i got to him, i see this large gaping hole in his bottom lip...which was pouring blood on to his outfit and DH's shirt. i knew he needed stitches...so off we went to the er. i was told it had to be sutured...yeah, i already knew that. the PA said they'd do it fairly soon-much quicker than any time i've been in there. the ER doc came in and went over the procedure, saying he wouldn't be sedated, just papoosed and taped down, given lidocaine and sutured. then, he added, in 6-12 months, we'll know if he'll need plastic surgery...being that the wound went thru the lip...this is the second time plastic surgery has come up-the first was in the NICU when the catheter blew in his hand. i had to leave the room, went across the hall and had to stand in the waiting room, listening to him scream(apparently that was when he was taped down). 3 stitches later and a big fat lip...he was blowing raspberries later on, sucking on his bottom lip...you name it. he was put on augmentin-though he's had diarrhea from it-so he's off of it now, he chewed out one of the sutures, the other two come out sun/mon. i'll post pics...probably tomorrow. today was a beach/boardwalk day...nice day...but tiring. i should go to bed

[AusAshMommy]

Sounds like everyone has had some pretty uneventful weeks (aside from Lorbo, WOW....glad to see James is doing good!)

Our week has had its ups and downs, on the 4th we had a down...Austin decided listening to Mommy was out of the books, so it was a long day of him not listening and me repeating myself a hundred times and in general the two of us butting heads.

Then yesterday we hit another real low...

History:

My company is being sold, we thought the buyer was interested in possibly hanging on to me and the other sales girl and possibly offering Mr. B early retirement (well at this point its late retirement)...

Well yesterday Mr. B tells me that the buyer doesn't want to hold onto me, instead he wants to transfer down two seasoned sales reps...I was basically handed my two weeks. For the next two weeks I will be working 1/2 days and being paid for full-time work. After the 21st however, I am on my own...

So please keep us in your thoughts as we move forward with this next step...I am scared out of my mind that I won't find a job...then I don't know what we're going to do, we're already going for broke...and we can't afford for me to stay home...

Ugh!

[lorbo]

sorry about the bad news Lara! everything will work out...it usually does!

some pics

[AusAshMommy]

Hey Ya'll ~ Some of you know that Austin's had a long run with numerous ear infections, had tubes once and all...well tomorrow morning he goes in for his second set. Should be routine surgery, in and out. But just positive thoughts for recovery that it is quick and easy!

Keep us in your thoughts!

BB

[twinnyme]

Keeping Austin and all of you in my thoughts! Hope everything goes well tomorrow.

[marchfamily]

Awe, poor Austin....

One word here.....TANTRUMS!!!! argh.

[lorbo]

so, i'm dealing with tantrums as well. to top that off...he's biting now. James just bit his sister twice on her hand...so he's sitting in his room, crying now because i don't know how to fix that. Brooke had a very brief episode of trying to bite...but she didn't have someone small to bite(oh, i remember her biting her cousin's cheek...but that's it). i don't know if it's because he's not talking a lot and he's frustrated...or that we're all fighting a bad cold...lots of coughing...last night was hell for me because on top of the cold, my allergies started something awful. when i tell James no, he collapses to the floor and bawls...he's even taken to biting himself when i tell him no-i found a nice ring of teethmarks on his upper arm-frustrating!

[twinnyme]

Hi Lori. Hope your allergies clear up. Mine are hitting hard, too - now that it's finally stopped raining here, I guess the pollen's back in full force. Yuck.

Sorry you're dealing with tantrums, too - Becca's hitting has lessened a bit in the last couple of weeks (thank goodness) and luckily she hasn't bit yet - but that may be because she has only 6 teeth still!

Not much else going on here.... Busy with editing - two new jobs starting up, with one more on the table for me to take if I want, and two more finishing up (so little details to tie up). Busy, busy.

[marchfamily]

I second biting. E only bites me (she was trying to bite her little sister, but somehow that stopped).

QOTD - How many words does your kiddo say? Do they do 2 word sentences yet? E only says one recognizable word - mama - otherwise, nothing here.

[AusAshMommy]

QOTD ~ Ashley has a few, less than a dozen recognizable words...the Dr was a bit concerned but I pushed him off for another 3 mos...

As for us:

I am holding up well...getting sort of depressed about the whole job situation. Sort of guilty as well...I've had NO solid leads whatsoever and I am wondering where I am to go from here. Going to the unemployment office on Friday and getting that all squared away.

Then the car decides in the mix of all of this that it needs a new battery, count, 3 tows, 2 diagnostics and 1 new battery. NOW the 'Service Engine Soon' light is on AGAIN and I have a ticket in hand for the emissions inspection which is due Friday the 28th...otherwise it's a fine of $125 and another damn ticket! SOOO the car's going back to the dealership tomorrow for a 2nd time to have this checked out and corrected...I've been going back and forth with Pontiac to get it paid for...because this problem is one I've had corrected (4) times now...x $250 each time = $1000...ugh! The car's only 4yrs old and I've only put 42,000 miles on it. I don't get it at all...

