Have wedding styles or tastes changed since your wedding?

[kris97]

Now that many of us are 2, 3, 4 + years from our engagements and weddings, I wondered if anyone's taste had changed, or whether they've noticed any changes in the prevailing styles. I know that at some point, our children will find something about our weddings to be embarrassed about, but I wondered if tastes had changed (either personally, or in the magazines, etc.) in the 5 years since WC really took off.

[jessesgirl]

I'm confused. What do you mean by embarrassed? The style of the day was just that and they weren't there so why would they have to be embarrassed to look at pictures?

I love looking at my mother's pictures. I'm not embarrassed for her at all. She had a very beautiful wedding to the style of that time.

[kris97]

I meant as in, my husband's dad wore a purple crushed velvet tuxedo... Of course the wedding was lovely, but tastes and styles can completely change. I think the last 5 years are more classic in taste than, say, the early 70's , but I just wonder if some of the color schemes or design elements that have been in vogue during the past 5 years or so have started to fall out of favor.

[Hello Kitty]

I've thought about this too. I remember when we were planning how everything we did seemed so classic, but seeing how trends have changed just a few years later, I think my wedding will be markedly dated (not good or bad, just a neutral term).

One thing I'm disgruntled about was the lack of affordable dress options 3 years ago. I went with a Maggie, which I loved, but I really wish I would have been able to find something more classic - Amsale-ish. This also may be me, but I noticed that colors have changed quite a bit. Many weddings when we got married were more neutral/lighter/older colors. Now you see brights/bolds and you can find exciting contemporary flowers to match.

But I'm sure it will all change again in another couple of years, so I don't sweat it. :) I loved my wedding and I wouldn't change anything.

[Sposa06]

I think I know what you mean, Kris. I was a BM in one of my cousin's weddings. Three of us wore orange tea-length dresses and carried magenta gerbera daises and three of us wore magenta tea-length dresses and carried orange gerbera daisies. The cake was one of those Mad Hatter-style cakes in magenta, orange and lime green. The wedding was pretty, bright, and fun, but in about 10 years, I think it will be easy to pinpoint as 2003, you know?

[BTB]

I have noticed there are so many non-strapless gowns out now, when 5 years ago I had to really beat the bushes to find them!

[keska]

I didn't wear a veil and wore a strapless gown with absolutely no ornamentation. I didn't have bridesmaids. We had a very small wedding onverseas in a beautiful spot that didn't need decoration. I'm thinking my wedding won't ever look dated in an embarrassing way. It won't be like looking back and seeing myself wearing huge puff sleeves or one of those hat veils that were so popular in the 80s. I haven't kept up with modern bridal trends, though, so I don't know how they've changed.

[sea74]

Styles have not changed too much since my weeding, but I got married late 2004. Also, I think my wedding wasn't overly trendy anyway. The think that gets me when I look at people's "older" wedding photos are the HUGE bows and very poofy veils of the late 80s, early 90s.

[msnicolea]

I don't think I did anything too trendy (3 years ago), so hopefully aI won't ever have one of those "what was I thinking" moments!!

[lawyergirl25]

Yes, they have. I would probably change my dress if I had it to do over again. But then, I have a lot more money now than I did then, so my choices are not so limited. :)

[KarenS]

Styles and tastes have definitely changed since my wedding, but then again, our wedding was simple enough to not be terribly dated. I think the only thing I'd change would be the flowers - if I were to do it again I'd have simple hand tied bouquets of roses for me and my MOH rather than the more elaborate bouquets we had.

Karen

[DiscoDiva]

If I could do it again, I'd change:
My gown
My shoes
My headpiece/veil
My hair
Flowers
Cake
Food
Reception site
Centerpieces
Photographer
DJ
Invitations
Bridal party

What I wouldn't change:
DH
Rings
Honeymoon
Favors

[miaclear]

I'm only a year and a half out so I can't think of anything that is too dated yet. And thinking of what we did I can't think of anything that will be outdated so much.

I do remember when doing my trial updos my hairstylist was talking to me about how to place my veil. She asked if I wanted it on top, the middle or below my updo. Fortunatly she said that anything in the middle or below it is more of a trend now and is likely to go out of style. I had been considering it and am glad I didn't do it.

[PG-rated]

I had what would probably be considered an "outdated" updo at my wedding, since the front wasn't swept across my forehead like everyone else was doing. But I think the style I had might actually come to look more "classic" as the years go by. We'll see.

