Vietnamese wedding gift?

[nutter13]

Anyone have any ideas on traditional Vietnamese wedding gifts, maybe even something small to go along with another gift? TIA

[xine]

Hi nutter13 -

I hope this doesn't sound too crass, but if it's a traditional Vietnamese wedding, the usual gift is money. Usually cash in crisp, new bills, inserted in a red/gold envelope or a wedding card. There's usually a box near the guestbook where you put the cards, or you can give it personally to the couple if there's a receiving line or when they go around visiting the guests.

If you'd prefer to give a physical gift, I'd try and go for something you'd typically find on a registry and give it with a gift receipt in case they'd like to exchange it. I don't know the couple, so it'd be hard to say whether they're a Macy's kind of couple or a Pottery Barn kind of couple.

[jnettie]

Vietnamese weddings are similar in many ways to Chinese weddings, and the traditional wedding gift for Chinese weddings is either money or gold jewelry.

But, if you want to give a physical gift, anything that would be appropriate for an American wedding would be fine. Find out if there is a registry and buy off of that.

[karlatta]

My DH is Vietnamese, and all of the gifts we got from his family were money. In the little red and gold envelopes, and generally just handed to us, not put in a box or anything. I just stuffed them down my dress throughout the reception. :)

Oh, and for some reason (I'm not sure if this is Vietnamese tradition or his family's tradition), it was all cash - no checks. We were leaving for our honeymoon straight from the reception, and I didn't want to travel with all of that cash (banks were closed), so I gave it all to my mom, and she deposited it in the bank for us while we were gone.