So this has been my life for the last week...a MESS!!!

[twinnyme]

Lara- I'm sorry things are tough right now. I hope they get better. How is Austin's ear? Is having an almost-master's helping in the job search at all? Maybe you can find something that you could grow in once you get the master's...?

QOTD - I'm kind of hesitant to answer this because Becca's doing very well with words. She has 40+ that she says recognizably, consistently, and in context. (I counted the other day b/c, ironically, in the hitting thread, someone said that once a kid has about 50 words or so language explodes, their frustration level may decrease, and they may hit less. So I flippantly said, "Oh, Becca has about 40 words, I think," and then I wanted to see if I'd been exaggerating. I wasn't. I listed the words in my journal about a week or so ago and it's been added to since....) No two-word phrases yet except for "all done" (which really I count as just a word).

I hesitate, though, because I just had a big to-do with my older sister about this. Her son (who will be 4 in Dec.) is the one who was mistakenly diagnosed with autism, and who has had a speech delay but is doing absolutely wonderfully now. She, however, is still having trouble with the way the whole situation went down. Anyway, after our vacation, I sent three videos to my mother and sisters and one of them showed Becca saying two new words ("happy" and "oh NO"). You all know I send videos periodically, especially to them because that's a way for them to get to know her from a distance. Anyway, my sister wrote back asking me to no longer send her videos that show Becca's "language milestones" because it is "unhealthy" for her and then basically went on to (subtly) accuse me of being one of THOSE bragging/ competitive mothers! All I did was send videos for god's sake. Anyway, that sister (and her son) is coming to MA this weekend to visit, then I'm going to NY/NJ the following weekend for my other sister's baby shower. I'm going to put away the alphabet puzzle that Becca's been working at very hard these days (self-directed).

Anyway, sorry for the long answer to the QOTD. I hope no one thinks the same way as my sister did - if so, well, I *am* proud of Becca - but OTOH kids have a huge range of skills and abilities and when they develop them.

[AusAshMommy]

Melissa ~ Austin's ear is doing great! Thanks for asking! You'd never know he had surgery last week!

As for the Master's I think company's aren't sure what to do with it...I came within centimeters of a job right up my alley and still don't know why they didn't call for a callback/invite to an open house...has me totally baffled...

I dunno...I went to a staffing agency yesterday and they offered to send me on an interview for a job paying $11/hr...INSULT...so I told them I'd only consider it for a minimum of $14!

[lorbo]

Lara...uh, don't know what to say...sucks that all the bad stuff usually happens at one time. been thru it and you'll get thru it. DH is constantly talking of getting a home equity loan and doing a few windows in the house and paying off the Honda...and that scares the crap out of me...he seems to think we can handle it...i worry that i'll have to work more and though my job could give me more hours that would increase my stress levels. i don't know if you can recall...the day i found out i was pregnant with Brooke, i also knew my boss was closing the hospital at the end of June-which was nice because i was pulling in 60-65 hours a week because of no staffing. on that day as well, DH was given his pink slip(so to speak), by a jerk who just didn't like him...and the guy never told DH's supervisor-they wondered for a few days where DH was. we went thru the summer on unemployment. DH went to a few headhunters and interviews. i had to get health insurance thru a seperate company-so DH had no insurance and we were getting to a point where we were questioning what was going to happen...if i could get a job being so pregnant and needing so many perinat. appointments. we were desperate and it was the end of oct...finally, he got the call and got a job-not one in the city with an hour commute on the train-like his previous job, he drives maybe 10 minutes, he's got so much more responsibility and he's learned so much more being at this smaller company. we bought the house when Brooke was 14 months old and i think we're okay...though if you look at my above comment...it still scares me....so it will work out.

as far as the vocabulary...i may be bothered and i'm working on words with him...but if i look at Brooke-she was a talker and said alot...she was also a first born and i think that's a big reason why for us. James is so much younger than she was at the age-probably preemie related somewhat...also that his sister does so much talking, so why should he? he's smart, he watches how things work and learns how to do it...though i don't want him to...like the gate leading to upstairs, he's even figured the little lock out. he knows how to unscrew lids and pull stuff off. i'm wondering how his 18 month appointment is going to be...but his doctor has always been very positive-like with his later walking(Brooke was walking by 9 1/2 months...James was 15 1/2 months-his comment to me so that i could tell other people when they asked he isn't walking? just say the only difference between what he's doing and walking is confidence...he became confidant within 2 weeks of that appointment and now he walks everywhere. he still says tickle tickle, dog, dat, dada-yeah, funny how he's stuck on d words. my mom was trying to get him to say bird and he was working on it. so, worry...not yet. as far as your sister...i wouldn't take it personally-she probably has other moms around her that brag. my sister gets very down when my parents comment on her children and their behavior-probably because my sister/her husband don't do a very good job of keeping them in check...so they're out of control a lot of the time. she feels guilty that she has to work fulltime and has been in classes for her masters-she was promoted to nurse manager and still has problems with time management...so that doesn't help. my nephew probably had a speech delay...due to massive ear infections that eventually required tubes-it's a shame that didn't happen sooner, he's 8 and his language still is very babyish and he doesn't pronunciate...only when i tell him to repeat a word. when i hear you talk about Becca and her vocabulary...little jealous...but i know James will talk in his own sweet time-he's got his sister to talk for him and he was almost 8 weeks early...so i'm not losing any sleep over it...though i did lose sleep last night to a killer headache and vomiting-yuck!
this from the language question a few weeks ago
13-18 mos--
*combines gestures and vocalizations (can be pointing and grunting)
*follows simple commands
*produces mostly unintelligible specch

James does all of these...so it would seem that he's right on.