[ginastorm]

I got married in early 2003 and I do think that styles have changed. I see more and more wedding dress with "pick-ups" (I think that it what they are called) on the skirts. I don't remember seeing too many of these types of wedding dresses when I was dress shopping. Don't get me wrong, I like the pick-ups, but it's just something that I've noticed lately.

[brenda]

I would have done almost anything to find a dress with sleeves in my price range. Now I can find them pretty easily. I still don't really like my dress, but everyone else thought it was lovely.

[Aimee]

I had a sash dress, so that instantly puts me in 2004, but, I think that the omnipresent nature of that dress is only apparent on wedding related message boards where it was second only to a Maggie Sottero as "the" dress. IRL, it's not so overdone - I've never known anyone to have it, so it's probably not as common as WC and the Knot made it seem. To me, it was just a pretty dress, that was very, very plain, except for the sash. And, since I had an ivory-on-ivory sash, it wasn't terribly noticible in pictures.

There were some touches here and there that say 2004 (ribbon wands, anyone?) but, for the most part, I kept things very simple and classic. 2 years down the line, I can look at the pictures and don't think "what was I thinking!?"

[kris97]

I got married in early 2003 and I do think that styles have changed. I see more and more wedding dress with "pick-ups" (I think that it what they are called) on the skirts. I don't remember seeing too many of these types of wedding dresses when I was dress shopping. Don't get me wrong, I like the pick-ups, but it's just something that I've noticed lately.

can you find a picture of what these are? i'm interested to see. :)

[ruledbymercury]

I still love and would keep most things about my wedding two years ago. I wore a strapless Maggie, so I may be considered a 2004 fashion victim in that sense, but my dress is still absolutely beautiful in my mind. I used bright colors too (deep plum BM dresses with really bright multi-colored gerbera daisies). But I had enough sense to insist on my veil being on top of my updo, since I disliked the look of the below-updo trend. Heh.

However, I really think that ALL weddings are going to look dated 10 or 20 years after the fact. There's really no escaping it. The fact is that I DID get married in 2004, so why not embrace that? I guess the idea that aspects of my wedding might not be in style any more just doesn't bother me.

[wendalah]

I tried hard to avoid all obvious trends. I didn't wear a strapless (although I was tempted)...I chose a fairly classic fingertip-length veil...I wore pearl earrings...I did my hair in a simple french twist.

I also had a classic ivory bouquet--had the florist replicate my mother's wedding bouquet from 1961.

I DID wear gold shoes. Which I guess is sort of trendy...

[SingleWhiteFemale]

can you find a picture of what these are? i'm interested to see. :)
http://bridesave.com/images/gowns/mgA574hcm.jpg http://bridesave.com/images/gowns/mga578swchcm.jpg http://bridesave.com/search/index.cfm?action=details&product_id=19463 http://bridesave.com/images/gowns/mgj926m.jpg

[DiscoDiva]

I believe that pick-up skirts are called French Bustles.

[maplekitty]

I havnt been married long, so I can't say anything of my wedding is out of date yet.

I'm sure the tealength BM dresses I had will be a huge indicator of this era. The smooth fondant wedding cake, the small "round" bouquets, not wearing a veil at the reception.

I didn't have a strapless but that's a huge one these days, as are the side-swept Maggie Sottero style dresses.


My gf got married in 1998, and already her wedding dress is completely dated. Her dress had pouffy short sleeves, sweetheart neckline and pointed drop waist.

[Sin Nombre]

The only things I did in my 2001 wedding that may someday be considered dated would be that I wore a tiara, and my BMs wore black gowns. Everything else was pretty classic. I wore a sleeveless, straight silk crepe gown with minimal lace/beading on the top, cathedral veil, opera length gloves, half-up, half-down hairdo.

My Bruce Springsteen cake-topper will be considered dated someday. Hell, to many, it was already dated in '01! But since my DH and I met on the Springsteen tour, it was significant to us and always will be.

[pocket]

That damn long straight silk tulle veil. SO 2003.

[greenbunny]

Accent colors were just getting to be big around the time of my wedding (I remember one WC bride with a gorgeous red-trimmed dress, bunnysomething?) and now I wish I'd gotten one. I guess that's kinda opposite what you asked, though.