[Lizzie Beth]

Sounds like everyone is having a rough week!

Lara - I'm sorry things are so crappy right now. As far as the job goes, I've noticed you have a lot of drive to get things done (probably more than you realize) and that's definitely something in your favor. I wish you the best of luck in the job hunt - I think I'll be there soon, too... (I doubt I can keep up a 2-hour daily commute w/ 2 kids, so I think I'll be looking, too...) So glad to hear Austin's ears are so much better. I have a new parking ticket, too -I swear the parking guy at work is out to get me! This is the same guy who has twice caught me a day or two after my inspection expires. Someday when I write a novel, the bad guy will be named Spilkevitz...

Lorbo - Yeowtch! (on the biting) I know what you mean about not knowing how to "fix it". I've felt that so many times w/ Susannah. And then I think, well, maybe the point is for her to learn how to "fix it" herself.

Melissa - I think we established long ago that your sis is really hair-trigger about the misdiagnosis. But it must hurt to be accused by your own sister of being a showoff. I have noticed that Becca seems to be a bit ahead in a lot of ways, but somebody's got to be on the quick end of the spectrum. I love all your Becca updates because it gives me the coming attractions for Susie. I know you suffered a lot through the eating issue, and the UTI issues, (which by the way, they just diagnosed my best friend's baby with - I was glad I knew something about it!) It's not like you don't share the whole picture, ya know? I guess basically what I'm trying to say is that this is your sister's problem, not yours, and I don't know how much behavior modification on your part is really going to help. Becca's still going to be over there doing her advanced thing (and looking even more advanced for being so tiny) and it's going to grate on your sister's nerves no matter what. But we love it, so don't be afraid to tell us what's new with Becca-boo.

On the Susie front, she is a crazy woman. Running like crazy, pestering small defenseless animals, carrying around her lovey - called "baby" - and trying to feed "baby" her bottle. She has some words, probably not more than 10-15. She likes to demonstrate, when asked, the parts of the body - head, feet, mouth, chin, etc. She especially appreciates an enthusiastic audience. She has gotten cuddlier lately. At night before bed, we have some cuddle time where she lays her head on my neck or chest while she tastes "baby's" plush pink ear. And I've been able to lay her down for the past week or so with no complaints. I don't know how long that will last, but I'll take it while I've got it!

The new little one is doing well, was kicking Susie the other night during cuddle time. (Paybacks, I suppose) I don't know if Susie noticed or not. Susie (with encouragement from me) has been pointing to my belly and saying "baby". I know, it's completely void of understanding, but it's still very cute. I'm happy Susie will be having a little sister, but I'm pretty freaked out about any feelings of rejection/jealousy she might have. I guess we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. We're pretty sure the new girl on the block will be called "Katie". As to what the actual formal name is going to be, haven't a clue.

I hadn't quite remembered how much I hate maternity clothes. Well, the shopping and the prices, and the fit of some of them. Blecch. I really need to sort out my closet again and remove all the non-wearable stuff to a place where I don't have to dig through them every day to find something that I can wear. Another enterprising activity that I don't have the energy for.... :rolleyes:

[twinnyme]

Melissa - I think we established long ago that your sis is really hair-trigger about the misdiagnosis. But it must hurt to be accused by your own sister of being a showoff. I have noticed that Becca seems to be a bit ahead in a lot of ways, but somebody's got to be on the quick end of the spectrum. I love all your Becca updates because it gives me the coming attractions for Susie. I know you suffered a lot through the eating issue, and the UTI issues, (which by the way, they just diagnosed my best friend's baby with - I was glad I knew something about it!) It's not like you don't share the whole picture, ya know? I guess basically what I'm trying to say is that this is your sister's problem, not yours, and I don't know how much behavior modification on your part is really going to help. Becca's still going to be over there doing her advanced thing (and looking even more advanced for being so tiny) and it's going to grate on your sister's nerves no matter what. But we love it, so don't be afraid to tell us what's new with Becca-boo.

Thanks, Lizzie Beth. This makes me feel better about things - you're right, I do share it all - too much sometimes, right? :) Anyway, I appreciate your response. And let's not forget the sleeping issues and the possible hip dysplasia, as well.... :D We've definitely had our ups and downs, and that's why I can't understand why she acts the way she does (well, I can understand it, knowing how she is in general, but it still hurts). She also said she thinks our family is "insensitive" in general about the situation. Ridiculous. I wear my heart on my sleeve and am probably one of the most OVER-sensitive people I know. But I'm just not going to push it right now; I know she's having a hard time.

Love hearing the updates on Susie and Katie - love the name. How fun that you picked the nickname first and are now trying to decide on the formal name (sort of how it worked with Becca, I guess). I think Susie & Katie sound great together, too!

Well, Becca's napping and I've got to get to editing while she naps because my sister will be on her way up here in less than an hour and we have a busy weekend planned! Have a good weekend, everyone.

[Jenzen01]

Wow. I missied a bunch of activity on this thread.

Lara - Sorry to hear about all the stress. I hear ya on the money front because we're so unsure of how things are going to pan out after baby #2 arrives. It scares me a lot of days.

Amanda - Tantrums? But E is so cute! :) Yeah, we're having our share over here. Lately, Gabe has meltdowns when I can't understand his words. He tries so hard to tell me something and then I don't get it, and then he breaks down crying. Lots of fun. Oh, and the TV is also a source of tantrums. Gabe always wants to watch his shows when we're watching. Definitely has a Napolean complex going on.

Lizzie Beth - Going through the same feelings here. Gabe also knows there's a baby in my tummy, but he doesn't really get it. He tried feeding my belly button some orange juice from his sippy cup already. :)

twinnyme - Ah, don't let your sister bother you. There's alwasy someone out there willing to burst your bubble.

words - I'd say we're doing pretty well with words. I don't have an official count, but it must be around the 40-50 mark as well. He does say two word sentences: bye, daddy. bye, truck. bye, pool. (he says bye to everything) all done. all clean. ... that sort of stuff. Newest word is "pizza." Can you tell what we eat a lot? :)

As for us, baby no. 2 is growing .... or at least my belly is. :) In fact, she's kicking up a storm right now. At my dr. appointment on Tuesday, she was breech, so send lots of flipping vibes my way. I'm 28 weeks on Monday, so I'm starting to feel like the end is near. Still have lots to do at home, including finishing Gabe's new room and getting him in a regular bed. Agh!

Well, that's about it for now.

ttfn,
Jen

[twinnyme]

Btw, I forgot to reply to this part of Lizzie Beth's post:

UTI issues, (which by the way, they just diagnosed my best friend's baby with - I was glad I knew something about it!)

How old is your best friend's baby? I'm sad someone else had to be diagnosed with it, but glad you knew something about it! It really seems like not a big problem in the scheme of how bad problems can be. The hardest part is giving the antibiotic every day. Becca's getting a LITTLE more used to it now.... Oh, and one of Dave's cousin's little girls had it, too - she's 6 now. I just found that out recently.

Wow, 28 weeks, Jen! Sounds like things are going well.

twinnyme - Ah, don't let your sister bother you. There's alwasy someone out there willing to burst your bubble.

Trying not to. So far in just one evening (last night) she's seen Becca say a lot - including signing "more" (her only sign) and saying it at the same time, which is a regular thing for her now - and she SEEMS to be okay about it, though I can see she's taken aback and probably thinking back to when Anthony was Becca's age.... Off to a Duck Tour of Boston today.

Becca didn't go to sleep until 9:15 last night - and went to sleep like a dream, so I was hoping she'd sleep later this morning (she's been on a trend of waking later even if she went to bed later, even though for a long long time the later she went to sleep the EARLIER she woke, lately she's reversed that a few times. But it wasn't meant to be. She woke at 5:35. Sigh. We're meeting my sister at 9:15 so we have lots of time to kill until then. Oh, well. Sesame Street, here we come!

And, since I'm REALLY bored, I made this on a fun web site posted on the bumper stickers/vanity plates thread:

http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e160/melissakelleher/license_20060722034536_84981.jpg

Here's the website!

And HERE (http://www.acme.com/licensemaker/licensemaker.cgi?text=&state=Missouri&r=17912536) is a fun website, check it out! :D

[marchfamily]

Popping in to say hi! Still no words here....

I am back from maternity leave #2 and started at a new company (3 miles from home). Holy cow am I exhausted..... But, I can run home at lunch when my day permits - how cool is that?

[twinnyme]

I am back from maternity leave #2 and started at a new company (3 miles from home). Holy cow am I exhausted..... But, I can run home at lunch when my day permits - how cool is that?

Very cool, Amanda - and the new job, too. When did all that happen? Though I'm sure it IS very exhausting, it also sounds like the transition to the new job and back to work is going well. How are E and C doing with it?

ETA: And btw, Lizzie Beth, I forgot to reply to your part of the post about your best friend's baby being diagnosed with urinary reflux. Glad I could help you with knowing a little about it! :p I keep hearing more and more about people with it - DH's cousin's daughter, who is 6, had it. And I just found out this morning that my co-worker's daughter (who is now 17) had it - hers was actually diagnosed in utero and cleared up by the time she was 2. (She was on antibiotics for the first two years of her life.)