Otherwise, a lot of my choices were off the wall anyway--like, each of my BMs wore a different color. I don't think my choices point to the specific year I was married in--if anything, I think they were a little 1960s.

[eli1126]

I'm sure my dress, which I loved, will be outdated even though it was pretty plain. My BM's wore black, but I really don't see how that will become outdated anytime soon because I still see a large selections of black BM dresses. I'm sure my round red rose bouquet will be out if it isn't already, but I loved it.

[coquelicot]

Periwinkle was a big color when I got married in 2003. It's kind of on its way out now.

Also, it seems like more BM dresses are strapless now. Back when I got married, pretty much every dress that my BMs tried on had at least straps to it. By the same token, I have a hard time finding many off-the-shoulder bridal gowns like the one I wore.

Other than that, I tried to keep things fairly traditional and classic, so hopefully things won't look too dated down the road. In my parents' wedding pictures (1968), the only thing that dates them are some of the hairdos and the fact that my uncle had these horribly huge black-rimmed glasses. My mom had a classic, simple outfit, and my dad was in a white tux.

[nicole]

Well, hopefully nothing yet since I've been married for less than four months, but I definitely can see some things that will date the weddings around this time. I'm thinking Strapless dresses and pick-up dresses (not just bustled, there are little "pick-ups" everywhere) and certain color schemes like pink and chocolate. Probably those little "I Do" table letters like I did, and maybe Canon in D as a processional. :p

I kinda thought the veil below the updo thing went out years ago - like late 90s - but I guess not??? I actually have only been to a handful of weddings in my life, so I don't really know what the trends are, other than with dresses, so if anyone wants to tell me how dated my wedding will end up being, feel free :D

[DiscoDiva]

Based on what I see at work, these are the things that are trendy now (meaning, they may one day end up looking dated):

Strapless dresses (especially with pick-ups)
French bustles
Sash dresses
Corset back dresses
Strapless BM dresses
I DO letters
Pink and brown
Tiffany blue and brown
Citrus colors
Signature drinks
Hoodies with "future Mrs. Smith" written on them
Out of Town guest bags for the hotels
Signature monograms
Sweetheart tables
Polka dots
Projecting a signature monogram on the dance floor
Flowers on top of the cake instead of a cake topper
Cakes with words written on them
Cakes with a ribbon on the bottom of each layer
Really bright, colored invitations
Stations of food at the reception
Fondant icing
Pearls inside stephanotis flowers
Martha Stewart guest bowls instead of a guest book
Candy Stations
Bouquets with ribbon wrapped stems
Signature mats

Things that will always be around:
String trios/quartets
Custom printed napkins
Engraved toasting glasses
Something old, new, borrowed, blue
Garters

Despite all this, it doesn't matter. Things get dated, then they come back in style again. It's the way it is! As long as you like your wedding, that's all that matters.

[BerBer]

I don't think my tastes have changed much at all... but, if I had another wedding I'm sure it would be completely different simply because I did the grand, princess wedding already. It would be fun to plan something completely different but still have my original one too... not sure if that makes sence.

Things that will surely date our wedding...

my tiara
my large chandelier earings
bridesmaids all wore black
strapless wedding gown

I tried to make the day classic without doing trendy color combos but, there really is no way for a wedding not to become dated in my opinion... I mean we all keep getting older right?:p

[wander_woman]

One thing that I think will date a lot of weddings is the style of photography. The selective coloring look (i.e. black & white picture with bouquet in color) looks very early 2000'sto me. Currently, the fad seems to be cross-processed & saturated colors and overly blown highlights.

[Adaya]

It used to be that you'd send out STD's if you were having a destination wedding or if you were having a lot of out of town guests. That's how it was when I got married in 2001.

Now it seems that no matter where you get married and where your guests are, in town or out, a number of brides want to send out these super fancy STD's with a magnet or an engagement pic or something.