[marchfamily]

Very cool, Amanda - and the new job, too. When did all that happen?

I actually interviewed for the position while I was pregnant. We couldn't work out the details but kept in touch. My total commute went from 2+ hours to around 20-30 minutes. Plus, the company is really cool. I am trying to be very good and stay off the internet....so I will be around pretty sparingly.

Kiddos are good. C is only getting up once a night and E is such a drama queen - I wonder where she gets it? ;)

[AusAshMommy]

Hey Girls ~ Quick Update, copied from my HoodMommy's email list...I have been reading along just not posting 'cause I'm in sort of a funk right now...

To add to this, I need some suggestions for low-fat/low-cholesterol meals. I have been put on a strict diet due to high levels of bad cholesterol...

Ok so life has needless to say smacked us royally in the face...my last day was Fri the 21st and I didn't even make it in for my 1/2 day 'cause Jimmy needed to go to the hospital for what we thought was chest pains, however, it turned out to simply be severe indigestion. They didn't discount it and checked his heart entirely just to make sure. Mr. B wasn't happy, and wanted me to come in for a full day because his precious star sales rep (Read: Spoiled BRAT of a daughter) was moving. I decided to not be the bigger person, instead I bailed entirely and stayed home with Jimmy after my phone interview w/Enterprise. Speaking of, did NOT go well. 20 mins short and I knew simply knew that there was no way I was going to be called again for a 2nd interview. Ah well...

I am getting ABSOLUTELY no where with finding a job...4-5 resumes go out a day, and I am going days in between calls. Hell I haven't had a good solid interview yet, just mamsy pamsy prescreens...annoyed is an understatement! Then today I had to make the hardest decision of all of this, pulling the kids from school. We can't afford their tuition right now 'cause we're not sure how much my unemployment checks are going to be...broke my heart and made me feel so absolutely guilty. I was crying when I had to tell the director simply because Austin has been doing soo wonderfully there...as well as Ashley making such great strides with her vocab. I called DSS to try and get vouchers, but I have to either be in school and/or working in order to apply for the waiting list...GREAT! So we're back at square one and I am distressed to say the least.

Next week I become an unofficial Stay at Home Mom simply because I have no choice. While it's something I always thought I wanted to do, it's not the timing I wanted right now...I just don't get it. Every interviewer/recruiter I speak with all have told me that while I have great credentials for some off reason I don't fit into the profile they are looking for...I don't get it. Mom sais to ask them, so I sent an email back to Enterprise, but I doubt I'll get an answer. There's boiled anger, resentment, guilt and depression boiling together within me, and I am sure it's eventually going to EXPLODE! I simply don't know...

I know I generally spend my time complaining here...I do follow along, trust me...and I do apologize for the negativity...

Thanks for listening!

[lorbo]

Lara...sorry about all the bad stuff...this is when the phrase...this too shall pass comes in. my parents had 3 kids all within 3 years and they really struggled and they came through it...my parents are the greatest. you and your family are in my thoughts and something will come thru for you.

[twinnyme]

Oh, Lara, I am SO sorry to hear all of this - but am glad you're able to vent to us. As you know, I've certainly vented my share of negativity since we formed our group, and I think we can all understand it - especially in the situation you're in right now. I really hope things get better for you soon and will be thinking of you.

Btw, I think it's ridiculous your boss wanted you in ON YOUR LAST DAY when your husband was ill. Too bad for him. He basically screwed you, right? I mean, he had to know they were thinking of selling when he offered you the job (IIRC the details you gave us).

Anyway, I bet Austin and Ashley will LOVE having time with you when you're an unofficial SAHM and maybe it will even help you meet more new people in your new area - and do some networking? Did the director say there's a possibility of they're being re-enrolled when you're able to do so? (Or is there a waiting list, and they'll offer A&A's spots to other kids in the meantime?) I hope you can get them back in there when you want to and can.

Thinking of you!

[brio96]

I'm such a lurker! I always feel so bad for not posting more on this thread but lately it's all I can do to even check my email. :rolleyes: I LOVE reading all the kiddo updates (glad to read that I'm not alone on some of these issues of raising a toddler!) and keeping up with your lives...albeit sporadically and in somewhat of a "stalker" fashion. ;)

We're doing okay over here. Sarah will be 20 months tomorrow and is a fearless little tornado of energy. She slides down slides, tries to jump into pools and generally ignores me until she "needs" me with a desperate cry of "Mommy". She probably says about 30-40 words although some of them are likely only comprehended by me since I spend so much time with her and can figure out that what sounds like "blubees" is actually blueberries. :) DH isn't sure what some of them mean and often looks to me for translation whereas I think it's perfectly clear. I mean, obviously "bups" is "cups" right??? :D

As far as discipline, we haven't started anything formal just yet (no naughty chair or time out to speak of) but we have started speaking to her with more authority when she acts out in a dangerous way. Like when she took a stack of blocks and hit me on the head with them while my eyes were closed the other day. OUCH! I think she got kind of freaked out because both DH and I "yelled" at her and we normally just try and redirect her without raising our voices. She's getting kind of headstrong though, so I suspect that formal discipline isn't too far behind. It's so hard to pick my battles with her because my own level of patience is kind of thin, but I'm trying to let the non-hurtful/yet "annoying to me" things slide.