[pocahontas]

Based on what I see at work, these are the things that are trendy now (meaning, they may one day end up looking dated):

Strapless dresses (especially with pick-ups)
French bustles
Sash dresses
Corset back dresses
Strapless BM dresses
I DO letters
Pink and brown
Tiffany blue and brown
Citrus colors
Signature drinks
Hoodies with "future Mrs. Smith" written on them
Out of Town guest bags for the hotels
Signature monograms
Sweetheart tables
Polka dots
Projecting a signature monogram on the dance floor
Flowers on top of the cake instead of a cake topper
Cakes with words written on them
Cakes with a ribbon on the bottom of each layer
Really bright, colored invitations
Stations of food at the reception
Fondant icing
Pearls inside stephanotis flowers
Martha Stewart guest bowls instead of a guest book
Candy Stations
Bouquets with ribbon wrapped stems
Signature mats

Things that will always be around:
String trios/quartets
Custom printed napkins
Engraved toasting glasses
Something old, new, borrowed, blue
Garters

Despite all this, it doesn't matter. Things get dated, then they come back in style again. It's the way it is! As long as you like your wedding, that's all that matters.I honestly chuckled at a few of the "trendy" things because they were definitely used in my wedding. We had bright colored invites because plain white was just too boring for my personality type, I think. We definitely had guest bags for the hotel! :D And we used "I DO" letters (which I can definitely see dating our wedding a decade from now when no one will probably use them.) Then again, I got married less than 18 months ago.

[Katyanne]

I'm another 2004 bride :) I tried to do things really classic but there's probably a few things on that list that may date me.
Strappless gown
Ribbon around bottom of cake

The one thing that really will probably date us eventually is that we had a Red Wings (hockey) themed reception. So after awhile that may seem dated but oh well. It was fun :)

In 1997 I was in a wedding and I look back now and cringe just a bit. The dresses were off the shoulder light pink empire waist with a ribbon just below the chest. My hair was hiked into this buffont style with big barrel curls in the back and a pink silk rose with seed pearls cascading down was clipped to my right temple. I swear I looked like a back up singer for some 50's girl group. And I remember at the time I had to be really careful when I got in and out of the car because my hairdo kept hitting the roof of my car. I think the dress and the hairdo itself were probably fine but it was the rose thing that kind of pushes everything I think.. LOL Oh well.

Katie

[wendalah]

I honestly chuckled at a few of the "trendy" things

A few of the things on that list I think are not going to go away anytime soon (several of them were at my sister's 1995 wedding):
--Pearls inside stephanotis flowers
--Fondant icing
--Food stations
--Sweetheart tables
--Gift bags for out-of-town guests
--Ribbon-wrapped bouquets
--Flowers on top of the cake

[justHB]

I didn't wear a veil and wore a strapless gown with absolutely no ornamentation. I didn't have bridesmaids. We had a very small wedding onverseas in a beautiful spot that didn't need decoration. I'm thinking my wedding won't ever look dated in an embarrassing way. It won't be like looking back and seeing myself wearing huge puff sleeves or one of those hat veils that were so popular in the 80s.If you exchange "overseas" for "Hawaii" that's pretty much our wedding. While in the end I didn't love my dress and hated my flowers, they were pretty classic and I don't think will be easily identified as being from a certain period.

[melmo]

If you exchange "overseas" for "Hawaii" that's pretty much our wedding. While in the end I didn't love my dress and hated my flowers, they were pretty classic and I don't think will be easily identified as being from a certain period.

I didn't wear a veil and wore a strapless gown with absolutely no ornamentation. I didn't have bridesmaids. We had a very small wedding onverseas in a beautiful spot that didn't need decoration. I'm thinking my wedding won't ever look dated in an embarrassing way. It won't be like looking back and seeing myself wearing huge puff sleeves or one of those hat veils that were so popular in the 80s. I haven't kept up with modern bridal trends, though, so I don't know how they've changed.

If you exchange "overseas" and "Hawaii" for mountains that's pretty much our wedding. I had a simple strapless gown. Simple hairstyle and makeup. Red rose bouquet. DH was in a simple black suit. I think our pictures will not be easily dated.

[hub1176]

My 5 year anniversary is in a few weeks, and I'm thinking about taking my dress out and seeing if it still fits:o I loved it.
I tried to keep everything simple so I wouldn't look back a shudder with horror.

[sea74]

Here's what I had from the list at my wedding in Nov 2004:
Strapless dresses (especially with pick-ups) But I don't know what "pick-ups" are though :confused:
French bustles
Strapless BM dresses
Out of Town guest bags for the hotels
Signature monograms
Flowers on top of the cake instead of a cake topper
Colored invitations
Bouquets with ribbon wrapped stems


From this list the only thing I had was:
Things that will always be around:
Something old, new, borrowed, blue