On the baby front, I'm 24 weeks and SO ready for this one to be done with!!! I don't remember it being nearly as hot this time two years ago and while we spend a lot of time at the pool, I'm finding that indoor (read: AC) activities are working best for me right now in terms of maintaining some level of energy to be able to keep up with her. This pregnancy is completely different than the first (although, we are having another GIRL so that whole it's different due to the sex theory doesn't really apply to us) and not anymore pleasant. Sciatica, indigestion, heartburn....you name it and it's come on faster and stronger the second time around. I miss being pregnant with you guys! My new thread just doesn't seem the same to me...probably because while I'm hobbling after a toddler with sciatica, they (with the exception of the RO's like Lizzie Beth) are discussing the pros and cons of the orange drink you have at the GTT. BUT, I don't begrudge them those conversations at all because just a short while ago, topics like that were all I could think of as well.

Question for you guys...has anyone started serious potty training yet? I know Sarah is the oldest of the January '05 group, but I didn't know if this had come up with some that are a week or so younger. I'm considering doing this crazy three day intensive program that a friend tried with her son just to get her out of diapers and toilet trained before the baby comes. Apparently, you spend three whole days pretty much living in the bathroom, asking them if they have to go and completely eliminate diapers in the beginning some diaper throwing away ceremony. It sounds like torture (and my friend has had about 75% success after 3 weeks of this program) but I'm wondering if it's going ot be easier to do it while I can focus 100% on her before getting caught up in nursing, new naps schedules and the like. Any input would be greatly appreciated.

Sarah is up from her nap, so I should probably go and get her out of bed (still a crib..not an actual bed for a while). Oh, and while we are having another girl, we aren't telling anyone the name this time so we can have that be a surprise since I couldn't keep the gender a surprise. I'm thrilled to be giving her a sister that's going to be so close in age although I was slightly dissapointed when I found out it wasn't going to be a boy. If this is my last pregnancy (and I'm not entirely sure it is) then I almost wanted one of each. Oh well! Now that we know though, I can't imagine having anything else but two little girls.

Lara While I'm really bad with SO's, I did want to say that I hope things start looking up for you guys VERY SOON!!! I can only imagine what you guys must be going through on a daily basis and the decision to take the kids out of daycare couldn't have been easy. I hope you're able to make the best of the time that you'll have home with them and that something opens up on the job front quickly.

I'll try to get back soon and post a picture of Sarah! She has so much hair now that she looks like a totally different person. How have 20 months gone by????

Amy

[Jenzen01]

Hello, toddler mums!

Lara - First, I just wanted to tell you I'm sorry life is so rough right now. Hang in there .... I just don't know what else to say. :(

And, I wanted to answer some of Amy's questions because they are very timely:

First, potty training:

We've started down this path ... scary that it might seem. So far, I put Gabe on the potty in the morning and after his naps, and he's been doing pretty well. He usually goes on the potty at least once a day, and we've been doing this for about a month. He also started telling me when he has "poop" but it's always after he's gone. This weekend, he told me, "Poop. Potty." and he very much wanted to sit on the toilet, so I cleaned him up and let him sit there for a while, which made him happy. I found out that he likes reading books on the toilet (don't we all :) ), so that has increased his attention span a bit. I'm trying to be very laid back about it. I really disagree with my daycare ... they ask the kids if they have to go, so whenever Gabe's teacher asked him and he said, "no," she would just let him go on about his merry way. I don't think Gabe should make that decision right now, as he uses "no" incorrectly a lot, so I just tell him that it's time to go potty, and we go.

I still don't feel like I know what I'm doing, so suggestions are appreciated.

Discipline - I JUST started using time outs, and it's working wonderfully so far. Just want to say that I was all for spanking and whatnot, but they are truly ineffective with Gabe. In fact, I felt really bad one time because I slapped him on his hand for something and then when I looked back at him a few minutes later, he was slapping his own hand ... he looked sort of confused.

So, I started putting him in a timeout. I try to be very stern when I set him in a timeout. I look him in the eye and tell him, "No throwing. You have to sit in timeout." Amazingly, he sits there and looks really sad. I'm just doing it for a really short time ... like a minute or something ... but so far, when he gets out of timeout, he doesn't continue the bad behavior, so I think it's working. I'm actually very excited about this, because it feels like the first real progress we've made on the discipline front. If nothing else, it at least interupts the bad behavior and lets him start over.

As for me, I'm 29 weeks along. Amy, I hear you on the heat ... we don't have air and it's supposed to be around 100 today and tomorrow. Blech. I just want it to be October!!!

Jen

[brio96]

So, I started putting him in a timeout. I try to be very stern when I set him in a timeout. I look him in the eye and tell him, "No throwing. You have to sit in timeout." Amazingly, he sits there and looks really sad. I'm just doing it for a really short time ... like a minute or something ... but so far, when he gets out of timeout, he doesn't continue the bad behavior, so I think it's working. I'm actually very excited about this, because it feels like the first real progress we've made on the discipline front. If nothing else, it at least interupts the bad behavior and lets him start over.

This gives me hope! Just out of curiosity...did it take him a long time to get the concept of not moving from the timeout spot or did you have to keep putting him back there before he understood. Sarah is so obstinate and is just now getting "rules" (the ones she chooses to listen to that is) that I feel like I'm setting myself up for a major battle if I attempt to sit her down in one spot. I guess that I won't know until I try though, right?

SO TRUE what Jen about the "incorrect" use of no and yes and how perhaps it's not the best way to find out if they need to use the toilet. She'll say yes and no to simple things like do you want to eat, do you want to go outside. I must say though, that the way she says no "NO, UH-UH, NO" cracks me up so I almost look forward to her saying NO. How weird am I?

[Lizzie Beth]

Btw, I forgot to reply to this part of Lizzie Beth's post:

Melissa
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Originally Posted by Lizzie Beth
UTI issues, (which by the way, they just diagnosed my best friend's baby with - I was glad I knew something about it!)


How old is your best friend's baby?

They diagnosed her about a month ago, so I think she was around 8 mos. They really had no idea what was going on, and there was this whole crazy 3-day hospital stay. Molly is a lot like Becca in the weight department; my friend really worries tremendously about the lack of weight gain. And they had a lot of sleep issues, too.

Brio I hear ya on the feeling a little out of it on the new mommy thread. I don't want to be the bossy been-there, done-that type, so I really don't say too much right now. Plus most of the girls are just anxious as to how things are going to go, and nobody can answer that. It's amazing how differently things are done from facility to facility, plus everyone just has different issues. So I don't really have any knowledge to impart, or issues of my own to discuss. Other than chasing after Susannah, which is REALLY current here on this thread! ;) Sciatica. OUCH! It's funny to me how everyone at work makes a big deal over me picking up a file or something, yet I am fully expected to pick up and cart around my wiggly 30-pounder at home.

On the discipline front, we are doing very little, I just really feel like Susie wouldn't "get" it yet and there would be a whole lot of anxiety (her and me) over something she's just not yet ready for. Just a whole lot of repetitive "no" but no time-outs, no yelling. I feel the same way on the potty training, too. We don't have room anywhere for a little potty, so she would have to use ours. And I'm not a SAHM, somehow I feel like she would need more consistent patterns from adults to "get it". There's not a potty in her room at daycare, either, they don't seem to really get into that until they hit the 3-year-old room. I do let her experiment with sitting on the potty, etc. I'm just afraid if I had a specific goal for her, we'd both end up frustrated and miserable. And MIL is starting to push the potty training angle as she claims both her sons were completely potty trained by 2 yrs old. (She also mentioned some screaming and crying) Thank you, no. We'll cross that bridge when we're both ready.

[SaphirimalMei]

Long time no post!

Jilly is 18 months today!!! :eek:

Lara - I'm right there with you, homes. I could have written your post myself. It's awful tough times, lately. Just turned in my application for Medicare and WIC last week as out last ditch effort. Something's gotta give. Wishing you luck!!!!

Potty Training - we've been having quite a bit of success, actually. Jilly started having an interest in using the big potty about 3 weeks ago or so, so we got her one of her own so it's easily accessible. I just tell him that it's time to go potty, and we go Same here. We go when she wakes up, mid morning, before nap, after nap, before and after dinner, and before bed and anywhere in between she she gives us her signal of pulling on her (ahem) crotch, says "potty", or she toddles into the bathroom and lifts the seat. Cant get any clearer than that, eh? lol! We too, use the ole read a book trick :) My mom used the same with me and says I was trained at around 18 months too. We shall see. I'd be delighted if she was out of diapers (what a savings!!!) but I'm not in a hurry. She'll get there.

Tantrums - Got em all over the place. It's the whole "I'm not getting my way, so I'll flail and collapse backwards" type of tantrum. Just in case it's due to communication issues, I'll kneel down and ask her to tell mommy what she needs and I'll run though the series of signs and words we have (not too terribly many...20 or so. Funniest words are "Stinky" her name for Finn, and "Gully" her name for herself). If that doesnt work, I'm starting the time out. I'll set her out of the way (not one specific spot, tho) and let her calm down. I dont think that any actual "discipline" is effective at this point so I'm biding my time.

Teeth - Since Jilly was such a late bloomer teeth wise, I thought I'd include a tooth update. She only started growing teeth 4 months ago and she now has 9! 4 in the last month alone! It's been a crankfest I tell you.

I hear ya on the feeling a little out of it on the new mommy thread I'm with you guys. I never really have felt I fit in at the April Mommies thread. It's just not the same.

Growth - Jilly's still on the small side. She hasn't had her 18 month visit yet (cuz we're no longer insured) but she's prolly around 22-23 lbs. We only a month ago had to move her into size 4 diapers. Funny thing is that Finn is already in size 3s! He's HUGE and practically busting out of his 3-6 month clothes already. I call him "The Chunk-a-muffin". If you average both kids together I imagine you'd come up with a normal growth pattern :p

Now that I've written a novel, I gotta take off.

[AusAshMommy]

Hey Ya'll ~ Thanks for the positive thoughts and outreach! We are trucking along...still putting my resume out there. Hitting some speed bumps in regards to unemployment, NC told me I had to apply against MD and now MD is telling me that because I voluntarily quit Arbee I may not qualify. GREAT! So hoping that something gives soon...I am stretched to all of my means, and Austin's quickly getting bored. He just woke up from his nap so we'll be heading to the pool in a bit, he's been asking to go all day.

Potty Training ~ Ashley's not shown an interest at all, which is fine with me...we're not ready yet for that...

Discipline ~ We use time-outs when Ashley misbehaves, sometimes we try stern talking...sometimes it helps, others not so much...

[twinnyme]

Happy 18 months, Jilly/Gully! :D

Potty Training - no signs of readiness on Becca's part so we're not doing anything with this yet. I have noticed her ahem touching herself a bit more in the last week or so, but not sure if that's just exploration or a sign of potty training readiness? (I think exploration.)

Tantrums/Discipline - Ugh, I'm just no good at this. I felt like I said NO all weekend to her - we went to NJ to visit my parents, and she was "torturing" their dog. It was just so exhausting keeping them apart - but we had a great visit. But I have yelled more than a few times, and I feel horrible about it. As someone else said, though, my patience level is thin - always has been; just my personality - I've tried to curtail it and have to a certain extent, but not always. It makes me feel horribly guilty sometimes. Becca tantrums about everything, though - actually, at an event on Sunday, people kept talking about how well behaved she is - and she is, but her true self comes out with me most of all. I mean, all weekend, she was an ANGEL taking her medicine in NJ; last night was he** on earth trying to give it to her. We had to try THREE times and spilled it twice. Ugh. What's the difference? I don't know. Anyway, sorry to go off on that tangent.

Marisa - Becca is very similar to Jilly teeth- and weight-wise. I'm not sure how many teeth she has now but probably around 9-10, too. And she's still partly in 3's and partly in 4's - I keep thinking I should just buy 4's but I always have some 3's left over, they work, and I just go buy more.

Lizzie Beth - sorry to hear that your friend had a difficult 3-day hospital stay to get the diagnosis for her DD. Hope the little girl's doing well on the medication.

Btw, I have to admit I've been envious of those of you who are RO's who are eagerly participating in the new mommy threads.... So, not that I'm happy to hear that it's not the same, but I'm glad our little group still feels close! :) I spent last Wednesday (I turned 35) writing up a 3-page :rolleyes: list of challenges/reasons to TTC #2. You think I'm a Type A personality or what? I even categorized it - emotional/financial/house-space/age/work/etc. I think I'm really starting to get the baby bug now. I can't believe my newest nephew will be here in just a couple of months - it's starting to feel real now!

[lorbo]

James had his 18 month checkup today...he's gained 3 pounds in the past 3 months and an inch and a half to two inches in height...he's in the 25th percentile...quite a feat for such a preemie. the doctor is not at all concerned about his talking...he says he's concentrating on being mobile and not to worry about it. he's pleased as punch with his growth and development...and our ped is enamored of dear Brookie...she had on her "high heel" sandels, her little summery top with summery skort and her princesses purse filled with change...dr's comment was "so, you're 4 going on 40," he also remarked that she was all girl...and i said she's more girl than i am. James only has his cuspids missing, and those are actually getting in to position. i have our potty soaking and just need to finish scrubbing it out and bring it back in. it's brutally hot here...it's after midnight and it feels just as bad as it did when i left for work at 5pm. all of my coworkers were trying to avoid having to go outside-i assisted someone outside with a stretcher and we were only gone for about 5 minutes, both of us were pouring sweat and my coworker said she was going to give the stretcher to the owner if anybody needed a stretcher...just a joke, in case somebody actually believes that. we're vacationing in about two weeks in south carolina...it'll be nice to get away from here...though i'm sure it's just as hot down there. and yeah, we're talking about another baby...and that scares the crap out of me.

[brio96]

Melissa Your catagories make perfect sense to me, but I'm wondering if DH's Type-A, Engineer personality is starting to rub off on those around him. :) All kidding aside, I think it's great that you're realistically looking at all of the aspects of your life that baby #2 would affect. Part of me wishes that I had done something similar before just plowing ahead with my "need another baby" plan. Not that I'm upset that I'm pregnant or anything!

Being an RO is sort of an interesting thing when it comes to the other threads. I agree with Lizzie Beth in that I don't want to be a "been there, done that" kind of person but it's almost impossible to not sound like that when in reality you just have to wait and see in regards to the gear you'll need, the experience you'll have and what it will be like afterwards and t